Ongoing and continuing conceptions and follicling ahead of Feisty, Fabulous Forty somethings

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Just to start us off.

May this be a happy and lucky thread for all of us.

Jollster now I'm worried. I like the sound of the trying not to vom, that's always a good sign.

Deige and Hippy, yes nothing quite so romantic as TTC after a few months. 'Ow, you're leaning on my hair! 'Ow, I've got a cramp in my leg!'

Gum are there any people you would want to visit if you went, could you take advantage of being in that town, go shopping? Just wondering what your options are?
I have had an MRI (two actually) both as part of a study, and agree they were awful. I do remember the nurse being adamant that I should be absolutely certain that I wasn't pg before going in though.

DSL congratulations on the BFP! Great news! Your DD sounds hilarious.

Booked the flights last night, what a palaver! Now have to book in online for Ryanair and check they aren't going to 'get' me at the airport for doing something wrong.

Thanks everyone.I talked to my mum yesterday and she did a complete about turn, agreeing with me that it was too far, and I shouldn't do a round trip like that in one day. So I sent flowers and feel much better about it all.
In some ways it would be good to see relatives, but I'd rather see them under better circumstances.

My mum reminded me of something that has me quietly concerned now. My cousin who died is my mum's 2nd niece to have died of a brain tumour. It worries me now that it may be something genetic, but I don't suppose there is anything I can do about it, is there?

Rowing, glad to hear you've booked your tickets.How long will you be away for? Will it be at all like a holiday, or will it be too stressful to enjoy?

I know what you mean about ttc sex! I wish it could be all romantic and exciting, but after 20 years I kind of have to just get on with it...That sounds awful, and it isn't, but I think you all KWIM?!

Jollster, I can't believe you are already 6+1. And you feel like vomiting! That's great news! I'm sure you'd rather feel good, but I always found that nausea to be a bit reassuring. Definitely get plenty of rest.

Do you think the acupuncture helped you conceive? I'm having acupuncture tomorrow.Hopefully it'll have me up the duff in no time!!Do you mind reminding me how old you are?

Well, I'm off to peruse the rest of mumsnet for a few minutes before DS destroys something else...

Rainbowdays really sorry. No words.

doubleshotlatte congratulations, excellent news. Our DD sounds precious - "Do cheers, Mummy, do cheers".

Linda well, I expect you know my views on psychics, (bad idea) so I won't moan but don't let it upset you if you felt it was not helpful to hear etc. I think I am with your hubby on the lucky guesses front! But welcome welcommen to the mad corner. My period arrived today, now I know why they call it the red tide of doom, although in my case more of a pink drip! (Sorry TMI). Anyway, it explains why I felt so miserable the day before yesterday!

Linda enjoy your holiday. I may have found a Christian publication to do some writing for. I think I am unlikely to get paid! How can I find out without sounding greedy! I need the experience so even if it is for free I want to do it!!

Rowing I am half and half clinging onto the dream of having another baby and half feel it is a nightmare! I must admit the more I look into the Spanish clinic thing the more I am thinking I am ready to move on and look adoption. If my DH were completely behind me and money were no object and time were on my side blah blah blah, then I would be thinking lets go for it. Yesterday I emailed some Spanish clinics but I am also thinking I am just not sure I can go through it all again. But I think if I can put this behind me and go for adoption the DH and I have a real chance that we can complete our family and move on. Already having a DD does make it much easier to contemplate stopping and I would always say to anyone it has to be their own choice, no one else can tell you when it is time to stop! Unless for medical reasons etc! Can you tell Linda well, I expect you know my views on psychics, (bad idea) so I won't moan but don't let it upset you if you felt it was not helpful to hear etc. I think I am with your hubby on the lucky guesses front! But welcome welcommen to the mad corner. My period arrived today, now I know why they call it the red tide of doom, although in my case more of a pink drip! (Sorry TMI). Anyway, it explains why I felt so miserable yesterday!

Jollster not making me want a cat! Glad you are feeling sick, if you see what I mean.

Diege ?power of the thread? not sure if it is a compliment or somewhat creepy!! (Not really).

Hippy thanks for your glimpse into your personal life! All the best with your SWI.

