First time TTC?!! Let's get through this together!!

[DawnAS]

Hi All,

This is a difficult time for most women (and men) I think.

Certainly for me, I've waited a long time to get to this stage , having not met Mr Right until the age of 31. Now 34 and got married 2 months ago and now want to complete the family!

So, just started "trying" for a baby and due to my impatient nature, have already started using Ovulation Kits. (Probably not a good idea). I also did the Female Fertility Test and that seemed to have a good result aswell.

I was on Dianette for 8 years and came off of it 3 years ago. My cycles became regular again but every 5 weeks instead of 4. I had previously come off of the pill for 6 months and my cycles were regular, so I guess all this is a good sign.

Anyone else had similar experiences and fallen pregnant quickly? I know everyone's different but any good news stories help move us all along!! .

xx

Oh no Dawn, what a crap day! And it's pissing rain too! The Gods are clearly having a bad day...

On the psychic...first of all...I am admittedly very sceptical about this whole psychic thing anyway, but even if you aren't: who's to say this woman wasn't a complete fraud...? There are plenty out there. Maybe you got lucky not going. (Though I too wold be well pissed off at the late notice! ) Find someone else if you still want a reading...this woman is clearly not worth your time, energy or money.

And whatever she would have told you, it may not have had any bearing on your job, house or baby...don't think because she isn't reassuring you that bad things will happen.

On the job front...when will you know for sure if your position is secure or in jeopardy? Personally (having been made redundant last year when company had 'financial challenges') I would start looking around seriously now for something else. There ARE opportunities out there (even in deepest darkest Devon) and it may never come to you having to move but you will at least be prepared if it does. Get your CV up to date and look at it as a potentially positive move. And if your job is secure, no harm has been done by looking and keeping your things up to date.

On the house...the market is slowing. property prices are falling (slowly in some places) but the old credit crunch wil take hold, so you may even end up being able to afford more than you thought in a few months.. Is it your first house or do you already own one?

Now...get that large glass of wine as Crunchy said!

Thanks so much ladies - I feel better already!!

I've never heard of those Psychic Fayres - have to give that a go!! I'll go and see loads of them and choose the future I like best - ha ha!!!

To top it all, those bloody cramps are back! More on one side than the other and in the lower back. Not OVing (took a test today) and 2 weeks until I'm due AF so not quite sure what that's all about... Still think I'm coming down with something, I don't know - Man-flu or something!!

Bugger bugger bugger!!!!

AND BREATHE....

Yay, I'm fine now!!

xxx

you probably are run down- there is a lot going around at the moment- i am the proud owner of a huge coldsore just make sure you look after yourself and go to the doctor if it gets any worse xx

Hey Crunchy, I've had pretty much everything else, but that's one thing that I've never suffered from.

My best friend got one from her husband when she first met him (they met at the age of 12 and are still together, expecting their second baby in August...) and she's suffered with them eversince.

So what are all your plans for tonight?

xx

I think I missed out on trying to cheer you up Dawn bloody time difference! Hope your feeling better after an nice relaxing evening and some sleep! I would've been really pissed off too but if its any consolation I went to one a while ago and it was utter bullshit!! (To be fair it was just a lottle filipino in a headscarf, don't think she wsas a day above 12!) Its always nice to have that reassurance that everything is going to be ok even if it is from a total stranger! By the way, lucky you did mention the exorcist name, thats all anyone would say if I told them, you saved me a lot of trauma!! lol I really hope you don't get Man flu that is the most painful thing in the world, even worse than labour (so i'm told)

I had a friend who used to get cold sores and they look really painful, hope it goes soon crunchy

And Dawn I had never had a massage until I moved here but they are 3.00gbp for an hour and they come to the house! So it would be rude not to I think DP even has them now!!

Bet your all fast asleep having lovely baby dreams Enjoy

Hey Bonifacio,

Thanks for your words to cheer me up, to be honest I was still feeling a bit fed-up when I woke up today, but now I'm feeling much better!!

It's a shame about the names because "Emily Rose" sounds so lovely. Damn those film-makers!!

Crunchy - how's the coldsore today? Do you ever get the tingling feeling in time to put something on it before it develops? My friend uses that Zovirax and swears by it!!

Hey Flirty, how are you today? Well I didn't have any wine in last night and didn't really feel that a "Watermelon Bacardi Breezer" would do the trick... So I made DH make pancakes instead!! After two baby ones I felt sick though so not sure that was the best idea - !!

