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New to Mumset and planning to TTC from the new year

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Jojo7 · 22/12/2009 04:08

Hi all,
yes, I'm new to mumsnet and new to TTC - planning to start from 1st Jan.
Is anyone in the same boat and as excited / impatient about it as me?!
Also reading some of the other notes from TTC'ers and am realising there is so much yet I have no idea about!
Hope to hear from you.

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Hobnob76 · 22/12/2009 09:47

Hi there, welcome!

I'm TTC my 1st, we decided mid cycle last month to just go for it ( a month earlier than planned!) our timing wasn't quite right though, so onwards to this month!

You should join in us in the first time frolickers thread!

maamalady · 22/12/2009 12:50

Me too, I have six days of pills left and then we will genuinely be TTC, it is quite scary!

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Jojo7 · 22/12/2009 23:44

Thanks Hobnob76! I think I've found you and others in the 'waiting to conceive thread'... (my computer tells me 'first time frolickers' is full? (There must be lots of us!!)).
My last pill is tomorrow... double checked with DH this morning that he was still feeling good about this and all good.
Evilgiraffe - I think it's going to be very exciting to take the last one!.. although I agree...pretty scary!

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ellesabe · 23/12/2009 12:30

Well today I should be taking the first pill of a new pack... BUT I'M NOT!
Soooooooooo excited/nervous/impatient! I think my husband is a bit scared of coming home from work today

loopylou2 · 06/01/2010 20:12

Hi everyone, good luck, myself and DP are planning to start trying for #1 soon, we're just taking a few months to prepare ourselves first (vitamins, smear tests, etc)

weird how we're not quite TTC just yet but I'm still inding myself charting things and getting disappointed when AF arrives, etc! Maybe in my head I have already been trying for a few months

PurplePoppy · 09/01/2010 11:37

Me too me too!
My husband is terrified, bless.
And loopylou, I have been disappointed eveytime AF arrived for about a year already. It feels like it will never happen, even though this is the first month we are even trying.

BabyBecks · 09/01/2010 13:40

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SilverSky · 09/01/2010 17:10

Can I join please?

Husband and I last year were not avoiding but not trying, alas nothing happened, probably cos our timings were all off.

We have been getting jiggy with it this month and over the dates as shown by the ovulation calendar etc. AF is due 14th Jan, though I am not expecting it to have worked as we have only just seriously started to try and we know it can take anything up to a year or longer. Hope not as I already feel ancient!! LOL.

Mr Silver Sky is like a rampant rabbit since we decided its now or never, totally having to fend him off!

Does anyone else keep wondering "what's going on in there, is there a little baybee in there yet?"

Binkster · 09/01/2010 17:16

Hello, Can I join in too? We decided to start this year- it's been planned for so long it doesn't seem real! We're both in our early/mid 30s so everyone around us is having kids right now- can't wait til it's our turn too!
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OneOf8 · 09/01/2010 17:29

Hello, room for another? We have agreed to start "properly" trying this month, and dead nervous/excited/worried!

So many of our friends have already had childern, and already on #2 but we decided to wait until we had our own home and I was more stable at work (normal excuses!). For various reasons I was the one pushing for the wait, so OH is over the moon!

Freeasabird58 · 09/01/2010 18:44

Can I join too please?! we've not been using any protection since about september (I came off the pill in July) I have posted a few times on here, so most of my info is on them about my recent stage! currently on CD26 of my cycle.... not sure when i'm due so... who knows! whats everyones symptoms (pregnancy or when your expecting AF???) hard to tell isnt it!! x

PurplePoppy · 09/01/2010 20:15

Oh, I wish my DH was over the moon. He is only really going along with it because he knows how important it is to me. It is something we have always talked about and planned for, and he is fully in agreement, but if it was just up to him he wouldn't have children. He is fantastic with other peoples though, and I am just hoping that he will be won over by the reality...but what if he is not?

OneOf8 · 09/01/2010 20:55

Sounds terrible, but as the 2nd eldest of 8 I've seen my parents financially struggle to provide (we are well looked after etc, not a sob story!) and I chose to put myself through uni. For this reason I could never get on board with the "it will work out" methology and wanted to get ahead in career and have a home which belonged to us so I felt secure.

I am not materialistic - just never wanted to be in the same situation as my parents, where everything was a struggle.

We have been engaged and saving for what feels like forever, and final found the perfect house.

Its only now I feel I had things in the wrong order.

