Just MC'd. Starting it all again.. Come and join me for the long haul.

[MumOfBaby]

Hi all.

Needing some extra support this time round as have just had a MC. We are trying again straight away. But I've a feeling it's going to take ages. Got pregnant first month trying last 2 times. I have 1 DC- 11 months.

I want some people to join this thread who are ready to hold hands and help each other through the TTC.

Good luck to all.

Thank you for replies.
My gp didnt want me to try for a few months and I felt stupid telling her that I was pg again. I got the "oh your not, well too late now" response.
I have had four this year alone. I have had all the regular tests but the last two mc were chemical pregancies and I didn t go to the hospital (no point). I wanted to get pg before Dec when three of my sister in laws are due their babies (one in Jan)and I have to face that. I feel this has put alot of added pressure on me to have a success pg. ( I didnt tell them about the last two mc) Im not able to face trying for a while, its just too hard.
Will I go on a form of pill?

Oh, meesee - it must be really hard if lots of people are expecting babies around you. I know it is hard, but just try to remember that your time will come. I'm not sure that I would go on the pill if you decide to stop for a few months, as it may mess up your normal cycle, but having said that, some people are really fertile when they come off the pill!

Doesn't sound like your GP is a lot of help - can you see a different one? They'll be able to advise on whether you should go on the pill for a bit.

I'm so sorry. Hugs.

meesee I'm so sorry. Your GP is a quack. I second littleonemum see a different doctor.

Right, I'm off - to have sex with DH . I'll be doubly happy when I finally get pregnant as I'll be able to take a rest .

hi there everyone.

just wanted to pop in and say hello. i'm bearing up ok, signed off work for a couple of weeks to recover. stitches a bit manky but at least the pain in my stomach and shoulder has gone.

still have no idea if i will attempt to get pregnant again with my somewhat iffy chances but DH and I are going to go back and see a counsellor to see if we can work out how we are feeling about the situation.....ie given we have a lovely healthy family of older children do we really NEED to have a baby....heart stuff v head stuff i guess....we had some couselling before we got married and it was so wonderful at helping us align our goals re parenting the kids we have between us etc. It is possible that we will try tho....anything is possible

still be checking in to keep up with you all and your mad capers TTC.[mentioning no names [MrsR]

Sorry I've been missing so long. PILs are visiting for a month and I've had very little free time with one thing and another.

Oh boodle - that's just so shit. I'm so sorry for you sweetie. I'm so glad you popped back in and it would be lovely if you stay on this thread whenever that feels right for you. Wish I knew what to say..... you sound so brave. You and your DH have gone through so much recently - maybe it is far too early to make any decisions and things have to be put in the "too difficult to decide box" for a while whilst you focus on recovering. Lots of love to you.

How are you doing tiger - I'm so sorry that it was finally confirmed.

Lee - glad that it wasn't molar.

apples - I daren't ask if AF has arrived yet? I really hope so.... but if not I'm another one suggesting you go to your GP. The only consolation I can offer is that my AF arrived early and I then had two cycles without ovulating. So hopefully your body is delaying until it is ready and you won't go through any false cycles then.

meita - I'm hoping that the above applies to you too. Have you seen a temp surge yet? One query - are you sleeping OK as I've heard that a bad night's sleep can distort your readings? Thanks for asking re the monitor - much better results this time. Finally two days of PEAK this cycle followed by a small temp surge which we took advantage of despite PIL's visit! So I'm into the 2ww but feeling quite relaxed about it at the moment (remind me of those words nearer testing time ).

cheepz - very impressed re your resolve re testing but very at the child care arrangements at this wedding. Stick with your gut - I think they've put you in a rather unfair position.

Huge congrats to VivC - so lovely to hear some positive news. Hope you're managing not to worry too much (so much easier said than done I know!)

MrsR - glad to hear that you're not letting the Monopoly interfer with the BD . You sound like you were getting quite addicted!

Welcome to louisesh and meesee - so sorry for your losses but I'm glad you've found this thread. It has been such a source of support and understanding for me.

Louisesh - is this your first that you are TTC?

meesee - 5 m/cs and 3 pregnant SILs sounds more than I could bear.

Welcome back barrenbrook - hope you had a good hols.

zayja I'm very impressed with the sculpture for a competition. I haven't got a creative bone in my body but would love to!

Sorry for war and peace but it's so nice to be back .

Hi all hope everyone is well.Fatladysings I have no children being ttc in total 21 months now with the 2 Miscarriages.....Life stinks sometimes short post as i m off to Amsterdam tomorrow.

Have a good weekend all

Mmmm..... appear to be dyslexic now !!!! I meant thefatladyscreams!!!!!

