New to Mumset and planning to TTC from the new year

[Jojo7]

Hi all,
yes, I'm new to mumsnet and new to TTC - planning to start from 1st Jan.
Is anyone in the same boat and as excited / impatient about it as me?!
Also reading some of the other notes from TTC'ers and am realising there is so much yet I have no idea about!
Hope to hear from you.

I know what you meen about the emotional wieredness!
I went from feeling really rubbish and generally a bit fed up with everything yesterday to suddenly being in an extrodinarily good mood today for no apparent reason. Even people at work were commenting on how I was grinning like an idiot. I'm putting it down to just not being used to the hormonal changes you get throughout a cycle as I've been on the merina for so long. so hopefully your stressedness will pass at least for a bit!

Who knows! Still I shall make the most of it while it lasts as I seem to be spending most of my time being stressed at the least little thing since I started ttc which is not usually how I am and I'm sure it doesn't help matters.

Hope everyone feels a bit chirpier soon! Xx

Ok, so after the doctors yesterday, sat down and had a serious word with myself - to get back to normal (and able to function in public)

Doctor said to chill out (not exact words but sternly said words to that effect) and as it was more than likely the body getting itself back to functioning without interference. She offered a test to ?make me feel better?, which I declined (felt like a 3 years old being pacified) and done one in the privacy of our home.

Yes - of course it was neg, but I felt weirdly relieved. Meant I can not have done anything, and can go to the hospital Monday and have done whatever it takes to stop my face hurting (as said before the other issue is completely unrelated to anything else going on including the cold I had). Also means I am a muppet. I need to remember to take more care of myself in general and be more careful to not to make dumbass errors in judgement. On top of this need to not get stressed if I do realise I have done something ?not recommended? and to get over it.

Thanks for the support earlier ? I knew I was a stressy person, but no idea I could be this bad!! Sure it is made worse holding it in and pretending to be normal - making the worst come out in the sanctuary of mumsnet!! x

Hi, I'm new to all this too. So hello everyone. BTW is anyone nearly or over 35? at the moment all I seem to be reading/hearing is "oh you hardly need bother if you're over 35 - the chances are miniscule". But I really and truly wasn't bothered about being a mum before and now fairly abruptly I am! Started with feeling jealous when I heard about pregnant friends, to peering into prams and looking soppily at my husband (who in return looked a but startled!), to being a total wreck when I heard my sister had got pregnant on honeymoon aged 31. As you can see, I've got a bit of a "thing" about my age. Can anyone reassure me? Now the poor man has been forced off alcohol and I pin him down every morning to shove vitamins and Omega 3 into him. Bless him, he's pretty easy going.

Hey Oneof8 sounds like you need a big hug! This is what these boards are for, somewhere to vent your frustration and annoyance with lots of other people who are in the same boat and know that your not completely crazy.

I certainly have to have stern words with myself on a regular basis at the moment. This ttc business is way more stressful then I ever imagined before I started. I had this idea that we would just kind of have a go and it wouldn't be a big deal but I have since realised that I couldn't have been kidding myself more if i'd convinced myself babies grew on trees! Seriously, don't beat yourself up about being stressy as I for one am with you all the way in the angst department. Its far to easy to convince yourself your doing something wrong when your not at all.

Deep breaths, happy thoughts

Hello BabyBecks, have seen a few of your posts I think. Actually I'm going to start trying in earnest this weekend - hurray for Valentine's Day! Seriously, have been thinking for a while the time is right and have now turned over all sorts of new leaves re alcohol, diet, fitness etc. Never was a smoker anyway, so hopefully all should be well. Perhaps all that remains to be done is to actually make one . But I've just got some niggling paranoias and neuroses...

It has been an eventful week - hope you are feeling better Oneof8. I think there is a bit of a transition phase that you go through when starting TTC.
I didn't quite realise but I have had a billion mystery illnesses / symptoms / imagined MC etc - and all since Jan 1st!!!!
Hope you are feeling more ballanced.

