May wedding - caronavirus

[Dramalamaindeed]

Anyone else worried?

I have about 10 guests flying from various parts of the world - none of which are the high risk areas but who knows what 2 months will bring?

Then I’m worried we can’t have the wedding as no mass gatherings could be banned/ we could be sick.

I haven’t taken out insurance but thinking of doing it now but will they even cover it?

What insurance co are you with

Just called Debenhams insurance.

Very helpful which I wasn't expecting!

So I believe it is page 6 where is states if the venue closes due to infection.
Now there is contradictory point on the opposite column that states if the government have a lock down and venue closed no insurance is given

I have been informed that Debenhams have altered this part of the insurance policy to ensure that customers ARE COVERED and will get their money back if the government decided to put a lock down on gatherings and events

This is good news that the insurance company is not doing a shitty loophole thing.

Is anyone else getting married abroad?? I am in May and so worried, it's put such a downer on everything I can't bring myself to book anything else and this should be the most exciting time! I've looked into insurance and unfortunately it's quite unlikely that they would pay out, especially in the current climate they will do all they can to avoid all the pay outs! I guess all we can do it sit and wait, but it's the uncertainty which is awful I don't want to be sat a week before not knowing what is going to happen but it looks that way!!

ihatecorona have you read your insurance?

Dramalamaindeed it's with Dream Saver

That's good to know about Debenhams @Yukaplantpot !!
After today's announcement I can't see the government taking much action before next Friday so I have a feeling my day will be going ahead. I'm just so worried though that a load of my guests won't arrive or photographer, hair, make up, DJ etc will have to cancel. So many people are involved and one of the suppliers is bound to have to pull out on me. Or maybe I'm just being very negative. Either way I just feel like my whole day is going to have a black cloud over it now

rumandbiscuits good luck ive got everything crossed for you!
I absolutely fee the same especially the photographer. It just takes one person to have to self isolatate
We've got exactly 7 weeks to go.
However we're legally getting married at the town hall with hair our parents in April.
Both sets of parents live in different countries
The thought of my dad not giving me away is absolutely devastating

Oh you poor things such uncertainty! I have just been to a wedding and they did have a really cool idea which was to fix a go pro onto a board which basically says do selfies, films etc. So it was passed around all night and we used it as a wedding book to leave messages and the groomsmen encouraged people to take photos etc on it. It worked really well and would be a great addition if there was a chance your wedding photographer cancelled. Obviously not the same but the image quality was good and it documented the day really well.

Best of luck with your weddings

4 weeks until our wedding day. 60 of our 70 guests are all travelling from Ireland. I’m a wreck, no idea what to do. It seems highly unlikely many will come even if able to. We don’t have wedding insurance, I was ridiculously naive and never even thought of it. My partners dad has already said he feels he will be unable to travel and understandably so. He has serious underlying health conditions and is in his 60’s. We can’t get married without our parents, but if we lose all the money we have forked our we won’t be having the wedding we had planned for at all in the future. Relatively modest as it is we have young children and enough financial stress. Feeling devastated right now.

I’m feeling a lot more positive this evening.

I’m feeling confused.

I don’t know whether the governments more relaxed approach compared to other countries now will mean that by May we will be feeling the serious consequences and therefore more likely my wedding will be impacted or if their relaxed approach means my wedding is more likely to go ahead.

So confused.

I expected a lockdown now so thought it was hanging in the balance whether we would have been in a better position by May time but now I’m just so unsure.

I've had a bit of a cry and no sleep but also have got to the point where I've thought so much about every possible situation that I've accepted what will be will be.

We're seeing our wedding venue/planner next week and going to discuss the possible issues in the coming weeks/months.
Our venue is a beautiful old church which has a lots of community stuff going on so if they close those activities (especially as the elderly attend) then I'm guessing they'll do the same for weddings. I imagine they might be quite hot on closing such a style of venue as the church need to be very responsible and careful

Absolutely gutted

Is anyone else needing support? How is everyone doing today? X

I’m in a bit of a dilemma. I have about £8000 to pay to various suppliers over the next 4 weeks. I am really reluctant to hand over any money incase I don’t get the wedding or the insurance find a loophole or half my guests can’t/won’t come.

we're the same approx 7k left to pay. Currently we're trying to be business as usual

If you don't follow the contract you've agreed on then if it gets to the point of a dispute later down the line you'll be in the wrong.

