New to Mumset and planning to TTC from the new year

[Jojo7]

Hi all,
yes, I'm new to mumsnet and new to TTC - planning to start from 1st Jan.
Is anyone in the same boat and as excited / impatient about it as me?!
Also reading some of the other notes from TTC'ers and am realising there is so much yet I have no idea about!
Hope to hear from you.

Hi MountainFairy welcome to the thread. I would avoid the whole childbirth section if I were you, there are some shockers on there.

Some exciting news. I was sick of waiting for AF tomorrow and do the "will it, wont it" thing again, so decided to take a test to put myself out of my misery and got a BFP!!!! eeeek, so exciting. Except dh rained all over my parade by saying he doesn't believe it, cant they be wrong, and isn't it a bit early to get excited (admittedly a friend of his had 2 mcs so I can see why he's cautious). So now I don't know whether to be excited or not

Lol, he's now berating me for telling everyone on mnet that, and says it's my fault as I spent the whole of this month telling him it wouldn't happen.

I've been out to buy some of those super expensive digital tests and I'm going to do one in the morning to confirm, esp as it's AF day, and then I'll be excited whether he is or not.

Also, I'm meant to be going to a spa tomorrow, is that ok?

That's great Lulabell - I'm sure those tests are as accurate as the docs if it is on the day you are due. Oh wow!
Welcome to Mountain and pickle. We're all going through the range of emotions and mystery symptoms.
Babybecks I am bracing myself for my local hospital. When I went for blood tests the clinic resembled a factory farm.
Keep us posted on BFP developments lulabell EXCITING!

Ooh congrats Lulabell! That's wonderful news!

I too have been poring over the childbirth threads, then regretting it when I read something scary, and then going back for more!

It's totally addictive! I'm actually addicted to MN in general - my productivity at work has gone seriously downhill since I discovered it! Thank god I sit in the corner and no-one can see my monitor...

Hi Arty , Becks and Pickle

Thank you so much for your messages. Took the super-duper digital test this am and it's another BFP, it says 3+ weeks since conception! I'm so excited, and this time dh is too.

Now the threads I'm hating are the morning sickness ones lol

I'm off to the spa, I'll avoid all the hot stuff. Mum had booked me a lovely aromatherapy massage, but I suspect that's off limits now as well

It's not as speedy as it looks, we've been halfheartedly trying since August, maybe it was commitment to the cause that did it

I hope no one minds if I linger on here a bit, I'd love to find out how you're all getting on, I've got my fingers tightly crossed for next month for those that need it!!

Hi All - Congratulations Lulabell!!!

Just read the news! So pleased for you!

xxx

Congrats Lulabell! Excellent news. I'd be delighted to have you hang around a bit more.

Question everyone: What does everyone mean when they say "I was trying hard not to symptom spot". Is this what happens when your mind plays tricks on you? How can you try and not spot? Sorry, the whole concept is new to me. Though maybe I should not be asking as I might start doing it, though it does seem strange that it is something you can 'do'??

So any more BFPs?

Great stuff Lulabell - do stay a while and give us progress updates. Congratulations to you and DH.
I haven't read the other threads yet - for fear of jinxing myself!
Hi again Mountain. I have just had the most curious time since starting TTC - was convinced I could feel something 'different' immediately and then got ill. Am usually sensible.
Feel a bit more balanced now after confiding in friends in RL.
Have great weekends everyone

Hi oneof8 and mountainfairy , thanks for your messages

Mountainfairy, I consciously made the effort not to symptom spot this month and miraculously had no symptoms, the mind is a tricksy little thing! lol Every other month I've had nausea, tightness of stomach; headaches, tender breasts, blocked nose etc etc

Becks, I didnt have any symptoms at all until this week, which was third week post ov ish, and all I've had is a couple of waves of nausea each day. That said, my imagined nausea was a semi-constant low level type, this has been a "oh god, I've just been hit with a nausea-inducing hammer" type. Sudden, and very intense.

Thanks for letting me stay around everyone

Hello, please can I join you guys!
I had my mirena removed on the 6 January and am a terrible symptom spotter. I'm the kind of person who gets some sniffles and spends the next 3 days on google finding out whether I've got some form of rare east asian flu so you can imagine what I'm like right now in the middle of my first proper 2ww. I am developing a disturbing addiction to hunting the web for early symptoms of pregnancy, which I really must stop before I drive myself a bit crazy

I probably doesn't help that I'm shockingly impatient . Ho hum... must learn to wait!

Wellcome SparrowGirl. Please do join. Everyone has gone quiet but I want to know if there are any more BFPs!

I am similar to you. So much so that I never used any form of contraception apart from condoms for the fear of what it may do to me. Hasn't helped yet though!

Lullabell, how's life on the other side?

Ok - so I know I was pessimistic about the chances but when I was a couple of days late tmi alert following a pink tinge once a week before AF due I was starting to feel excited...

Unfortunately today proves maybe I was right after all, and I was just late.

