CD1 ttc after loss carry on thread #2

[Ladyinpink1]

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@CluelessInLondon thank you!

I had a 24 hour fly type bug around 5 days before ovulation I think. It was one day later than the previous cycle I'd tracked (but only had one to go on) so seemed to make no difference.

Hope you're feeling okay x

Well. The question's been answered - weirdest range of emotions. Not even sure how to process right now (other than being very happy of course!)

Congratulations @ThelastRolo20 !!

@Bali200 my symptoms haven’t gone so much as I’ve not had any, so I completely understand how disconcerting it is. Like you I’m just hanging on in there until my next scan. Hope you’re doing ok x

Congratulations @ThelastRolo20! I’m hoping to join you all TTCing after Christmas.

@Bali200 and @Wise0wl hope your scans go well 🙏🏼

Thanks @meepthebeep and welcome to this thread (I replied to your thread) - how are you?

Wow @ThelastRolo20 what exciting news! (And strange and probably a whole lot of other feelings.) Congratulations!! Will you plan a scan or anything?

@Bugdem123 I am the same, I have always had early bfp so knowing this makes it far harder to wait even though early testing on a negative cycle is just torture. I hope you can be strong and hold out then get good news 🙂. Yes it was someone on this thread I first heard of it. Just trying to decide how much to use each day but I bought a yogurt with granola on top to try it with in the morning. I'm up for trying anything lol x

@CluelessInLondon I also have a sore throat starting today and I'm just better from being sick. These are the worst months for it. I think you will still ovulate ok and hope you feel better by Friday ready to catch that egg 🥚 x

That made me laugh @ThelastRolo20 the willpower of a pea... congratulations! 🎊 lovely news, and I can see all of the lines clearly x

I hope you don't have too long to wait until your next scan @Wise0wl x

@meepthebeep welcome, happy to have more company 🙂 x

Thank you for asking @Wise0wl - up and down still, need to get through the next few days and then rest and reset over Christmas 🙂 but thought I’d placemark ready for the NY. Thank you 🙏🏼

Congratulations @ThelastRolo20, wonderful news! How many dpo are you? Your willpower also made me laugh but sometimes you just get that urge to POAS don’t you 😂 x

Thank you everyone for the reassurance and kind words @Ladyinpink1 @Bugdem123 @CluelessInLondon @Wise0wl hope you’re all doing okay 💗

I always knew this was going to be the toughest week mentally to get through as it’s the week of gestation I lost it at last time, but I have my booking appt in the morning so will have a chat with the midwife and maybe see if I can get referred to the MH team x

Thank you @meepthebeep and welcome to the thread, very sorry for your loss but wishing you all the best for a BFP in the NY x

Congratulations @ThelastRolo20! 🥰

Welcome to the thread @meepthebeep. So sorry for your loss. Hope you manage to have a nice Christmas and come at things refreshed in the new year.

@Bali200 I've had a few anxious moments the last couple of days. Part of me really can't believe that this one will go better but then another part of me is hopeful and trying to remind myself this is a new pregnancy and there is every chance it could work out. Still not having major symptoms, although pretty sure with DS the most intense fatigue and nausea kicked in between weeks 6/7 so trying to keep calm and just take it day by day. 🙏🏼🌈

@ThelastRolo20 Well that is definitely a line - congratulations! ❤ Understandable that you're feeling a whole range of emotions, but just take it one day at a time (easier said than done, I know!). Are you able to access any early scans through your EPU if you want them?

@meepthebeep Welcome and I'm sorry that you find yourself in the 'TTC after loss' club. Good luck for your new TTC journey in the New Year, I hope 2024 will bring you your rainbow.

@Ladyinpink1 Thank you, I'm feeling a fair bit better today thankfully! Had a good sleep last night and no longer have the aching muscles (would have been a bit of a problem for trying to DTD 😂). Still have a bit of a cough and a sore throat but at least my energy levels seem to be back to normal. Just hoping I haven't passed it onto my husband as would be even worse timing if he got sick in a couple of days' time!

