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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

Ongoing and continuing conceptions and follicling ahead of Feisty, Fabulous Forty somethings

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randomimposter · 22/06/2010 19:55

Just to start us off.

May this be a happy and lucky thread for all of us.

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randomimposter · 27/06/2010 20:54

Ooooo linda a ghost writer? How glam, and what fun! . Nice to hear from you - and where you're at. Hope appointment goes ok once you define your expectations?

hippy wherefore art thou? How you doing?

I POAS today (blearily thought it WAS Monday at 5.30am) and the test line was very pink, very dark and very quick. Much more so than Tuesday's test. So despite my brownish CM (little bit more today), it seems things have developed... Am not counting any chickens (am all of 5 whole weeks tomorrow ) but it's made me a little more positive.

Hope everyone ok. And not as pissed off as me about the football .

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randomimposter · 27/06/2010 20:56

XP Italian - good on your DH - what a hero! Bet he'd have done a better job for us up front today...!

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hippychick66 · 28/06/2010 00:17

Hang on in there jolly - one day at a time. Glad you're feeling positive.

Off for my scan tomorrow at 9 am to check all clear in there.

Seems weird to think that at the last scan I was so desperate for good news and now the best news she could give me is that the pregnancy has gone by itself and I need no more intervention. Ahh well - life goes on.

hairy How are you now lovie???

Rowing What about you - are you still checking in on us???

Italian Your holiday sounds lovely - enjoy!

I know that as a christian you would obviously be sceptical of Mia and her spells and possibly anxious for my welfare- don't panic - no decision made there yet - but i will be wishing on my DS's sunbeams (not sure if I explained about them on this thread or the Mia's spell thread so will quickly explain) -

It was so sweet- my DS (aged 7) told me that if you sit on the swing when the sun is setting little beams of light come through the trees and you can wish on them.

I squeezed my hips into that swing and i wished - as you know though I wished I was pregnant and should have wished for a healthy embryo instead. Will try that soon when the sun is setting.
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Italiangreyhound · 28/06/2010 00:33

Hippy what a lovely image of you squeezing your hips into the swing! I am always worried when I sit on kids' play equipment that I will get stuck there!

I really join you in wishing that all is gone tomorrow and that a new little one will arrive swiftly. I will call my wish a prayer, and it is sent with much love to you and all of us who find ourselves in this dastardly waiting room!

Bon nuit tout la monde!

randomimposter · 28/06/2010 06:43

thinking of you this morning hippy x

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lindalinda · 28/06/2010 10:36

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Diege · 28/06/2010 10:40

Morning . Yes, best of luck this morning Hippy, hope all is well and that you are able to look forward xx I love your dd's sunbeam theory! On spell front, how much do they charge? I'm not tempted myself, butI suppose my concern is the rip-off factor and the vulnerability of those it's targetting though I suppose if it makes someone feel better then no harm ...Still feels a bit exploitative though iyswim??
Linda agree that ghost writer does indeed seem a very glamorous job - does it ever frustrate you that you are somewhat 'behind the scenes' yet playing the key role in getting ideas conveyed? (sorry if I've got that completely wrong
Hi Italian Mumsnet real life meet-ups are indeed bizarre. Meeting someone for the first time yet knowing intimate details about their vaginal secretions is a little strange I remember at one meet-up someone's opener with me was 'How are the piles then??
Jollster so far so good - that darkening line sounds very positive indeed xx
Big wave to everyone else!
Well cd 12 here and not sure what's going on with my cycle. Got a line (but lighter than control) on opk on day 8, but since then when I've tested the line has been very very light (window jobbie with one eye sqinting). Soooo not sure if I did indeed ovulate very early and missed surge on opk..having said that, only just getting EWCM today, so will see what the stick says tonight! Away with work Thurs-Friday though, so sod's law I may miss the window this month!

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Diege · 28/06/2010 18:51

.I'm here! I'm pretty clueless about the tests I'm afraid,though they do go on about the range of them on the Zita West website if that's any help?

randomimposter · 28/06/2010 21:03

Hi Linda - I am clueless too. About the tests. In fact about most things. I DID have a day 21 progesterone test just to see whether it was low and that might have contributed to my MMCs, but it came back ok.

Diege I would have thought if you get busy a couple of times before you go that should do it?

Hippy let us know how you are? Thinking of you.

