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2023 TTC 35+ Part 5

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VixFromThe6ix · 22/09/2023 19:33

Hi lovelies,

New thread!!

Please tag whoever you can so everyone knows we are here.

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SnookyPook · 27/09/2023 00:22

@H0pefull must have cross-posted with your last message. Remember cramping can be very normal in early pregnancy too. With my son I was absolutely convinced AF was on the way as cramped just the same for several days. He's now 2 1/2... 🤞🏻

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VixFromThe6ix · 27/09/2023 01:09

@Cressie2 that would be funny! I mean I also wouldn't tell my friends if my nipples went yellow but I wouldn't absolutely share it here 😁

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H0pefull · 27/09/2023 06:04

Morning All 🤍
Thank you for all your lovely messages yesterday, I am assuming both were indent lines as had a BFN on a FRER this morning, with AF due today or tomorrow I would expect a positive on a FRER by now. But we will see x

Cressie2 · 27/09/2023 06:39

@H0pefull indent lines are the worst. Are you going to test with another brand today? I do hope AF doesn’t come today or tomorrow for you.

When do you get your husband’s test results?

H0pefull · 27/09/2023 06:43

@Cressie2 i used FRER & a boots 5 days early test this morning & both look pretty negative x

CurlyWurly1991 · 27/09/2023 08:03

@H0pefull that is so confusing … I can’t understand how there would be 2 indents on different tests. That sucks… was it FMU you used previously? I’m sorry if this isn’t it for you, but I hope you aren’t out yet.

AlienSuperstar · 27/09/2023 08:28

MOGMOGMOG85 · 26/09/2023 16:33

Think af has arrived. It feels odd, not much is happening compared to usual, so I really am wondering if this is an anovulatory cycle. Perhaps I better test this month. Perhaps smep too? Perhaps proceive max, perhaps preseed... Will have to consult my poor weary partner on the smep bit. We are both fed up after 1 year trying xxx

Hopefull I can see a clear line on the clearblue. Wait until Friday and I reckon you'll have a stonker xxx

Hopefully it's not AF but if it is, be kind to yourself.

I haven't heard of an anovulatory cycle, what is this?

AlienSuperstar · 27/09/2023 08:30

El1988 · 26/09/2023 17:10

@H0pefull oh I know, it’s so hard not to get excited but then you don’t want to let yourself get excited because you don’t want the even more crushing disappointment if it doesn’t work out… sending a huge hug, I can definitely see something on those tests though! 🤞🤞🤞❤️

feeling fairly crap today tbh, my sister texted to say that they will probably have to put down our family dog… he’s been with us for 15 years, and he keeps my dad company since my mum passed away, so I’m fairly devastated. I was hoping to see him again one last time, but I won’t make it home in time…

oh no , thoughts are with you, nothing as heartbreaking as when a pet goes x

AlienSuperstar · 27/09/2023 08:31

H0pefull · 27/09/2023 06:04

Morning All 🤍
Thank you for all your lovely messages yesterday, I am assuming both were indent lines as had a BFN on a FRER this morning, with AF due today or tomorrow I would expect a positive on a FRER by now. But we will see x

fingers crossed for you love

FigandHoney · 27/09/2023 08:44

@H0pefull Sorry you think it might have been indents. There is still some hope until AF arrives.
On the cycle I fell pregnant with my son I got a BFN on the day my AF was due. She never arrived. And I then tested positive 3 days later. But it was faint.
But if AF does arrive today, treat yourself to something nice and make sure to take care of yourself

@VixFromThe6ix How are your tests doing today? Wasn't today the day the HCG from the shot should be out of your system?

CD6 today for me. My husband is desperate to get it on. But because I have really low libido at the moment (maybe I need to see a GP about it), I would prefer to keep DTD to the days that matter. Don't want to run out if steam before hand.
Also still spotting which us unusual and unpleasant.

happytobemrsg · 27/09/2023 08:49

This thread moves fast!

Hoping AF doesn’t arrive for you @H0pefull I don’t think you’re out yet.

CD6 here waiting until CD8 to possibly start SMEP. Thing is, I don’t want to use OPKs as I think it’ll stress me out hoping for line progression. Wondering if CD8, CD10, CD12, 13 & 14 would cover all bases (I have a 27 day cycle, sometimes shorter). Does this sound about right?

SnookyPook · 27/09/2023 09:03

@H0pefull sorry to hear this and hopefully you're still in with a chance. If AF does arrive I think it's more likely you've had a very early chemical rather than indents on two different tests - especially with the symptoms you were having. Be gentle with yourself in any case. We're all here with you. ❤️

SnookyPook · 27/09/2023 09:23

@AlienSuperstar an anovulatory cycle is one where for some reason you don't ovulate (often stress). They are fairly common. I had one once at a time I was extremely stressed. 47 day cycle and the eventual bleed was more like a breakthrough bleed when you come off the pill.