Hello all

louisesh and meesee - welcome. You won't find a nicer bunch of people on mumsnet.

Have been trying to forget about the whole ttc thing this month so have been a bit of stranger to mumsnet. But today, all my best efforts to not test early went out the window - so while dh was out I did a sneaky clearblue - and it was 'Pregnant 1-2 weeks'. Wow . Am pretty scared as I'm off to a Croatian island on Monday - and don't want to mc again at 5 weeks - particularly not in a Croatian hospital. But am trying to tell myself that it's already different from last time - which it is.

But I wanted to let you guys know. I'll be back in a couple of weeks - hopefully still preganant. [gulp]

Yey Waiting!!!! Congratulations!!! Another success story Have a wonderful holiday and sending lots of sticky bean vibes your way. Keep us posted xxxxxx

ooo and welcome Louisesh and meesee, I second waiting, lots of lovely peeps on here and lots of

I meant to say lots of support! Sorry, got my night duty head on

Yippeeee waiting. That's fantastic news. Congratulations. A couple of relaxed weeks away is probably just what the doctor would order so could be perfect timing. Have a great holiday.

louisesh - sorry if it was a nosy question. It's just I'm 41 later this year and TTC #1 so interested in anyone in a vaguely similar situation. By the way - you definitely wouldn't want to hear me sing as I'm totally tone deaf!

Lovely visit to my acupuncturist today (always feel better after seeing her) but she commented that my post o/v temp surge was a bit staggered which may indicate a problem with prostergone levels which can link to m/c. Too early to tell as this is the first cycle where I've temped and ovulated - but another thing to start googling hey ho! I keep alternating between knowledge is power and ignorance is bliss ...

Not sure about going to GP. They might just say the first af after mmc is unpredictable. Which I know. Then they will ask me how old I am (40) and start going on about menopause... Also AF bound to turn up the minute I book an appointment.

Also GP surgery is a bit of a downer. They are very busy, and this is an inner London area, so the walls are plastered with Murder posters asking for information (I kid you not) and needle exchange.

Sunday

Apples TTC#3 UCL 28 CD62
Cheepz TTC#2 UCL 27-28 cycle 1 CD28
Waiting TTC#1 UCL 26-33 cycle 1 CD27
Meita TTC#1 UCL 30-34 cycle 1 CD26
Chamois TTC#1 UCL? cycle 1 CD20
TFLS TTC#1 UCL 28 cycle 2 CD20
Barrenbrook TTC#1 UCL 28 cycle 5 CD16
MrsRigby TTC#2 UCL? cycle 2 CD12
Tigerbear TTC#1 UCL28 cycle WTF CD12?
Zayja TTC#1 UCL 24-27 cycle 5 CD9

MIA
em22 TTC#? UCL 28 cycle 3 CD47
trixel TTC#3 UCL 28-35 cycle 7 CD47

GRADUATES
amyboo
totally
leewt (mc)
boodleboot (ectopic)
Stressy BFP 22nd August
becky78 BFP 4th September
LittleOneMum BFP 7th September
VivCliquot BFP 10th September

I'd like to join too. Just had an ectopic pregnancy - my third! Luckily I have a fantastic dd aged 3. Since her birth I have had 2 ectopics and a 'normal' MC at 11 weeks sandwiched in between. I have to wait until Jan to conceive because of the drug methotrexate that sorted out the last ectopic

I have become very matter-of-fact about all
this through necessity - and am very optimistic about my future chances. All it takes is one - I only want one more child - not 6! but it would be great to be in contact with others like myself.

Evening

Just updating my stats. CD13 not CD12.

Sunday
Apples TTC#3 UCL 28 CD62
Cheepz TTC#2 UCL 27-28 cycle 1 CD28
Waiting TTC#1 UCL 26-33 cycle 1 CD27
Meita TTC#1 UCL 30-34 cycle 1 CD26
Chamois TTC#1 UCL? cycle 1 CD20
TFLS TTC#1 UCL 28 cycle 2 CD20
Barrenbrook TTC#1 UCL 28 cycle 5 CD16
MrsRigby TTC#2 UCL? cycle 2 CD13
Tigerbear TTC#1 UCL28 cycle WTF CD12?
Zayja TTC#1 UCL 24-27 cycle 5 CD9

MIA
em22 TTC#? UCL 28 cycle 3 CD47
trixel TTC#3 UCL 28-35 cycle 7 CD47

GRADUATES
amyboo
totally
leewt (mc)
boodleboot (ectopic)
Stressy BFP 22nd August
becky78 BFP 4th September
LittleOneMum BFP 7th September
VivCliquot BFP 10th September

Congratulations waitingisntfun .

