First time TTC?!! Let's get through this together!!

[DawnAS]

Hi All,

This is a difficult time for most women (and men) I think.

Certainly for me, I've waited a long time to get to this stage , having not met Mr Right until the age of 31. Now 34 and got married 2 months ago and now want to complete the family!

So, just started "trying" for a baby and due to my impatient nature, have already started using Ovulation Kits. (Probably not a good idea). I also did the Female Fertility Test and that seemed to have a good result aswell.

I was on Dianette for 8 years and came off of it 3 years ago. My cycles became regular again but every 5 weeks instead of 4. I had previously come off of the pill for 6 months and my cycles were regular, so I guess all this is a good sign.

Anyone else had similar experiences and fallen pregnant quickly? I know everyone's different but any good news stories help move us all along!! .

xx

Hi Dawn and Summer

Dawn, so sorry to hear about your MC but so good to hear you being so positive and moving forward.

My situation is that i met my partner 3 years ago and a few months ago we started having the serious "lets start a family" chat. Our biggest problem was as a lesbian couple we are missed one vital thing!?!?! So after alot of discussion we asked our best friends who are a gay male couple and now 3 months down the line, legal consulatations, tears and night after night of discussions and alot of pee sticks later we have got to the most amazing place where we are ready o start out and become a 2 mum, 2 dad family and i cant wait.

Hi Makingafamily,

Great to have you with us. I hope we can all hold hands and help eachother with this! I have found MN and this group of ladies to be a great source of support, inspiration and help! I hope you will too!

Wow, sounds like you have already had a long journey to get to this point! But well done and congratulations...now for the TTC part.

I am in a very similar sitution to Dawn and Summerbird. I'm 34, got married in January. My DH has wanted to start trying for little people for a while and we had a couple of wobbles before we were married (terror on my part), but have now decided we both really want to be family. We started TTC in June and I'm currently in the middle of cycle 2!

BSL x

wow makingafamily that is amazing, your darling child will be so lucky to have not 2 but 4 wonderful parents.

on a practical note it is brilliant too as they will not be short of babysitters and get lots of fabulous birthday/xmas pressies!!! i wish you all the luck in the world.

well my AF is buggering me around as she went away this morning but returned this afternoon for a second visit - gaah we were so looking forward to commencing our BD fest tonight!

let the summer of love continue folks!!

hi all! Hello makingafamily welcome!

I too have found this site fantastic-it's become more than just somewhere to discuss babies as these girls are great at giving advice on all aspects-relationships,baby planning, decorating and just days when you feel crap!

A bit about me then! I'm 23 and have been married 16months I have just finished my first yeAr teaching and we decided we really want to complete the family! My main problem is I have been ok the depo provera injection for 6years and despite coming off it in June I still have not had a period although there are many other hormonal things going on! Think it may be a long wait for me but I am trying to stay positive that it will happen when the time I'd right!

Crunchy xx

LOL please excuse any typing errors as I am nearly always typing from my mobile! I was on depo notokdepo!

ah crunchy you are just a little younger than my sis - as you were being born i was buying my first bra whilst dancing round my bedroom to 'young guns havin some fun - crazy dayz people on the run.....' and rouching my NewRomantic ruffles!! x

Thanks Summer. It feels like the most ideal way for us and love the fact that babysitters we always be about We very close anyway and already go on holiday etc the 4 of us so it feels natural to make it the 5 of us

Just looked up BD and AF and that makes alot more sense. I love that Baby Dancing

Hey Crunchy. From looking at these boards over the last few weeks they are a great place. And it will happen when the time is right

How was your first years teaching, im a Social Worker!

in a word- stressful! LOL but ive enjoyed it and feel quite settled at the school now which is lovely!

summerbird you've made me laugh with the training bras haha I feel old most of the time and you just made me feel like a little nipper! Thanks xx

Summerbird, you were lucky to be able to wear bloody training bras!! If I hadn't had the "op", I'd still be in one!!

Makingafamily, that sounds like a fab decision that you've come to and I'm with Summerbird in relation to babysitters and stuff. So, how have you decided who's actually going to carry the baby? (Sorry if I'm being nosy - we all ask lots of questions on here) - . I guess that's quite a decision to make.

Wow, 4 parents and 8 Grandparents - how cool is that?!

Hey Crunchy - can I pretend I didn't have a MC and say I'm on cycle two aswell please?! It may be cheating but it sounds so much nicer....

I hope B is feeling Ok today. She's probably asleep now!!

xxx

Dawn of course you can be on cycle 2, it is all part and parcel of TTC, your MC was a very sad blip in the process.

crunchy and dawn i actually didnt fit into the training bras but wanted to feel grown up - i didnt actually fill a bra until i went on the pill at 17 then they just - ahem - sprang up! i remember the first time i realised i had 'assets' was when i was 18 and one of the lads in our 'gang' said to me 'are those tits real?'

at 18 that was a compliment - believe me!!!

