New to Mumset and planning to TTC from the new year

[Jojo7]

Hi all,
yes, I'm new to mumsnet and new to TTC - planning to start from 1st Jan.
Is anyone in the same boat and as excited / impatient about it as me?!
Also reading some of the other notes from TTC'ers and am realising there is so much yet I have no idea about!
Hope to hear from you.

I know I had a little browse on FF (thanks Lulabell) and it's remarkable how little I knew about my own cervix, kind of wonder what I've been doing with my time!

Lol, I'd kind of wonder what you've been doing with your time if you did know that much about your cervix
It's mind-boggling isn't it? Yikes, and this is just the beginning!

Hey. I was hoping to join?! I?m new to MN, but iv joined 1/2 other groups. DH and I decided to start TTC at the end of last month after stopping my pill. But since then we?ve been doing all the usual like folic acid and temperature charting?

We have decided not to tell anyone in RL aswell OneOf8.

But apart from that were going through all the usual emotions...

Good luck to everyone

Hello. Hope I'm welcome as I realise most of you are TTC #1. We decided to start trying for #3 from Jan 1st but unfortunately hubbie is off in April with his job for a few months so feeling the pressure.

As for charts etc I have only ever looked at my discharge as a guide to ovulation. Partly as I know that I would never remember to take my temp before jumping out of bed! Read a good book by Zita West when TTC #1 explained alot - I must have been asleep in biology lessons! Def recommend.

I'm taking folic acid, not drinking, trying to eat well, exercise and have lots of sex...at the right time!

Good luck to all.

My H decided to announce it to his family on NYE afer we had agreed to start trying. I could have killed him, but he was drunk so I forgive him!!

Oh that's funny Simpoo. I couldn't announce the trying part, I'd never hear the bloody end of it with my parents. They're already dropping hints like they're going out of style! My SIL gave us all a blow by blow (pardon the expression) account of her entire TTC process, but I'd be too embarrassed to talk about it in RL - so I'm probably going to bore all you nice people with it instead!

Hello,
Can I join too? My husband and I have started trying for our first baby after stopping taking the pill in November. Just sticking to the folic acid and plenty of sex at the moment to see what happens. Unfortunately most of our friends/ family know we are TTC as we are rubbish at keeping secrets!

Just think in our situation we are better off keeping quiet - I do like my privacy!

Think OH will crack and tell his nan (she has these magic powers and draws your inner secrets out). Know she will be happy for us, with no pressure.

The thought of his mum and dad wondering about our sex life creeps me out.

As for my family - I still haven't gotten over the first time I had to tell my mum I was staying round a boyfriends house at 19! Having my parents know we are actively trying.... rather not. My dad didn't enjoy his own children when we were small, and regularly tells me how lucky I am to have made it to nearly 30 without the ties of a family!

Being from a big family, its a small community so a secret once spoken is public news!

We're definitely not telling people we're trying. My dbil and his wife announced they were ttc over a year ago and had to face a constant "oh dear, no luck yet?" and "do you think you might have problems? Maybe you should see a doctor type stuff". As a result, they were so relieved when they got a bfp last month they told everybody they same say; and the more suprstitious of us have been cringing ever since So far, all good though. Anyway, we've decided we can do without that pressure!

My mum sort of knows though, as she thinks we shouldnt have children yet, and she drove me so mad going on and on about making sure we're sensible that I snapped and told her we weren't using any contraception. Foolish me, for the 1 minute of satisfaction I got from shocking her, I've now had several months of "babies are wonderful; haven't had one in the family for ages" etc and also occasional parenting tips. I think we're going to have to emigrate when a baby eventually arrives so I dont kill her lol

Oh gosh, terrible spelling, sorry!

And hi to PoodleMum!

Hello Girls,
May I join the group? We have just started 'TTC' too and my first time on mumsnet.
I am already feeling a bit off... Does anyone else keep imagining every twinge is something happening down there!
Do symptoms start right away or does it take a few weeks to kick in? I have been feeling nauseous for a week. Could just be a bug.
Good luck girls -great to know there are others who are trying too.

Hi Artyparty, welcome aboard!

I do think the mind can play tricks on you with symptoms, in November I had loads of them: nausea, tenderness, tiredness etc, but no bfp, which was a big disappointment. So since then I've tried to pretend anything vaguely symptom like in fact isnt a symptom, in the hopes that I'll get a pleasant surprise

I thought (before looking more carefully at mumsnet) you couldn't have symptoms so early but some people definitely seem to, so I think maybe it depends how attuned you are to your body. Fingers crossed that yours are real!!

Good luck

Thanks Lulabel
It is such a strange feeling, having spent half my life trying not to get preggers.

I was thinking about telling mum we were TTC because I wanted to ask her if she had any problems with it ... but somehow couldn't find the words.

Still, at least no pressure. The situation with your dbil sounds a nightmare!

I'm going to look on the FF site you and the other girls recommended now; preparing to be shocked!

PS - why does your mum think you should wait?

