CD1 ttc after loss carry on thread #3

[Ladyinpink1]

I went to reply and you were right, the thread was full so I couldnt post a link to a new thread, also, because it's a new thread it wont give me a prediction to tag when I type a name, so I have just copied and paste the names off of everyone who posted on the very last page of the thread, I hope anyone else can find it OK. Sorry, maybe there is an easier better way... if anyone else can remember extra names and spellings, please tag 🙂

@samilicious

@Wise0wl

@ThelastRolo20

@13lucy

@Bugdem123

@HerbaceousPerennial

Thanks @Ladyinpink1 . Also, I realised I muddled this thread up with another, so my apols for radio silence makes little sense! I think I'm just putting a lot of pressure on myself because I really wanted the age gap between DD and "imagined no2" to be smaller, so every month is just one month greater age gap, but I realise there are positives to that, too. DD was conceived first cycle trying as was the baby we miscarried (first cycle after 3 years due to pregnancy/breastfeeding), so I guess I've also been quite naive about how long it can take, and painfully aware I'm a few years older than I was with DD.

Still, of course, obsessing over dates. LH rise started on PM of Aug 1 (DTD), peaked on AM of Aug 2 (DTD), and EWCM CM was lots on Aug 1 and 2nd, and basically gone by Aug 3 (didn't DTD), all suggesting ovulation was either late Aug 2 or early Aug 3. But BBT didn't go up until Aug 5. I have read it can take 2 days though, which would make sense with an ovulation date of Aug 3.

Who knows... hopefully next cycle (3rd post D&C) will be more normal, and can make sure to DTD on surge day and the day after, so I don't spend 2 weeks fretting.

@ExTriTrying it's so hard when things don't work out the way they have in the past, especially when it takes longer than previously.
I understand about dtd too early, we have been doing that alot lately then by ovulation day onwards, we have both have enough, but this cycle we didn't do as much before and it was better. I got my positive opk yesterday and temp rose this morning so if it stays up for next few days then I must have ovulated last night/early hours if today so i'm not far behind you x

@Ladyinpink1 if it makes you feel any better I’m 37! My mum was trying to be comforting telling me about all the people who’ve got pregnant in their forties so I’ve plenty of time, she meant well but I did snap and point out I don’t want to have my next baby at 43, I want to have it now. Or well preferably several months ago but there we are. My spotting has finally stopped which is making me feel a lot better - however DH is away and I’ve therefore convinced myself I’m ovulating. Glad you’ve got your peak, how are you feeling?

@ExTriTrying I’m 100% with you on the age gap thing, I’m constantly imagining how old DS will be if I get pregnant now, I was so smug thinking I’d timed my perfect age gap before my first loss. But I do see friends with a variety of age gaps and they seem to make no difference at all to how well the kids do or don’t get on. I’m trying to focus on how much I get to enjoy time with him 1:1 still. Fingers crossed we don’t have much longer to wait

@HerbaceousPerennial oh good, I'm glad we are old together 😂 yes I know what you mean, all of us on here had this whole plan in our heads of ages and timings, and even of our own age when we would be giving birth, then suddenly iour plans were taken away from us and changed and I feel like we are scrambling to try to catch up with our 'plan' but the feeling of no control as the time passes is tough. Oh yay for the spotting stopping! Will you take any opks to check if it's ovulation? Have you had any other changes? I hope your dh isn't away for long.
I lwas overthinking everything last night so naturally came on here lol, I ended up starting a thread for 12+ months ttc to see if I would get some encouraging stories, or company of others in same boat but I got no replies 😂 which hasn't filled me with confidence.