BSL good luck with cycle 2

Ask away Dawn. Although my partner very much wants a family she has no desire to be pregnant which suits us really well as i do. Initially both the boys wanted to be bio daddy's and as we want more than one little one the idea was that A would go first as he's older. More recent discussions have been A being the bio daddy for all/any little ones we have so that they are full siblings. Doesnt really matter to me, as i know they will both be great dads and its actually 10 gradparents!!! lol

My GP has also referred me for lots of fertility/blood tests etc so she can make a referral to my local Fertility clinic, although hoping we won't need this. Has anyone else had this before starting TTC?

LOL I had that training bra problem hehe-my sister was a d cup at primary school and as if told you before I love nice inderwear and used to get jealous so I insider they took me to marks and spencers to be measured I wasn't even on the scale LOL think I was a 20aa and nothing would fit LOL will never forget the embarrasment! I was just a late developer though- I love my boobies now xx

yeah i got stuck with boobies in primary school Love them now though

makingafamilyI am thinking of discussing the whole thing with my doctor but haven't as of yet! I hope all goes well for you. I don't know if I should make an appointment just to tell him I want a baby if that makes sense? Maybe I can tell him I've got worms or some obscure 'I'm not sure If anythings wrong' problem to get in then casually drop TTC into the conversation LOL! Xx

crunchy i would just make an appointment and go tell him, i dropped my TTC into the conversation on another matter and my GP was all over the place with excitement, she gave me lots of good nutrition advice and some pamphlets, your doc should do the same and also maybe take your blood pressure etc just to check you out.

Thanks-I kind of know im being silly but I get nervous discussing these things face to face!I think I will ask for an appointment when My blood tests are back instead of the usuall over the phone deal! I could do with an MOT though lol and nutrition advice would be fab! Xx

Crunchy. Just bite the bullet and ask, i know they tested my hormone levels and thats all okay. Im waiting for the appointment for an ultra-sound of my pelvis too. Our bio dad isn't out to his GP so went round there and told him he'd been trying to "knock the misses up for the last 6 months and its not happening" which if you new our bio dad you would see how funny that is and his GP referred his for a "swimmers" test and that came back all good I think its worth getting these things checked out if just for piece of mind

Also ladies, get your men on zinc

LOL ok!I'm convinced! I will definitly get round to it! Didn't know about the zinc either! I'm taking pregnacare-won't hurt him to do something too! Lol! Xx

Hey everyone! Wow I miss so much being in bed!! Crunchy do not fear I am here to make you feel old again! I'm 22! Oficially the youngest on our thread!!

Welcome MAF wow what a lucky thing your baby will be with all that family!! Though doesn't that make you in a way have 3 MIL's! I do not envy you that!!

Oooh and my baby is my 4 year old boxerdog!! She is the ugliest thing in the world and I love her!!

BD'd again this morning and still no bloody ejaculation, he used the excuse that he had a hot bath last night so had fried all is swimmers!! (shouldn't have let him read my book!!) Just when I thought he was starting to get over it all, maybe I need to gove him more time.

You are right bonifacio just give it time, and take it gradually.

makingafamily that story about bio dad is hilarious! i can actually imagine my DH actually saying that to the GP!! Actually ours is almost six months too so i might get him off for the swimmers test!!

i am working from home today on a slow laptop so am keeping our home pc on MN page for catch ups!!

LOL B you have now made me feel better again thank you! I still wish I lived somewhere nice and exotic like you! Is there much of an age gap between you and your DP? Mines 26 and it wasn't unitl the wedding he was ready for little ones! At 22/23 he was terrieifed by the idea! Xx

Morning all

Welcome to a really supportive thread makingafamily. Your baby will be so lucky with all that family around and the support you will have will be great!

DH and I are both 30 and got married just over 5 years ago. We both wanted a family but have only recently decided that the time is right to start trying. I'm still on cycle 1 and AF is due at the weekend, and I really think she will turn up too as DH said last night that I was snappy. Oh well, fingers crossed she doesnt but if she does then another month of BDing to look forward too!!!

Hi all,

Just to let you know, I've posted some of my wedding pics on here. Hopefully we'll have some baby ones at some point - !!

xxx

B and Crunchy - you guys are making me feel very old!! But seriously, I admire both of you! I was still terrified of having small people at 30!

Saz - I'm sorry you feel that AF is on it's way!!! Are you okay? It's good you're being positive about cycle 2. But you never know, AF might not come {grin] I have my fingers crossed for you!

Summerbird - How's things on the AF front?? I hate it when AF does that and rears it's head again once you think it's all gone

MAF - Thanks for the tip on the zinc!

I think I am now on the 2WW...I hate this bit of TCC!

BSL x

Dawn - X posts with you...lovely pictures!!! I love your dress and I bet your little bridesmaids adored wearing theirs!

BSL x