TTC after loss part 6

[Figtree11]

Previous thread created is nearly full so starting a new one. Will try and tag names

Sorry ladies, I take it all back. Negative freer this morning 😢

@Mummysparrow i’m doing a bit better thank you. Trying to stay in the moment & not overthink which is helping.
I’m sorry you’re waiting on ovulation to come - our bodies are funny things. I’ve no advice, but hope it comes soon for you.

@Ncl31 thank you. How are you doing?

Oh I’m sorry @Nic2908 it was so clear yesterday. I’ve not used a frer before so not sure about them. Perhaps try again tomorrow?

@Figtree11 I’m okay thank you. Just counting down the days until AF is due.
@Nic2908 oh no, it looked so clear yesterday. Are you going to test again? How many DPO are you?

I’m in my first TWW following MMC. I am 4dpo and just wish I knew now, as we all do.
My boyfriends best friend just did a cutesy Halloween pregnancy announcement on social media , due date the same as what ours would have been. I feel like such a bitch as I just can’t bring myself to comment and congratulate. I will of course I will and I am happy for them just very sad for us.
sending lots of positive vibes to you all xxxxx

@Superscientist i have just read through the chat congratulations cxxxxxxx

@Nic2908 the test looked so positive. Sorry it was negative this morning, what a rollercoaster. Have you tested again x

Thanks guys. I’ve not tested again. Will just do another one tomorrow. Feel like such a fool for even getting slightly excited. I really should know better. It was a great positive day. Not fair at all.

@Nic2908 have you used frer before? I know when I was last ttc, another thread I was in (also ttc after loss) had a few ladies in there who never got results with a pink dye test. Not sure if that is official or anything, but have you got another brand to try with?

@Superscientist congratulations! I hadn’t seen your post - I seem to not get regular notifications so when I do, it only ever takes me to the last post! I have my fingers crossed for you!

has anyone experienced ovulation whilst still having a positive pregnancy test? My MVA was 2 weeks ago. I’m still showing as pregnant on one step cheapy tests, although it was a feint line (didn’t have to squint or anything - it was still clearly there, just light) but on the flip side, my body is 100% doing what it wouldndo during ovulation - I even got the pain in my overy this evening like I do. I was going to ttc straight away, but as my tests still come back as positive, my LH strips also read as high, and my temp is high too, so I feel like it would be pretty impossible to pinpoint any ovulation, and also date any possible pregnancy (if we were successful!) Do you think waiting it iut is the best course if action - I guess it would be better to have a truly negative pregnancy test so I knew the next (hopefully) bfp was real and not left over from the mmc. Gah - ttc is one big period of overthing and analysing isn’t it!

@Joleyjojo its really difficult, its completely normal to feel like that. I also know someone who did a Halloween pregnancy announcement. Don’t know her too well, so i clicked like, and then muted her.

@Nic2908 sending love to you xxx

@Bellabubble i think the hcg left in your system is making the lh strips look positive. Not sure about the signs you are feeling though. If it were me, i would wait until your test is negative. If you were to get pregnant, I think you will feel stressed not knowing if you actually were pregnant or it was left over hcg from before. The EPU would want to see you too if you test positive for a couple more weeks, I had to go back in for a blood test when I was still testing positive 4 weeks after surgery as they need to make sure no retained products etc

So sorry @Nic2908 that was such a strong positive. Definitely test again tomorrow x

I think you can ovulate still with some HCG in your system, it's the drop which triggers it. After both my MCs it took 3 weeks for a blank pregnancy test but my period returned exactly 4 weeks later so there would have been some overlap x

Yes I had signs of ovulation around 2 weeks after my miscarriage. My period came 2 weeks later so it tracks. My HCG was between 150 (measured at 1.5 weeks) and 25 (measured at 2.5 weeks). I did a pregnancy test at 3 weeks which was negative.

Period arrival for me today 😞 early too, at least I didn’t have to torture myself too long I guess.

I’m sorry 😔 It’s so horrible when it arrives

Ladies I’m on a rollercoaster. My tests have lines but they are not progressing very fast, and if anything they had a where they went lighter. Freer is just starting to look like it’s getting stronger but not where it should be. And on the simple one step strips there is a line but you can hardly see it. Digital is saying pregnant, but it takes forever to come up and even though you shouldn’t when I opened up the test there is only one line there not two. EPAU have said that they think it is going to be a likely chemical and to contact them in a week if my period hasn’t arrived. I feel like I am going insane. Late miss carriage, early miscarriage and the a chemical. Looks like I’m going to get the full t shirt doesn’t it 😢😢😢😢😢 you can even hear how neurotic I am through this post. I think I need your help to tell me to get a grip.