Gum that was a hard one, about the funeral. Glad you made your decision. I was going to say I think it has to be your decision, why do your parents feel so strongly you should attend. I didn?t attend a friend?s funeral when I was in college, the funeral was ?ooop north (a long way away) and I had an essay due. I did really regret not going to the funeral but then I did live in a shared house with the poor young man who died. Anyway, I am glad you feel comfortable with your own decision. I did also wonder if it was safe to drive such a long way in one day. If you are worried about the tumour you could find out what kind it was and do some internet research. Try not to worry.

Greetings to Alba, thinking of you, did you ever fid that good book to read? I am currently reading ?Seriously Funny? By Adrian Plass and Jeff Lucus.

Just watched the sex and the city movie, quite good. Love the bit where she bashes him with the bouquet and the bridge bit!

Feeling so much better. These pesky periods are such a pain but now it is here I feel fine.

Got all the info from Spanish clinics but beginning to feel more and more comfortable with adoption. I have been looking into fertility treatment for so long and now sure I want to be doing it anymore! But as I said to rowing, if I were younger/richer and had a hubby who was mega keen I know I would be too ? but I don?t so I need to work with what I?ve got!

Greetings, and God bless to one and all.

Correction, doubleshotlatte congratulations, excellent news. YOUR not OUR DD sounds precious!

Sorry Rowing I posted Linda's message into your bit. It is late I need to go to bed.

So it looks like I am now ready to move on to adoption but watch this space it may all change by tomorrow. I am very changeable these days!

What! Italian I have never been so affronted!
Mixing up my message [walks off muttering]

I hear you about the hassle factor, it is a lot of hassle, the whole process, I'm hyper-ventilating thinking about it. I think it is the disappointment again, just soul-destroying.
If it helps you to get the closure you need though it might not be a bad thing.
On the plus side, you wouldn't be the one doing all the drugs and going through the egg collection. Also you know the donor has younger eggs so your chances are higher than with your own, compared with my rubbish odds.

Jollster, I meant to say I was worried about your liking of the the crazy corner, not anything else.

Gum it will be a flying visit, just a couple of days so not much opportunity for sight-seeing.
I'm trying to book a hotel at the moment, can't decide whether to stay near the airport or in the city. Near the airport is sounding quite good (less tiring).
TTC sex is so spontaneous isn't it! 'What do you mean an old pair of tracky bums and a shapeless t-shirt aren't sexy!'

Ok I have worked out how to play my hubbie like a filddle

Pre-ovulation when i have egg whites i shall be wearing vest tops and shorts to bed and to wander about the house (his favorite - sorry TMI!). He then thinks about doing the deed a lot more and suggests it.

Post ovulation I will be wearing baggy t-shirts and long pj bottoms to bed and to wander about the house thus he wont think about sex and wont suggest it.

hence, we will end up having more sex pre-ovulation WITHOUT him feeling used - ahh bless him.

i believe it's called subliminal advertising!!

Please feel free to nick this plan if you need to .

Love to all. Can't name check as i'm at work and not sure who is reading this !!!!!

All i will say is;- rainbow big hugs from me ((((()))))

jolly hang on in there honey.
italian for someone who's made up their mind you seem awful confused lovie. I hope the decision comes to you soon and that you feel happy with whatever you decide. Look back in a few years and say, "I did the right thing." That's all we can hope for .

Sorry to leave the rest of you off - but you know I care.

Hippy I am nicking that plan . My trick is to play it cool when I get a pos opk and say there's a faint line and we have 'ages' yet, so that he doesn;t feel the pressure and it feels a bit too clinical . Works every time..I am liking the shorts and vest thing - is a slanket over the top permitted?
I am also working with someone sporadically peeking over my shoulder, but will be back later x

Oh God, I have such problems with swi. Dh is very keen for the rest of the month, and then is apparently put under too much pressure at the appropriate time. so I try not to tell him when it is. But then he tries to calculate. and this month he asked me and then feels under too much pressure.

anyway, fwiw I also do the vest and pants thing, but have to do it all month to trick him .

swi time is now upon me and i find it very stressful!

Anyway, congratulations doubleshot!

and Jolls glad you are feeling sick.

Rainbow, I'm really sorry that you have to go through this again.

Everyone else, good luck with the swi, poas, and 2ww (acronyms I never even knew existed before I came on here).

