TTC for fabulous 40+

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I've decided to start the new thread

Anyone coming to join me?

I've just had a mysterious red patch in the pants. There's nothing more coming out (sorry if TMI), so don't know what's going on. Only CD20 (usually 30-day cycle), so can't be AF. Please god. I did fall off my bike this morning, so maybe my womb got a shock.

hello all,

I am back from my scan this morning and their was a little bean with a heartbeat Measuring about 7.4 which is 5 days less than my dates. BUT that would explain why I didn't get a bfp till I was 5 weeks so not overly worried (at the moment).

I actually had the consultant do the scan and he was so nice. He has booked me for another scan half way through 2nd trimester already. The usual 12 week scan will be like normal though so won't be seeing him for 10 weeks now (hopefully!)

Will try to catch up with you all later... Herb, a fine effort at the weekend though

cece glad all went ok with the scan.

Come and join more 40+ mums and mums-to-be here

Thanks for all the fab best wishes and good advice rhet & rowing. I like this thread so much I don't want to join any others. Now if you all fell pregnant this month coming, we could just continue Wouldn't that be great .

herb your unusual bleed sounds promising. After your Olympic gold medal effort you deserve it - impressive! juicylucy - it sounds like you are quite busy too....rhet roque and xserial -

cece glad to hear scan looked great. I've booked a private one in two weeks today - so here's hoping mine is just like yours.

ladymac & heron - am contemplating CVS, amnio etc. Such a tough decision to make.

It's so true what you say about doctors being disconcerted by us having too much information. When I booked my scan, I said I was certain of my conception date and explained I ovulate early (day9/10) but they treated me like I was dim.

I've just moved cities and just signed up at the doctors so won't get a doctors appt till Friday or Monday. Have decided to lie about 'first day of last period' as don't believe they will pay any attention to me when I say I ovulate six days earlier than their 'average person' that the 'system' is based on. As I am older I really want to be sure that scans match the dates for nuchal etc.

Also, not sure how to break the news that I have self prescribed low dosage asparin (after threatened miscarriage with dd, chemical pregnancy and missed miscarriage - I can't be bothered waiting for someone to suggest it.)

Oh herb my BMI is well into their overweight category but the specialist I spoke to after my miscarriage, said, quite emphatically that I looked healthy and strong and definately should not have any concerns with weight affecting pregnancy. Interesting, isn't it.

Bye all.

Daisy. Interesting about the Aspirin. I saw a fertility / recurrent miscarriage chappie ten days ago and he told me to take it - which I have been doing, though am still awaiting results of blood tests for clotting problems (can't see these being positive as no other symptons of anything related). Funny thing was, he told me to take it even if tests come back negative. It seems to be so common, that when you tell them I'm sure they won't be at all surprised. On a separate point, do they do nuchal scans where you live? They aren't available on the NHS here, which is such a shame.
Cece - great news about your little sticky bean.

They do a combined test here tabitha. They combine the nuchal and a blood test taken on the same day.

TBH I doubt I am going to even have that done. No point really as I 100% will not have a CVS or an amnio...

cece so glad to hear that the scan went well - I'd say 5 days is a perfectly normal time to be out by. Congratulations!! I am (I think) about 3DPO, but so busy that I haven't really thought about it. Spent what I think was a beautiful sunny day in a bunker with no windows doing Performance Management Training run by a woman who couldn't spell!! And I hate role play But safely ensconced at home with a roaring fire and a nice glass of red wine (my first for a week...)

daisy, tab that superior doctor thing really pisses me off; they seem to always think that you don't know anything at all (many moons ago I had a boyfriend who was training as a doctor, who told me with great authority that he knew more about my periods that I did - even though this was probably true, he got dumped forthwith...so maybe he became one of the snooty ones that you've encountered.

sounds good rhet, I am not missing red wine yet but I have been having cravings for stilton [sob]

Wow there's a lot going on tonight!
Rhet that sounds marvellous - the bunker or should I say binker! Did she suddenly move the white board to reveal plans to overthrow the wirld?
Good news on the scan Cece, sounds like it is all going well. I'm trying to think of something strong tasting you can eat that isn't Stilton - Marmite? What about very mature Cheddar?
Daisy that's nice that you like being here.
I'm on day 29, which is pretty standard for me these days.
Off for some food now...

Off to the doctor soon tab so will let you know what they say. I have no idea what they offer here, so shall hopefully find out this afternoon.

rhet - that soooo reminds me of when I used to work in marketing. And I too despise role playing - it's so fake and contrived and makes me feel like I am 2 years old. Roaring fire and red wine the ideal recovery.

Your boyfriend story mad me giggle - he really had to go, didn't he!

[waves to rowing] Any promising symptoms

hi daisy,
you're right, it is a difficult decision to make whether to have an invasive or not. for DH and I, we needed to know (and would not have gone ahead with the pregnancy if there was anything wrong). so i had CVS done at 11weeks. the professor was very good and it was all over in a couple of minutes (literally!). i had mine done at fetal medicine centre. and i got the results the next day.
good luck with whatever decision you chose.

Thanks for that info heron. Previously I would not have contemplated it, but I like the idea of considerably less worry that comes with knowing. I read up on the stats and it seems that if carried out by someone really really good, the odds of miscarriage go down. I like the idea of an expert at a fetal medicine centre. Do you have any good links to sites about this?

Many thanks
daisy

cece am over the moon for you! Fantastic news.

daisy what aspirin dosage are you taking? As a recurrent 'miscarrier'(?) myself, I've found articles on this very interesting, but GP looked at me blankly when I mentioned it, bless him.

