TTC after loss part 6

[Figtree11]

Previous thread created is nearly full so starting a new one. Will try and tag names

Thank you @Ella31 for creating the original threads. They have been a life line.

@moosey89
@CadoAvo
@PearlCat
@Ncl31
@Superscientist
@Blueskies4
@Mummysparrow

I’m sorry for missing people off - I just added the names of people from the last couple of pages from the last thread. But feel free for anyone else to comment

@ThelastRolo20 @jellyfish2 @Ella31
@DonnaWhat I wasn’t sure whether you ladies wanted to be on the new thread or not, but you have all been so supportive & would love to know how you all get on & progress

Thanks for the new thread @Figtree11

Thanks for adding me to the new thread.
I am cd6 of cycle 4 since loss. I am so confused with what is going on with my body. I started spotting at 9dpo so stopped the maca root in case that was the cause and period arrived and stopped like normal. Now I am having blood and not sure whether to refer to it as spotting or not. But it is fresh blood when I wipe and some spotting in my knickers and then it will go and come back again. This evening I have some light cramps. So confused. I am wondering whether I have had a chemical pregnancy that I never picked up on. Or my hormones are just f**d up 😂
I sent my cd3 bloods off to hertility a few days ago so I will be interested to see what they say. Still awaiting for my scan appointment (referred by GP) to check for fibroids.

@Figtree11 thanks for adding me lovely. I'd love to continue in this group, it was and is such a support to me ❤️

@Figtree11 thanks for the new thread ❤️

I came home after a long day at work and got a digital BFP so I'm on cloud 9 right now and really hope to remain optimistic despite my previous losses.

I'm off on holiday on Sunday which will be just the perfect distraction and I'll be cheering all you lovely ladies on, even if I don't post too much ☺️

@Mummysparrow i have been all over the show with my cycles. I’ve no advice I’m afraid, apart from I totally get the frustration! I’ve no idea what my body is doing. Let me know how you get on with hertility

@ThelastRolo20 i’m so glad ❤️

Congratulations @CadoAvo such wonderful news. Enjoy your holiday xx

Thank you for the new thread @Figtree11 be kind to yourself and lots of self care. AF is always a tough blow xx

i’m currently 7 days post MVA - bleeding has stopped, but obviously no idea about how my cycle will look. They said to do a pregnancy test in 3 weeks and if it is positive I would need to go back, but I’m too impatient. Might do one at 2 weeks. I’m in 2 minds about whether to ttc this month. After my first mmc we took 8 cycles before a bfp, and then after that loss we didn’t try for the first cycle, and got our rainbow bubba bfp the month after. I just feel like time is of the essence now though - I’m 40, so feel like I can’t waste a month..but also think, why am I worrying, I don’t even know what my cycle is going to be like! I’m trying hard to make sure it doesn’t consume my every thoughts like it did before!

Thanks @Figtree11 happy to hand over the mantle. Happy to stay here if people don't mind.

I’m still lurking around. Reading and following how everyone is doing. Still nothing my way either. Just that same old crappy feeling every month where you pretend that your ok but really your devastated inside and do know how your going to keeping going for another month.

@Figtree11 I'm still going to be lurking in the background.

@CadoAvo Congratulations. Praying for a sticky bean.

I am cheering you all on from the sidelines to get your bfps. You were all really supportive to me and I want to still keep repaying the favour.

We've seen alot of ups and downs on the thread including seeing alot of women that came to the thread so down and deflated to eventually getting their bfps.

That's what this thread was all about. We all know the bfps come in train loads and I can't wait to see all of you with yours.

Thank you @Bellabubble xx How are you feeling post MVA? I hope it’s not long until your test goes negative so you can try again & your cycle isn’t too disrupted.