You have to be strong Pollyanna and 'subvert' the truth a little. You must be consistent and unwavering. Try saving a cheapy faint line opk to wave at him to convince that he has a non-pressurised SWI in store. I know it's a bit naughty but it's not like he;s going to be missing out

he thinks swi time is the weekend, but it might be anytime, so have to try the slanket shorts/vest seduction technique tonight (after/before/during the football)

Hi all

Pollyanna, your postie/milkman/betterware man must love your house.

Diege, loving the slanket, or slink-et as it is otherwise known (not!)

Jollster how are you today?

Got to book a hotel, I must post some links, some of the staff appear to wear lederhosen.

slanket??????????

Not to mention my au pair rowing!

Anyway am in a revealing dress that I "accidentally "threw on when someone came to the door!

Look at slankets poss on amazon hippy - fab seduction wear dontcha know!

Looked at slankets - ha ha ha

Hippy I don;t think I said I had made up my mind, I think I said I was 50/50, that's a totally unmade up mind to me! half made, half unmade!

Rowing apologies, my typing is crapola!

What is a slanket??

Love to all

italian sorry - my bad. Must have been confused. Hope you are ok.

Just look up the slanket on amazon. It looks cozy but not very good for SWI .

Am watching the mentalist with Dh and trying not to drool!!!

Lunatic that is so true about slankets + SWI = this thread I have to say I have a hot pink one that is very arresting - dh just pulls it up
I very nearly weakened on the testing front this morning but thought cd 21 was a little early to start obsessing over an non-existant line. I will def wait until Monday, by which time af will be due.I never know what's more gutting - a bfn or af!

Hi all,

Pollyanna, I can see you there, leaning, seductively up against the door then quickly grabbing your slanket when you realise it is the man to read the gas meter.

Lunatic now remember not to rush blindly into a camping shop or fishing tackle emporium, not the desired look at all.

Hippy I think a slanket and gumboots for the latter part of the cycle, ought to see him off.

I can now book my hotel, it will be an afternoon procedure so I have time to schlep across the city to the clinic.
I wonder if I dare to buy one of their crazy 'jump onto any form of public transport' tickets. Should be a hoot.

Lunatic ooo, that sounds very interesting. Fingers crossed for tomorrow. Hopefully, it will be a darker line so you won't have to drape yourself with mp3 players and iphones.

Lunatic 'will test tomorrow morning if I remember'... . If you remember???!!! I'm sure your heart will be racing half the night in anticipation Sounds very,very hopeful!!!

Lunatic, that sounds promising! LOL at your "if I remember", I know I would probably wake 6 times in the night and probably poas stick every time(but, then, I am loopy).

All this talk of SWI has got me thinking.Must be time to stop schlepping around in my baggy grey flannelette pants and sloppy green man-sweater. Hmm...Vest tops and shorts are really not quite right in the middle of winter.Maybe a slinky silk robe? But then again, having a toddler about means it'd be ruined by grubby little hands in 5 minutes...I'm rambling, sorry...had a bloody long difficult night with darling toddler.

Poor boy has the worst nappy rash I have ever seen. We were out in the garden all afternoon, and by the time I noticed his strange cowboy walk, he must have had the dirty nappy on for a while. I've never seen anything like it, he had a red rash and big white welts. I thought he must have been bitten by something (there's plenty of creepy crawlies down here). But later on the skin looked ulcerated - and his poos have been quite acidic due to teething, so maybe it was just that? I don't know, but the poor boy had trouble sleeping and wanted to suck for comfort ALL night. I had better have a nap today.

Rowing, I am feeling excited for you.How soon do you go?

I have acupuncture today, hopefully she'll tweak the right bits and I'll have a juicy
big egg at the ready in the next few days.

Hi all,

Gum your poor little boy. Mine used to get terrible nappy rash when he was much younger and one time I actually used compeed plasters on it, to stop the faeces touching his skin, it was so blistered. They actually stayed on for a couple of days which was quite unexpected.
I have read that the extra saliva during teething causes the ph of the poo to change and makes it more alkaline. Perhaps a more acidic diet would help [clutches at straws].
Poor old boy, I hope he feels better soon.
Could you put a slinky robe over your fleece and jammies, that ought to get your DH!
I'm flying out the Sunday after next and coming back on the following Tuesday, apart from the flights I am looking forward to the peace.