@FigandHoney sorry to hear you're still spotting - must be a bit disconcerting. Sounds wise to preserve energy for the days that count.

Think I'm ovulating today so soon on to the tww again...

AlienSuperstar · 27/09/2023 09:45

SnookyPook · 27/09/2023 09:23

@AlienSuperstar an anovulatory cycle is one where for some reason you don't ovulate (often stress). They are fairly common. I had one once at a time I was extremely stressed. 47 day cycle and the eventual bleed was more like a breakthrough bleed when you come off the pill.

@FigandHoney sorry to hear you're still spotting - must be a bit disconcerting. Sounds wise to preserve energy for the days that count.

Think I'm ovulating today so soon on to the tww again...

Oh well you learn something everyday! so you don't ovulate but you still have a bleed?

Does anyone have any experience with coming off Cerelle? I am taking my last pill on Saturday and can't remember how long it takes for your first bleed etc?

CharAStar · 27/09/2023 10:12

H0pefull · 27/09/2023 06:04

Morning All 🤍
Thank you for all your lovely messages yesterday, I am assuming both were indent lines as had a BFN on a FRER this morning, with AF due today or tomorrow I would expect a positive on a FRER by now. But we will see x

How are you today?

RoseH36 · 27/09/2023 11:10

Hi everyone, will catch up when I can on this thread, took some time off around page 20 of the last thread so have missed loads! (Won't be reading that far back though lol).

It's honestly been lovely having a cycle of no testing. We still dtd around the time I think I would have peaked but we were away for a few nights and think we missed our best shot. Tested today and negative as predicted. AF due around Monday/Tuesday next week but taking the negative as gospel so now feeling down and miserable.

This month marked the year mark since we started trying, for anyone who hasn't seen me on past threads I had a mmc in January and a chemical early June. Haven't been pregnant since. My son, who is 3, should have been a twin but I mc them early on so as that's my 3 I'm now under the recurrent miscarriage clinic.

I had my bloods done earlier this week which is testing for a whole variety of blood conditions - 7 vials of blood they took!! The nurse did laugh saying I needed more vials taking than the number of stickers provided on the blood form.

Still waiting on an appointment for an ultrasound, hoping I'm not waiting long as my follow up appointment is early November.

I'm very much in a moment of do I give up and count my blessings or carry on. I'm honestly so torn and have the same battle in my head every month. It's draining going through it all every month.

H0pefull · 27/09/2023 12:18

@CharAStar not feeling great today. I did a FRER this morning and got a negative, as well as a CB digital but the 5 days earlier one, also a negative there. After yesterday I really did think this was it. AF due today tomorrow and nothing as of yet, feeling quite drained 😂
thank you all for your lovely messages 🤍
welcome back @RoseH36, sorry you’re feeling so down, I was exactly the same when we got to a year of trying, it’s a huge milestone but not one you want to reach. Hope you can get some results from your bloods x

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VixFromThe6ix · 27/09/2023 12:52

@H0pefull so sorry to hear about your tests today. So shitty! I can't imagine two tests having indents, so maybe it was a very early chemical as someone suggested. I hope you're feeling ok. Sending you a truckload of hugs!!

Hi @RoseH36 ! Nice to hear from you. If your period isn't due till Monday next week, maybe you tested too early? I hope you don't give up trying. It's totally normal to feel how you feel, especially after such a long time, but if tests are showing nothing wrong I would keep going.

@happytobemrsg I think that gives you a great chance!! Good luck 🤞🏻

@FigandHoney oh I remember random spottings and how uncomfortable it feels. I had low progesterone which caused the spotting. Have you inquired about why you're having spotting this early in your cycle?? Best of luck with your DTD schedule this cycle! I also agree to save all the energy for around ovulation :)
One source said HCG should be out of your blood and urine in 10 days but then I read more and they say not to test for 14days. I'm still going to test to see if it's still showing up. Crazy to see so many positive tests and know it's not because you're pregnant

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CharAStar · 27/09/2023 12:55

RoseH36 · 27/09/2023 11:10

Hi everyone, will catch up when I can on this thread, took some time off around page 20 of the last thread so have missed loads! (Won't be reading that far back though lol).

It's honestly been lovely having a cycle of no testing. We still dtd around the time I think I would have peaked but we were away for a few nights and think we missed our best shot. Tested today and negative as predicted. AF due around Monday/Tuesday next week but taking the negative as gospel so now feeling down and miserable.

