TTC after ectopic/after loss/older age etc ALL WELCOME 🙂

[YellowZ]

Hello,

Would anyone like to join a thread for TTC after ectopic/miscarriage, or when facing other challenges eg age, PCOS etc? DP and I have just decided to try again for no2, and I'm going to come off the pill. It would be nice to have some buddies to share experiences and support each other 🙂

About me:

Pregnancy 1: conceived first cycle age 35, healthy pregnancy, DS born summer 2021 (now age 2)

Pregnancy 2: conceived first cycle age 37, ectopic, surgery November 2022

My plan is to eat well, exercise, cut out alcohol, and generally look after myself.

Because I got pregnant quickly both times, I'm hoping our chances are still good...no idea how only having the one fallopian tube is going to affect things 😬

I think I'll do OPKs but not sure about temping yet.

Would love to hear from others!

@YellowZ I took another this morning, it’s still dark but a tad lighter than yesterday, so Premom has registered it as peak 😵‍💫 We DTD yesterday and today so hopefully if it is the real deal we’ve got it covered. How are you getting on?

@Loz1006 @lucie1987 Hope you are both getting on okay xx

@MrsB2019x looking good! Actually the timing looks really similar to mine this month. I was wondering if it went up a bit more in the night. I am not desperate enough to get up at 3am and POAS... yet.

I'm ok. Just waiting waiting waiting. And hoping my boobs get sore/poking them to see 😂 with my son they really hurt soon after ovulation, with the ectopic they didn't hurt at all. Just one of the ways I like to mentally torture myself haha.

Hope you are all getting on okay. It's CD1 for me today just in time for a 18 hour travel day so couldn't be better timing 😅

@Confusedddddddd aww bless u hope you feel better soon.

@YellowZ Omg I remember the razor boobs well 😵 nothing of the sort yet though, just lower back pain and AF type cramps rather than one sided ovulation ones 🤷🏻‍♀️

@YellowZ I think i am getting on ok.
Still vvvvery faint line on the test today and its cd12 so still a little confused as app showing i should ovulate on 24/25 of this month but that would be cd15/16 I am having CM but not much sorry if its tmi.

@Annonomous29 for ovulation on cd15/16 I'd expect a positive OPK on cd13 or 14... So tomorrow or the next day? If you've been having ewcm that's a good sign it might be on the way?

@YellowZ @MrsB2019x thanks for checking in!

So my update is that my pain in left side is subsiding but shoulder pain is there.

I had an scan this morning which showed nothing as too soon (expecting this as I think I ovulate late so I reckon I'm around 15/16 dpo) but the sonographer said there was nothing to make her think it was ectopic. Bloods taken.

My HCG is 94 which I was told is normal for 4/5 weeks and I'm going back in 48 hrs. The nurses are hopeful that it's a normal pregnancy just really early but I can't shake the pain and how it's the exact same as last time! Only time will tell.

I've also been informed that my last pregnancy was actually classed as an early miscarriage and not ectopic (no one informed me of this) because I wasn't treated with medication or surgery and my HCG didn't rise enough. So I'm majorly confused at the moment and just holding out to see my HCG double this time.

I hope everyone else is coping well in their own situations and hopefully will be a little more straight forward. X

@Loz1006 ...so...I expect that you're feeling quite confused and anxious (?) BUT oh my gosh, it'd be lovely if it's our first BFP. 15dpo is still super early, hopefully your next blood test result is good. Hopefully we'll be able to give you congratulations soon 😀

@YellowZ Thank you I was very confused I have been getting a little ewcm. Will test again tomorrow will try test 2 times and again the following day. Fingers crossed it is a good sign

@lemonyfox I wondered about b vitamins but there's like 6-7 times the amount in Pregnacare compared to seven seas and my luteal phase was shorter while taking them. I might look at starting to take vitamins separately - there's a load of added stuff in Pregnacare now, and not sure if one of them has been making my LP shorter.

In other news, I woke up to some pretty agonising ovulation pain from the side I haven't ovulated from in 2.5 years (since DC1 was conceived) however opks are stark white, usually I get my peak and pain pretty much at the same time and I'm only cd10 (I usually ovulate CD15 like clockwork), so I don't know what's going on. My first cycle after my ectopic and cyst removal I had pain for 3 days before my peak, though I was very much still recovering from surgery, but maybe this is happening as it's the first time I'm ovulating from that side in a very long time.

@Loz1006 could the shoulder pain be something else? I was told the ectopic shoulder pain only happens once it's ruptured (I could be wrong though). Though mine ruptured and never got shoulder pain, just bad period like pain.
Fingers crossed for you that it's a normal uterine pregnancy.

@Confusedddddddd ah yeah I have heard that about pregnancy multivitamins. I just take a high strength B6 on its own.

Fingers crossed for you @Loz1006!

@Loz1006 Got everything crossed that your levels double 🤞When I was pregnant with DD I was so hyper vigilant with every single twinge and pain and over analysing everything. I didn’t relax until that early scan where she was in the right place. I hope that’s the case for you too. Keep us posted x

Registering as low now.. gonna keep testing in case I get a second surge but from my symptoms I think I may have ovulated today on CD9 😵‍💫

I think I might be having another ectopic again, my third one. I always test after my period and again a week later, as I didn't get positive pregnancy tests and kept having periods with my first two. So the hospital advised regular testing.

I've just tested this morning now my period has ended and I've had two really faint positives 😭

You can see these too right?

@lemonyfox I can see a faint line on both yes (though the lines look quite far off to the left, is that normal?).

@lemonyfox I can see them too. Are you feeling okay in yourself?

@CatCaretaker I'm not sure, I think so

@MrsB2019x upset and frustrated more than anything. If it's another ectopic then we'll need to delay everything with fertility treatment back by 3 months 😭 I remember you btw, we were on the same baby boards back in 2020 when we were TTC then, I recognise your username! Sorry we're meeting again back on a thread like this.

@lemonyfox fingers crossed for you that if isn't. It's awful, not just the ectopic, but waiting three months is like an eternity.

@lemonyfox I did think I recognised you! I really hope it’s not ectopic. 3 just isn’t fair!! Please keep us posted x

@lemonyfox ah crap. Really hope it's not another one. What's the next step - going to your GP?

Thanks everyone
@YellowZ I had bloods done at the early pregnancy unit today which they need to repeat in 2 days, and then another 2 days, for HCG monitoring

@YellowZ ah I see. Fingers crossed it's ok.

I'm definitely finding this 2ww hard. It always is a long wait obviously... Just... i'm more worried than excited, this time round. Given what happened the last time we tried. I'm quite scared about losing the other tube. It's a little sad it's not exciting like when we were TTC DS.

4dpo now.

@lemonyfox Fingers crossed things will go in your favour. It’s so hard being in that waiting stage, but we are all here for you.

I’m CD 14 today and it’s ovulation day. Had a strong peak LH yesterday and ovulation pains to match. It’s coming from my left side (side with my remaining tube) so feeling cautiously hopeful. It’s just such a hard process building hope each month..