35yrs + and trying ✨🫶🏼

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I am now 37 and have one beautiful 10yrs old boy, my partner has 2 boys 9 & 13yrs.

I bought the Hertility kit online, not yet opened it… I was going to give this cycle my last attempt before investigating 🙃

We got pregnant a year ago but due to personal circumstances we both decided to not go ahead, this I carry so much guilt over 🪃

Now we are both ready and settled in our careers and home but now it has taken nearly 6/7cycles.

today I got my 1st + ovulation test, so beginning our January TWW.

what is everyone else’s story 🌟

I'm 37, 38 this year and feel like I may have missed to boat to have our third child.
I know I am extremely lucky to have the two children I do, but has my heart set on a third.
We are on cycle 4 now. I spot a lot from cd21 to cd28 so think I may have a progesterone problem ?
I've just ordered an egg reserve kit to test if I'm low.
I don't know what else to do, we DTD 10 days is a row in December - all through fertile days and day of ovulation etc and still
No pregnancy. I did this with my previous 2 children and it worked then!

I am 38 this year too & 1 9yr old.
TTC with my partner who has x2 boys also to a previous relationship.
I am a nurse and I have patients coming in my clinic pregnant at aged 40+ so it may not be the end for you 🫶🏼

Thanks for you reply. My best friend just had a baby at 38 so I know it is possible, just didn't have a problem conceiving the other two now it is proving tough and not sure it will happen.
I have an 8 yr old girl, tough thinking the age gap is going getting bigger and bigger!

We got caught pregnant last Oct 2023, due to personal circumstances we regrettably terminated.
so I know we are both okay, however been trying since August 2024 and nothing & we are always 🐰
Hoping that wasn’t my last chance but it does hang over my head with it being my age.
tough when I see pregnant women coming in to see me daily too or new norms for immunisations.
just holding tightly on to some luck ✨
What dpo are you today? Xx

Yes I bet, seeing them everyday must be really hard!
I'm struggling to even function normally at work with all this ttc stuff on my mind all the time!
I am 10dpo today, but spotting so I know I am out this month. Just wanting AF to get here so I can start again!
As we have 2 children I imagine my husbands sperm is fine, I put in a lot of this month too so the issue must be me!
I'm just researching acupuncture and whether that might help!?

Male fertility is far more variable and subject to environmental factors than previously thought. Women tend to be steady (barring any issues) then slowly decline with age.

My partner went to the doctor last month about an unrelated issue but mentioned we were ttc and it hadn’t happened yet. The doctor said that considering we conceived quite recently (June 2023), if we struggle, it’s far more likely to be an issue with his sperm than with my eggs/hormones. Doctor said he could have possibly developed a varicocele (which is why I’ve got him icing his bits) or environmental factors, which with proper diet, exercise, sleep, supplements, etc would likely correct in around 12 weeks (sperm cells are on a 12 week production cycle)

Also, having read up a lot recently, our egg cells become slightly tougher to penetrate as we get older, meaning sperm quality and motility matters more.

Glad I’m not the only one who struggles to function in tww. I thought I was going mad last cycle!

I am taking prenatals and vitamin D.
For the luteal phase problem I am taking vitamin C, zinc, magnesium, curcumin and vitex.
So far all I have achieved after months of supplements is to reduce the pms pain a little. I am still nowhere near the health and quality of life I had before :( I feel like I am dying.
I want to add p5p(b6) to the mix to see if that helps.
I just want to turn back time and slap some sense into my old self.

Virtual slap 👋 😄
keep calm and 🧘‍♀️ relax
From what you have said you’re doing your very best! Don’t doubt yourself lovely ✨🫶🏼

How is everyone doing? I’m starting the 2ww today 🤞

12DPO today
Tender 🍉🍉
no other symptoms today
Had fizzy feeling in lower abdo in the evening.
BFN the last few days
AF due next week ✨

I am 12DPO I think my AF on Flo states 20th January due.

But if it is what my regular is every 3rd week from 1st cycle I’m next due which works out 24th?

cycles varies between 22-26days

Looks like you can test soon 🤞 I’ve used Premom alongside Flo this month and I think it’s far more accurate for my ovulation dates. Especially with the OPKs along with it, it updated its predictions as I logged more information. I think Flo had me out by quite a few days last month.

