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TTC after loss part 6

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Figtree11 · 24/10/2024 20:14

Previous thread created is nearly full so starting a new one. Will try and tag names

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Jemmy94 · 02/05/2025 10:55

Melusina123 · 01/05/2025 13:44

@Jemmy94 with both my MVAs there was a random bleed a few weeks later that was probably some retained something coming away, so it definitely can happen. In neither case was it big (but in the second case it was seen on a scan before it came away) so it’s very possible that it’s come with your period and it wouldn’t have been obviously much heavier. Fingers crossed for you.

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Thank you for sharing, I am hoping that is what the scan will show today that its come away. Did your second show blood flow to the tissue? I have everything crossed that it's come away.

Matthew54 · 02/05/2025 11:26

Hi team. I’ve been referred to the Breast Clinic for pain in my left breast armpit and the fact I can still self express from both breasts. I have no lumps. I’m hoping it’s just a pectoral muscle strain that’s exacerbated by daily activities, but im very freaked out at the moment. Not inclined to try until they see me and I can get a diagnosis.

I am not certain I would be this panicked if I hadn’t had a miscarriage and been betrayed by my body. I keep reading horrific posts about people who went in and suddenly get a stage 4 diagnosis.

SnakebitesandSambucas · 02/05/2025 11:53

Hi @Matthew54 I got frequent breast pain and lumps. Turns out I have mastalgia and it got worse after each of my misscarriges. Obviously always get checked out. The hand exam is not uncomfortable just odd. I took the myo insotol and coq 10 to try and regulate my hormones a bit which helped the breast pain.

Matthew54 · 02/05/2025 11:56

I’m hopeful in that I have no lumps and that I’ve had a mild pec tear before. I am really really hoping I just ripped something rather than the alternative.

Two weeks to get seen is going to be agony.

SnakebitesandSambucas · 02/05/2025 12:24

It's a horrible wait. But focus on what you can do. Physio exercises?

Ncl31 · 09/05/2025 07:18

Well ladies my second AF after my MMC is here. We didn’t particularly try last cycle because we were still waiting for our genetic results. Hoping that this cycle we can give it our best shot again. Looks like my fertile window will be when we’re in Cyprus

Mummysparrow · 10/05/2025 12:17

6dpo and trying to not go crazy. I have convinced myself that I am pregnant so if the test doesn't show this on Wednesday there maybe a tantrum 😂😂 I have had some light cramping though none today, headaches and low level nausea/indigestion and fatigue. Plus I decided I no longer like broccoli last night 😂 if not pregnant then my body is just being cruel to me
@Ncl31 my next fertile cycle will be just before I go to Cyprus if this cycle isn't successful 😂 where in Cyprus are you going?

Ncl31 · 10/05/2025 12:37

Mummysparrow · 10/05/2025 12:17

6dpo and trying to not go crazy. I have convinced myself that I am pregnant so if the test doesn't show this on Wednesday there maybe a tantrum 😂😂 I have had some light cramping though none today, headaches and low level nausea/indigestion and fatigue. Plus I decided I no longer like broccoli last night 😂 if not pregnant then my body is just being cruel to me
@Ncl31 my next fertile cycle will be just before I go to Cyprus if this cycle isn't successful 😂 where in Cyprus are you going?

Fingers crossed it’s all good signs for you!
this time we’re going to Limassol. But when we go back in July we’re in Paphos.
we’ve already been to Paphos in March this year too.

Mummysparrow · 10/05/2025 12:39

@Ncl31 sage to say you like Cyprus then 😂 I am going to Paphos

Esssa · 11/05/2025 20:52

Well fingers crossed I'm pretty sure I've a bfp! Just got to wait and make sure it's not a chemical then I'll let epu know so they can book me in for a scan at 7 weeks. Feeling pretty weird about it tbh. I want to be excited but I'm also super numb about the whole thing at the same time.

Esssa · 11/05/2025 20:55

Sorry this was supposed to be attached but it wasn't working

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BGxxx · 12/05/2025 07:36

@Esssa thats a great line! I definitely get that, its hard to get excited when you know what can happen

Mummysparrow · 12/05/2025 11:17

So I took a test at work and I didn't see a line within a minute or two so went back to work. Looked at test again and hour later and this line is on it. Is it real or an evap?

