Ongoing and continuing conceptions and follicling ahead of Feisty, Fabulous Forty somethings

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Just to start us off.

May this be a happy and lucky thread for all of us.

Hi all,
Linda I have been reading about your hospital appointment and think I see a pattern [Sherlock Holmes face].
The sooth-sayer person does sound a bit opportunistic with her guesses. I would have said most people must have had either a termination, a MMC or an MC by our age, so your chances of having babies around you are quite high. However, it is one of those things, like a horoscope, where you think 'what a load of cbblrs' but choose to let it guide your decision because you kind of like where it is going.
What was the hospital appointment for?

Italian you sound as if you haven't quite let-go of the dream. It probably isn't helped by the length of the waiting to start the adoption process.

Hairy thank you sweetie! Same to you of course!

S'pose I had better organise these flights before I have to sit on the wing. Bit worried because my dodgy ear is still not un-dodged. This might make four flights, in quick succession very uncomfortable.
I do now have a specialist appointment, but not until I get back from the FET. Which means no x-rays or any hi-tech stuff until I know whether the FET is successful or not?

Rowing, when I had ear troubles and had loads of tests, I had an MRI and a CT scan, but both centred on my head...don't know if that makes it safe if your preg or not? I didn't have any X-rays at all, which would be most dangerous I guess.But as I am not a medical expert, I don't know about MRI and CT.

OK, just googled and it seems MRI's are considered safe, but the juries out on CT(when pregnant).

Poor you, I know how uncomfortable flying can be. I don't suppose there is any medication you could take to make it more comfortable?

How soon will you be doing the transfer? I'm keeping everything crossed that it is successful this time.

As for being mad - I'm afraid I'm bonkers when it comes to that kind of stuff.I do find it fun, and sometimes the psychics seem uncannily right, but I'm sure there are techniques they use. Linda, I wonder if your psychic does internet readings? I had one done by an English woman called Patricia. I thought she was very thorough. The thing I like about the readings is they have always given me hope. I suppose in some ways that could be bad for someone who truly believes it, but I won't be devastated if a psychic reading is incorrect and I have had a few done, and they are all different(in terms of timing for the baby) so I won't take them to heart.

Having said that I also feel quite comfortable praying and having faith in a higher power.I guess I have a very "eclectic" beliefs....but that's a whole other story!!

Now that RTD is over I feel optimistic as we get closer to Ovulation.I just hope it doesn't take too long! It is good having DH on holiday, so I can take advantage of him whenever I like (within reason, considering we have a house full of children!!)

If you need a laugh, and haven't seen the thread about "dying of shame" then you really ought to take a look.I haven't laughed that much in ages.

I LIVE in the mad corner.

Just a quick post as am having one of those mornings, but read Linda's post about cycles getting shorter? Forgive me can't remember if you had an ERPC after your MMC but after mine, I had a 32 day cycle then two 22 day ones (usual had been about 26). I had exactly the same "peri, oh that's it then" thoughts, then got pg next cycle (only to have another MMC alas). When I MC naturally after 2nd MMC cycle was more normal more quickly (also maybe as had started acupuncture?). Anyway just wanted to say I know how you're feeling but it needn't be what you fear x.

Wave to all - have cat bodily fluit accidents to clear up - must dash

Hello! Back from London now,and into a-level exam marking mode. It's very labour intensive, but the money is good , so I do it twice a year to supplement my income.
I will have a good read through now, but wanted to let you know that the wed night SWI was a no-go (dh too tired )so I made him come home from work Thursday lunch before my train So af due next Monday and am determined not to early test...
Hope everyone is well - I did feel the power of the thread behind me when awaiting dh's arrival Thursday lunch

Sorry not reading messages, just to let you know that I will be miscarrying soon.

Hi all,
Jollster not liking the sound of the MAD corner. I'm imagining custard pies flying around and people shouting at their shoes and that kind of thing. I'm thinking of breaking you out of there, that's no place for you!