Still no AF at this end, on CD 35 (usually 26 day cycle), holding firm on not testing because of recent mc/chem preg, although went a bit mad on ebay and bought 10 tests for 99p, which DP has hidden (ahem). Don't feel preggers, which for me is a good indicator that I'm not. Have started a new job, though, and am hoping to tempt fate by thinking 'God, that's the LAST thing I need......'

sussexoldspot - I feel naughty taking it, but I read an article that said that if woman with reoccurring miscarriages are tested for blood clotting and even if it is 'negative' some of the specialists are taking the view 'it can't do any harm and might just work'.

This is the low dosage of 70 (what they used to call baby aspirin) but to be honest I am only taking it every second day until I get to talk to someone about it.

Always keen to find out more.

Well, if it does no harm, daisy, then I say good for you, girl! If I manage to get duffed up again, then I'm going to do exactly the same as you. All the very, very best with the pregnancy, will be following your progress!

Yes, all the best Daisy & CeCe and hi to everyone!

Sussex - how can you not test on CD35?? V restrained of you. Keep us posted (fingers crossed icon)

I've been reading up on Marilyn's site on natural boosts to conception So while we wait for the appt with the fertility clinic me n DH plan to be doing the healthy diet & supplements (not Marilyns! I found some half price - we ARE having a credit crunch and I can't justify £150 for 3 mths supply!!)

THing is, she recommends not TTC until you've done 3 months of the healthy eating & supps etc. Ahhhh! The thought of 3 months off the BD conveyor belt - bliss!

I shall be lurking... x

My consultant told me to take the Aspirin (mine are 75mg) everyday for 3 months before TTC, not just with a positive pregnancy test result. He said embryos trying to implant "don't like it" (presumably that isn't the medical term ) if the blood isn't right. Hey ho, the joys of the differing opinions of those in the medical world. I'm still waiting for those blood test results, by the way. I'm thinking of making up my own and just ignoring theirs.

Crikey, that's a good point tabitha.

Oh, fruit, I mc'd at five weeks last cycle, so am (a) too scared to test (b) scared of getting my hopes up (c) scared of dashing my hopes (d) scared of being preg in case it all happens again! Have always been a fool when it comes to testing and it was horrible watching the line get fainter and fainter last time

Still, what will be, will be, as DP says [hits DP over head with something heavy emoticon]

Heh heh! Have just had an Ocado delivery - and they have sent us 3, yes 3, bars of Green and Black's Butterscotch by mistake (I ordered 1)[stuffing face emoticon]

sussexoldspot - I know exactly what you mean. I wasn't going to test until two weeks after I was due, because of so many emotions tied up with the whole thing, one of them being that I didn't think I could bear anticipating the pain of loosing another one. But as it turned out I tested early because we were about to go on holiday and enjoy relaxing over glasses of wine - so I really had to find out.

I just went to the doctor yesterday and explained my history and she is going to write a letter to the hospital EPU to ask them to support me as much as possible in the first three months, so I am glad I have got the ball rolling. The first ten days after testing I felt 'nothing' and couldn't bring myself to let myself feel anything - as I couldn't bear to get attached. But as I approach 6 weeks, I am starting to feel protective (if still not attached and still daren't smile) and determined to do the most I can to make it possible. I think I will stay in this 'holding' pattern (I sound like a long haul flight!!) for a while yet.

I hope you are pregnant - the chocolate urges sound promising. I ate a packet of jaffa cakes two days ago!

daisy my DP has also said that I should wait two weeks, but I'm not sure that I'm going to be able to. His thinking is that I should give my body 6 weeks to sort itself out before even thinking I could be pregnant (hang on, why is he suddenly an expert? He's an IT contractor!) I was really relaxed about the whole thing, but am getting more and more knotted up with every day that passes. Have really bad PMT symptoms today, though.

Am so happy for you that you're getting the care you need/deserve. I was saying to DP that, like you, I would find it difficult to rejoice if I were pregnant again. Have loads of fingers and everything crossed for you.

Of course our DP's have our best interests at heart but it's hard when it's your body isn't it. Because although you try not to think about it, every breast ache, headache and heavy womb feeling makes you think 'I wonder' or 'I wonder if it's ok'.

I guess there comes a point where you have to test because it is driving you nuts - and causing more angst than if you knew you were pregnant and were worried about a mc (does that make sense?!)

Fingers crossed for you too sussexoldspot

just wanted to send good vibes to all would-be testers, waiting-to testers and soon-to-be testers. I'm a good 10 days from that point...

Hi everyone, AF came today so this is day 1 for us. On the plus side, we are getting our money next week so I can go for my first appointment soon and from what I can gather start the drugs straight after.
Still haven't sent away my passport so may have to pay for the express service. Not very happy, because I should have done this ages ago, but didn't.
Feeling a bit miffed today because (and this is pathetic) some of the nursery mums meet for tea after nursery, and quite often we go along. Today one of them told me she was going to the house of another mum after nursery, but didn't ask us to come.
This particular mum is a bit of a 'queen bee' character and I'm convinced she quite enjoys to select people to include and exclude.
In a way I'm relieved I don't have to spend time with her, but I'm a bit cross about it.
I know this will pass, but it's like being left out at school. I feel like I'm at school again, isn't that ridiculous.
Now I'm laughing at how ridiculous this is.
Daisy that's great news about being referred, I'm sure that will be a big relief.
Sussex maintaining holding pattern, I don't blame you. I have my toes crossed for you. Can't do the fingers or my typing goes poo.
Rhet hiiii!

Well ladies, I did a pregnancy test 2 weeks ago and it came up positive. I knew it could have been related to my last micarriage which finally completed at the end of August. I went for a scan today and there was a new Little Tab. I won't get my hopes up - far too early for that (only 4 weeks), but it was the first time DH and I had ever seen a heartbeat and it was a truly magical experience that we'll treasure forever no matter what the future holds. Now we play the waiting game. Yikes.