I know what your mum means, mine says to me it will happen all the time but I feel like shouting "i need it to happen now!" Lol. Do you feel hopeful atm? I noticed I felt really hopeful today and I suppose it's good to do that, but I wish I didn't because then the letdown is always worse when AF arrives

Sorry I have rambled a bit there lol x

@Ladyinpink1 I did a couple and they were coming back high but not ‘peak’ - but then I get that fairly often anyway. I get a lot of EWCM and DH is back now so keeping my fingers crossed. I’m ovulation symptom spotting like a crazy lady, boobs are a bit sore but then that could also be PMS. Who knows?! I do actually feel really hopeful at the moment, it’s a bit scary but I just feel really ok and it’s lovely. I don’t feel necessarily that I’ll be pregnant very soon, but one day. I think maybe my dad’s wise words have sunk in and given me the perspective shift that I needed. I’m glad you’re feeling hopeful too. Did you get any responses to your 12m+ thread?

@13lucy I’ve signed up for fertility acupuncture, I feel weirdly nervous about it! Hope you are doing ok

Hi ladies I hope everyone is ok.
I had blood test done by my GP and everything came back as fine so I have no issues there thankfully so no idea why I had a week long LH peak. I am potentially 11dpo (going by the highest peak) and I have serious line eyes going on. I did a LH strip this morning due to have no cheap tests left and I have a high level on the strip so I did a FRER and I am now seriously confused as I think I see something.

@HerbaceousPerennial hoping that the high you have been getting is building to a peak very soon. I get alot of ewcm too so I find it hard to know exactly when ovulation is without other methods. Oh good, glad dh is home and there if you need him lol
That's a good healthy way to feel 🙂
Yes got a hat with another lady, this thread is getting close to full, I know there isnt really many of us left ... should I make another? x

I think I can maybe see something, but I can't tell if there is any colour. I hope it's good news for you and you get a clearer test soon @Mummysparrow x

Today doesn't make anything any clearer. My cheap tests are negative and I have a very light pink tinge when I wipe so I am wondering if I am out and period is on its way.
I have been in and out of the chat and it looks thin on the ground now. Have most people got their positives?

@Mummysparrow I'm sorry you have no more answers today, pink can be implantation... bit then not sure if a test would show up before then... aw it's so confusing. I hope you get answers soon!

Yes most people have got their bfp so not very many of us left on the thread now x

I think there’s another TTC after loss thread, I wonder if we all just jump on that one? I’m really glad there are so few of us left but it does make me a bit sad!

@Ladyinpink1 @HerbaceousPerennial I still lurk and keep up to date on here, I’m so invested in your journeys, so let me know where you end up! X

I'm still reading and willing you all on too, I so want to see some more BFPs and have you all join us over on the grads thread. ❤️

@HerbaceousPerennial @Ladyinpink1 I joined the TTC after loss thread, think it's ok no5 now! Come on over, there's lots more people there. Unfortunately we do seem to be some of those who are still here longest after loss but we can will each other on xx

I think I am already on the other TTC group as well 😂

@Wise0wl @CluelessInLondon so glad you’re still lurking! I lurk on the grad thread too 😂 @moosey89 @Mummysparrow I will jump over now and see you there. @Ladyinpink1 this one I think: https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/conception/5134669-ttc-after-loss-part-5

I am still very invested in your journeys and I'm so sure you will get your BFP's. Please when you do update this thread so we can congratulate you!

Hello! I'm still lurking too

Haven't been on MN much in general because the 12ww/screening stuff has been a bit of a mental rollercoaster 🥲 but still as invested in your journeys as ever

Also following still and wishing you all well! Do update when you can 💗

@samilicious I can’t believe you’re 12 weeks already! I’ve not checked the grad thread in a while, hope you are doing ok, I can only imagine how difficult the screening must have been. I’m rooting for you xx

It makes me sad to be one of the few left now too @HerbaceousPerennial . I did join that other group quite a few months ago along side this, but I had found it quite triggering at the time with alot of bfp pictures etc, maybe I will try it again as will be different again now.

Lovely to see all your names ladies, I miss you all! Hope everyone is good, this thread only has a few comments left so we will keep them for our good news hopefully then 😊 x