New to Mumset and planning to TTC from the new year

[Jojo7]

Hi all,
yes, I'm new to mumsnet and new to TTC - planning to start from 1st Jan.
Is anyone in the same boat and as excited / impatient about it as me?!
Also reading some of the other notes from TTC'ers and am realising there is so much yet I have no idea about!
Hope to hear from you.

LinzRed - think everyone has that feeling of 'what if I can't get pregnant now that I want to?'. I'm 27 and have been with my DH 7 years and to be honest I could have easily left TTC longer as things could be better financially etc, but as I have suspected endometriosis we thought maybe we should get a move on in case it takes a long time.

I thought I was ok and quite relaxed about it, but now I'm in the wait for my AF I know I'll be disappointed if it turns up, even though I know it's ridiculously unlikely I would get BFP so soon!

Artyparty - I have had so many 'symptoms' this week it's unreal - my DH said he'd be a bit annoyed if it turns out he was getting excited about my indigestion! Ordered some cheapy tests from Ebay, and now trying to resist the temptation to do one every hour.

Welcome to all newcomers!

Linzred, know what you mean about the full body check. I have a few things I have been meaning to get round to for ages and have finally done them this week. Wondering if I should get a toxoplasmosis test now too...

Sabrina I am exactly the same about symptoms. I have been symptom spotting for over a year now even though we havent been trying! Totally rediculous, but always in the back of my mind was the hope that contraception does sometimes fail. Now we are finally trying it feels like it will never happen even though its only been 1 month! How on earth do people survive that 2 week wait??

Hi Guys,
It's reassuring that eveyone has become as neurotic as me! There is a history of PCOS in my family too, so am hoping to rule that out with a scan... goodness knows how long i'll have to wait. Am also having a bank of blood tests for thyroid, liver function etc.

Does anyone know if folic acid increases acidity in the stomach? I have been getting terrible indigestion since TTC.

All this waiting around is so annoying , I agree BabyBecks. Am suddenly impatient after putting off TTC for years!

Hey all!

We've only just starting the waiting game - bored already after a couple of days!

Doesn't help i have felt really lousy every morning (the realist in me knows it is just over-tired from work) and I keep getting a "tight" feeling in my stomach.

Trying not to speculate, as not been off the pill very along, so could just be the body doing a re-adjustment.

Patience isn't a skill I mastered, but the progress made has been completely undone in the last few weeks!

Interesting OneOf8
I think our generation have compartmentalised our lives. We've checked off the qualifications, travel, career, perhaps marriage... now it's time for babies...
but it doesn't work to our schedule .
We are in the hands of mother nature now... scary.

Its just soo frustrating!

Spend years being careful and working towards personal goals - and then realise its not all its cracked up to be!

Had the most random chat last night - OH said we "really need to have the baby by end of November, otherwise it is to close to Christmas" After looking confused I asked why (as I am far more worried about EVERYTHING else the actual date of birth never even entered my mind). He reasoned December is too busy for people when you get to drinking age, and baby (yes, he refered to a baby going out drinking!) would never be able to celebrate their birthday without sharing the night with Christmas! I explained (through laughter) we had 18 years, plus nine months plus as long as it takes to get pregnant before we had to worry about that!

If only we had it that simple - that after deciding to have a child/children we only had to worry and the best and worst time of the year for our children to get drunk!

Admittedly I day dream about the nicer side of being a parent, and get cooey walking past the childrens clothes section in the supermarket - but has anyone else had a random conversation of this nature? I can't be the only one with a looney partner!!

Oh I think about that stuff all the time Oneof8! Well, not the drinking exactly, but I've always thought that October is a lovely time to have a birthday and Christmas a rubbish time. Of course I would be overjoyed what ever month it happens, but I cant help the pointless planning. Again, we just have to learn to relax and let mother nature carry on...

I'm the same girls... and am determined to have a baby in the first half of the academic year.

DH and I are both summer babies and struggled educationally as a result. A clever Autumn baby would be perfect.

But the reality is... if its going to be difficult, we don't care when!

Hi all - where has everyone been!

Well, I feel the same as earlier in the week - so beleive I have a virus as symptoms have been joined by a headache.

Has anyone had any exciting news?

I posted a while ago but havent ben on since.

Lulabell I am in a very similar situation as you, I got married last year, I have two years left of my degree after starting again. We have told a few close friends and my sister only because were rubbish at keeping secrets. But my mum and dad dont know yet.

No BFP here, I was trying not to symptom spot but it crept up on me so i was disappointed when AF came.

Hope everyone is well!

No exciting news here, but rapidly approaching the point when i know and dreading getting AF I've had nothing approaching symptoms at all, so I'm fairly certain we'll be trying hard again in a couple of weeks.