Welcome justbeenforapromenade.

hi promenade - sorry to hear about your ectopic experience. i too just had ectopic last friday and had my left tube removed along with the baby. Feeling very mixed up about the thought of conceiving again. have been told that i have scarring on my other tube on the outside but can'[t tell me about inside....i am interested to see that you have continued to conceive after an ectopic tho.....do uyou still have both your tubes {hpoe you don't mind me asking that....}

i am going to wait until january to give myself time to heal emotionally and make a balanced decision, with my DH, about trying to conceive again. we also lost a baby in a MMC in april this year so this has been a bloody tough and very unrewarding year...

hello to everyone else....congrats to waiting - brilliant brilliant news.

Also its nearly time to start another thread as MN only lets a thread reach a thousand posts....

Hi all!

Apples wow thats a hell of a long time you must be getting so frustrated,,ironically i hope AF buggers off for a while since i wont be trying to get preg! you always have what you dont want and all that..

justbeenforapromenade we can keep each other company. I had two mmc's (May and September) so am taking a self-imposed break til after xmas to get my body back in shape and concentrate on my 2yo who has been a little neglected due to the highs and lows of the TTC process lately. I feel the same as you now after these experiences that if we managed to have one more i'd be delighted.. i didnt realise they gave you methotrexate for ectopics i thought that was only for molar? you learn a lot on mn hey? welcome anyway!

tfls have you killed any in-laws yet? just checking

mrsR coming up to ov time, better get that husband of yours cornered

Updated the list to add Waiting's BFP and also to include myself and justbeen on the waiting to try to conceive list!

Sunday
Apples TTC#3 UCL 28 CD62
Cheepz TTC#2 UCL 27-28 cycle 1 CD28
Waiting TTC#1 UCL 26-33 cycle 1 CD27
Meita TTC#1 UCL 30-34 cycle 1 CD26
Chamois TTC#1 UCL? cycle 1 CD20
TFLS TTC#1 UCL 28 cycle 2 CD20
Barrenbrook TTC#1 UCL 28 cycle 5 CD16
MrsRigby TTC#2 UCL? cycle 2 CD13
Tigerbear TTC#1 UCL28 cycle WTF CD12?
Zayja TTC#1 UCL 24-27 cycle 5 CD9

WTTC
LeeWT
Justbeenforapromenade

MIA
em22 TTC#? UCL 28 cycle 3 CD47
trixel TTC#3 UCL 28-35 cycle 7 CD47

GRADUATES
amyboo
totally
leewt (mc)
boodleboot (ectopic)
Stressy BFP 22nd August
becky78 BFP 4th September
LittleOneMum BFP 7th September
VivCliquot BFP 10th September
Waitingisntfun BFP 19th September

Congratulations waitingisntfun delighted for you!!

jeez - I go away for a long weekend and all thins action happens!

Hi barrenbrook and tfls nice to hear from you

big woot woot to waiting [grin} small - so mrsr is in good company

sorry to hear war stories from meesee, louisesh and promenade we all have our various challenges but you all sound like you have been through the ringer. xx welcome, its a lovely thread

can't believe how many posts we are up to!

news from France - babysitting situation was a total wash out, ds went to sleep ok and i left but she had called before we started the main course - during dh best man speech - to say both kids were awake and could we go back. got back to find ds very upset and after getting him back to sleep twice but then having him wake the minute he sensed I was not there I called dh to let him know and ditched the wedding, took ds into my bed and cuddled him until he went to sleep and knew I wasn't going anywhere - was clearly freaked out at waking in the hotel room without me there and wont be doing that again in a hurry.

In other news am at Day 28 amd no AF - thought was here earlier but transpired that in efforts to 'wipe' and see if any sign of blood wiped so many times that must have burst a capillary so very small trace of blood, but realised next time i went to pee was stinging and must have caused it myself - sorry if tmi but jeez - thats fanatical checking for af if ever there was .. guess my nonchalent what will be will be is out the window, but I lasted to day 28 so thats ok. no symptoms of pregnancy though and some cramping so am expecting AF tomorrow or next day - will not allow hope until then.

au revoir

Congrats to waiting and hello promenade !!

I have my early scan today and am feeling so completely nervous I could not sleep last night. Have managed to convince myself that I have a MMC... just cannot allow myself to believe it might be fine.

The only positive thing is that it was DS's 2nd birthday yesterday, so that kept my mind off it and he was so happy, bless him. I am lucky to have him.