Soooo anyway, didn't really feel like BDing but if my cramps and dates were right, last night we needed to so we did. But it's already feeling like a chore, for DH and myself I think which is a shame . Hopefully I'll fall fairly quickly because I don't necessarily think it promotes a healthy relationship.....

Finished up the night by watching "Cold Mountain". What depressing film that was!!! I couldn't believe all the blood and gore!! And it was soooo long. I can understand why it was recommended for Oscars though. The acting was very good.

So what did all you guys get up to? I wonder if Tartan's having a nice time in Thailand?

Bonafacio, where do you live?

xxx

Hey Dawn I'm glad your feeling a little better!! I agree that A watermelon breezer doesn;t measure up! Though sometimes any old alcohol will do!! How recent was the latest exorcist film? Maybe I could get away with it. I still like the name 2 days later which I think is a record!! So feminine and makes me think of a little girl, maybe not so good for an adult but then its her problem!!

I'm still a little gutted that DP is away the week were due to start ttc maybe he planned it all along Have to wait till beginning of August now All you are BD'inf for a reason and i'm just doing it for fun
I do worry that it will seem like a chore and I think so does DP, maybe I should talk to him about that, hopefully we'll be able to make sure it doesn't. Plus hopefully first time I We won't be obsessing about it!!

I'm in the Philippines Dawn, lovely place. Just off to yoga again now. Hope your having a good day!! xx

Hey Bonifacio,

Just googled it and the actually film itself was called "The Exorcism of Emily Rose" and was fairly recent, 2005. It was pretty grim I seem to recall . But then I guess the title would suggest that!!

I'm struggling to think of alternatives, what about "Emily Jane".

The Philippines, oh how lovely!! I've never been there but imagine that it's beautiful!!

What's the weather like over there today? It's been horrible here this week so far and is set to continue - a typical British summer...

xx

Hmm, can't really use it then! Damn! How about Sadie Rose.... But you can't shorten it Ah well not like I have a deadline coming up soon!

Philippines is nice, weather is ok its monsoon season at the minute though so its raining and thundery. Not been a great year weatherwise actually!

Where in UK are you from?
xx

Hey B,

Do you mind if I reduce your name to B - I have to keep going to the top of the thread to make sure that I spell it right!!

Sadie Rose is lovely!! Actually my Nan's name was Rosina but everyone called her Rose, so that name has always been close to my heart.

I'm now thinking Marissa Ellen Rose if we have a daughter - my DH has three names so I'm sure it'll be fine for our daughter to have 3 aswell!!

I'm right down in the South-West in Devon, so very wet here most of the time, although generally warmer than most areas!!

xxx

Of course not! It is a little long!

I just watched a film with a Sadie in it so thats where it came from. Will add it to the list and see how long it stays there!! My mums name hence if we have a daughter it will be her middle name. I am also thinking of having 2 middle names, sometimes its too hard to narrow them down to just 2!!

Devon, wow I love it down there we used to go every year for our family holiday! Always had such a great time. The coast was lovely, would love to go back someday maybe take my kids there! xx

Hi all! your kind words are making me feel much better ( i was greeted by a boy in my form class today with 'Ms whats us with your face??) Charmed!

I don't get warnings they just appear scarilly quick! it's crazy one minute nothing and then the next a huge cold sore! Zovirax seems to make them angry too and blisteze only works occasionally- i kinda have to ride them out! Ah well, stress (and cold sore) should all be over next week!)

dawn dont turn ur love making into a chore!! you want to look back and smile and the thought of your babies conception! I go by the theory that if you do it lots and do it well your bound to have a happy child! try not to just work on dates- the pressure cant be good!

I too like the name Sadie- will run that past hubby- I agree with the film issue, every name you come across seems to remind you of somebody doesnt it? difficult working with 1500 children too haha i dont want my little angels to remind me of any of them! lol

Hi girls,

Looking forward to the weekend? What are everyones plans?

Just a comment on what DawnAS was saying about the whole BD'ing becoming routine. I definitely feel like its inevitable - I mean really.... every other night! Who normally does that? (rhetorical question only!)

Oh also, blooming cheek! I made the mistake of talking with my sister (who is almost 7 months pregnant) about baby names. My favourite girl's name is Clodagh. "Oh" she goes "I really really love that name....its sooo pretty" Stupid slip up on my behalf as according to Mum its now top of her shortlist!

ooohhh bad sister! thats the problem with families- you have to be careful you dont all have same names!! is she having a girl? lets keep our fingers crossed for a boy...