Oh @Nic2908 that sounds so hard. You definitely don’t need to get a grip at all. How many DPO are you now, when would your period have been due? I’ve not had a chemical before so don’t know what it’s like, but I can fully appreciate the stress & anxiousness you must be feeling. It’s so unfair that it’s not a straight forward case of getting a positive test & then that’s it. I really hope things work out for you, but I’m so sorry you are having to experience this

@Figtree11 i am on day 32 of my cycle and they are usually 28/29 days. I ovulated roughly around Monday 20th. And I know this because I had a repeat internal scan on the 21st and they could see a corpius lutium or what ever they are called.

@Nic2908 you aren’t neurotic! It is such a difficult time ttc, for those of us where it doesn’t just happen fairly quickly and then go on into a full term pregnancy it is such a time of over thinking, second guessing and anxiety! Is there anything no you could so to distract yourself to help some time pass? I know it is ieasier said than done, but if you can keep yourself busy it might let your brain/thoughts have a bit of rest at least xx

Spent the day at my boyfriend's brother's birthday do. Everyone had young kids. Everyone was talking about kid/baby stuff. We weren't allowed to mention feeling tired because "just wait until you have kids" (most people there didn't know our history but his brother also used that line and I wanted to punch him for his lack of sensitivity). I am emotionally wiped out, that was way harder than I thought it would be.

Thank you @Figtree11 @Superscientist @ThelastRolo20 - I think that I’ll wait until I see a negative teat before TTC! I don’t want the added stress of not knowing if/when I conceived or whether it’s anything retained. My husband is working away this coming week anyways and I suspect I will ovulate when he is away. I know it could all hang around, but we’re at the stage where we just dtd once now at that time lol - it can seem a bit “transactional” and too stressful given the amount of months it can take us and what not!

@Nic2908 im so sorry it’s awful! I had similar happen to me a couple of months ago. I had a chemical in July strong positive on frer and faint on Amazon cheapies but didn’t progress and then 3 days later AF I was absolutely gutted!!!Ypu get your hopes up and it’s taken away so soon it’s so unfair I’m so sorry. I do hope it isn’t a chemical and it’s just hcg being slow to rise. Got everything crossed.

I had BFN yesterday at 10dpo and today at 11dpo. I don’t know why I do it to myself. I wish I had the self control. Now I’m sad 2 days before AF even due just wish it would hurry up. At this rate I think it’ll never happen. Just doesn’t make any sense. We conceived my first on the first try and now bar the chemical in July nothing for a whole year!

I’m so sorry - that sounds really tough! I hate the insensitivity of it all. I know for some people who haven’t ever experienced it - they are in blissful ignorance and even if they know your situation, they don’t really comprehend it even if they are empathetic, but I just don’t get the whole asking/commenting about wanting children, and then the whole “just you wait..” once they do have children. Also - being a parent does not make their tiredness more than anyone else’s. I have been way more tired and run down pre-child!

I had a couple of family members ask at a baby shower some years ago “you need to get on it” and “do you actually want children” and I was not very mature! I answered that my boyfriend and I wanted to be married (wasn’t the case at all but my cousin had got back with an ex just to fall pregnant then dumped him) and when they asked a couple of years later (because they clearly didn’t learn the first time) I bit again because I had just had a loss - which I told them and they looked so horrified but they never asked again!

I'm sorry your period arrived @PensivePencil I hope you are doing ok x

@Bellabubble Sounds like you have got some good advice from the ladies on here. I think still having the faint line is a whole other emotional side of things too, I remember wanting to see the negative test but also being sad at it when it came. Hoping you dont have long before you get fresh new cycle and can try again. And I'm with you with the transactional dtd, it is hard to keep it romantic at that time of the cycle. Hope you are ok x

@Beanie14 sorry about the bfn ❤️ I do it to myself most cycles too and everytime I think next time I will wait but it's easier said than done, especially when you want it so much and have been waiting so long x

@moosey89 That was very insensitive, people just don't think before they speak , that must of been really tough for you to sit through that, I'm sorry x

@Ncl31 sorry to see all the confusion with your tests. I hope you have clarity soon and the time until then goes fast for you x

@Joleyjojo Pregnancy announcements are the worst, it literally gives you the feeling that your stomach has dropped out of your body. Sorry you are having to deal with that x

I'm sorry I tagged the wrong 'N' in my last comment, I meant to tag @Nic2908 about the tests.
Sorry @Ncl31 xx