TTC 4th baby at 38years old

[CharzPrincess1986]

Im trying to conceive at this ripe old age. Been 3 months so far. Period is due in 13days, praying it doesn't come🙏🏼🙈

@BabyBornthis is amazing!! So happy for you! Fingers crossed for your sticky rainbow! 🌈 xx

Thanks so much ladies! Just hope it sticks!!! 🙏🙏🍀🍀🍀 I would be due on tomorrow. I’ve got a 27 day cycle. I will be on tender hooks for weeks until I have a scan at EPU. Will keep you all posted.

Looking forward to seeing some more BFPs on here! X

How are you doing @BabyBorn?

going into my tww today! Feeling positive but also nervous after last month! Thinking sticky thoughts! 🙏🏼

Hi @WingingitlifeIve tried posting a number of times but it’s not been letting me. Trying again after deleting the App and downloading it again.

Lots of sticky vibes for you for this TTW.

I tested this morning after getting back yesterday. I’m 14DPO.

Oh my gosh this looks very good indeed! Lots of strong positives!! 😍😍 this is very exciting!

Yes they are quite dark aren’t they! 😱 going to stop testing now for a few weeks!

I hope it gives a few of you a little hope that it does happen at 38 and over!! x

It’s definitely giving me hope! How long have you been trying @BabyBorn?

I’ve been trying for ages… but, I was breastfeeding for 3 years and only stopped in early July. I’m not sure this was the reasons for my miscarriages or not. I’ve changed my diet and lifestyle a lot though and made other changes and I’m sure this has massively improved my chance x

May I join? I’m 36 and TTC number 4 and have been trying-ish since my 18 month old was born but I’m still breastfeeding. I’ve been having cycles since January after many months trying all sorts of supplements and spacing feeds

Still no conceptions and I’m really struggling emotionally with it. However, I feel so unjustified because I already have 3 lovely children and I know many others are struggling for their first or second. This seems a lovely space for sharing my journey with others in a similar position

I’m 5dpo, I don’t feel pregnant yet. We’re going on holiday on Tuesday and I may wean my 18 month old when we get back to increase chances but it’s so difficult. She loves it and is just a baby herself. My eldest two are 12 and 11 and so I feel another sibling may bring more benefit to her life than extended breastfeeding

If I don’t get pregnant in the next year or so I think we will have to stop. I’m finding it so emotionally taxing and I have been parenting since I was 23 (pregnant at 22), so for me personally, I wouldn’t like to have more babies much closer to or beyond 40. I love nothing more than being a mother but I would like a little bit of adulthood without young children

I really hoped to be having my longed for baby now and I’m not pregnant or even sure I can conceive any more. Every month I feel worse about it and even more obsessive 😔

Hi @Mismatc lovely to have you here! Hope you have a lovely holiday and its is a nice distraction from you tww!

Are your cycles quite regular now? It does consume you so much trying to concieved. Have you seen a fertility specialist?

@Kittybway they are now 28 days but did take a while to get there with delayed ovulation and short luteal phases at first. We’ve seen the GP and had some initial tests, looking at private fertility treatment now. We still have to wait for our GP referral to go through even though we will need to self-fund

I’m so sorry you have to miss a cycle, I’d be so upset. Hopefully it will be a nice enforced month off thinking about it

@Mismatcwelcome to the group! I'm so sorry you've been struggling to concieve, it really does get harder each month doesn't it? Have you been tracking with OPKs?
Do you think it's worth speaking with your GP about maybe getting some bloods done and whatever else they can offer just to check everything is as it should be. Before you consider stopping feeding? BF mumma here too. So I completely feel you. So desperately wanting to get pregnant but not wanting to deprive your baby of their milk and comfort. It's hard.

