TTC May 2023 💖 Previous MC March 2023 (thread 3)

[Sez281]

New thread for 2024 ladies 💓

For those of us still waiting on our BFPs 🙏and those of you that want to come back and update us with all of your lovely news 🌈 🥰

@Westy22
@Jadeypie
@xxcxdonxx
@SnookyPook
@Supertrooper101
@Hankthehonk
@HopeAndStrength
@DmcinT
@Strawb28
@Paws4thought

So sorry if I've forgotten anyone please add them or jump on board if you see this xx

@Jadeypie sorry to see you're not feeling great at the moment, this stage of each cycle is the worst, wanting something so badly and having no control is so difficult, still keeping everything crossed for you. As others have said there are some positives to take from this month too. We'll all be here to listen when you feel you need to talk.
@Supertrooper101 those screenshot are interesting, shame it's not advertised more! Ive started a puzzle to keep busy over the weekend. Are you feeling any better? Was it the cup? Haha.
@Sez281 hope they get the blood results back to you today, will you have anymore taken?
@xxcxdonxx how are you feeling now?

No spotting today so far for me and I've got the progesterone info off tommys website to help push them if they're not keen to prescribe it at the scan.

@Paws4thought tbh, they cant say no to the progesterone, thats what the clinic told me anyway. Erm, am not sure it was the cup or not. Ive felt better since. Its all the limescale residue i saw in it and although google says its harmless....how much is too much tho 🤷‍♀️ sound a conspiricist but somat that ruins bath and sink taps like it does, i cant imagine it being that good for our insides lol am used to filtered water too so drinking out a flask all day long,a dort know. And only way to clean it is daily limescale remover lol am drinking it freshly boiled cup by cup now so am oblivious to it now i ges lol puzzles drive me mad if they dont go well straight away lol but role on monday for you 🙂 did u cancel ur private one?

@Paws4thought glad to hear there's no more spotting and your armed with progesterone info for Monday 💪 Hopefully the puzzle is a good distraction x

I've got my bloods back, they're 1500 which I'm really happy with but my cramps keep coming back and bringing me back to earth with a bang as they feel so much like AF ones 😕

@Westy22 I totally get it. I'm a compulsive tester as that's my way of feeling that I have control over everything and no what to expect but really I don't. There's nothing as heart sinking as when AF arrives so I understand the need to take a few days or however long to regroup xx

I'm also very conscious about posting all my updates on here especially because of how it might affect others reading it🙁,. Also because I still have the dreaded feeling that something is going to go wrong. It's like any day now I'm going to have to say that it hasn't worked out

Glad your happy with the result, are they doing more or just going with the scan now? 🤞 also don't worry about what you post, i think it helps me most of the time to surround myself with pregnancy and pregnancy chat as it stops me from avoiding it like the plague. Just every now and again more so around AF I shut myself off whilst I dust myself off, but not because of any particular posts. Someone I work closely with at work is 8 months pregnant and I thought at first I couldn't handle it...now I'm the one sorting her maternity gifts 🙈

The one thing I do find myself panicking about on here is that I'm literally going to be still ttc when you've all got toddlers 🙈 hopefully that's not the case lol x

How long did those who's OH had sperm tests wait for results? Don't know when to make the OH start chasing?

I'm entering my fertile window apparently now although the OH kick started it early lol opks don't appear to be rising yet but I've stopped the evening primrose/starflower supplements early just incase. I feel like me and the OH are in a different place atm which is good so hoping the ttc schedule doesn't kill it x

@Westy22 I'm that girl on work that organises leaving and maternity presents too 🙈 I think it was 3-4 days later when OHs results came back🤔. I'd definitely be getting him to call Monday if you've heard nothing.

That's so good that you and OH are in a great place 💓 , don't worry too much about opks, mine are always low at the start of fertile window and then shoot up on peak day.! X

I won't be going back to gp for more bloods but I assume they'll do them after the scan Monday. Still not expecting to see anything but hopefully a sac and everything in the right place 🙏

@Sez281 that's a great result for the bloods - right where they should be 🙏🏼 All the cramps I had early on were indistinguishable from AF type cramps. It's so cruel that pregnancy is so so similar to all that!! I also think that feeling of dread you describe is unfortunately just typical for a pregnancy after loss. All the joy is robbed from it. And you get so superstitious in lots of weird ways. Sending you a hug. Just keep plodding on one day at a time and hopefully it will keep working out 💕

@Westy22 it's a horrible feeling when it feels like everyone else is moving forward and you're still in the TTC trenches. The thing is, you just never know when that little rainbow is around the corner. We're all here rooting for you. I'm sure it won't be long 💗

@SnookyPook that is SO true about the superstition! What to say what to buy what to do lol
@Sez281 thats a great jump 🙂.... with you on the dread front and agree with snookpook its from previous loss as i was nothing like this last time until the worse happened.
@Westy22 its always better when you and your partner are in a good place. Makes fings so much better... my oh results took over a week. Depended when his dr looked at them. They didnt get in touch either, he had to look on yhe app and then see he had to make an appointment to discuss. Did you have a read up on the primrose etc then? 1st part is all about estrogen and antioxidents. 2nd part is boosting progesterone so upping b6 etc

@Sez281 bloods sound good, that must be reassuring :) it's so difficult to not worry, everything seems to be normal for pregnancy and a sign of miscarriage so it's impossible not to overthink it all, what time is your scan Monday?
@Supertrooper101 that's true about the limescale, best to avoid it if you can! That's good to know, hopefully they'll offer it without me asking then. Yeah I've cancelled private one, figured if all is OK I can have it a week or so later for peace of mind.
@Westy22 that's good that you're in a good place with your oh, takes the pressure off a bit. I know what you mean about getting left behind, it's hard not to feel like that whilst waiting for it to be your turn but also the success stories on this thread after loss are reassuring.

