2023 TTC 35+

[VixFromThe6ix]

Hi everyone!!
Wanted to start another group thread for those TTC that are 35+.
When I was first trying, this group helped me a lot. We bonded and went through pains and celebrations together. I had two MCs over 2yrs of trying and lots of crying as I was typing many of my posts. Support helped... Especially at this age.
I had my first baby Jan 2022 and here we are now trying for baby #2.
I'll be 40 this summer!!!
Join me and share your story ☺️

Aww thank you so much and for the well wishes! Will keep you all updated! Xxx

@Floralsandsmiles when will you test? Hopefully it is good news for you!

Same as @Eirlys1986 I had random periody feeling cramps, so much so, that I thought it would be a chemical.

I'm 7dpo but don't feel anything and hate testing, and then examining said test, and then knowing it doesn't even count until your period comes anyway !

Well I normally spot and last month was 6 days before AF and then 4 days of AF. Unfortunately spotting started from 9dpo last month (and 9dpo is tomorrow). So want to try get to 10dpo and test, if not spotting before.however I have read lots of women who spot every cycle and did like normal and then got their BFP still.. so if I did spot, it wouldn't necessarily mean I'm out.. its all a waiting game basically and annoying. I dont know truthfully when to test xxx

@AgeGapBbe did you have to pay for the tests? I’m waiting for a scan for spotting between periods last cycle. Not sure how long I’ll have to wait.

@Floralsandsmiles fingers crossed for you! 🤞🤞🤞

Im 1dpo today. Managed to SMEP apart from the latter two days as OH is going away today so did -6,-4,-2,-1,0,1. I don’t think I’d bother with -6 next time as by the time we got to 1 I was a bit fatigued! Xx

@Floralsandsmiles glad there’s been no more pink loss. Super exciting

Thank you @Muriel84 and @Mummyme87 ! Tentatively feeling positive... worried though that in a few days it could go the opposite.. so being cautious cxx

@Muriel84 that sounds like a very good go! Exhausting!

I had pregnancy acupuncture this month, so maybe that's why I don't have any pre period symptoms this month. Last time I was pregnant the month after having acupuncture, so I'm hopeful it works again.
Or maybe the de-stressing effects is why I haven't gone mad this month symptom spotting and googling everything like I normally do 🤣

I've now been trying to cycles... First cycle I had a tonne of symptoms, this cycle I had no symptoms at all. Both same result 🤣🤣
I should have done a better job at keeping a diary of what I was feeling the cycle I got pregnant with my son, if anything was different cause now I don't remember at all.

Sounds like a few of your are testing next week. Hoping for some good news for you, ladies. 🤞🏻✨

I'm sending my hubby to test his sperm. Him being on TRT, I wanna know what we are realistically working with right now....

@VixFromThe6ix good idea to get the sperm analysis done. Hopefully you will get normal results and then you can continue to try not worrying that any low counts are affecting your attempts 👍🏻

@Eirlys1986 exactly... It's just a peace of mind for me.
I also reached out to the fertility clinic we were working with for our first child to see what they recommend in terms of testing and progesterone. Should book an appointment soon hopefully ...
I just feel that I don't have the time to waste cycles and I wanna know that everything is ok. I'm still positive but I know with each passing cycle I will be less and less so and I don't want this to take over my brain like it did before.

More pink just now than yesterday, fearing the worst.. only a small bit on a wipe, but still. Xx

@Floralsandsmiles sorry the pink has returned and caused you stress. It’s always so difficult trying to read signs your body is giving you plus it’s a roller coaster when one minute you feel hopeful and then the next something happens that makes you feel less so. I shall continue to keep fingers crossed for you, it’s always good to be hopeful when TTC but of course always trying to temper that with a bit of reserve as you are doing to try to protect your feelings x

Thank you @Eirlys1986
I read that if it is implantation that it could last a few days? But then again if it was pink yesterday, it should be brown today? Devasted. I think it's just my spotting and that it's even earlier than last time. Xxx

@Floralsandsmiles I do think I’ve read that implantation spotting can last a few days on and off. I wouldn’t necessarily say that it not turning brown today means it isn’t implantation as it’s hardly an exact science. It could also be general early pregnancy related spotting. I think it’s so difficult as everyone’s experience of early pregnancy can vary so much so some people have zero symptoms/zero implantation spotting etc and others have the full hog of symptoms.

