Just MC'd. Starting it all again.. Come and join me for the long haul, vol 2

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Hardly the most original title but I didn't want to loose anyone (well that's my excuse for the lack of originality!)

meita that's brilliant - WE NEED AN EVILGRIN smiley!

tfls sorry about AF - good call on the vino

meita evilgrin - nice - although we also need an [imnotdoinganhpt] and a [noreallyitsfinethatAFishere] emoticon

viv must have been terrifying - glad everything has worked out ok - like Meita I may stay here for my entire pregnancy when it happens so don't feel the need to depart, don't mind hearing about your preganancy if youve been here - its just every other pregnancy I object to hearing about

CD 8 no sign of any ewcm yet but normally starts around CD9 so will be keeping eyes peeled tomorrow! maybe we need a [iseeewcm] emoticon too....

Am literally laughing out loud at the emoticon ideas!
Meita I have experience of adoption. I have to be a bit careful what I say on here as my family setup is quite unusual and I have to be careful of being identified in RL. But I'm more than happy to talk about the process. In a nutshell, its a very long, drawn out, stressful process but entirely worth it in the end - not much different to TTC in that respect!
viv please stay - you're a great inspiration to me and we need you grads around to stop us turning into bitter old ladies remind us that there is light at the end of the tunnel!

Meita can send you some vibes although i think they are more "can t be bothered " vibes anymore!!! Think i m just drained with it all after 2 MCS....

Hope everyone is well....

Hi Ladies,
Sorry I was AWOL for so long, just been back to work - and am I ever! I check in periodically, but never feel I have the time to post Well, 've got a minute now so...
Congrats littleonemum, as others have said - please don't feel you can't hang around here, we need the success stories to keep us going when AF is being a persistent old bitch! viv - what a relief it must have been to see that healthy little bean, great news! boodle and lee, so glad you ladies are still visiting us - you've been through such shite and this is surely the spot for support. Welcome kaylo this thread is all about getting back to the important business of ttc after mmc and is a great spot for asking questions about what to expect.
meita, you said it, post-mc cycles are a real drag! Mine have been all over. First no ov - then late ov, now this month - early! I almost missed my bd window - what a pisser that would have been. I was getting lots of cm - around day 10 & 11 (mind you I ov'd at day 18 last mo.)and thought is was just the leakage from - ahem - "practice" a few days earlier, but then noticed my temps were a bit higher then last mo. So I peed on an opk and got a +!
Already I am symptom spotting, but don't want to get hopes up. Like tfls was saying, AF is quite a blow when you've convinced yourself she won't be visiting this mo. A few months back, I would've put money on it that I was pg, now I don't feel that I can trust my women's intuition anymore!
Well, here's hoping for another BFP from someone soon. Think ++++++++

Morning ladies, hope you are all well.

Boodle, sending you a big hug and an apology for asking you how you felt then seemingly fecking off without responding to your reply, my laptop died on me and then my phone decided to pack up too. I'm quite sure your little bean knows how much they meant to you and your OH. You do us all proud with your positive outlook and attitude x

sorry for putting this on different posts but i'm using my phone and the little box isn't big enough for all my wittering.

I wanted to run something by you all. TMI alert.... So, yesterday, I was CD 24, 12dpo, i went to the loo and had some brown cm, looked like the end of a period, nothing more. I don't want to go getting my hopes up or anything but of course I am and am hoping it's an implantation bleed. I ran a half marathon at the weekend so half of me is thinking it's my period come early from all the jigging about! Any advice ladies? X

Hello, so glad to find you all again! I've just been away for a lovely week of walking in Northumberland, and also did the Great North Run. I clocked up 65 miles of running and walking, and all the fresh air and time with DH did me good. We are back to BD again, but no idea if we are doing it at the right time as I still haven't had AF yet.

Ladies!