Have so far had a horribly hormonal day today, cried the whole way through church, had a mini panic attack on the way there, and cried again when I saw how much washing up I've got to do now (so I'm cunningly testing out whether the washing up gets magically done when I'm on mumsnet ). Unfortunately, I'm so hormonal today that I cant remember whether I normally am at this point, so have no idea if it' a sign of anything. I cant believe how much I overscrutinise everything that my body does these days! lol

Weevie glad to know there's someone else in my position! Are you planning to take a year out if you get a bfp, or just try to muddle your way onwards with a baby in tow? I'm so torn on that point, and dont want to decide what to do once a baby arrives, as I'm certain that at that point all I'll want to do is lie in bed all day with the baby

Fingers crossed for everyone waiting!

OneOf8 I had similar symptoms, I was hoping it was the beginning of something but AF proved it wasnt. I was feeling sick, dizzy, had headaches and some others.

Lulabell My degree is Early Childhood Studies, so I only have 8 hours a week, but I also get the feeling that I would just want to lie in bed all day having lots of cuddles . So I think im going to take a year out, we are hoping to time it right so it will be at the beginning of my summer holidays so the baby will be at least 18 months when I go back. What degree are you doing? Im guessing by what you said you are planning on taking a year out?

Hope everyone is ok!

I posted a while ago too and then haven't since. We're on our first 'two week wait' now- we can test on the 9th, it's a bit scary!

DH wants to keep it all a secret, but I'm a big blabbermouth, so most of my best friends know.

Good luck everyone

Weevie, I'm studying medicine, so it's a really heavy timetable. The problem is that I'm on a year out at the moment (for various reasons) and I'm not sure I can take two in a row. So officially, I'm not going to take a year out, but if it all gets too much I'm going to ask to interrupt my studies, which I'm fairly certain they'll let me do.

Waiting for the 5th here, eek!

No BFP for me.
I have been so ill these last couple of weeks.. and had almost comvinced myself that something was 'different' about the abdominal pains. Was not to be
In a way a good thing as I am taking a cocktail of antibiotics and have had a few glasses of wine - Not the best start for a fragile embrio!
Am going to take care of myself a bit more and prioritise health over work. .
I know mother nature won't let us down.

Sorry to hear that Arty , hope you're ok.
I think taking care of yourself is a great idea, you might as well start as you mean to go on!

Hello everyone,
I'm new here too, but have been lurking around for a few weeks! Hubby and I started TTC #1 at the beginning of January. Had some symptoms last week and over the weekend (OMG, so grumpy and emotional - I nearly got divorce papers!) and managed to convince myself we'd hit the jackpot first time, but AF arrived on Monday. Bit disappointed we're not the super-fertile young things we thought we were!

We're not really telling people we're 'trying' (although I've let it slip a couple of times when talking to friends, oops) so I'm looking forward to sharing all this stuff with the ladies on here!

Hello pickle welcome, and sorry for this month I'm stil waiting for AF, but I'm certain it's coming, have had little cramps the last few days. I guess not many people hit the jackpot quickly!

BabyBecks I've been having a real panic about hospitals. I'm a medical student and I live in the trust I study in, so I have nightmares about being up in stirrups and then finding that the person on the other end is a fellow student... eek! Almost as bad, is that I haven't done an obs placement yet, and might be taught by someone who's been looking at my cervix I think I'm going to have to have a home birth just to avoid that! Also, it means I know just how grubby some hospitals can be, although there are some excellent ones in the trust. I'm really concerned.

OTOH I had surgery at a hospital out of my trust in November and was horrified by it, it was really grim. My friend gave birth there in November and has a horrible birth story, as do her friends who gave birth there. So maybe I'll just suck up the embarrassment for the sake of knowing what I'm going to get.

But I agree, it's all a bit premature

I'm an idiot, friend gave birth there in August.

Also, I'm not scared so much of a student staring at me, so much as one of my friends/better acquaintances from my course. Or just bumping into a previously unknown student a few months later, and having a hideous few moments while I work out where I met them....

Thanks for the messages Lulabell and BabyBecks - everyone is so lovely and friendly on here! I didn't really expect it to happen first time (or even second/third/fourth!) but your mind kinda plays tricks on you doesn't it... One minute I was quite happy coming off the pill and 'seeing what happens', the next I'm poking my boobs to see if they're sore, and examining CM!

Onwards and upwards indeed!

Yikes, has anyone read the "three things to know about childbirth" thread? Abandon ship! lol it sounds awful. At least they all say it was worth it in the end.

Becks I often get asked random questions, so dont worry, but I'm not qualified, so I can give you my version of an answer, but I wont swear by it. I do at least have more books and resources to look things up in than most people

Pickle I've been determined this month not too look at anything too closely or read too much into anything, after a few disappointments. I've convinced myself it wont happen, but I'm due AF and it hasn't arrived today, and I've had the occasional feeling of nausea, so I cant help it, I so want to think AF wont arrive. Probably will tomorrow now

Is everybody finding ttc an emotional rollercoaster??

We'll be doomed when we get a bfp and the serious hormones start to kick in

Can I join, can I join? TTC first time, 32 years old with a 42 year old husband. A bit worried about our ages. 27.5 bmi. And that's about it. And really not looking forward to childbirth!!

Trying to loose a bit of weight, as per the other thread I started...