Had more yukky brown CM today. So starting to feel a bit less positive. No cramps though. But (TMI alert) a rather strong (and wet) vinegary stink in my pants... have googled and it might be a yeast infection or summat. It's really unpleasant. Hope everyone's eaten already...

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Italiangreyhound · 28/06/2010 21:33

Hippy Thinking of you. I meant to say last night, your kids sound lovely.

Linda I never went to a service for miscarried babies but personally I think I would like. But then, I a Christian so it would have a spiritual significance for me, but it may be helpful to others even without any spiritual significance. My little one, who I named Sammi, was miscarried in 2006 and would have been 4 in September if they had been born. I think I feel sad really now only in relation to my dd who would have had a sister or brother just 18 months younger than her (as I do)! My mum is still sad about her miscarriage which happened over 30 years ago! So my only advice if grieve now if you need to as you don?t want it to bite you in the bum in 30 years. Sorry if that sounds flippant it is not meant to! We all deal differently and feel differently.

Linda when you say you have an idea for a book do you have the ideas and they find someone to 'front' it? Fascinating!

I can only suggest day 3 and day 21 tests. I know nothing else, apologies.

Diege hope you do not miss the window.

Thinking of you all.

Italiangreyhound · 29/06/2010 01:26

Linda thanks for your lovely emails, I have had a quick look. Thanks for the London agent info. I will email you when I have read more. I do hope you get some clarity on your situation.

If anyone else wants to get in touch about writing type things my email is my mumsnet name, my imaginary age (39) and it is at yahoo dot co dot uk

All our situations are so different but we are all wanting the same thing! I know for me Mumsnet has been a life savour so great to be able to talk to people who have this vital thing in common.

hippy, Jolly, Alba, Gum and all, thinking of you.

Night all.

gonepearshaped · 29/06/2010 09:18

Hi all,

Hippy hope you are ok and the scan yesterday went as you wanted it to. jollster sounds like you might have a yeast thing going on could that be causing the CM too?

Just came back from seeing my gp for test results. Not good news, fsh 49.7 and low estrogen plus no change between day 5 and day 21 progestrone. As far as I know that means I don't ov and my ovaries are pretty much packing up.

She suggested sending dh swimmers for analysis and then referral to assisted conception unit.

Am a bit blithered by the whole thing to be honest, especially as we have major time pressures with a possible move abroad again in autumn. Whole ttc thing seeming a bit impossible now.

Sorry to be gloomy

gumblossom · 29/06/2010 09:50

Pearshaped, sorry to hear your news.I don't know what FSH of 49 means, is it a particularly high or low score? I know there are herbs that can help with Estrogen ( I took red clover tablets when ttc my last, but I didn't have a diagnosed deficiency in estrogen, I just thought I may have done due to scant CM). I also have heard that acupuncture can help with low estrogen, progesterone and fsh problems. I hope the assisted conception unit can help you.

How is everyone else? Hippy any news about your scan?

No good news here.Just spent the last few days futilely peeing on sticks only to have RTD turn up this morning, 12 dpo. Last time was 12dpo too. Before baby it was 14 dpo. Should I be concerned that my LP has lessened or just accept that it is probably fine if not under 10 days?

I shouldn't be disappointed as timing was crap and I knew I shouldn't hope...alas, still disappointed. Especially when visiting with my friend who excitedly talked about her doctors visits and scans etc. I really am happy for her, but felt a pang of envy, wishing it were me making those plans. I know I have so much to be thankful for, but still feel that longing...

I'm trying to think of all the reasons I should be pleased that I didn't get a bfp:
can drink booze, eat soft cheese,have a hot bath, an x-ray if need be(!), take painkillers if I need them, treat my youngest as the baby of the family for a little bit longer...

Anyway, I'd better get the beef in beer on to cook before it gets too late.

hippychick66 · 29/06/2010 13:13

Hi. WARNING LONG POST....

Sorry I didn't come back to you yesterday. Thanks to everyone for asking after me.

Scan had the best outcome we could have hoped for (apart from the miracle baby option).

Everything has gone by itself and there is now a thin lining so go back to the start (do not collect bloody anything ).

Anyway, she said all looks fine, ovaries both fine etc. Good to go again if we want to.

Was very relieved to hear no need for medical intervention.