This month marked the year mark since we started trying, for anyone who hasn't seen me on past threads I had a mmc in January and a chemical early June. Haven't been pregnant since. My son, who is 3, should have been a twin but I mc them early on so as that's my 3 I'm now under the recurrent miscarriage clinic.

I had my bloods done earlier this week which is testing for a whole variety of blood conditions - 7 vials of blood they took!! The nurse did laugh saying I needed more vials taking than the number of stickers provided on the blood form.

Still waiting on an appointment for an ultrasound, hoping I'm not waiting long as my follow up appointment is early November.

I'm very much in a moment of do I give up and count my blessings or carry on. I'm honestly so torn and have the same battle in my head every month. It's draining going through it all every month.

❤️❤️❤️

CharAStar · 27/09/2023 12:58

H0pefull · 27/09/2023 12:18

@CharAStar not feeling great today. I did a FRER this morning and got a negative, as well as a CB digital but the 5 days earlier one, also a negative there. After yesterday I really did think this was it. AF due today tomorrow and nothing as of yet, feeling quite drained 😂
thank you all for your lovely messages 🤍
welcome back @RoseH36, sorry you’re feeling so down, I was exactly the same when we got to a year of trying, it’s a huge milestone but not one you want to reach. Hope you can get some results from your bloods x

Try try try to see when AF arrives that is a fresh start...Day 1...
In the coming days just be kind to yourself, treat yourself
I have a list of material things I like, for example a new jumper, a book, essential oils and every month I come on I allow myself that treat...

Bumblebee413 · 27/09/2023 15:07

Welcome back @RoseH36. Well done you for giving yourself that space. Hopefully those bloods are the first active step towards finding out more about you and what can be done to support you to meet this baby of yours. You’re doing all that you can x

I think it must have been a chemical too @H0pefull. I’m so sorry after such an exciting few days for you x

Welcome @BucksOxonMum

I’m not a fan of OPKs. It just adds to my crazy and I don’t need that. Listening to the ‘Don’t tell me to relax’ podcast courtesy of @SnookyPook (source of all my favourite TTC information!) suggested that those who use OPKs are less likely to have as much sex over the course of the month as those that go by CM only and actually it can take longer for them to conceive. Which I absolutely get, because when you’re as exhausted as most of us are after months of trying and quite often toddlers, you want to spend your energy as wisely as you can. I think that supports the SMEP method though. But then I have just gone by CM and can’t tell you what day I ovulated as I have a three- four day range.

I’ve just written out a huge paragraph stating why I think that will reduce my crazy around AF time, but realistically it won’t. I’ll just have even less of an idea about when it should arrive…

All the best laid plans. Plan is to test on Tuesday with my DH before he leaves for the final 6 weeks away with work, which is two days before I’m due, best guess.

CurlyWurly1991 · 27/09/2023 15:43

Very sensible @Bumblebee413 I agree that some tests, devices etc don’t work well all the time. I always come back to CM which so far has tallied nicely with other signs. I don’t think I could quit OPKs but admire you for doing so. That and a bit of temping. But I certainly have to watch my crazy! I can get a bit obsessive.
Welcome back @RoseH36 hope that you are still in with a chance this cycle. Sounds like a nice chilled one. Maybe I should give myself a bit of time off. I’m thinking at the 6m mark perhaps (this is cycle 5).

spacewitch10 · 27/09/2023 18:46

Hi ladies!

I didn't realise threads cap at 1k and thought everyone had just gone quiet on the old one 😂 even though @VixFromThe6ix very kindly added me I didn't get that sorry so went looking and luckily found you! Thank you for the add.

Sorry for anyone that got af 😔 everything crossed that you get your longed for bfp' sun the very near future

And congratulations to those who had bfp's

I'm after opinions if anyone thinks this is an indent or just a very very faint positive.

I did it yesterday morning at 9dpo, took another one this morning (both fmu) and it's exactly the same, no darker or lighter.... I'm convinced its indents though? What are your thoughts?

2023 TTC 35+ Part 5
Bumblebee413 · 27/09/2023 19:07

@spacewitch10 that is such a confusing one! I’m looking at it saying in my head that I definitely don’t see anything, but then I do and then I look again and I can’t. Again, classically unhelpful comment from me and I do apologise, but my guess would be indent maybe? Hoping with everything that I’m wrong x

Bumblebee413 · 27/09/2023 19:08

I’ve figured it out- if I look directly at it I don’t see it, if I move my head slightly away from it, my periphery catches it.