Some news here though yet inconclusive: I've surprisingly started spotting/light bleeding. Though so far it's all brownish, not bright red. So I am thinking: a) AF has arrived. In which case this cycle was clearly anovulatory, 'cause no way did I ovulate 14/15 days ago, and I very much doubt that my luteal phase has gone down to 8 days. Not too much put off by this - it means a new cycle, a new chance. Hopefully this time with ovulation! b) Well FF puts me on DPO 8 today. So this could be implantation bleed? [daresnottohope]
Will update once bleed has established itself more clearly!

tiger I'm glad you found us again. Sounds like you had a great time! There is no way of really knowing what is happening with your cycle, so just being relaxed about it is clearly the way to go.

barrenbrook ah, I'm joining you in knicker-checking - like you, it could be "early" AF or implantation bleed with me, too. Though I'm guessing it's the former. I do think excessive sport could trigger early AF - but not when you are accustomed to doing things like this. Anyway, fingers crossed for you that it is the "right" kind of bleed!

zayja am glad you found us, too! I think most everyone has shown up on the new thread now, so no need to worry anymore. It sounds like you are really busy! I hope you are enjoying it! Ha, CD18 does seem a bit early for symptom-spotting - though given that you sometimes have short cycles and have ovulated early, who knows?

cheepz keeping your eyes peeled for EWCM?

louise "I can't be bothered anymore" vibes are exactly what I'm looking for. Pass them over!

chamois oh, someday you'll have to tell me more about the adoption process. For instance, do you think someone relatively foreign to the UK would be considered at all as adoptive parents? (I'm a British citizen but have only lived in the UK since 3 years, and DP is not a British citizen and has only lived here for 2 years) And, mostly, would you say if we were considering adoption, we should start the process/start talking to people, or wait until we would have made our minds up that this is definitely what we want to do?
But most of all and much more urgent - any news on the BFP front?

Tuesday's list

Meita TTC#1 UCL 30-45 cycle 1 CD35
Chamois TTC#1 UCL? cycle 1 CD29
Barrenbrook TTC#1 UCL 28 cycle 5 CD25
MrsRigby TTC#2 UCL? cycle 2 CD22
Louisesh TTC#1 UCL? cycle WTF CD21
Tigerbear TTC#1 UCL28 cycle WTF CD21
Zayja TTC#1 UCL 24-27 cycle 5 CD18
Cheepz TTC#2 UCL 28 cycle 2 CD9
Apples TTC#3 UCL 28 cycle 1 CD7
TFLS TTC#1 UCL 28 cycle 3 CD2

WTTC
LeeWT
Justbeenforapromenade

MIA
em22 TTC#? UCL 28 cycle 3 CD56
trixel TTC#3 UCL 28-35 cycle 7 CD56

GRADUATES
amyboo
totally
leewt (mc)
boodleboot (ectopic)
Stressy BFP 22nd August
becky78 BFP 4th September
LittleOneMum BFP 7th September
VivCliquot BFP 10th September
Waitingisntfun BFP 19th September

Well, barrenbrook, could be implantation bleeding - normally happens 6-12 dpo (so I've read). Let's hope! Do you normally get spotting between or before periods? Also, looks like it's your WTF cycle? In that case - just about anything is possible! Same goes for you tigerbear

Waves to everyone! Thanks for the welcome back.

Question - the EPU asked me to go back to see them a week after the mc and the blood tests which confirmed the pregnancy wasn't progressing. They asked me to go back a week later to do another pg test and another blood test to confirm the hormone levels were still decreasing, however as it was the day before I went on holiday I kind of forgot that their opening hours were between a certain time, and couldn't go / also didn't see the point in going just to find out what I already knew.

My Mum thinks the EPU will put on my records that I didn't go back, and that i should, for want of a better phase, ''get closure'' on it and make sure everything has been done properly. Now that it's over 2 weeks since it all happened and I physically feel fine, is it really necessary to go for another blood and pg test???

Hi,

Tigerbear, if it was me I wouldn't go back unless you feel there is a problem. I think I know your mother! If you don't do it EXACTLY as you are told, your behaviour will be filed away for future reference..My MIL defers to anyone who takes on a vague aura of authority. I think if a traffic warden told her to bend over backwards, she would... I, on the other hand, am quite contrary.

Tip: if you get cold called at home by car/house insurance companies, and mobile phone companies and don't like it, do the following:

Them; Hello, madam, I would just like to confirm you name, date of birth and address before we continue.

Me: I don't think I want what you are selling.

Them: Well if you can just confirm your details I'll put on file that you aren't interested.

Me: Ok, but first I need your name, date of birth and address.