Welcome Ariesgirl and I'm with babybecks in being over 35.
Lots of nonsense in the media about us shameful people who have had careers and now want a baby. As I've said before my neighbour is preggers at 42 as are loads of my late 30s friends.
When I spoke to the nurse about TTC and fertility 'dropping' after 35, she said - yes but it doesn't dissappear altogether!
So it's gradual and we all have a few more years of fertility - so there!
Sorry not to post regularly but I have been taking a sneaky look at work and following all your news.

PS.Does anyone know if - um - you need to stay still after 'trying' in order to increase your chances

Artyparty I've been lying with feet up on headboard and a pillow under me bum afterwards! Can't believe I just admitted that on the web. Ohh, the indignity!

I'm led to believe Artyparty that it's beneficial to lie still for 20 minutes or so afterwards, preferably with your legs raised on a pillow! Too bad if you're on a lunchtime quickie...

Ooo...I totally broke this afternoon and tested! Despite the fact it's still too early really and wasn't even first thing in the morning. Needless to say it wasn't a resounding positive though I have somehow managed to convince myself that there might have been a really faint, tiny line if I squinted a bit though I am pretty damn sure that I'm madly hallucinating!

Now I just feel a bit annoyed with myself and fed up. Still, if AF doesn't appear in the next few days I can try again at a more sensible time.

Welcome to the madness Ariesgirl. When the sudden and inexplicable need for babies arrives I don't think that there's much you can do except go with it and hope for the best . I've known quite a few people who have had their first kid in their thirties and they all turned out ok. In some ways they were less stressed and more organised about it that some of the younger people I've known which can't be a bad thing so I wish you lots of luck!

Hi all! Iv been so busy recently that I havent been able to get anywhere near a computer recently.
Lulabell congratulations! Now you will have to start thinking about uni.

I dont think we did it this month. We had sex once or twice at he beginning but those two incidents lead to me having cystitis and thrush. Now DH has gone away with work and wont be back for 1-3 weeks. So im guessing its April for us now. Although my last cycle only lasted 3/4 weeks and this one is at 5 so far so who knows.
How is everyone doing?

Hopefully tomorrow will bring lots of BFP for you all. Are you doing anything nice?

Just a quick one to say I hope everyone has a wonderful Valentines and extra good luck to all those testing or just having a good time babymaking !

Thanks Babybecks and congrats on the ov. I'm not hugely optomistic as I'm pretty sure I was just seeing what I wanted and I'm feeling rather like AF might arrive at any moment. Still, I confessed to the DP about testing and he just laughed, in a nice way though so I feel much better about it now .

Thanks Ariesgirl and Pickle - I thought it was something like that. Have put into practice and will see what happens...!

Great news you are getting back to a regular cycle Babybecks - now you can TTC with renewed energy How do you know you are def. ovulating - are you using the ov sticks?

Hope things are good for you sparrowgirl. I've found it's sometimes calming to be open with nearest and dearest in RL and have a laugh about it.

OMG is anyone watching 'one born every minute'??

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Hi calligraphy
I had a terrible tummy & acidity after about a month of taking folic acid... I don't know if this is coincidental but it triggered a bout of IBS which I eventually had to see the doctor about because I oouldn't get it under control.
I had lots of tests and am now experimenting with cutting out milk. Peppermint oil capsules are also helpful.
I think some of it may be emotional too; making the momentous decision to TTC and detoxing the body in readyness.

Some of the other girls had this too and we all thought it was morning sickness!!! Sasdly not.

You sound so organised Babybecks - good luck with it. When will you test for the BFP? I am waiting around now and thinking - is anything happening in threre?

How are you doing lulabell? Blooming I hope.
Did you go to the spa? I am due to go this w-e. Would this be OK if I am (just) PG.?

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Does anyone know if hot water bottles are a bad idea? Our house is freezing and I have one every night. Should I just keep it away from the pelvic area?

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Hi girls
Thanks Babybecks and calligraphy.
I did some light steaming at the spa and didn't go too hot. I didn't know how many potential 'hazards' there were to TTC!
I think the relaxation benefits potentially outweigh the negatives tho. Ariesgirl I like a hot water bottle too. Another thing to cut out!

I am having a wobble today. Convinced I am going to AF (what does that stand for?) in about nine days time...
Just want to get on with it. babybecks think I will join you with the box sets!