@meepthebeep welcome to the thread, this place has a been a lifeline for me recently.

@Oxalis00 @CluelessInLondon I'm not sure about a scan, I'm feeling strangely calm so will just see how I go as the weeks progress. I had a scan at 7 weeks before and everything was spot on and it still went wrong so a part of me is thinking what's the point! I didn't have an extra scans with my first pregnancy as I just felt I didn't need them (and my DD came no issues). With the pregnancy that ended I had a strange anxiety which is unlike me - maybe on some level I knew something wasn't quite right.

Thank you @Ladyinpink1 and @Bali200 - I just couldn't help it. The sticks were staring at me! I'm now 11 DPO, pregnancy vitamins ordered today and will search for non alcoholic gin for Christmas! @Bali200 I'm so glad you're reaching out for support, this part of the pregnancy must feel tough, I know I'll feel the same at 9/10 weeks which is when baby passed. Going to try and speak to people beforehand to build up some strategies to help me between 10 - 12 weeks.

Thank you all for being such a wonderful support x

@ThelastRolo20 My non-alcoholic gin recommendation is Tanqueray 0% - it's the only one I found that actually tastes anything like gin!

@ThelastRolo20 I agree with@CluelessInLondon the Tanqueray one is really nice. Don't get the Gordon's one, nowhere near as good!

Seedlip is rubbish too, it's really expensive and is basically just water.

@CluelessInLondon @moosey89 thanks both, will get your recommendation :) x

Hey everyone, hope you’re all okay. I’m just wondering how everyone stays distracted through the months? I’ve been doing so well but this week feel like I’ve hit the lowest point since June. How do you focus on anything but getting pregnant? & is it really true that being so upset over it hinders your chances? I’m just struggling to see any positives to life right now and really don’t know how to snap out of it

Has anyone ever had proper fertility acupuncture done? I had a phone consultation today or it. Sounds really positive. First session is 5 days after my HyCoSy 🤞

@GeorgeR28 so sorry you are struggling so much my love. I've definitely had similar moments. Have you asked about access to a mental health support midwife? I got an appointment after my most recent loss and found it really cathartic to sit and talk through my story and sob with someone external to it all. Also, don't be so hard on yourself. There's actually nothing to 'snap out of'. You are grieving. It doesn't come with a timescale and it can't be compared to anyone else's journey. This is your loss, your pain and you are entitled to experience it however you need to. However, from my own experience, when I started questioning it and almost feeling frustrated by being down, was actually when I was ready to let go a bit more and start to move forwards with a bit more hope. So perhaps you are closer to turning a corner than you think. Sending you a massive hug. Be gentle with yourself. Christmas is also an additionally emotional time. 💕

@Frustratedttcno2 my Sister had this before (and possibly in early pregnancy) of the one she kept after several losses. Combined with other treatment from early pregnancy clinic etc! But she certainly seemed to find it positive and I think slightly attributes her success to it - also from the perspective of how it helped her mentally. Hope it's useful for you!

@SnookyPook hey, thanks so much for replying. I was offered it at the EPU but never heard from them again, I paid for counselling sessions privately which help at the time but then as soon as that session is done I find myself going back into my old ways of thinking 😞 I definitely think it’s time to get back to it though, sometimes I feel so alone and that my partner really doesn’t understand, we deal with things so differently and he can be harsh sometimes without meaning it. Thankyou so much for replying even just talking on here makes me feel a little bit less alone 🤍 I hope you’re okay too! X

@Frustratedttcno2 I’ve just started this month! I hope it works!

I think it's such a completely different experience for me that it can be a bit baffling amd worrying for them to see us so down about it. My husband also made a couple of misplaced remarks about being careful not to 'wallow' etc which really weren't in any way helpful!! But I think being able to keep that perspective that they are on a different journey does help.

Thank you! I've actually been quite anxious the last couple of days. 6wks pregnant again today so right in the midst of the danger zone. Just trying to keep as calm as possible and take each day as it comes... So hope that this one is my rainbow!! 4th times a charm right?!? 🙏🏼🌈💕

*such a completely different experience for men...