I’m really not dismissing it.
The fact is that, as you say, Gaza is small, and it is densely populated.
Hamas do not identify themselves, they appear as civilians.
They fire weapons from close to or within heavily populated civilian areas and buildings that should be protected (hospitals etc).
They do the same with their military infrastructures.
It’s clearly not easy to fight such a war.
So whilst the legislation around war seeks to minimise harm to civilians, it can’t eradicate it.
I know I link back to this a lot, but telling 2m+ people that the scale of their loss (literally their whole county’s infrastructure, their family members, their homes) is just ‘part of war’ really contributes to the cycle of extremism.
But it is a part of war.
I don’t mean that to sound dismissive, I have never been a victim of war, but all wars end, and the people who have lost everything are left to try and pick up the pieces.
That is true of every single war.
There is no real justice following a war. There never has been.