CD1 ttc after loss carry on thread #3

[Ladyinpink1]

I went to reply and you were right, the thread was full so I couldnt post a link to a new thread, also, because it's a new thread it wont give me a prediction to tag when I type a name, so I have just copied and paste the names off of everyone who posted on the very last page of the thread, I hope anyone else can find it OK. Sorry, maybe there is an easier better way... if anyone else can remember extra names and spellings, please tag 🙂

@samilicious

@Wise0wl

@ThelastRolo20

@13lucy

@Bugdem123

@HerbaceousPerennial

@UrsulaSings123 I'm sorry - the first few months for me post miscarriage absolutely sucked, my brain couldn't think of anything else except getting pregnant, after all there's all those stories of people getting pregnant fast after loss. I hope it doesn't take long for you to get pregnant again but remember not everyone gets pregnant in the first few months after loss and that's normal (definitely not easy though). Try to find something for you that you enjoy if your period does arrive, it's definitely a time to be extra kind to yourself xx

@UrsulaSings123 I'm so sorry. The negatives are always hard. I think there is a lot of chat about being super fertile post MC which is probably true for some people but it obviously wasn't the case for me and I think it almost set me up for more heartache as I was soo wanting to be one of those women. I hope you can find some nice things to do this weekend and when AF comes and know we're here for you.

@HerbaceousPerennial congratulations!! That's amazing news 🩷 do you have a date for your 12 week scan yet?

I had such a terrible sleep last night - the most vivid dreams and couldn't get comfy. I decided (because I am a clown) to do a test this morning at 8DPO and it's obviously negative 😅. Hope you all have a lovely day. I'm out for dinner tonight and currently eating an Easter egg for breakfast so the day is going well for me so far 😂

@Bugdem123 sounds like a good start to the day to me 😂 8DPO is still early! Hopefully the dreams are a good sign 🤞🏻🤞🏻

@UrsulaSings123 sorry to hear your tests are negative. My period was really really light and only lasted just over two days which I didn't expect as it's totally different from my normal 4 days so I'm slightly worried about it. Hopefully yours is more normal.

TW - poss positive test

I think there might be a line this morning. I can't believe it.

@Bugdem123 omg!!! On a cheapy as well. There's definitely a line there. Congratulations!
Your dreams told you before the test did. Will you be seeing family today with it being Easter? Must be so hard to keep it in, but a distraction to let the news settle in at least

Never mind pineapple cores, looks like we need Easter eggs for implantation ;) @Ladyinpink1 I'll happily take that advice on board

@UrsulaSings123 sorry you're feeling down, it's hard when they say 'you're most fertile right after', when there's actually no truth in that. Hope you're ok and the busyness distracts you ♥️

@samilicious luckily I saw them last night as I don't think I'd be able to hide the shock on my face at the minute. I really need my husband to stop his lie in so I can freak out with him 😂

@Bugdem123 that's definitely a positive! Congratulations 🎉👏🏻🎉😍 lie in? Definitely wake him up 😂

@Bugdem123 ahhh congratulations. How long did it take you since your MC? I hope this one works out well for you. Christmas baby.

@Bugdem123 There's no "think" about it, that's definitely a line! Congratulations, this is amazing news - keeping everything crossed that this is a sticky one for you. ❤️

@jellyfish2 mine are still about 3 days since my TFMR 14 months ago, but have gotten heavier over time and cycles have gone from 21-28 days in that time, so don't worry I think it's normal after MC. Especially if you needed any surgical intervention. Frustrating and worries you to death but annoyingly normal. Mine have increased a lot quicker since sleeping better, taking coq10 and omega 3 as well as a pregnancy multivitamin I was taking anyway

@Bugdem123 definitely wake him up! Are these the tests from last night then? Must be a strong bean if it has lines like that this early!

@Bugdem123 huge congratulations!! These are the tests I use and they're so reliable. So happy for you 🩷

@samilicious thank you - that does reassure me. We always think the worst don't we. I guess it's just the fear it's never going to happen but you've made me feel better, I need to remember what my body has been through having the MC and surgery.

Thank you all for confirming I'm not seeing things! I'm flipping between being excited, to relieved, to petrified and to convincing myself they're both indents and it'll be negative tomorrow.