Linda I know what you mean about the great life approach to not having babies. I have those flashes where I think things are going very well and I'm currently thinking about making inroads into future career plans, which would definitely be severely hamppered by a baby.
The ear thing has been ongoing since last year, but as you say I do feel time pressure. Next month would be impossible because of other committments then there's September?
It's such a headache, but then again it wouldn't take long to have the FET and I don't have to take any drugs so why not?!?!
Bet you wished you hadn't asked.
So what kind of puppy is it you are looking at?

Gum thanks for that info. I think a CT and or MRI might be the thing for this problem. It seems to be something underneath the ear, in the neck that is the problem, a blockage?
How did you find the MRI??
It must be nice having a bit of help around the home with your DH there, or is it more work?

Oo! The man from the clinic just emailed to say I could go this month. Aaaargh! Oh well, off to book flights.

Rainbow so sorry to hear that. I hope today passes quickly and everything goes smoothly for you.
Huge Hug!

rainbow - sweetheart. What can i say? So sorry. Wont say anything more until i know the details for fear of putting my size 7's in it.

I'm guessing you've started bleeding.

Come back as soon as you're able and let us know your ok.

Rainbow I am so sorry . I think it was your scan today wasn't it? (sorry if I've got this wrong)xxx

Back again to mark my spot on this new thread.

First of all, to Hippy - so sorry to hear about what you're going through - haven't read through all the posts yet but I believe in 3rd time lucky too. Please don't give up.

to everyone

Sorry to be selfish and not catch up with everyone in detail just yet but I just have time for a short newsflash (my hands still shaky):

BIG FAT BFP

2 days after AF was due, grumbling about the cheapie internet tests I had finally bought (they're impossible to read ) I dug out a First Response poor DH had stashed out of reach.... et voila!

Perhaps it was the Preseed, perhaps it was diligent DH-bothering... am hoping its not a chemical...

hugs all
xx

Wow doubleshotlatte that's brilliant news . I remember how gutted you were last month; really pleased for you!
Do you have a due date??

Thx Diege :D due date is coming up as 11 March, a Pisces baby!

DH just broke open the bubbly (Piper Herrard! yum!) that he had stashed, we put a tiny bit in DD's juice/beaker...

And now she's chasing me around the room: "Do cheers, Mummy, do cheers"

lol

Really hope I'll be joining you soon . March is a lovely time to have a baby!

just popping in to say a huge congrats to doubleshotlatte! Lovely news.

Rainbow I'm so, so sorry , there never are the right words, but I hope it's not too painful either physically or emotionally.

Hippy glad you're busy getting those troops in place, chin up, it is all going to work out in the end.

Rowing good luck for your next shot!

Jolls sticky thoughts

Hello to Gum, Diege, Linda, Italian and whoever I've forgotten, your name will buzz round my head the second I hit post message

Well done doubleshott (you'll have to be decaf from now on).

Little ones are so sweet when they do "cheers" arn't they?.

rainbow not sure if you're checking in but wanted to say that I am feeling so for you today. Was really upset at work when i read your post - you deserved a break this time and it is so unfair and shit that you didn't get it. Do you think you'll go for lucky 13?? Sorry if it's too early to ask that.

jolly all ok?? No more vinegar or brown CM??

alba come back and encourage me - plleeeaaase???

Quick update on me.

I'm alive and well and even doing a bit of SWI.

Had a little bit of egg white the other day so eased DH in gently (god that sounds so much worse than I meant it to ) You know what i mean - started suggesting and initiating sex!

Have had a couple of faint lines on an OPK but not dark enough yet. So expect a positive in the next couple of days and will then have to suddenly become all sexy again (yawn yawn - bit pissed off cos should really be pregnant now and not having to pretend to be sexy at all ) Still ho hum.

I swing between really wanting to get preg asap so i can be back on target and dreading a positive cos it will mean I have to start worrying about a 3rd MC!!!! arrgghhh.