@Ella31 of course, it wouldn’t be the same without you here

I’m sorry @Nic2908 i totally get that feeling. I actually thought I was doing ok recently, AF has really knocked me so I feel exactly like you are

@DonnaWhat thank you, really hope everything works out for us all & the next lot of bfps are on the way

Another sleepless night for me. Genuinely felt ok recently - but maybe I had an underlying sense of how during the TWW. I just can’t stop thinking about what could have been. And that being a mum feels like it is getting further & further out of each

@Figtree11

Regarding your super long cycle
Have u had your feretin checked ?
I had a mad length cycle once this yr
And once last yr
Both times my feretin was low - too low and my body needed iron iv
Good feretin is important for implantation and pregnancy

Thank you @Figtree11 for starting the new thread. Really hope you're doing okay. My AF has come this morning and I'm feeling yucky with it this month, have had Noravirus and the flu so my body hasn't been doing much relaxing.. feeling pretty run down this month in general!

It's so hard isn't it, to live by each month. I just question myself constantly and wonder what I'm doing wrong. We've decided to give it till next June before we go down the option of IVF. That will have given us another year naturally trying. My husband's results came back all good which was positive and I think setting that deadline has given me some peace this week.

Sending you all so much love and light. I think the only thing we can do is not to think too far ahead into the future. One step at a time. Xxx

Thanks @Figtree11 .

@Nic2908 I totally understand. It's the constant unknown, being so out of control. I hate it. I'm nearing the end of my TTC journey to be honest. Maximum of 9 more months of trying and we're done. We've also agreed we're not going down the IVF route. I've never wanted to and having unexplained recurring miscarriage, the chance of success down that route is just too low. If after my July cycle next year it hasn't happened, then that's it.

Thanks @Figtree11 I’m sorry you haven’t had a great sleep. I sort much better last night than I had been. So feeling a bit more refreshed today.

Joining this thread too. Nothing to report. TTC again in a few days

Joining the new thread..

I’ve also debated doing Hertility but it was too late for this cycle so haven’t ordered yet.. would be interested to hear if people would recommend it?

@moosey89 thats such a brave decision to make. I also am starting to feel like I need to put a deadline on it. I’m 38, the longer I try the older I am going to be. I’ve moved from the miscarriage clinic to the fertility clinic as they can do extended tests before referring onto the tertiary centre for IVF. But I won’t be doing that either, my body has been through so much already that I don’t want to put it through that. Plus I would have to self fund and once you start, well where the hell do you stop. I’m actually at piece with that decision as I know it’s the right one for me.

@worldwidetravel2017 thanks, yeah I had some blood tests done last week ahead of miscarriage appt and they all came back normal. This cycle was shorter than the previous one so hoping it’s going in the right direction. I had a partial molar which means very elevated hormones so I’m regulating after that I hope

Thanks @PearlCat i’m doing better today - saw my friend at lunchtime and felt better after chatting to her. I’m sorry AF has arrived for you too. It really is hard living like this - I’m tired of it. But I’m definitely going to remind myself of what you say - try not to think too far ahead. It’s when I do that that I spiral. Great news your husbands results were normal. Hopefully it’s just a matter of time for you x

@Ncl31 i’m glad you are feeling better today

@DaringlyDizzy @Confusedmermaid1 hope you are both doing ok

I highly recommend hertility health
Have used it twice

@Figtree11 thanks for the tag 🩷
Hoping to hear lots of positive news on this thread 🤞

@Nic2908 thank you. Honestly I felt so much relief when we talked it through and set a deadline. It's been weighing so heavily on me, the combination of it taking a fair while to get pregnant and the losses as well. I felt I wasn't really living anymore and I don't want to waste away my life constantly. I am still sad (and bitter and jealous) that it comes so easily to some people and that they will never have to make these kinds of decisions, but that's the way life goes, we all have different struggles I guess.

Hello all, I haven't really posted in a while, tbh I was feeling bad myself with everything and so found anything pregnancy related a bit triggering.
Feeling better now, it's now 14 months since my last loss (now on cycle 16), I'm not ready to give up yet x

Sorry to see alot of names still here too, i am hoping this new thread brings lots of us good news! Thank you for creating a new thread @Figtree11 I hope you are doing ok x

Congratulations @CadoAvo ❤️ Hope you are doing well x

I can understand having a plan and cut off date taking some of the stress out of things... you hear people say that's the time when it happens, hope there is truth in that for you @moosey89 x

It’s nice to hear from you @Ladyinpink1 I understand needing to take a step away, it can be so difficult & you have to protect yourself. I have been having a down week, but todays a new day