Was on Dianette - which apparently takes forever to leave the system, so I am not optimistic on our chances of good news anytime soon - starting tomorrow to do the temperature chart and only the 2nd AF since coming off the pill.

PurplePoopy - My best friends partner was upset when she found out she was expecting (unplanned) but at the scan he was more excited then she was! They had a daughter - and he is wonderful with her.

Dont think it matters if you are the mum or the dad its a lot to get used to and such a lifestyle change, I am sure he'll be grand.

Maybe he has a reason to be reluctant? If he's good with other people's kids, he is not anti-child like some men-folk I know.

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SilverSky · 10/01/2010 10:52

My DP has been ready to have a family since forever. I have only just been ready, emotionally. In fact, I have found a number of reasons as to why we shouldn't start.

Typically now that I am hugely broody, I wish we'd started year's ago!!

Life is never simple is it.

silver26 · 10/01/2010 14:48

Hi Jojo7 and other TTC ladies!
We are also TTC from this month although my husband has just gone away on a course for 6 months so getting him here at the right time might be hard
Finding cutting out booze really hard but healthy eating and folic acid pill popping much easier.
How is everyone else making lifestyle changes?

CeeJay30 · 10/01/2010 16:17

Hi
Am new here too; DH declared on New Years Eve he wanted us to try for a baby this year rather than in a couple of years as originally planned; wasn't going to disagree with him! So here we go...
Just making minor lifestyle changes, silver26, mainly same as yours.
Like Oneof8, am a mixture of worried/nervous/excited. Most worries being about how long it might take - spent so long trying not to get pregnant, now seems bizarre to be worried about the opposite!
Am first of my close friends TTC, so good will be good to have people to share with on here.
Cx

PurplePoppy · 10/01/2010 20:13

Lol at purpl"poopy". Think that's much better actually...maybe will change.

I think its just that none of his oldest friends, or cousins, or siblings have any, so it doesnt seem like the obvious thing to do for him. But he totally onboard with the trying, and he is very stubborn and would never do anything he didnt 100% agree with...so I think its all ok really. I guess if he wasnt voicing all the worries then I wouldn't be so free to feel so fearless and totally up for it.

I really hate this waiting though! All my working life my leave has had to be planned at least 6 months in advance, and I am quite a planner anyway, so it is totally bizarre to me to not have any way of knowing what this year will hold. I think I will go crazy if it takes ages.

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OneOf8 · 10/01/2010 22:56

Sorry PurplePoppy - oops!

As far as lifestyle changes go we have started better diets - I find it harder than he does as do the shopping, but everything else hasn't become an issue yet... first evening where drinks are on the agenda is next month but we'll cross that bridge I guess.

simpoo · 12/01/2010 13:49

Hello,

I was wondering if I could join you. H suggested on New Years Eve we start trying for kids this year which I am very excited about! Am completely blind about the technical stuff of dates and temperatures! I have a lot to learn but would love some support during this time!

OneOf8 · 13/01/2010 10:14

Hello Simpoo. Is this something H has wanted a while or was it out of the blue? - Being nosey!!

Hermia321 · 13/01/2010 10:31

Hello,

DH and I are gonna be officially TTC in 9 days time after I finish this pill packet.

Quite excited, can I join in with people here?

Ironically it was my DH who has been baby crazy for the past few years and now I've cracked. LOL

OneOf8 · 13/01/2010 11:12

Ha ha - there is a couple of us dragging heels!! What was your reasons for wanting to wait?

Now that we are trying, we decided to keep quiet in RL to ensure there is no pressure from either family.

1st AF was at the end of a pill pack. Second arrived when expected - so hopeful cycle is settled - but know nothing is a given!

We started eating better and started on the Folic Acid this month. Worried myself reading stories of people having trouble/delays in getting pregnant after Dianette, which is why I decided to start tracking temperature also. Figured if we do have any problems be good to have records ready (ever the pessimist!)

canoe · 13/01/2010 13:46

Hi everyone,

Can I join you? We've only just decided that we would start trying for kids this year.

Since finding this site I've realised how much i don;t know about temperatures and dates etc. Also feel like i'm missing a lot with some of the abbrieviations on here, worked out what TTC means but I'm stumped for quite a few of them!

Also read something saying that you should wait for 3 months after coming off the pill before trying. Has anyone else had any advice about that?

Like CeeJay I would be the first of my close friends to have kids, my partner's a few years older than me so it's his mates who all have kids, so it will be great to have people to chat to online about this!

Thanks

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