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Esssa · 12/05/2025 11:21

Thanks @BGxxx I hope so. I need to step away from the pee sticks but it's so hard. I'm having issues with my morning pee being too diluted to get a good result on the sticks. I'm a sucker for line progression which is not really happening. Think I need a different type of test than these cheapies and wait a couple of days. Then leave it alone! So worried it's going to be a chemical which I've never had before. I'm 2 children and 4 losses in and it doesn't get any easier.

Esssa · 12/05/2025 11:23

Oh that's a tricky one @Mummysparrow I don't use blue dye tests so I'm no help. Official line is discard and retest. Fingers crossed for you.

Mummysparrow · 12/05/2025 20:59

Taken a FREar this evening and it was negative 😭 bloody clearblue and their evap lines

Esssa · 12/05/2025 22:28

Oh I'm sorry to read that Mummysparrow, any chance it's still just early?

Ncl31 · 13/05/2025 20:38

@Mummysparrow id be inclined to say that’s an Evap. Usually the BFP lines are thicker than yours.
how many DPO are you?
are you able to get a pink dye test?

@Esssa that looks a really clear line. Keeping my fingers crossed it all progresses well for you

Mummysparrow · 13/05/2025 20:46

@Esssa usually I get a positive around 10dpo (but because I hasn't tested earlier as I used to have self control) so I am coming to the assumption that I would have at least a faint line on 9dpo which I am today. Gutted to say the least and have asked the GP for an appointment.
I just don't understand how I could conceive so easily before the loss and now I can't. Not even a chemical pregnancy. Nothing is implanting at all. I wonder if I have endometritis or some kind of inflammation as I did have some retained products that came out and 3 weeks after the medicated termination.

Esssa · 16/05/2025 12:45

Well my lines got a bit darker but have now faded a week later. So looks like I'm waiting for a bleed and then back to the never ending waiting for this and that.

Fullofconfusion · 16/05/2025 13:53

@Esssasorry your lines don’t seem to have progressed. I had a chemical back in February and found it really tough. As soon as you see the line you start to have all those happy and scared feelings and then to have it whisked away again is so hard. Sending hugs

I’m now 6 weeks pregnant so it can happen. I’m still terrified that something is going to happen but I’m trying to take each day as it comes

SnakebitesandSambucas · 16/05/2025 23:01

Hi all, I've been on this thread lurking in the earlys not posting about my own losses or TTC. So I'm just posting that after reaching 15 pregnancies all in all. I now have my blessed miracle third baby born today a boy at 7.13oz. his older siblings a boy 9 and a girl 5 are in love. although I never chose to find out the sex the testing reports do tell you. So it was very bittersweet and made names more complicated. As I'm sure you will understand. Love too all no matter where you are on this journey.

Matthew54 · 20/05/2025 19:30

Hi guys,

I am ten days dpo and got a faint line on a clearblue. I’m honestly numb. I just was told yesterday I definitively don’t have breast cancer. I’ve cried more over the past two months than I’ve thought possible since my miscarriage.

I am tentatively hopeful, but won’t be retesting for another day or two to see if the line darkens.

I am having a hard time in the sense that I don’t want to get to attached to my hope and joy this time.

Ncl31 · 21/05/2025 06:57

Matthew54 · 20/05/2025 19:30

Hi guys,

I am ten days dpo and got a faint line on a clearblue. I’m honestly numb. I just was told yesterday I definitively don’t have breast cancer. I’ve cried more over the past two months than I’ve thought possible since my miscarriage.

I am tentatively hopeful, but won’t be retesting for another day or two to see if the line darkens.

I am having a hard time in the sense that I don’t want to get to attached to my hope and joy this time.

What amazing news about no breast cancer. This faint blue line will be the icing on the cake. I really hope in a few days you get the best news ever

Matthew54 · 21/05/2025 13:15

Thank you so much. I tested again and got another faint positive, negative on the digital. I suppose the only thing to do now is wait a few more days to see if this is “real” or not. This is one of the worst parts, it feels like a holding a bubble of hope in a steel cage