Hi there all,

Well Linwin, I wasn't that interested in it before which doesn't help... Never been particularly high on the old sex-drive. Much rather have a nice cup of tea - !!

What a cheeky sister, stealing your name!! As Crunchy said "think boy, think boy, think boy...."

So, this weekend, not many plans. DH is working on Sunday and in attempting to save money (hoping to buy a house before the end of the year) my Sunday's when he's at work consist of laying on the couch with my yellow labrador, Tilly, eating naughty food and watching chick flicks! . That's what I'll miss when we do have a DC!!

So Crunchy, why did they take away the cane in schools? You could have used that today for the boy's cheekiness!! (Bless...), I'm assuming he wasn't an innocent 5 year old?

Ho hum, feeling really fed up tonight. No reason why, just do. Really snapping at my poor puppy aswell, so DH has taken her out for a walk - hmmm, who can I shout at now?..

xxx

Hello everyone, just had a quick read through - it's my first time TTC as well . . been off the pill since January and nothing yet but we haven't been really trying (if you know what I mean!) Time to start putting some effort in I think! Anyway I will go back and read the thread but just wanted to say hi!How long has everyone else been trying?

hi posyfossil! welcome!

Hi Crunchynutter! Oh and I agree with Linwin - every other night, bloody hell!!

Hey PosyFossil,

We're all new on here, pretty much!

This is my first month trying for my first child! So definitely beginners! So Cycle 1, TTC#1. Currently on CD21 (cycle day) of a 35 day cycle...

I'm now in my first ever 2ww (2 week wait). If you want to know what all the acronyms are, there's a list under Useful Stuff at the top of the page . Some of them are a bit strange but you get used to them...

xxx

Crunchy, if you can enjoy it every night, you're bloody lucky - ha ha! My DH may start writing to you....

Some people seem to get "those" feelings around OV time but I've never got that feeling, only when I've started seeing someone for the first time... Oh well! I guess it would be boring if we were all the same!

xxx

Hi Possyfossil welcome to the madness! I too am TTC#1 Cycle-1 CD15 (-1 because was supposed to start this time but do is away so will have to be noxt time )

Cruncy I agree with Dawns idea of caning the insoelnt child!! Really though how rude of him! Only thing I can suggest is keep it clean and dry, maybe use salt water.

My plans so far for this weekend are, dinner then party tonight, fincally convinced my DP that yoga would be good for him so we are both going tomorrow!! Its so good for you as its the type you do in a heated room so you just sweat! But he thinks its a bit feminine for him all that stretching s**t! But I convinced him!! The we are going to buy a new tennis raquet then go for a game then probably go out for dinner. Sunday we usually go out and have lunch and a few beers then go and sit by the pool but as its typhoon season I doubt that will be happening!!

Cruncy don't keep the child clean and dry or douse him in salt water!! I mean the cold sore!!

Also you know that stress is a major trigger of outbreaks, maybe all the BD talk.... I know its a bit of a stress topic in our household at the minute

Oh B, I nearly spat my tea out after reading your latest message - envisaging Crunchy dunking a child in salty water!!

Ha ha ha !!

You guys are Yoga mad!!! I've never done Yoga actually, I tried Pilates once and I just giggled all the way through!! Very mature of me - NOT!!

Actually, I love dancing but other than that, I don't really like exercise. I walk my dog for about an hour during the day but that's about it....

I'm 5ft 8 and about 9st 5lbs so within my ideal weight, but if I'm not careful, I do put weight on around my hips and bum . I occasionally follow Weight Watchers, but only to maintain my weight as opposed to losing any. I know that Yoga is great for muscle tone and strength, but I'm just too lazy ...

xxx

Dawn - are you me?! Sadly I don't have a dog...or the extra 5inches to make me 5ft8, but otherwise, you seem to be inside mey head...?!

Now...I REALLY must work today ladies...if you see me on here again, please banish me. It's really for my own good!

Have a good one...

Flirty x

Hey Flirty,

Missed you yesterday! But consider yourself banished anyway!!

Weekend soon though and on Sunday my DH is working so I'll probably be on here ALL DAY - how sad am I?!! You'll all log back in and there'll be loads of messages from me, to me!!

And obviously they'll all be telling myself that undoubtedly all my symptoms mean pregnancy, but not just that, TRIPLETS!!!

Speak soon!!

xx