Anyone else trying to get pregnant ? 3

[bayleaf]

New thread for all ttcers who want to moan etc...

Hi Bayleaf, I'm sorry to hear it's been such a struggle to get to this point, but I hope everything goes well from now on.

I've got a scan next Friday, and I asked the clinic if the bank holiday might cause a problem and they said they usually have a skeleton staff in on bank holidays, so hopefully it shouldn't matter.

I'm feeling a bit more positive at the moment, because I've realised that, as the chance of sucess with iui is about the same as the probability of throwing a 6 when you roll a dice, 2 failed attempts doesn't suggest it isn't going to work. I don't know if that makes sense to anyone else, but I think it's quite encouraging that we've not yet reached a point where we need to give up.

Good luck for the 13th Bayleaf, and for the bank holiday Jane 101.

Godd luc kbayleaf - will be thinking of you.

Well, my wee sticks didnt show any sign of ovulation last month so either I didnt ovulatate or, tiny perhaps, I didnt ovulate because I am pregnant. I did a test a few days ago (negative) but am a day or two late with my period now. I dont want to get excited as my periods are always irregular. Dh is worried that I am setting myself up for a big disappointment and keeps telling me to leave it for a couple of weeks before doing another test but its is all I think of some days. I cant forget about it while there is an (admitedly tiny) chance that I am pregnant.

bayleaf, glad you are finally set to go on the 13th. Sorry your weekend away wasn't a success!
I will have everything crossed for you....

elliot and GIllw thanks - actually the weekend away was a great success - can highly recommend The old Bell - it was only a problem in so far ias its existence meant we had to change from natural to medicated FET ( or cancel this month) and that has delayed everything.

Bunny - hate to be a damp squib - but unless you're 8 weeks pregnant ( ie you got pregnant last cycle and the period that you presumably had was just a bleed not a period) the lack of signs of ovulation can't mean that you're pregnant.
You could have missed the right time and the OPK not picked it up the surge - or just had an annovulatory cycle.
Have you been taking you temperature? IF you have and it has been constantly slightly higher since around the time of probably ov then you probably did ov - if it is all over the place ( up and down) or just no rise then you probably didn't this cycle - but all of us have the odd ''off'' month.
Sorry to be so negative
Bayleaf

Out of interest how many of you have got pregnant easily having had a m/c and not had any problems conceving before. I just feel more pressured this time. It's more systematic because I'm so eager to 'crack on' and have another after such a huge loss. Will this mean it takes longer to conceive again this time??
Sounds selfish as so many would love just one, but to have a little person within reach and loose it makes you more determined doesn't it! I have now upgraded myself to the TTC thread. It's so great to hear all your experiences!!! Do these ovulation predictors work? Is worth me buying one? Or will get a bit obsessed by it?
Good luck to all!!!!!

me but after 3 months im expecting in jan xx

Well done Kirby - that would do for me! I want to give it a couple of months to let my body get back to normal abit. It took 6 weeks for the m/c to finish so I feel loads better and looking forward to trying again!

Good luck with you pregnancy - you must be over the moon!!

Quackers, I lost a baby at 22 weeks last summer having tried for him for over two years (we have a ds aged three also). As I am nearly 40 I was pretty resigned to staying a one-child family but that was probably bereavement and shock talking as much as anything else. Because I got pregnant again within three months without even trying.
I would not recommend despair as a state of mind for TTC but it is definitely true to say that getting pregnant was the last thing on my mind. Previously, I was as obsessed as any TTCer could be and I do sometimes wonder if the emotional stress of trying for a second baby for two years just took the edge off my fertility.
Ovulation sticks never worked that well for me but I found a Persona helped me conceive ds1 and 2. This time round I started using the TCOYF charting method (do a board search for lots of discussion on this), mainly because I wanted an impressive array of data to take along to my consultant, so sure was I that we would be referred for infertility again in due course.
Sorry, bit of a long post, but just wanted to say sorry about your loss and that it is possible to conceive again when you feel ready. Good luck!

Mind if I upgrade myself too???? I have been posting on another thread as I was really hoping I was pg this month and was a bit gutted when I wasn't. Like quackers I had an m/c and also feel a bit under pressure to be pregnant again ... putting myself under pressure that is. I had no problems conceiving DS (now 3 and a half) or the one that I lost and so now that I am entering the 5th month of trying it is becoming a bit of an obsession.
I have been lurking on this thread for ages as I wasn't sure if I should post ... as most others seem to have more serious problems in conceiving and have been trying for longer ... hope you don't mind if I join you???