Thanks @SnookyPook just taking it day by day for now xx

@Supertrooper101 yep the superstition and worry of jinxing it is crazy. I told my sister today. I was planning on telling her regardless of the bloods as we're really close and I couldn't lie to her when she asked me how the ovulation induction meds were going (which she did 😂) she then proceeded to hand me a bag of summer maternity clothes (she had coincidentally being doing a tidy up and they were bagged for the attic) I wouldn't take them though, not a hope am I even thinking that far ahead! 🙈

@Paws4thought Mine is at 8.40 on Monday morning. What about you?

@Sez281 ah that's fab your sister knows now, someone close to talk to :) that's nice and early! Mines at 11 so not too bad, I'll be looking out for your update haha.

@Paws4thought that's a nice early time too, hopefully the weekend goes quickly and crossing everything for us both 🙏 xx

Aw it's such a relief when you're given a morning scan. Not too long to hang around getting nervous (apart from all the days leading up to it of course!!) Will be thinking of you both on Monday. 💕

Aw @Sez281 that's lovely you've been able to tell your Sister. I'm super close to mine too and she's been so supportive with me this last year as she unfortunately experienced losses too before my niece and nephew came along. Deffo with you on not accepting the summer mat clothes yet though! My bestie asked about a baby shower yesterday and I was like 'woooooah we are not there yet!!!' 😳

@SnookyPook Well hopefully she'll get to start planning it over the next few weeks 😉 👶 🥳 That's so great that you have your sister there too and she knows exactly what you're going through 💓

I don't know if I've said this before but the day I took the tablets for the MMC last March (which still ended up needing surgical a week later) my poor sister actually went into labour with her second and was absolutely heartbroken for me 😢 After I told her yesterday she suggested that if we make it to his first birthday (I'll hopefully be 8+3 then) then that that's the day we should tell our parents. I'm trying not to think that far ahead but it would be so poignant if we get to do that 🙏🥹

Aw that's a lovely idea @Sez281 🙏🏼💕

Ladies I'm struggling today. I had a bleed last night. Would be on a bloody Friday wouldn't it. Rang EPU this morning and they have no sonographers over the weekend. I was just beginning to feel more relaxed about everything and now I'm spiralling again. Tring really hard to keep optimistic. Not had more since and no cramping. 😩 Just basically got to watch and wait. Will call back later and they will hopefully get me in for a check on Monday. I hate this 😩 it wasn't heavy but noticeable blood o. Wiping, including two small clots 🙁

@SnookyPook oh no, that must be such a worry, frustrating epu can't get you in. Could you book a private scan for peace of mind? They might have spaces over weekend.
@Sez281 that's a lovely idea to tell your parents then 😀

Oh @SnookyPook the stress of that I don't blame you for spiralling 😣 The fact that it's stopped and you've no cramping or anything I would take as a really good sign, so bloody stressful that it's a weekend too though😢 You read so many threads about women who get moments of bleeding throughout their whole pregnancies and so many turn out fine 🙏 Hopefully you've no more over the next 48 hours and can get in on Monday morning just for some reassurance xx

@Sez281 iv hot a sister, we are nothing like you guys are with yours ....at all 🤣. Shame really. What a shite situation that was with the labour, i bet she felt so guilty. Thats love for you! And clearly optimistic youl be a mum soon keeping the clothes at hand! Good call not taking them yet lol
@SnookyPook 🙁ffs..... this is so unfair after your last scan. Your baby will be bigger than tiny clots so thats sumat i ges. Have you asked on a different forum? So even if you went to a&e there wouldnt be amyone to scan?

@SnookyPook just been catching up. Hope you are doing ok and have managed to get an appointment for early Monday. Thinking of you over the next few days xx

Thinking of you all for your scans tomorrow ladies @Paws4thought @Sez281 @SnookyPook

Thanks @xxcxdonxx xx

@SnookyPook Hope it has passed now and you're doing ok 🙏xx

@Paws4thought good luck for yours too xx

Good luck you 3 for the morning, keep us posted 🙂

@xxcxdonxx Thank you 😊
@Sez281 good luck for your scan, hopefully good news for us both 🤞
@SnookyPook hope you've been OK over weekend.

Good luck everyone having scans tomorrow x
And for those still trying, I totally understand why it must be hard being on this thread sometimes despite all the supportiveness. I will limit baby updates but still here rooting for you all x

Hope your okay @SnookyPook I know this weekend will have felt like the longest ever.

Good luck to you all tomorrow @Sez281 @Paws4thought xxx

Was seen before my appointment time, sac and everything in the right place for my dates. Too early to see anything else. Back next Wednesday, she said 2 weeks but we’re going on holiday on the Thursday so I want it before then. Hopefully we’ll see more🤞, until then it's limbo land 😕