Love to all x

AF got me - boo hiss - cramping last night had made me think it was on the cards - Cheepz skulks back to bottom of the list ..... guess just the one bd in the right window really lacked any serious scale of ambition - need to get with the programme and give myself half a chance by persuading dh to do the business at least 3 or 4 times!! -sigh-

Apples TTC#3 UCL 28 CD63
Waiting TTC#1 UCL 26-33 cycle 1 CD28
Meita TTC#1 UCL 30-34 cycle 1 CD27
Chamois TTC#1 UCL? cycle 1 CD21
TFLS TTC#1 UCL 28 cycle 2 CD21
Barrenbrook TTC#1 UCL 28 cycle 5 CD17
MrsRigby TTC#2 UCL? cycle 2 CD14
Tigerbear TTC#1 UCL28 cycle WTF CD13
Zayja TTC#1 UCL 24-27 cycle 5 CD10
Cheepz TTC#2 UCL 28 cycle 2 CD1

WTTC
LeeWT
Justbeenforapromenade

MIA
em22 TTC#? UCL 28 cycle 3 CD48
trixel TTC#3 UCL 28-35 cycle 7 CD48

GRADUATES
amyboo
totally
leewt (mc)
boodleboot (ectopic)
Stressy BFP 22nd August
becky78 BFP 4th September
LittleOneMum BFP 7th September
VivCliquot BFP 10th September
Waitingisntfun BFP 19th September

Realised Waiting still on top list so removed

MONDAY

Apples TTC#3 UCL 28 CD63
Meita TTC#1 UCL 30-34 cycle 1 CD27
Chamois TTC#1 UCL? cycle 1 CD21
TFLS TTC#1 UCL 28 cycle 2 CD21
Barrenbrook TTC#1 UCL 28 cycle 5 CD17
MrsRigby TTC#2 UCL? cycle 2 CD14
Tigerbear TTC#1 UCL28 cycle WTF CD13
Zayja TTC#1 UCL 24-27 cycle 5 CD10
Cheepz TTC#2 UCL 28 cycle 2 CD1

WTTC
LeeWT
Justbeenforapromenade

MIA
em22 TTC#? UCL 28 cycle 3 CD48
trixel TTC#3 UCL 28-35 cycle 7 CD48

GRADUATES
amyboo
totally
leewt (mc)
boodleboot (ectopic)
Stressy BFP 22nd August
becky78 BFP 4th September
LittleOneMum BFP 7th September
VivCliquot BFP 10th September
Waitingisntfun BFP 19th September

Cheepz

I'm sorry - yes, maybe a few more times next month. Am totally sympathetic though. i found it hard to summon up the energy/desire - it's just weird, because you know you have to, but somehow it becomes a bit of a chore... Good luck next month.

That's lousy cheepz. I was getting my hopes up for you. It only takes once... You did make me laugh at your self inflicted injury though - sorry couldn't help it but I could see myself doing the same! Sorry about missing the wedding.

I was getting my hopes up at the weekend as I was going to the toilet a lot - only to wake up with cystitis!

littleonemum - got my fingers crossed for your scan.

Hi boodle - can't believe we're almost up to a thousand threads.

lee - I've been behaving myself! This set of PIL are lovely (DH's parents are divorced) - very different story with the other set who live in the UK

Welcome justbeenforapromenade - you really have had a tough time. Love your philosophy.

apples - hope you don't feel nagged about the doctor but it's just you've been waiting for such a long time. I've no idea about how long someone should wait before seeing their GP (I tend to wait for ages as I hate bothering them and they then ask why didn't I come before...) - maybe a phonecall to the Miscarriage Association could help? Just a thought. Will butt out now .

Hi everyone!
I've been very busy recently, so like cheepz said - away for a few days, get back and look what's happened!

Congrats waiting, that is such good news! I'm sending you lots of "sticky" vibes.

cheepz welcome back. Sorry you had to miss the wedding, and that AF got you. Here's wishing you more luck for cycle two.

Welcome promenade, I'm glad you found your way here, though not glad for the reason.

Everyone, thanks for popping in and sharing news!

Myself, well I'm still waiting for ovulation. Grumble. Clearly haven't ovulated, as temps are far from showing any "sustained rise" - in the last few days they have reached record lows instead (and I have a large collection of BFNs on OPKs by now). Am also experiencing hair loss, so am starting to be a bit worried. This cycle is either going to be anovulatory or at least 45 CDs long, like last cycle. So, apples, I've joined you at the top of the list and it looks like I'll be staying with you for a while!

Scan was totally fine, after all that

Six weeks gone, tiny heart beat, bean is 3mm long.

I think that I should probably bow out of this thread. i feel really bad posting good news when some people are having such a rough time. Time to move on the 'pg after MC' threads I think. I will miss you all! Good luck to each and every one of you.

Much love xxx