@UrsulaSings123 thank you! it's been 7 months since my MC but we didn't try the first month so 6 months of trying.

@ThelastRolo20 @CluelessInLondon thank you 🩷 I honestly can't believe it.

@samilicious these are from this morning so 9DPO I think. I need to time to fly by so I can take another test tomorrow!

@jellyfish2 thank you! The tests I did yesterday were totally blank so I'm hoping so much it's not an indent.

@Bugdem123 congratulations lovely! How exciting! Is your OH awake yet?! 😃

@SnookyPook thank you 🩷 he had finally woken up haha. I don't think he can believe it either. He's like "but the lines aren't dark" 🤦🏻‍♀️.

Hope you're all having a lovely Easter Sunday x

That’s definitely a line! Congratulations @Bugdem123 x

@Bugdem123 hooray, big congrats! I had a massive negative then two days later my tests looked like this, based on my scan I was probably a similar stage so I doubt it’s an indent! Keeping everything crossed for you that everything progresses well 🤞🤞🤞 it is hard to believe at first but stats are on your side

@samilicious can I just ask which coq10 are you taking, and is your other half taking this also? I think I'm going to start taking this as read good things about it, but there's so many I'm not sure which one! Also some of them are like £60 for one months supply which is obviously expensive!

@Bugdem123 thanks for sharing that, gives me some hope. Really hope it all goes well for you!

I've had cramps this morning and spotting so think AF might be slightly early (due Wednesday) but that makes sense with the earlier ovulation. Would have been a 25 day cycle which is quite short for me. I really, really hope my cycles return to normal quickly. That was always something I could rely on.

@UrsulaSings123 I take the Together Health version of all the vitamins I mentioned before. I like ones that are more natural and easy to absorb. I might swap the pregnancy ones back to Cytoplan though. Got pregnant on those with healthy DD before, they're just gross to take and have to take them in the morning 🤢 DH doesn't take any fertility stuff, he has weird stomach issues so he's on a different random concoction of supplements, much to my frustration. We're both having tests at the GP at the moment so will see what they say

@Bugdem123 have you tested yet today?! Can't believe your OH said that about the lines!!! Something mine would say 😂

@samilicious have I tested - I've taken 4 😂😅 I've attached them below but please let me know if anyone finds them triggering or upsetting and I'll remove them.

@UrsulaSings123 Ubiquinol CoQ10, Powerful... https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B09NL8L1TW?ref=ppxpoppmobappshare

These are the ones my husband and I have been taking. I've taken 2 a day and my husband one. I've got no idea if they've made any difference or not but they made me feel like I was doing something. They were expensive though!

@samilicious thank you I've read they can cause insomnia so best to take in the morning?

@Bugdem123 thank you...good old amazon. Ordered already 😂just so easy. That's wonderful, must be so good to see on digital too. And only 10dpo which I think is a really good sign. I'm not gonna lie yesterday I did find it very triggering, but after the initial horrible pangs of jealousy I was able to think about how lovely that is for you and its your first too, so I am genuinely happy for you. (Also pleased for myself as hopefully that means I'm moving passed the ugly feelings that miscarriage brings haha).

@UrsulaSings123 please don't ever feel bad about the jealousy! I'm onto cycle 9 since my most recent loss and I still feel jealousy. Happy for those who are getting their BFPs but of course sad for myself and my partner at the same time.

Yesterday we were at my partner's parents house with his whole family, including his new nephew who is only a month older than the one we lost would have been. It was so so hard, took me hours to even be able to hold him and even then it was only for a short while before I had to give him back. The closer to home and the closer to what we could have had it is, the harder it feels.

In more positive news I'm cd5 and this cycle seems to be speeding by. I'm working at a sports event in the Netherlands this coming weekend then it's straight in to fertile week! Then I'm working another event like 2 weeks later so hopefully will help to distract me a bit.

@moosey89 @UrsulaSings123 it's a very normal emotion to feel, I love that this group understands those feelings.

It's FINALLY April so I'm on countdown to my cycle on which we'll finally be trying again. I'm about to enter my last TWW where I won't be analysing various symptoms😂 this time next month will be very different