Thank you @Eirlys1986 . I will read up abit more. I'm really hoping that it's just implantation. The other symptoms I've had, surely can be really early AF symptoms? 😞😫 xxx

@Floralsandsmiles …they could be, that’s the absolute bugger about TTC isn’t it? Early pregnancy and pre menstrual symptoms being often exactly the same. Thanks nature. 😐

Tell me about it @Eirlys1986 ! Xx

Sounds like a really good plan @VixFromThe6ix x

Fingers crossed for you @Floralsandsmiles, bodies can be so frustrating.

Having randomly picked a date that looks like it might align with previous cycles, I think I might be around 3dpo. We were doing really well, then the last time we did was -2dpo. Not ideal. Life, tiredness and a toddler got in the way. But then I don't know when or if I actually ovulate so... 🤷‍♀️

I wasn't going to test until I was late for AF, but I could potentially be 15dpo the day DH leaves for work again, which means we could find out together. It would be 4 days before I'm due AF but it could show something I guess.

I don't feel any symptoms at all but it would be super early. Plus, I think I've just had Covid, so that may have interfered with ovulation. Last time I had sore boobs, which is a normal pm symptom for me. The only thing that was different with DD1 was that my discharge wasn't normal for me. So much so that I went to get tested in case I had something like thrush or bv coming on 🙊

Trying to focis on all the positives if this is the month- no Christmas baby, longer to sort out our house (big project!) and longer to actually get myself healthy and lose some weight 💪

*isn't the month

Hi ladies and Happy Easter! 3 dpo here so nothing much to report. Sounds like we’re at a similar stage in our cycles @Bumblebee413

@AgeGapBbe I’m sorry it has been a long journey for you. I’m on cycle 12 or might be 13, I’m losing count now which is a bad sign! It’s really helped being on this forum.

@Floralsandsmiles I really hope it is implantation bleeding with being so early in your 2WW, keep us updated today.

Mornin girls been sititn in the wings after my last tww basically got a false surge straight after comin off the pill, no bleed at all then 31st march got static smiley again except this time chart reading was through the roof. Im 8dpo today! Feelin nothing lol!!! Abso zero symptoms which is worryin and i feel time is literally grinding to a hault. Hoping your all ok xxx

Finally got my solid smiley yesterday! YES! Thought I, we can dtd right on ovulation. Then the spotting started, and now I’m on a full blown period 😭

@Floralsandsmiles Sending much positivity your way - sounds like you've been on a roller coaster this cycle!

@VixFromThe6ix Love that you're being proactive and planning tests. Such a good idea - knowledge is power and all that! Hopefully you can book your appointments soon 💫

@Bumblebee413 Fingers crossed! - 2po is optimum I think!? I swear I read that the other day so you never know. But I like the thought of coming up with silver linings just in case. I need to lose a bit of weight (I do have a healthy BMI but I'm not fit / I've lost muscle since my son).

@Freya8 No symptoms = how I was with my son! Until about 16DPO when the cramping started. Good luck!

@AgeGapBbe Oh no, I'm sorry! How frustrating. Have you tried the old school OPKs? I ask because I can't work them out but they seem to work for those who don't get on with the digital ones! Next cycle - you've got this! X

Thank you to all the well wishes. I have just started fully spotting red now.. so I'm out, same as last month. Both on 9dpo. Devasted. Wishing you all luck on your cycles this month and sending babydust xxx

@Floralsandsmiles I’m so sorry to read this. It’s so so shit. You’ve done your bloods this cycle so will hopefully show up something that can be helped xxx