CD1 ttc after loss carry on thread #2

[Ladyinpink1]

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Hi everyone. Thanks for the new thread @Ladyinpink1 and sorry AF is on the way and you've not been feeling great. Hopefully everything is settling down for you ❤️

Hi @graceinc22 I'm interested to see any comments you get about the progesterone as I have been prescribed it too (to take at bfp) so please keep us updated on how you get on too x

Thank you @ThelastRolo20 I think once af arrives and I'm back to cd1 I will feel better. How are you? Will you test or wait for AF? x

@Ladyinpink1 I'm going to try and wait for AF, because if it is negative at least I'm onto the next cycle already. I say that now, my will power may falter next week (AF due Thursday)

Thanks for the new thread! Sorry to hear about AF coming @Ladyinpink1 but positive that you think your hormones are getting back to normal.

Hi everyone! So glad this thread is carrying on, I can't even explain how reassuring I find it.

@Ladyinpink1 Sorry that it looks like your period is on its way - it is such a rubbish feeling knowing AF is coming and having to sit and wait, so I hope it arrives quickly and you can move onto the next cycle.

@ThelastRolo20 Good luck with the holding out on testing!

CD11 for me today so will be back onto the OPKs from this weekend onwards. For some reason I'm not feeling that hopeful for this cycle, but then I felt hopeful for the last cycle and it didn't happen, so maybe it's not a bad thing that I'm not going in with too much expectation.

Thanks for making the new thread @Ladyinpink1, and I’m really sorry to hear that you feel AF is on the way, when is she due? But glad you feel it’s a more normal cycle, I think we underestimate how it can take a while for our bodies to recover after a loss. Sending lots of hugs and hope you indulge in lots of mulled wine/Baileys/cheese over the next couple of weeks x

Good luck to those in the tww and approaching FW, I really hope we get some more good news in the coming weeks x

Thanks for the new thread! Will keep lurking if you don't mind as would love to see more of you getting your BFPs 🥰

Thank you for the new thread! 🥰 Hi team!

@ThelastRolo20 good work on holding out on testing, I think for me mentally going forwards it's what I need to do too.

AF due for me today. I last tested on 12DPO and was a BFN and that left me in a really sad mood so I'm not going to do that going forward. I think AF is coming but she's not appeared just yet... I'm going to wait until Monday now and if she's not appeared I will test then. I won't be able to contact the EPU until Monday anyway so if I happen to have a positive test I don't want to be worrying all weekend!

I also did a silly thing this morning, I was doom scrolling MN and came across the due in Feb thread and due in April threads I was originally on and realised just how far along I'd be if either of those pregnancies had stuck. Argh. Note to self: stick to only looking at the threads I'm on.

I hope everyone else is ok and have nice weekend plans x

Thanks so much for this @Ladyinpink1 - good to see everyone still here!

Sorry the hormones have hit hard this month. It’s a lot to be a woman!

I’m interested in those with progesterone prescribed - did you have any particular personal indication for this or is it the general offering of something that might help after a previous MC?

I’m interested in aspirin too, I’ve read/heard of various people using that as soon as 3DPO but I’m wary of taking anything I don’t need. That said, I want to do everything I can to give a next pregnancy a chance.

Having chickened out of TTC after LH peak this month I can say it has actually created some much-needed space mentally which is nice - I actually feel more control than with all the tracking and worrying. (It’s not the same, obviously, but I often think about something I read once about someone going through chemotherapy and postponing a session and feeling empowered to be in charge and not have everything determined by her cancer. There’s something hugely powerful about choice.) All that said I am definitely now symptom spotting at 7DPO thinking that maybe a sperm managed to survive in there for for ages… 🤪

Ugh, I totally get the doomscrolling @Vic231 - Mumsnet can be a blessing and a curse! I can see how those threads would have hit really hard. That’s completely understandable. Go gently x

Hey everyone, hope everyone is doing okay ❤️

@Vic231 I tortured myself for a while after my MC carrying on reading one of the due in April threads that I was on, and I realised that it was doing me absolutely no good at all - it just amplified how sad I felt and it almost made me feel resentful of those people whose pregnancies were progressing normally, which of course isn't rational or fair. I mostly keep away from the pregnancy board entirely now! Fingers crossed that AF doesn't show up for you this weekend.