Them: Ehhhh, we don't give out our own details.

Me: Well, I'm sorry, but this is MY policy and until you can do this, I can't help you...I can tell you, though, that under the Data Protection Act, I will not share your details with third parties unless it is in the public interest.

Conversation goes on and on,,, until they realise I am winding them up and they have wasted their own time..

Following what Zayja posted about post mmc weird ovulation times, I'm going out to get a kit. Usually it is CD14 of a UCL28, but who knows?

wow - flurry of activity
i have a hormone headache - normally precursor of period of ovulation, so far no ewcm but day is very busy at work and since its french night with dh tonight (we are trying to learn together) i am thinking a little wine, a little va va voom and we might start this months bding season

so glad apples, zayja, barrenbrook and tigerbear all found their way back to the ranch

looks like barrenbrook, chamo and meita may or may not have happy news for us soon lets all hope they are the first of the october bfp's

i always find if i bother to answer the phone at 7 which is when they always call and its someone like that I give the phone to ds to practise his words - that way they get baffled by him saying 'allo, allo, mine is at ome, dis is mine ouse, it dat ganny, daddy comin ome soon, i payed orse at nursree, mummy makin bikit, bubye'

apples, cheepz those both sound like good ways to get rid of them!

apples with similar thinking, I got OPKs for this/last cycle. Started out posh on CBs, but when they were all used up without result, turned to cheepie e-bay onces. Have tested 21 days with no results. Fat good that did me! Still not 100% convinced the cycle was anovulatory though - could also be that tests didn't show. Seems to be quite common! Anyway what I'm saying is - think carefully before spending lots of ££. Best to do BD when you see fertile CM.

tiger could you phone them up and ask if there is any point in you coming in?

Meita fellow knicker checker! I've never, ever spotted before and am usually a 28 day cycle girl which is why I found it a bit odd. Have sore boobies and feel completely fooked. Again this could all be down to

1. Running a half marathon at the weekend
2. Stress of buying and selling a house
3. Being mental
4. AF announcing her early arrival
5. A combination of the above

I (and I type this with shame) did a Boots cheapie HPT this afternoon, funnily enough it was negative, even though I read the leaflet and it said only accurate from day of your missed period. Pah!

The spotting is still there, although not much, it's still brown (TMI!) and I don't want to say this, looks like what it did when my m/c started or the end of AF.

Here's to thinking positive and we both (and everyone else) get BFP's this month! Woo!

Good morning!

Well I've moved myself to the bottom of the list, as bleed got heavier... and as I never really did believe that I had ovulated, there's not much point in talking myself into believing it could be implantation bleed, is there? Truly, I need that [noreallyitsfinethatAFishere] smiley now - this cycle hasn't been feeling "right" for a while now and am glad it's over and done with. New cycle, new chance!

barrenbrook I hope your spotting has turned out to be better news!

chamois ... I'm bursting with curiosity!

cheepz I hope the french had the desired effect

Wednesday's list

Chamois TTC#1 UCL? cycle 1 CD30
Barrenbrook TTC#1 UCL 28 cycle 5 CD26
MrsRigby TTC#2 UCL? cycle 2 CD23
Louisesh TTC#1 UCL? cycle WTF CD22
Tigerbear TTC#1 UCL28 cycle WTF CD22
Zayja TTC#1 UCL 24-27 cycle 5 CD19
Cheepz TTC#2 UCL 28 cycle 2 CD10
Apples TTC#3 UCL 28 cycle 1 CD8
TFLS TTC#1 UCL 28 cycle 3 CD3
Meita TTC#1 UCL 30-45 cycle 2 CD2

WTTC
LeeWT
Justbeenforapromenade

MIA
em22 TTC#? UCL 28 cycle 3 CD57
trixel TTC#3 UCL 28-35 cycle 7 CD57

GRADUATES
amyboo
totally
leewt (mc)
boodleboot (ectopic)
Stressy BFP 22nd August
becky78 BFP 4th September
LittleOneMum BFP 7th September
VivCliquot BFP 10th September
Waitingisntfun BFP 19th September

Hello all,
The EPU called me this morning to say I should really go back for another blood test tomorrow. Pah! Don't really want go back to prove what I already know, but hey ho, at least they are being efficient and making sure it's all done properly. I'm secretly hoping that it will come up pg, but that would be ridiculous, as DH have only BD'd twice since the mc, and AF hasn't been seen at all. Here's to wishful thinking!