Hi Artyparty her problem is that I'm 24, which she thinks is very young by today's standards and that people will assume it was an accident; don't know why seeing as we're married.
Also, I'm a student and I have two years left of my degree, and she thinks I wouldn't finish it. I'm determined I would, but even if I didnt, dh and I think our family matters more, and I already have one very good degree so it's not like I'd be left with nothing.
She's very obsessed with what people think , so I really think her nightmare is something along the lines of "daughter got pg by accident, dropped out of uni, messed up her career, and she's too young" amongst other people.
Personally, I dont think 24 is too young; even though the british gas man felt the need to tell me I was too young to get married when I phoned to change my name

I know what you mean about spending ages trying not to get pregnant, that how I felt the first few months, and I would actually panic about it!
How did you find ff?

Gosh Lulabell - british gas have got a cheek. You sound like you have thought everything through, so it's no-one else's business really.
I'm sure there are lots of ladies in their 30s (like me) on this site... who perhaps wish they hadn't left it to the last minute to start trying.
Still, didn't meet DH until I was 33 so what's a girl to do.

Thanks babybecks-I think I may need to share with some people in RL as things are going round and round in my head.
I now think my nausea was a tummy bug. Thank goodness in a way; I couldn't have put up with that for months!

Has anyone in this thread got the BFP yet?

I saw that thread too babybecks and now wish I could unsee it - although I did ask dh how he'd feel about doing it jumped the gun a bit there I think

I've lurked on all kinds of threads since I joined for knitting help, and now have some surprisingly strong views on things I shouldn't even be thinking about yet lol

Dh is 33 which is the other reason we're ttc now. In our fertility lectures (am a med student) there were some very sad looking graphs which linked the man's age, if he's more than 7 or 9 (wasnt paying quite enough attention) years older than his dp, to low success rate, so would hate to wait and then not be able to

No bfp here yet either, think i need to wait another week or so.

Its great to hear from so many people in the same boat. BFN for me this month after some frantic symptom spotting. I tried sooo hard not to! AF just finishing so starting to think about next month. Someone very kindly sent me some spare boots ovulation sticks, but no instructions. They are massive things, and there are only 5 in packet. I can't work it out, are you meant to use a new one every day? In that case you'd need 2 packs just for 1 month!

We arent meant to be telling anyone we are trying, but I am hopeless at keeping secrets so have told one or two (but sworn them to secrecy!).

I was off booze for January, but will be drinking again in February. If this takes a while I think I will go crazy if I can't even have a glass of wine.

Hi PurplePoppy Sorry about the BFN! I have no idea about ovulation sticks I'm afraid, just surely if you just have loads of sex they wont be necessary anyway

It's so hard to stay off alcohol! Especially if you're not telling people, as it seems like a dead giveaway. I'm trying to convince myself that people probably aren't that aware. I need to start lining up some excuses.

Hope everything's going well for everyone!

Hello all.
Giggled at the too young bit. I married at 25 and had DS #1 at 27. When I told my parents by way of Grandma and Grandad keyrings - my mums face drained of colour and she just said 'how did that happen?' at which point my dad just looked at her and came and gave me a big hug. They both love their grandsons now but not sure why it came as a shock! No BFP for me this month and not looking too hopeful before dh is deployed in April as he'll be away for most of Feb. Still I might keep an eye out for all those BFP's from everyone else!

Hi can I join you. Stopped taking pill a few days ago and just finished period. Ttc for 1st. I'm 31 and terrified it's not going to be as easy as I thought. A few years ago I stopped pill for 4 months and didn't get a single period in that time (money probs made me start taking pill again). I'm so worried this is going to happen again and I joined Mumsnet to try and find an outlet to air fears,trials and tribulations. It's only been a few days and already getting a BFP is all I can think about. I'm not telling friends I'm trying and don't want to drive DH mad so hoping you'll take me in and maybe I'll be of some help to someone else out there

Welcome LinzRed
There are lots of comforting facts available - 9 out of 10 will conceive in the first year etc. I don't think you need to worry as much as you are, at this stage.

31 is no age these days - my neighbour is preggers with her second aged 42. She was also a big binge-drinker in her younger days!

I'm with you PurplePoppy. Everytime I refuse a glass of wine, I imagine everyone knows what i'm up to! Is OK this month tho' as we can pretend we're detoxing for the new year.

Deciding to TTC has madde me review my overall health. There are a couple of niggling health concerns which I just haven't addressed until now becuae.. no time / not a priority.
Now I'm getting all attuned to my body that seems crazy!

Anyone else getting a health MOT?

Thanks ArtyParty I feel better just knowin I can talk to other people about my fears. Healthwise i've stopped drinking but also need to lose weight. BMI is 28 so need to lose 2 stone. It felt like providence when letter from docs arrived last week to say it's time for smear test. I'm going next week and gonna ask about rubella vaccination and for toxamaplosis test cos I have a cat! Don't know if doc will think I'm over reacting. Is anyone else going to ask about these things?

You're welcome LinzRed
I think it's fine to be a bit of a fusspot when making sure you are in the best possible health for TTC. I haven't been to the doctors for years and now it's been 3 times in a month!!!
When I told my doc, he just said no booze, take folic acid and don't go near anyone smoking! That's inner city NHS for you!

I am up to date with my smear but have no idea about vaccinations. I am also overweight according to BMI index but feel some of that is post-christmas-winter-fat layer!! .

Does anyone know if it's safe to continue taking antibiotics if TTC? I have just been given some for aformentioned tummy prob (which I thought was morning sickness - ha!)