Also you can feel incredibly grateful to have your 3 darlings and still ache for another. 🤍
Xxx

@ChaE05 thank you for your compassionate response, I really appreciate it

We have had the initial tests with the GP and are just waiting for the referral to the fertility clinic to go through. Even though we will need to pay privately, it seems that this clinic like a referral from the GP. My hormones were normal despite BF but I had cut down feeds at the time and am back to in demand now. However, despite on demand feeding my ovulation was day 14 this month so I feel like my hormones have stayed normal. I track with OPKs but I don’t temp as I don’t get enough sleep for accurate readings 🫠

I’m so sorry to hear of your losses, I can’t imagine how heartbreaking it has been for you. How old is your nursling and how often are they feeding?

Hi @Mismatc3dpo over here! Also trying for baby number 4 😊

Hi ladies! I’m 4dpo, I’m absolutely wiped out today, had to take a nap which is not me at all! My boobs have been sore too. I’m guessing this is my progesterone rising after ovulation? It’s been sooooo long since I had a proper period I’m struggling to ever remember feeling like this 😆 anyone else get this around this time?

@Mismatcwe are at a similar stage! I have been referred to fertility. Got a telephone appt on the 8th Sept. So just going to see if there is anything else they do test wise, or ovulation induction etc before we consider private ivf! Hope your referral doesn't take too long. All very positive your tests have come back good.

My little boy is 21 months, although we have mostly giving up feeding 🥲 just the odd feed before bed. His night feeds stopped at 18 months.

It sounds as though your cycle is pretty regular. I hope it's just a case of it's taking a bit longer for us this time round? I fell pregnant with him first time so understand the frustration and heartache. Would love a little sibling for him and I'm 38 now so time isn't on my side xx

Hi @Mismatci am 40 and stopped BFing my 3 year old last month. Like you, it took a while for my LP to start lengthening out. Keep going and try to limit the stress and it will happen for you. I did fall pregnant 3 times whilst breastfeeding. One was a chemical, another a molar pregnancy and the last was an early MC. I am very early in pregnancy at the moment and hope this one sticks! Good luck, you will get there. This would be my 4th if it all works out x

Thank you everyone. I’m 10dpo and bfn, I don’t feel like I did last month. I don’t know why it hit me so hard emotionally last month but I’m okay this time. Best of luck in all of your journeys and I hope my time will come

Hey guys, how are you all.doing?

Chat gpt and FF think I ovulated on Saturday so I'm 2dpo but waiting for a few more temps to confirm. Thst means we only dtd 2-O as DP was away which i was expecting so hopefully won't be driving myself mad in the tww!

Is anyone PO at the mo?

@KittybwayI beleive I am 11dpo and absolutely driving myself mad this month 🙈 I bought some wondfo hcg strips last month and I wish I hadn’t because I’ve tested everyday from 7dpo which I know is absolutely stupid really 🙈 all bfn so I’ve got myself all down about it 🙈 next month I’m ditching the tests until I miss my period (or at least going to try!) x

@Wingingitlife easier said that done isn't it! I dont test till my period is late but I ask chat gpt 10 times a day if in pregnant, be probably less stressful to test!!

@Kittybwaycan i ask you how you use ChatGPT for fertility stuff? I’m such a millennial I know 😂 still just google everything 😂 x

I only started last month! I upload photos of my opks and they tell me when my peak is, and I screen shot my bbt chart for them. Im using ic opks and find them really hard to read

Oh that’s clever @Kittybwayive been using the Premom app, it’s quite similar really as you take a photo of the opk and it logs it and charts it for you xx

This is my very very erratic bbt chart. I’ve only been tracking my temps since 20/8 as my acupuncturist suggested it. She said it’s erratic because I’ve been having broken sleep for pretty much the whole of my luteal phase (not sure why as I usually sleep well most of the time but for the last two weeks my sleep has been horrific, this is my first “proper” cycle since coming off iud so don’t know if it’s just my hormones). Anyway I believe I may have ovulated on the 22/8. Didn’t really get an lh peak but I didn’t last month either and got the bfp so I must be ovulating. Think I’ve got a really quick surge.
got a bfn on Wednesday. Yesterday my temp dropped so I was certain that af in on its way and didn’t test. Expected it to stay down or be lower today but it’s back up!

Any thoughts? I’m a little confused!