Marina - thanks soooo much for your message. I am so sorry for the loss of your littl'n. Do you know what happened?
I am pleased to hear that you got pg again so quickly! I will definately get my persona out and dust off the cobwebs - How did you know which day to 'do it' on????
Big hugsxx

Quackers, unfortunately we never got a reason for Tom's death - as is apparently the case for about 70% of late miscarriages/stillbirths in the UK. I have found this particularly hard to deal with now I'm pregnant again because anything is perceived as a threat to this new baby... but, having got to 25 weeks plus and getting good support from friends, health professionals and e-friends at Mumsnet has all helped a lot.
The Persona shows "green" for much of the month but "red" for the days around ovulation. And although their literature and website insist you should not use the Persona for TTC, we found making sure we had plenty of time for each other during the red period meant that two months later Tom was on the way. OK, so he didn't make it, as it happens. But we still conceived him quickly after nearly two years of faffing around with test sticks.
(This bit might be for Ghosty too...) we were advised by our consultant to forget frantically concentrating on the five days around the time we thought I might be ovulating. He suggested that we make love every other day throughout my cycle (that's me and dh not me and the consultant I hastily point out). What the Persona did help us with was deciding whether to take a rain-check on any given day because of exhaustion was a good idea!
Good luck to you both. There is a great thread running for those of us who have succeeded in getting pregnant after losing a baby, and I am sure we all hope to see you two there before long.

thanx qackers! yeah me and my fiancee are well over the moon! being 1st time mum2b is hard i dont know alot so any info would b good bout anything! eg morning sickness thanx xx

Marina, good for you! I'm truly delighted for you and your family. Thanks for the advise. I'm am so sorry for the loss of Tom, brings tears to my eyes that feeling. Mumsnet has done more for Mums than they could imagine! Good luck and happy days!
I'll be trying out the persona - probably need to reset it somehow though!
Kirby - all the best to you! Well done! You so deserve it and can look forward all being well to a healthy pregnancy and a new life for you and your fiancee. How far gone are you? I presume you are looking at the 'pregnancy' thread?? It's really useful for first time Mums. I read alot I suppose when I was having my first, I was petrified of giving birth but came out the other side feeling on top of the world and a real sense of acheivement! Morning sickness - everyone's different. I hardly had any but my poor friend had it for 18-20 weeks. I had to take out shares in Gaviscon though for heartburn!!! I found the Gina Ford Contented Baby Book very useful as I didn't have a clue about what to do with my daughter at first! It's a nice supplement to your own way of looking after your baby. Mum knows best!!! It's true!!!

thanx quakers! u are such a great help! i respect u so much! im not that far gone! it due in jan so few weeks prob bout 4! i want to be the worlds best mum! u got any pointers 4 me 2 being a good mum? xx

You sound wonderful Kirby!!! Thanks for the compliment I'm touched - and blushing!! 4 weeks! Wow! Sound like your hormones are already racing if your being sick!
Being a good Mum - anyone out there got any tips for our Kirby? I think enjoy every moment of your new baby and make a little record of all their achievements and milestones - it's great when I look at mine - my daughter is now 2 and a half. These are the little things that make you bond and the nice bits of being a Mum. Have confidence and don't beat yourself up when you make a mistake

Kirby - you need to read the thread on world's worst mum to know what not to do. Mind you we all seem to do it anyway. I agree with Quackers. Don't try to be perfect. Your child will love you no matter what you do or don't do and will never know you should be doing it if you aren't as you are the one teaching them on a daily basis about life. Good luck with everything and I hope we see much more of you on mumsnet.

thanx 2 meanmum and quakers! i shall b bk 2morrow if anyone would like 2 chat 2 me then! thanx everyone 4 ya help! i just wanna be a good mum!

Ghosty - welcome! I don't think it matters whether you've got anything 'technically serious' wrong or not - the fact is you're trying like the rest of us! Good luck!!

Ghosty, it's strange but I actually feel gutted that you're not pg, after waiting to hear whether you came on last Thursday. I haven't come on yet after the m/c but am not really waiting for it as I've never experienced this before, so don't know what to expect. I think we should all STOP TRYING, then we'll all get pg by accident!

Jane101 - just wanted to wish you luck for the weekend - hope it all goes to plan and happens on the right day/they have staff in when you need them to! It HAS to be our turn soon.....

same from me Jane101 - wishing you all the best of luck for this cycle.

Nice to be back in touch after a few days away without internet access. Still no period since mid March. I have had 2 neg pregnancy tests and want a good moan about dh and his lack of sympathy. He really wants more children yet refuses to get excited about late periods. Ok, I can get carried away when I am late (not wise when you are as irregular as me) but he could at least join in a bit. His response is to wait a few weeks and then go to the doctor for a (more reliable) test. How can I explain to him that putting this out of my mind for a few weeks is IMPOSSIBLE. Every time I go to the loo I am on look out for signs of a period (mmmmm, nice) and every morning I am tempted to do another test. He just doesnt get it.

Don't moan Bunny - at least dh wants more kids - I've got ivf to continue and dh is utterly indifferent - he'd happily stop at just dd!
Tell him dr's test are no moe reliable than hpts these days ( it's true) it's only blood tests which are better and you won't get one of them at your gp's surgery.
Sorry your period is taking so long to come - I DO understand how frustrating that is, do you have any idea if/when you ov'd?