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New to Mumset and planning to TTC from the new year

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Jojo7 · 22/12/2009 04:08

Hi all,
yes, I'm new to mumsnet and new to TTC - planning to start from 1st Jan.
Is anyone in the same boat and as excited / impatient about it as me?!
Also reading some of the other notes from TTC'ers and am realising there is so much yet I have no idea about!
Hope to hear from you.

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simpoo · 13/01/2010 19:04

Hi oneof8! It something we both knew we wanted for a while but we have never really got serious about it. I have been off depo injection for over a year and my AF has settled down sort of but due to us both working shifts the timing has obvioulsy never been right. He turned to me at mignight on NYE and said "2010.... baby year?" So we are going to make a concerted effort for this year! I am early 30's and he is mid 30's so it really is the right time now.

I have started taking my folic acid too.

Its nice to hear other people are starting out from scratch too and I am not the only one in the dark about the more "technicl" side of things!!

simpoo · 13/01/2010 19:08

oh yes and I forgot to add that I stopped smoking on NYE and have given up wine for the month of Jan!!

OneOf8 · 13/01/2010 19:26

That is (to me) really romantic!

I got "do you have any more excuses, or are you ready?" during the drive home one night!

simpoo · 13/01/2010 19:30

Thats quite funny oneof8!

The night me and my H got together I told him he looked nice and he told me "you dont scrub up too bad either". So he isnt wholly the romantic sort!!

OneOf8 · 13/01/2010 19:43

We originally dated when we were at school, broke up - neither of us remember why, and ended up back together few years later - bumped into each other randomly on a night out. Spent the night chatting, swapped numbers "to keep in touch". I was part of a group and one of the guys gave me the knowing look. I said "oh no, he wishes!"

Got worse from there in! We don't even try to be funny. It just happens!

The night he proposed was worse...

We have some cracking stories to tell when we're old and in the nursing home!

Hermia321 · 13/01/2010 23:40

oneof8 I was dragging my heels because I wanted to get somewhat settled in my respective career which comes with a training course attached to it. We had to move for my job and I'm not that attached to the area we live in and well so on and so fourth. Now after a year of being continually stressed with DH loosing his job twice (both companies he worked for went a bit pear shaped, now has another job though). I'm fed up of waiting around and so I cracked. DH still doesn't quite believe that I'm serious though. He should though as I went out and bought books. I don't do that unless I'm serious.

I've started popping vitimim pills and am going to buy a thermometre and a chart. I really should take the chilled out approach, but I'm such a geek that I actually want to fill in the chart and do it 'properly'. I'm also gonna break out the running shoes again as well. My word!!!

simpoo I have no idea about the technical side of things as well. I'm just gonna fill in my chart and pretend to know what I'm talking about. LOL.

BabyBecks · 14/01/2010 19:59

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simpoo · 14/01/2010 20:31

All i know about at the moment is the physical side of things LOL! I am planning to become an expert at that and then get technical!

Its good to speak to so many people who are starting out together. I'm looking forward to getting support andadvice from these chat boards. Bearing in mind at 32 I am actually the youngest in my family and although on of my close friends is preggers now none of my others are... babies are not something I have been around (and am very scared of) so if H and I are lucky enough to fall I will be asking all kinds oof stupid questions!

CeeJay30 · 14/01/2010 21:36

Simpoo, I'll be in the same boat as you - haven't spent that much time around babies either - despite being very close to 30, having a very large extended family and four neices & nephews - I always avoided the babysitting!

Canoe, I was worried I'd be the only one whose close friends haven't had children yet. I tend to go to my friends more than my family for help & advice, but this is one case where I can't!! But am hoping there are lots of kind helpful people on here that won't mind answering my daft, neurotic questions once in a while!