I do feel that we got off rather lightly (IYSWIM). The bleeding lasted about 9 days but it never got too bad. I needed a hottie twice and paracetamol twice. Thanks to my endo I have had far worse periods in my youth. There were times when I literally did not know what to do with myself cos of the pain and i had feared that would befall me last week but thank God - it was nothing like that.

GP today. Bless her, she is already planning what we will do next time. "We'll check your levels every few days, we'll get you an early scan (even if we have to tell a white lie and say your spotting)." She said she is confident that I will get preg again and that she sees no reason why it shouldn't go right next time (has she not been paying attention to my MC history )

Anyway, she said it's obvious that fetilization is taking place as is implantation - it's just that the last 2 embryos have not taken off and she hopes the next one will. So do I love, so do I!!

She doesn't think I have the sticky blood thing cos I had 2 successful pregs before, she says it really isn't a fault with my body more a chromosone problem.

So here we go again. I do feel that as I have dealt with this early loss fine I am happy to go again. But if I were to lose again I may well stop then.

My DH didn't want me to get my FSH levels checked cos he said the results would not be conclusive regarding egg quality and he didn't feel we should make a decision based on that. I am ok to go ahead on that basis.

She isn't too worried about the pains in my legs. I do not show signs of DVT. So will see if it settles down.

Sorry for long ramble.

GPS Sorry to hear your results were'nt good. The added time pressure thing is a pain as well isn't it. I was desperate to get pregnant again before August cos that was when our lost little one was due and also when i turn 44. I think having something in the future which puts that added pressure on makes it all twice as stressful. Not sure what to say to you to take that added stress away though - sorry at my rubbishness.

gum beef in beer sounds good - any left over for me? Sorry to hear that you are having trouble with longing for another baby. It is hard to be happy for others isn't it. I know how you feel hon.

diege Love the idea of us all meeting up in real life. My goodness we know soooo much about each others lady bits - it would be so funny!

italian Thanks - my kids are lovely (now you mention it). The eldest is 10 going on 14 so he has a tendency towards stroppyness and the youngest is a loony but they're ours and we love 'em.

Make the most of your DD - before you know it she'll be 10 going on 14 as well and it's all downhill from there (so I'm told!)

linda It is so hard to know what to do next isn't it. I hope you reach a decision or have a miracle pregnancy which takes you by surprise real soon.

jolly saved you til last cos you're in extra need of some Hippy care right now. try not to stress. It coud well be thrush. Have you got a GP appointment to discuss it yet? Stop smuggling vinegar in your knickers Mrs - it can only lead to trouble. Seriously though, thinking of you my love. xx

Anyone else I've left off - sorry .

randomimposter · 29/06/2010 14:02

hippy big PHEW from the south coast.. so glad the scan was clear (apart from the miracle scenario we all had wished for ). And your GP sounds great - really sound. So pleased you sound so positive and future focused. Massive squeeze from me. (Had acu this morning so no spotting today...)

Wave to everyone x

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hippychick66 · 29/06/2010 14:14

Wow. Do you really think accupuncture can stop the spotting just like that???

Does accupuncture hurt or is it in any way pleasant?

Glad you're feling positive today jolly - keep it up.

randomimposter · 29/06/2010 14:19

Not painful. Mostly don't even feel the needles, if so a small sting perhaps? But not pleasant either. Although nice to lie down and do nothing for 30 mins .

Is it THAT powerful. I dunno. I doubt it. But as you say if it helps the positivity??!!

Oscillate (sp?) between feeling anxious and resigned to what will be. But you know that situation well enough x

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hippychick66 · 29/06/2010 14:34

Yes I occilated like a fan with the last pregnancy.

Glad it helps you. My reflexology seemed to help me get pregnant both times and the plus side of that was - it feels fab!

My Dh says he doesn't want to go for it like mad this time. he wants us to take it easy and see how it pans out. BUT I am still gonna chart etc. I mean once you know what to look for, it is almost impossible not to chart (even if you are only mentally making a note of CM).

i will subtley do some SWI once I see Egg WHites and also check once my temperature has gone up. But as far as he is concerned we will be taking it easy and seeing how it goes .

hippychick66 · 29/06/2010 14:36

PS. You spelt it right - I spelt it wrong!!

randomimposter · 29/06/2010 14:37

only cos I was a Smiths fan in my lost youth

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