@Oxalis00 It's interesting how there are quite a few people taking a step back from the tracking and testing - I saw lots of comments on the previous thread where people were wanting to go with the flow a bit more. I'm not quite chill enough to do that yet, but I might go for a more relaxed month in January if it doesn't happen this time. The thing that feels silly for me is that my pregnancy earlier this year was conceived with no tracking other than using an app to record my periods, and clearly that worked, but I can't quite bring myself to go back to that laid-back approach because the loss made me so much more determined about getting pregnant!

@Oxalis00 @CluelessInLondon thank you both, I know we say it all the time, but there is definitely something soothing in knowing we are all the same and no feeling or thought hasn't been thought by someone else. I've just remembered you can put a time limit on apps with an iPhone, so I'm going to set one for Mumsnet. I can always override it but I think a reminder will be good!

Also, I was just reading about the clear blue ovulation tests. I feel like I'm being dim 😂 but what is better knowing, 4 fertile days or 2?!

Thanks for making a new thread. Feel like I'm going to need support to keep me going over Christmas. Always a time for announcements and I don't think I'll cope well (as already proven this week when some friends of my boyfriend told him they were pregnant again, second baby, second quick conception no issues). The green eyed monster in out in full force at the moment!

Hi, just found this thread is it ok to join? We have been trying for DC 2 for 2 years now, having lost one that dec, was a ruptured ectopic so had surgery and lost the tube. Had nothing since. Hit me really hard this month because it was 2 years since my last BFP.

For context I'm 41, so feel like im running out of time!!! Have booked for a private HyCoSy so check the remaining tube and have heard some stories of people conceiving right after it as it kind of flushes things out!!!! So I'm hoping!!

@moosey89 I'm with you but we've got this! I've already decided I'm not saying yes to anything I don't want to do. I declined meeting a friend the other day and when I told her I was busy she replied 'oh that's a shame I really wanted you to see (DC name) as you haven't see her for a while' she is a very cute baby but exactly not really what I want to be doing at the moment!! So I was very glad I said no, and not sat there feeling sorry for myself. Sending you a big hug xx

@Vic231 @CluelessInLondon yet again both of you have made me feel so much better about something I felt absolutely crazy for doing. So grateful for this thread.

I had my work night out last night and ended up having a few wines. Feeling very guilty today that I've done that during the TWW but trying to remind myself that people conceive babies without even knowing and do all sorts so trying to keep some perspective!

@moosey89 It's so tough to hear other people's baby news - we are all here for you, and hopeful that we all have our own news to share soon. ❤

@Frustratedttcno2 Welcome and sorry to hear about your loss. Good luck for the HyCoSy - one of my friends definitely conceived quite soon after having one a few years ago so fingers crossed that it works for you! When are you booked in for that?

@Bugdem123 Don't feel bad - like you say, people do all sorts of stuff carrying on as normal when they're newly pregnant and it doesn't do any harm. I think life is too short to spend 50% of the time behaving like I'm pregnant if I then find out I'm not and I've also denied myself lots of things I enjoy, that just makes the disappointment worse!

@moosey89 definitely here for you - message here whenever you need. We all get it @Frustratedttcno2 welcome! This is a lovely group full of very supportive women.

I'm 8DPO now and just had the biggest gloop of snot like cm come out 😂 absolutely revolting - wondering if that's ever been a sign for anyone? X

@ThelastRolo20 Lovely mental image, thanks for that! 😂

@CluelessInLondon you're welcome love 😂 I'll keep you updated 😉

Gloop 😂 that's such a good word for CM😂😂😂

@ThelastRolo20 i had yellow snot like cm at 5dpo on the cycle where I most recently got pregnant :) I didn’t know how to log it on my fertility app - consistency like ewcm but not it!!

@Vic231 good on you for saying no! I’ve been in a similar situation and everytime I see my friend it just sets me back so I’ve decided I can’t do it again. People really don’t get how hard it can be for us. Sending you lots of love ❤️