This is what I'm going to be doing this weekend rather than wedding planning:

1. thoroughly read all contracts
2. Draft an email you can send to each of your suppliers - send it before you have to pay the rest of the deposit asking about their contingency plan considering the extraordinary situation - get it in writing

Can anyone answer the below?

For example my hair/make up girl i've put down a deposit but what if she is ill and doesn't turn up, do i get all my money back? if a service doesn't do their job are they then legally obliged to pay back nay deposit?

I could do with some Yuka. I think I've given up to be honest. All the decorations, plans and visions I had are pointless now. I've accepted that things will not be as I had hoped. If the wedding goes ahead it will be without elderly relatives & probably just 2 witnesses.
Suddenly all the fancy stuff doesn't seem to matter. I just don't know when to tell people not to bother to come.

SureTry so sorry. I don't know if it helps but I feel exactly the same. The whole point of the wedding you've put your heart and soul in to is to have the day you dreamed of.
We've got boxes of decorations, wedding favours, lighting ....what a waste :(
When is your wedding? x

I've got the day off work today. It was meant to be a day of wedding stuff - now I can't face even thinking about it

I've got my boxes stacked up in my dining room. Due to get married mid April 😔

I keep thinking even if it goes ahead my anniversary will just be remembered as some doomsday event. I know that sounds dramatic and I know there's more at stake but my God you couldn't have seen this coming!

Hi all. Couldn’t read and run. I’m a guest a a massive wedding late May and another smaller in early June. May bride is close friend who was finding it all very very stressful anyway before this. As a potential guest I’ll just say the obvious - if they go ahead and I am well and risk of gatherings is manageable then whatever form they take will be what it is. If I get an email the week before saying ‘cancelled’ or ‘now only having close family attend’ or ‘there won’t be food please bring a sandwich and a bottle and the day will be shorter’ or ‘reception cancelled’ or ‘it’s all off for now watch this space’ it will all be 100% understandable.
The only thing the couples should be ‘worried’ about will be monies already spent/insurance /guests who are travelling or incurring eg hotel bills etc.
My June bride is right now planning a much smaller gathering (she has insurance) and has sent email re evening party which has been cancelled. Service still going ahead if possible.
Support all.

Totally agree SureTry

I almost wish the gov would do a complete lock down so at least we know what to do and the decision is taken out of our hands. Also i can see issue might arise from guests dropping out last minute and if you send them a message preempting the situation does that create worry and fear?
This shouldn't be part of wedding planning :(

Thank you HeronLanyon much appreciated to get your opinion x

You won’t get insurance now. I can’t believe anyone planning a wedding wouldn’t have taken out insurance at the start.
I think the peak is meant to be in April. I guess you just have to see how it goes. If the government bans gatherings the venue will have to give you your money back, so the insurance wouldn’t really make a difference anyway. Sorry OP it must be very stressful for you.

We’ve got menu tastings and venue meetings Sunday and Monday. We’re going ahead with them; because the UK government doesn’t want to lockdown and the COBRA meeting explanation made a lot of sense. There’s a lot of calls for us to follow Italy’s lead but little scientific support.

Fiancé wants to keep going as normal for now because if things are fine; and the temperature seems to be rising which is expected to help, he doesn’t want us to have been the thing that buggers it up. So we’re reading scientific opinion and keeping going.

I’m a bit worried that my dress is late, so I may need a back up... and overall I know it would be really easy to get myself into a tailspin and stress about this a lot, but there’s logic to the actions we’re taking and this isn’t going to stop however much I hate it. Postponing doesn’t seem to help, I wouldn’t know where to put it to avoid the resurgence or any other issues even if I could get a full refund, and that doesn’t seem likely unless me or fiancé gets it, or there is a wider scale lockdown.