TTC after early miscarriage

[RaisingCornishWildlings]

Morning!
So I sadly suffered an early miscarriage at 5w just over a fortnight ago.

We have 3 children already (6,4 and 19m) and I'm 40, hubby 47.

Lovely staff at EPU said crack on again as soon as I'm ready- and not to worry about having a period first.

I've always had pretty irregular cycles anyway and have never tracked ovulation (we have been very lucky and fallen pregnant super easily- and this was my first MC).

I think I have just ovulated (Sunday) which was 14 days since spotting (main bleed from miscarriage was Tues 11, Weds 12 Oct).

My symptoms were bloating on Fri and Saturday, and real drop in mood over the weekend (I've noticed this has happened a few times a couple of weeks before period since cycles started after DD was born), by yesterday my mood was much more stable again. On Sunday I had mild nausea and very mild cramping (more like little twinges).
We DTD Sunday night.

So have fingers crossed that something might have happened!

I noticed yesterday evening and today I'm peeing more than usual but apparently that can be a sign of ovulation too.

I'm going to be a crazy lady symptom
spotting for a fortnight now! Have a cervical screening booked for a week today (wondering if I should cancel it?!)

What's the earliest anyone has had symptoms after DTD that turned out to be early pregnancy? And how many DPO have you got a positive?

@Holly0609 oh bless you 😂 at least you can laugh about it.

That is strange! Sorry I don't really know I've only used them the last couple of months. Have a look on here I'm sure someone will have a thread on it.

I know- day 7 of flashing. I'm cd16. I have all of the physical signs of o so who knows! O day 12 last 2 cycles but my periods are still odd so I guess my body is still recovering. I used to go by cm and pains and always thought I o later than day 14, so this must be back to my old cycles which is a good thing I suppose. Have to see the smileys through now for this month I'll keep on until I run out 😂

AF has just arrived at cycle day 23 which isn't ideal 🤦‍♀️ so another very short cycle again for me. Good going with DTD with the bad knee @Holly0609 I was thinking it was unlikely to happen at all with that going on!

Ah no sorry @mumsince2021 😢

@mumsince2021 ah I’m sorry that’s really crap - I'm similar cycle lengths too x

@Claudiasaz last month I had two days of flashing followed by a negative - I felt really bummed out but also felt like I had all the signs so I tested the next morning and had a static smiley.. I know not the same scenario but we do get some weird and wonderful with these things don’t we

I’m CD14 so wait begins!

@Blueskies4 wow! that's so odd! I used the 2 day ones last month and got a peak no issue - these are just annoying- never again!

@Holly0609 well done to hubby for giving it a go! Hopefully you can get another round in :D

@Blueskies4 @Claudiasaz these tests sound very confusing, I was tempted to use other ones but I reckon I'll stick with the cheap ones and see what happens

@mumsince2021 sorry to hear about another short cycle, are you ovulating when you'd expect to?

I'm cycle day 9 now. It seems to be the world's slowest cycle - I probably won't even ovulate for another week! Going to start OPKs on Friday and I've let my husband know when he's required haha - going for Friday, Sunday, Tuesday

@ThelastRolo20 @Claudiasaz I know they’re a head blag! I wouldn’t mind but whenever I’ve been pregnant before I’ve not used them and now it’s been months and no pregnancy! I do also think you’re more disappointed when AF arrives when you’ve used tests and had a positive because you think you’ve “caught it” xx

@Blueskies4 I agree! I was thinking how have we not got pregnant when I knew the peak. Forgetting I've just had a MC and everything that comes with it. 🤦🏼‍♀️ Going to take one in a bit though 😂 curious if I'll ever get rid of the flashing face this month

That's day 8 of the flashing smile....

@Claudiasaz I'm guessing that's unusual? My period has decided to do an encore! Wonderful...day 9! Hoping it's brief and buggers off. Did an OPK just to make sure nothing too weird was going on and it's very faint which is good. Don't expect anything until Monday ish

@ThelastRolo20 oh really? That sucks sorry.

I think so? I've not used these before but the average person gets 4 days so I guess I can add myself to another small statistic group now 😂

I feel like I've o to be honest so be interesting to see what happens with this. I'll keep going 😂

Morning all.

How is everyone?

Day 9 of a flashing 😊 this morning
lol (don't usually do morning but thought I'd try). I'll do one more later then I'm done for this month as it's ridiculous.

I actually feel like I have o as had the cramps. So maybe it missed it who knows. Hopefully I've ovulated! It's day 18
Now.

