TTC after Miscarriage part 4

[Ella31]

Starting thread number 4, can you believe it? Congrats to everyone who has been lucky the last few threads and for those who have had recent losses again or new, keep strong, you are amazing. To those still trying, it will happen, myself included there and we will support each other.

I'll just include a foreward for anyone new who joins us, this is a supportive group for anyone who has had a loss, no matter how early or late. Everyone here has experieced the upset and understands.

Ive gone through the list and more than likely left people out so add anyone you think I've forgotten.

@ToeBeans24

@DonnaWhat
@Onthedouble123
@Lovedatforme

@emmatcc1
@ncl31
@MisssMarion
@Loz365
@Tallgirl91
@Figtree11
@ThelastRolo20
@mountainlass
@CadoAvo

@Joleyjojo

@Jellyfish2

@B1989
@rosyposy26

@RaisingCornishWildlings
@Rockyslife
@sarahk89

@Ella31 I definitely think that's likely too early to mean anything with a singleton pregnancy. Keeping my fingers crossed for good news over the next few days!
@fingerscrossedmumma could be implantation?
@Tallgirl91 did you test anymore?
@Loz365 delays are frustrating when we just want a baby to be here in our arms! But hopefully it will go quite quickly and you'll be armed with more information to make the next try the successful one 🤞🏻🤞🏻

That's great news xx

9dpo bfn. No cramps which is strange but I expect my period will be here in two days.

I think I did get my period - so in a good way at least my cycles are back to its usual length, but bad thing is now they are very short again at 24 days!

Mine were all over the place after my boys death. It will take time to regulate but they will.

Sorry it's still a negative lovely. Really hoping you still have a turnaround and it's your month 🤞🏻

@Ella31 there's definitely still time 🤞🏻🤞🏻
How are you feeling symptomwise? Xx

Weirdly I've no cramps at all unlike the last 6 months where by 7dpo I had back ache and cramps. How are you?

Thanks @ThelastRolo20 had a really tough day today. I burst out crying at my dh nieces 1st bday party.

one of my sister in laws baby was born 4 weeks after our boys and a guest walked in as me and oh sat there, congratulated her on her baby and said to my sister in laws baby "last time I saw you, you were just a bump", then said your family has grown so much now, loads of new cousins too (my other sil also had a baby). Ironically the last time she saw me which was the same day as this baby, my boys were a bump too. She ignored me and oh and walked out.

This was the first time i saw her since i was pregnant with my sons. I literally burst into tears and ran from the room. I was so embarrassed and ashamed. Dh drove me home. It was a children's zone really and I was the odd one out.

I'm so sorry, some people just really don't know what to do and make it ten times worse by doing nothing ❤️

You were so strong to even go today, it would have been so easy to have said no. I hope you and your DH can do your own thing tomorrow even if that's just staying at home in your own company xx

I'm not an expert obviously 😅🤣 but I know brands like seven seas and pregnacare have lengthened some women's cycles. B6 and vit c affect luteal phase. And without a shadow of doubt coenzyme 10 lengthened my ovulation by a week. I don't know the one you mentioned though.

@Ella31 that's hopefully a good sign too then. I'm keeping the faith for you. 💕
I'm 5dpo so not really got into the whole symptom spotting mania yet.
That sounds horrific for you to go through. Im so sorry. A double whammy of a tough weekend for both of you. I hope you can lean on each other tomorrow and do something just for the two you. Xx
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Thank you @Onthedouble123 and @ThelastRolo20 I hope my grief isn't clouding my judgement. It was just so blatant that we and our boys didn't matter. I haven't cried in front of my dh's family at all and this was the first time. This is birthday party number 5 since our boys. We've had, 2 births, 2 christenings, 5 birthdays since them. I can't go to anymore right now. I'm mentally exhausted

5dpo you aren't too far behind me. I'm 9dpo but my ovusense said om 7dpo..I don't know if you temp but it's so confusing.

@Ella31 Sorry to hear that they put you in that position without any compassion. People can just be wrapped up in their own worlds without a thought for other people. Until they walk our path they'll never know. I went to my uncles the other week (when I was pregnant but not telling anyone) it was my brothers birthday drinks. My cousin walks in and she's just had a baby and I was happy to see them but as soon as they walked through the door I was handed baby to feed as they seem to like to cuddle my boobies 😆 but then my brother turned round and said all that baby would get out of them would be powder! He knew about my miscarriage. That hurt but deep down I was like I'll show you you little bugger. But then I had a chemical. The point I think I'm trying to make is ignore them, you'll always get the last laugh xxxx

You poor thing. That's horrible. I hope you realise how strong you are to get through thst.

I agree. They have no idea. I just sat there today thinking - it's fathers day tomorrow....and when I asked my husband what would you like to do, he said. Can we go to their grave?

So yeah tomorrow is putting flowers on our two beautiful sons grave again. Apologies for all the negativity today but sometimes I can't believe I buried my two sons 6 months ago. I do anything to hold them again and I wish I could have saved them. I should feel lucky that one of our boys lived for 4 days and we got to hold him and love him. But it's so so so hard.

We're here for the good and the bad, don't ever apologise for your thoughts, we all have good days and bad days, spending a bit of time with your beautiful angels tomorrow sounds lovely. I wish we could take your pain away for you. Those little boys of yours will send you your rainbow soon ❣️ Happy Fathers Day to your hubby for tomorrow xxx

I can’t imagine what you and your husband are going through. Don’t apologise that’s what everyone is here for. Sending love to you for tomorrow x

@Ella31 interesting that ovusense had you ovulating a couple of days later! Hope you're feeling a bit better today xx

I know, it's very frustrating. I feel it's not right though.

Af arrived at 10dpo in the last hour.

I'm sorry. That absolutely sucks, I was really hoping for you this month 💔

@Ella31 that truly is rubbish 😔 I'm so sorry to hear that. 💔 This is such a cruel, heart wrenching process. Xx

@ThelastRolo20 @Onthedouble123 I'm going to view it as extra ammunition going into those tests. I got the forms to fill out and posted them Friday so I'll hopefully hear something by the end of this week.

@ThelastRolo20 are you feeling good after your scan yesterday?
@Onthedouble123 I'm hoping for you this week.

@DonnaWhat how are you today?

How is everyone else doing?

@Ella31 I'm so sorry, I really hoped this was your month.

@Ella31 these tests seem to be coming at a good time ❤️ I hope you get an appointment soon.

It's really kind of you to ask how I am. The scan was already 3 days ago if you can believe it. It was in this week that my first miscarriage happened (although I obviously didn't find out until the 12 week scan) so that obviously brings quite a bit of anxiety. I have a private scan on Sunday when I'll be 10 weeks, that'll be a bit of a milestone passed I hope. Trying to stay distracted in the meantime.