Hermya321 · 14/01/2010 22:20

babybecks no I haven't, but I will be doing. I bought my thermometre today. I was very serious about the whole thing and then grinned like a maniac the whole way home. I told my DH who looked at me and said 'I thought we were going to just not try and not get pregnant' my reply was 'Well if we're going to try, we might as well go about it the right way' and then gave him a brief lecture about EWCM and fertility charts, all info that I have been absorbing this week. He just looked at me. I like your idea about being an expert on the physical rather than the technical. I've always been more of a practical person myself . LOL

Ceejay simpoo We'll go through it all together. I did do the whole babysitting lark, but you get to give the kids back at the end of the night so I think actually having one will be a mite different.

OneOf8 · 14/01/2010 22:43

Hermya, the difference is the payment sucks for a parent! Babysitting, you get an "owed favour" or a couple of ££ Friends say the rewards are better tho... I do recall enjoying being up into the small hours of the morning...

The closer it gets to the "time" where it is more likely to get pregnant the the more nervous I'm getting!

OH took an interest, but told him to avoid pressure best he doesn't know too much so cant he cant tell which are baby-making sessions, and which are to keep it fun!

Anyone else questioning their sanity? Excitment at temperature rising, taking acid to ensure health, planning to take the biggest leap into the unknown where planning will count for nothing??

Hermya321 · 14/01/2010 23:11

oneof8 Yeah it's true, the weekly wage for being a parent doesn't seem too brilliant does it. LOL

I think when you decide to become a parent a dorment hormone takes over your brain leading you into the grips of insanity and doesn't leave you until about six hours after the birth where suddenly you're faced with a screaming child that YOU have to take care of. The hormone then cackles with glee and lies in wait to strike again when you least expect it.

Lulabell · 15/01/2010 10:29

Hi everyone,

Sorry I'm a little late, but can I join you here please? My dh and I have theoretically been trying since our wedding in August, but I keep panicking and changing my mind, so we've messed up all the timing and it hasn't worked.
We've decided to definitely try as of now, with renewed confidence, but looking through these threads I think I may have been a bit naive thinking that folic acid and the mechanics alone would get us there.
Can anyone recommend somewhere I can find out about temps and cycle etc please?

Good luck to everyone

(oh, sorry I'm not technically new to mumsnet, I joined a few years ago for knitting advice, but I've not really posted much)

Hermya321 · 15/01/2010 11:14

Lulabell Welcome to the thread!!

I've just joined fertility friend which was recomended by a few people around the site. It helps you chart your cycles and temp etc. It seems helpful and has a little email course about how to do a fertility chart which includes information about temps and stuff.

Lulabell · 15/01/2010 18:14

Great, thanks Hermya, I'll check them out!

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Lulabell · 16/01/2010 16:00

BabyBecks brilliant I look forward to it then although I'm not sure I'll be able to face quite that much detail either... Website itself seems a bit confusing, but the emails are good

Hermya321 · 16/01/2010 20:16

Babybecks I like it so far, although the fact that it asks me if I've BD'd today freaks me out a little bit.

Lulabell Yeah the emails are good, I've been enjoying reading them if not implementing them.

hairytriangle · 16/01/2010 22:54

Me! Hello, I am forty one and TTC for the very first time. Wish me lots of luck!

Lulabell · 17/01/2010 09:57

Good luck hairyT

BabyBecks · 17/01/2010 16:06

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Hermya321 · 17/01/2010 17:19

Welcome on board hairyT

SabrinaFairchild · 17/01/2010 19:50

Hello everyone, room for another? Made decision with DH that we would start TTC in a couple of months time, got a bit carried away with the conversation and ended up starting a bit sooner. Aside from Folic Acid and the obvious, I really have no idea what I'm supposed to be doing so would be nice to share with others. Have been a mumsnet lurker for a while, but thought it was finally time to dive in!

Lulabell · 17/01/2010 20:09

Hi Sabrina, good to have you here You're in exactly the same position as I was until Friday when Hermya directed me to fertilityfriend.com . There's more information on there than you would ever have thought possible. So far though I haven't implemented any and I'm still on folic acid and "the obvious". I think I'll have a more serious look ready for my next cycle.
Check out the website for more info, and good luck!

simpoo · 18/01/2010 11:32

Wow I have just had a look at fertility friend, its all a bit complicated for me yet!

HI Sabrina, HairyT, Lulabell. The more the merrier!

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