Hi ladies. Can I please join you 🙈

I’m 36, been with my DH 16yrs and we’ve been TTC for over 10yrs. Finally got the courage to reach out to the Drs last year and got a surprise BFP the day the hospital called to book my investigatory scan. Sadly ended in MC 😢 then shockingly got another BFP a month later which also ended in MC but can’t be proven due to lack of advice from drs / epu. Myself and DH convinced it was a new pregnancy though.

my cycles are all over the place now so I’m on my second cycle using OPKs. No idea what I’m doing with them 😂 my cycles have ranged from 21 - 32 days, always 28 days before MC.

can I please come and hang out with you guys ❤️

Hi 👋 😊

Sorry to hear you’ve had a rough time.
My first cycle using OPKs properly, the Premom app has a function that reads them which has helped me loads this month as I just could get my head around them before 😂

Thank you.

im using Premom OPKs and app and it didn’t detect my peak last month and it seems
ive also missed it this month. I’ve had some high readings this month which was better than last month when everything was just low 😂

TTC is such a journey, makes me laugh when we think back to sex ed in school and was basically told all we had to do was look at a penis and we’d get pregnant 🙈😂

It’s really is a journey, I fell pregnant accidentally around 18 months ago and couldn’t continue the pregnancy at that time. So now that I’m having to properly try, it really stings but, ce la vie, we’ll get there.

The OPKs are tricky. I never get a true positive because I drink lots of water so my highest is usually 0.8 but the pattern shows that it’s my peak and ties in with my ov symptoms too. Although the over thinking makes it all the more difficult 😂
We tried to do SMEP this cycle but partner has had some pain and tbh he’s really feeling the stress of ttc so we skipped the last one. Just hoping we got the timing right when we did manage.
Might try an insemination kit next cycle if we’re don’t get there this one to take some pressure off for him.

It is so annoying isn’t it. Fingers crossed for you this cycle. It can put alot of pressure on them. Keep us posted if you try an insemination kit though.

That’s interesting you say about drinking a lot of water, I’m the same. Although I read that you should continue water in take as normal? See I’m so confused lol.

my highest reading this month was as below. But it’s saying my predicted ovulation day is today. But I’m thinking my peak would of been CD13?

What is this app?
is it cheap? And/comes with sticks ?
x

I am actually 12dpo today 🤦🏻‍♀️ getting confused updating.
we can symptom share 🙂🫶🏼
Weird dream last night, nothing new with me there though 😌
still 🍉🍉 tender, bloated feeling but not puffy bloated as such until I eat (slim build)
Tested BFN this morning 😓✨

It’s Premom and easy@home tests. I have said if I don’t have much luck with them then I will try the clear blue digital ones maybe.

sorry about your BFN this morning. You’re still in though so fingers crossed for you. You’ve got a few hopeful symptoms so fingers crossed and baby dust

I’ve just called my GP to ask them if they will accept my blood bottles if I bring them in next week as new cycle due then.
as my GP appt to discuss fertility isn’t until the following Tuesday 28th.
I’m certain it’s between cycle day 1-3 for blood levels.
fingers crossed I don’t get to that stage and I have a happy result in the next few days but feeling doubtful today 😢✨ x

what bloods do they check on fertility or shall I request? X

Hi, hope it’s ok to jump on, I’m 37 TTC my 2nd child, first is nearly 7 years old. We have been trying for a few months now, periods are usually like clockwork (26-28 days) but this month i didn’t come on, tested and got a faint positive on a few tests but the digital tests said not pregnant. Today I have started to bleed had really bad stomach pains (which I don’t usually get either) I have tested again today and it’s still showing a faint positive, so maybe having a chemical pregnancy or maybe just feeling worse because I’m now a week late.

same situation 😓
38 this year actively TTC using apps and ovulation kits past 4/5.

Just spoken to my GP asked if she could request blood tests ready for me for next week when I am due on so it’s good timing!
Actual GP appt 28th but wanted to get the ball rolling sooner.

I can do the bloods done at my practice so I’m lucky in that sense.

GP mentioned as I have x1 child (10) and my partner has x2 we wouldn’t qualify for IVF on the NHS but positive that we both have been able to conceive (in a positive way) so bitter sweet, wish we hadn’t decided on termination but it was the best decision at the time.

bloods being done: (between cycle day 1-3)
Full blood count
ferritin
folate
b12
LH
FSH
Thyroid
Prolacton
Creative Protein count (CRP)
progesterone (cycle day 21)

REALLY REALLY wishing AF is a BFP next week, but all sensitive tests have been negative 🫠

Going to buy some pregnacare preconception supplements next week too.

got to keep positive 🫶🏼✨✨✨

DPO 13 tomorrow!

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I wouldn't buy the pregnacare ones, I have been told they aren't good at all, full of lots of fillers. Inessa ones are good quality apparently, I've just started them a week ago.

For best quality pregnancy/conceiving pills go to NHP (natural health practise). They aren't cheap but very high quality. You can take the same ones pre pregnancy, during and after.

To get pregnant I swear by conceive+ lube. It helps sperm motility and takes them on a nice journey to where they need to go.

Helped me both times and a colleague confided in me she was struggling and I recommended that and it worked for her.