Evening

tigerbear I would absolutely love for you to be told when you go tomorrow that your pregnant.

DH and I are absolutely fed up of having sex, every other day for the past 4 months almost. If it hasn't happened this month I'm going to ask the doctor to re-refer me to the gynaecologist. It's not like we don't know if there's a problem, we do, I have PCOS - so I'm not going to have him tell me I need to have been trying for a year.

For everyone's information, I threw up last night whilst having sex (I swallowed it and DH and I carried on ). Never have sex after drinking 1.5 litres of water. Apparently drinking water helps ovulation.

On a positive not we think DS slept through last night. I say think, because we accidentally left the baby monitor downstairs. That said, our room is next to DS. We'd have heard him cry, right?

We're hoping that if he did sleep through last night that he does the same tonight .

Got the milk in the fridge ready, just in case DS decides otherwise.

mrsr you can always be reliied on to brighten my evening

tiger wouldn't it be something!!

meita glad you are able to put {noreallyitsfineafishere] face on and move on to next cycle

i have had a revelation today as i need an [iseeewcm] face and have cramps to boot - we failed to meet in the middle last night but i am just going to jump him when he gets through the door tonight as i am now wondering if i am aving early in cycle - i normally get some ewcm and cramps around day 15 but have always had some at 9 / 10 - i assumed this was not ov as too early but maybe it is! so this month i am going to try for today, friday, sunday and next tuesday - dh will of course know what happening but i don't care - i want to really have him and me both make the effort this month - rather than me settle for a half hearted effort. i am going to have to get him drunk which will reduce the count but witht he increased opportunity i am hoping we will get there.

[iamofftotryandbdtonight]

grrrrr dh is only just on train on way home and i am tired, i had to not be mad at him for being late even though he knew i wanted us to get busy tonight so that when he gets home there is still a chance we can do some bd action, he is away on business tomorrow so next opp friday but even then we are staying with friends so not sure whether we will be doing the business, feel like yelling 'i think i am ovulating you selfish arse think about whats important to me for once please' but can't say anything even though am seriously pissed off, doesn't he get it, its not that easy to get pregnant, he needs to put the effort in too. And of course can't even mention the ovulating word or hes not going to want to do it at all - men are so wierd. why i it all on me {winge] [moan] [noreallyiamstillinaromanticframeofmind]

grrrrrrrr

Mrsrigby, that is horrid! Did MrRigby not notice you were being sick???!

Morning all. And horrendously early it is too!

Cheepz Hope you managed to stay cool and get some BD ing in. I know what you mean about trying to get it in when your fertile, me and my other half work shifts that clash so it's hard work fitting it in!

Meita Sorry to hear AF got you but pleased it's a fresh start. Here's to this cycle being your sticky one.

Tigerbear Good luck at the EPU.

MrsR Is it wrong that that made me laugh?! The things we do to help us get pg! Sending you some lively vibes to get through your nightly escapades. I take my hat off to you both for having the stamina, esp with a little one already.

AF is due tonight or tomorrow, i'm praying she doesn't show. I still have a small bit of brown stuff, sorry tmi, but it's not turned into anything more. Yet. Fingers crossed.

Have a good day everyone x

i managed to get over being pissed off and we managed to get one in the bag!!! am hoping the alcohol he had had hasn't compromised either the number or quality of his little men but thats not even something i would have worried about pre mc so im just going to go with it!

barren everything crossed for you honey

chamo wherefore art thou and whats the deal .....

day is looking ok, better than it would have if dh had nott been able to keep his end up at least!

Gave in this morning and tested - BFN. Grr.

meita - I see no reason why you wouldn't be considered for adoption. It's never too early to start chatting to local authorities or agencies about it, but be aware that many do expect you not to be actively TTC whilst going through the process. They do love to ask questions about your sex life. And hey this might be your month for a home grown little one!

tigerbear hope all goes well at the EPU today

cheepz well done on the one in the bag!

mrsR thanks for the tip about sex and water, lol, I'll bear that in mind!