Rainbow, I'm so sorry this is happening again for you.

It is good to hear from so many ladies. Double - so pleased for you, congratulations.

Hippy, glad to hear you are getting back in the saddle...Yeehar!

Rowing, the MRI, to be honest,was bloody awful. It was very noisy - nasty grinding sounds,and very claustrophobic. I think, if someone had told me it was going to be like that, I may have coped better.As it was, I was fine, didn't freak out, but did find I had to do some deep breathing to get through it.
I also had a raging sinus infection at the time, so don't think that helped! When I spoke to the specialist, he said, "your ears are fine, but you have a huge sinus infection!"No wonder I felt so awful!

Having DH at home is lovely actually. It is just great to have extra pairs of hands, especially with a very busy toddler around.He even got up at 5 am today, as I just couldn't drag myself out of bed. Charlie is teething again and kept me up last night.

I wonder if you could give me your opinions: WWYD if: there is a funeral for my cousin (she passed away 2 days ago, had been terminally ill for some time, was 35, mentally handicapped) whom I haven't seen for at least 20 years.The last time I saw my aunt was at my grandmother's funeral 8 years ago. If the funeral was close by I would go, but it is in another city that is 4 and a half hours drive from here(no trains or public transport unfortunately), and I would have to be back the same day as I don't want to leave DS overnight, and certainly don't want to take him. So I'd have to drive about 9 hours in one day. My DH says it is perfectly acceptable to not go - to send flowers and a card. I think that too, but am getting a bit of pressure from my parents to go. I know I should just do what I want, but...
Any opinions gratefully accepted.

Sorry, I think I just posted a very "me" post.Just ignore me if you like!

Gum - send flowers and a lovely card?
It sounds like a hell day: a funeral with a nine hour drive.
Shudder!

Yes, I think you are right Rowing. However, 9 hours in the car on my own.I could listen to a talking book(or a series)! I do worry that I could get very tired and put myself at risk for an accident. Will keep thinking about it.

Morning . I think I would also send flowers and a card Gum in the circumstances. I was going to suggest train travel until I read your post more thoroughly!
Good to hear from you Hippy; I know what you mean about 'gearing yourself up' for SWI - can seem quite an ordeal at times. I have decided not to test until Monday (cd 26 when af would be due. I discovered a stash of ebay cheapies last night, but then don't actually want to know 'early' if I am pregnant as have a horseriding day on Sat that I really don't want to miss ion the basis that I might be pregnant . I know that sound a bit nuts, and makes more sense to actually test early so that I could rethink, but then af isn't due anyway till Minday, so in the days before early tests I wouldn't know anyway...arghh!!!
Good to hear from you Alba How many weeks are you now?
Double Hope you celebrated well
Rainbow have been thinking of you lots x What a cruel thing to have happen, you must feel all over the place
Better get back to my a-level marking!

gum In my Opinion - a card and flowers is fine. You haven't seen her for 20 years.

i would defo not want to do a 9 hour round trip on my own (for fear of getting tired and crashing the car).

Don't let your parents force your hand. Do what feels best for you and your immediate family.

Just my opinion for what it's worth.

rainbow so sorry to hear your news. Can't begin to imagine where you're at right now .

rowing worryingly I actually rather like the sound of your version of mad corner..

double great news - keep well.

gum agree 100% wiv wot Hippy rote...

In Jollsterville (6+1), no more spotting, though CM slightly fudge coloured but pretty scant. Have started to feel knackered, and this morning in Sainsburys had to concentrate on not vomiting. Have made booking in appointment with madwife, it's not until 8+3. So just waiting and seeing really. Had another acu appt today and she made me feel rather guilty for basically not sleeping or at least lying down for most of every day ... Bit tricky that one.

Hope everyone ok. Off to lie on sofa before collecting DS from nursery. I'm dead obedient me...