Rubbish. On a plus note, I did get out of most heavy lifting (we are in process of decorating new home) and I can take Ibuprofen for this headache I have had a few days already!! Paracetamol just doesn't want to work!

And a drink oneof8 as long as you are sure it's not implantation! Sorry to hear it, but for me Neurofen is definitelly a plus!

I have been a bit under the weather recently - first googled "early pregnancy signs" then decided you can find anything on the internet with enough looking, and it was just a nasty headache and coldy thing.

Had the headache for a while as tried staying off the "good" pain killers in case. Caved and took some - just for it to come back again the other day!

May play safe and give if a few days to monitor - implantation bleeds are supposed to stop after a couple of days spotting - so should be able to tell the difference.

Now not sure if the butterfly feeling is really really light cramps (as I was telling myself) or more... its on th left side only - if this makes any difference I didn't get cramps when on pill, and cant remember the last couple

Thanks guys!

It's so nice to know that it's not just me trawling the web after every twinge. It doesn't help that because I was on the Mirena for 4 years and the pill for many years before that I haven't had any kind of period for ages and have generally completly forgotton what it feels like when my body is left to do it's own thing.

I have hence forth decided to ignore any oddness as complelty normal and allow myself to test on Sunday ... Or maybe Saturday if I start going really loopy

Sorry to hear that Oneof8 , fingers crossed it's implantation!

Hi Sparrowgirl , good luck for Sunday (you know it'll be Saturday though ;) )

I went to the GP's today to get myself booked in, saw one of the male GPs as it's quicker, but I dont think it happens very often, the poor guy looked really confused by it all

Seemed to be all ok, although I had a horror moment when I got on the scales for the first time since having foot surgery a few months ago and saw how much weight I'd put on. And now is not the time to be dieting! The dr was kind enough not to say anything.

I'm a bit worried I've made a mistake about hospitals. The two local to me have a shocking reputation, so I asked not to go to them, which was fine, but the one I wanted has closed to new referrals, so I opted for another central one (King's), but then remembered it's a real pain to get to, it's full of medical students I know, and I'm outside the midwives catchment area so I think I've killed my home birth option I'm hoping that I probably wouldn't have managed a home birth anyway and so I've made the right decision.

Anyway, that's my little update. Hope everyone's doing ok. I'm wishing lots of luck to you all!

I am a fool.

Have completely given up on thinking as was getting me nowhere (unless in a state counts!)

This may be TMI but need to off load.

Yesterday after work we went to the shops and one of the items purchased was 24x500ml multi-pack of water. Given the apparent AF had gotten a little heavier (not a "flow" but heavier spotting if this makes sense?) I had concluded was defo AF starting, and carried the water pack into the house. About an hour later whilst scrapping wall paper at the new place had one big crampy pain - not sure how to describe other than if my insides were a sponge someone gave a quick squeeze - not painful but that sensation if you can imagine it...

Same amount of spotting on next visit to the loo. Lighter on the visit after.

Nothing back at home (we are still living at old place till agreement ends). Nothing this morning, nothing after shower and nothing at any point today whilst at work.

No butterflies since the cramp.

The ever helpful OH asked if I thought I "had done something when lifting the water?" (he did tell me off yesterday but I wanted to get everything done...) and continued if I was worried I should stop being an arse and just test - to which I (unreasonably) responded his job was to be there, not to think, and to listen NOT comment when I was worried. I did apologise after lunch.

Still nothing in the AF department. Have got a doctors appointment for something else tomorrow (it doesn't rain but it pours!) so going to discuss it with GP.

Know OH is talking sense, but now anxious what if is positive, and I've bolloxed things and end up MC - or the other side I am an over-reacting twat and all this is just the ?adjustment? from coming off pill as it was too good to be true going straight into predictable cycles...

Stopped temping when got the coldy thing the other week as with the headache and raised temp from being ill seemed silly to be fussing about when only a month in on planned trying and monitoring.

Best part is stress is the first listed caused of a wanky irregular period cycle.

Anyone had anything remotely similar and able to shake some sense into me (please)?

Hello everyone,

Sorry to hear you're stressed out OneOf8. I don't have anything useful to say really, except to echo what BabyBecks said - I don't think lifting one heavy-ish item would have done any damage other than to stress you out. But your GP will be able to re-assure you, and hopefully you are having implantation bleed and not AF

Also, this TTC lark does funny things to your emotions so you're not a fool at all. Just before my AF arrived last week, a very close friend announced she was pregnant and I (stupidly) got myself in a right state (I'm blaming the post-pill PMS, which has been awful for me). At one point over the weekend DH actually said he was a bit worried about me, which brought me back down to earth with a bump - I'm usually pretty chilled out! Although rationally I know it's WAY too early to be freaking out about this, I was mildly hysterical! Weird. As I said - am blaming the PMS.

I've now had a word with myself and have decided to just enjoy the BD'ing and try to forget about getting knocked up for now - hopefully that'll do it!