I've decided to not use them next month (as I've had some more cm this month so should be able to track it that way. Save myself peeing on a stick every night and some pennies 😂

Love having a group to vent to. Don't think my friends would appreciate this chat everyday so thanks 😊😂

It sounds like everyone's cycles have gone utterly haywire!

2 days ago I felt really "wet" it was pretty watery . Then yesterday I felt I had a lot of Cm but it was more white and sticky like school glue. I really don't know what's going on!!

My sister arrived for a visit yesterday evening- we haven't seen each other in so long so looking forward to having some quality time with her for the next few days ❤️

@RaisingCornishWildlings that's lovely, hope you have a great time catching up with her. - sounds like a good distraction. @Claudiasaz you may well have ovulated! I agree though that at some point it's worth stopping, I found it can become quite obsessive.

I'm not surprised my period is still spotting, it's the first one since the miscarriage. Nothing on a pad, just when I wipe - hoping it doesn't push back ovulation too much, or cancel it entirely!

@RaisingCornishWildlings enjoy!! And forget about cm and ovulation 🤣And agree maybe we're all in sync in a bad way 🤣

@ThelastRolo20 Mine was like this at the start this month, so annoying isn't it. Just start or don't - leave me alone haha

Now I've got egg whites again. Whatever this ride is this month... I want to get off please I'm done 🤨🤣

Oh @Claudiasaz I was getting egg whites in the run up to this AF 🤦‍♀️ really throws you doesn't it?

@ThelastRolo20 I have no idea when I ovulated as I haven't been tracking BBT or LH with sticks so far but it's likely around CD9 given the fertile CM I had and I did ovulate with my son CD10. My app is telling me to start using OPKs tomorrow and I'm still mid period only day 3! Should I try to convince my husband to DTD while I'm still bleeding?? 😂

Has anyone kept note of how much/when they DTD with previous pregnancies? With my son I can see we DTD on cycle days 6,7,8,10 and 11. Ovulated cycle day 10. Can't see any chance of that frequency now with a toddler!

@Claudiasaz 🤞🏻 for a positive tonight!

sounds like we’ve all gone loco! X

@RaisingCornishWildlings me too! I had it days after my period with blood in it. My body is absolutely ##$$ed after the mc.

I'm considering just having sex and see what happens approach as honestly I'm not enjoying this and it's only cycle 2 😂 I think my first took 3 cycles looking back and I got pregnant the 3rd cycle when I took a break from it as was going away on a long haul trip.

I kept a track of my second actually on my flo app. Just had a look for you and I had sex everyday from day 12-16, skipped 17, back at it 18 😂 and that was it. Didn't track ovulation though. Not sure if any help. It's not helped me 😂

Again can't say enough how much I appreciate this chat! Going crazy today!

Also just interested where do you guys stand with caffeine? I absolutely love a proper coffee 😂 and have been trying to have just one a day at the minute, as when I was pregnant this time I didn't know for a bit, I was still drinking a few a day and would have been up to 6/7 weeks along and feel so guilty about it 🤦🏼‍♀️ anyway I ask as I've caved today and had a second.... So hoping I'm not alone 😂

@Claudiasaz I can't really help you here as I used to be on anti anxiety meds a few years ago and found that Caffiene really exacerbated the symptoms so I went fully decaf. I accidentally had a caffeinated coffee a year or so ago and my heart rate went wild, my sister could see my pulse very clearly in my throat 😂

@Claudiasaz I don't change my caffeine intake until I get a BFP when I would switch to a decaf latte and maybe one full caffeine tea and just fruit tea where possible. I typically have one full caffeine latte and a few full caffeine teas a day. I'm the same with eating and try to eat better as soon as I get a BFP until I start to feel sick and have to live off crackers and apples 😅

@Claudiasaz the early pregnancy nausea also helped and put me right off coffee for that first trimester

Hope you don’t mind me joining in, I suffered a miscarriage on Sunday at 7weeks - it was my first pregnancy.
Whilst it’s been a really difficult week the only thing keeping us positive is trying again soon when we can.
I’m sorry there hasn’t been a BFP yet on the thread, I’m sure that will change soon and in time we will all get our 🌈 babies.

@Claudiasaz up to 200mg per day is fine (about two cups of instant), in the TWW and beyond I stick to one cup a day to be safe :) @Smithy91 sorry you've found yourself here but it's a lovely group with varying haywire cycles! I'm hoping for lots of Christmas BFPs! X