Anyone else trying to get pregnant and want to talk about it?

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I thought I'd start this thread as monkey and I have been talking about getting pregnant on another thread. Is it just the 2 of us? Anyway, this might be a good place to talk about it before (and if) we can add to the expecting in 2003 thread

My ds is just 5 so if I do get pregnant soon-ish he will be 6 when any half sibling is born (separated from his father). I feel ambivalent about being pregnant again, as I've said elsewhere. Some days I feel excited at the prospect, some days I think Oh No, no sleep, ever again...Anyway, I thought we could all (or both if it's just the 2 of us!) chat about ttc, pregnancy tests and feelings here. For me I have to say that starting trying was strange (sorry if this is too much info) as it's the first time I've ever had sex whilst deliberately trying to get pregnant, as ds was a happy mistake. Very odd...

thanks everyone! Who knew there was so much to learn about mucus?!

I know caffein isn't a good idea, but does anyone know if decaffeinated tea is ok. I nned to drink it by the gallon at the mo. Is it ok? Also, will that still have the dehydrating effects that ordinary tea has or is it the actual caffein that dehydrates? tia

Didn't want to scare you or your dp, www!

One positive thing to add - I've had an easier first three years with son number two than with son number one. All the baby and toddler traumas have got to me less the second time around so far. I don't know if that's because I am more experienced or because son number is easier. Probably a bit of both.

Blimey, I didn't know there was so much to know about mucus either! Tigermoth, it's ok, I'm not so scared that I had my coil put back in

Tinker, dp is 26, I'm 36. The first night we met he told me he wanted kids - we talked all night. He was then 23. When we became serious it was me who was unsure about another child: I hated being pregnant, hated labour, had mild pnd, hated terrible twos and I feel that I only got used to being a mum when ds was about 3 1/2. Like Tigermoth and her DH, I feel I am much better with older children. So it's taken us a long time to come to the conclusion that our relationship can stand it, that I am entirely happy with the idea of doing it all again and that everyone (me, dp, ex dh, ds, PILs on ex's side and dp's) will be ok with it. So I suppose I will be very sad if it turns out that I can't get pregnant again since it is a very considered decision. Also, I think it would be very sad for dp if we couldn't although he has said that he values our relationship over having children and that if I don't want another, that is OK with him. I know, the reality could be different. Anyway, I seem to have gone on a bit and I probably haven't answered your question Tinker, since for us it was dp who was keen, me who wasn't initially. Hope someone else is more helpful.

BTW, I do feel there is a bit of stigma attached to having 2 kids with different fathers. Only because 2 of my friends, independently, said "you can't have 2 kids with 2 fathers" once to another friend who was pregnant by a new boyfriend. Clearly I don't think it's wrong, but interested to hear people's views/prejudices about this.

Www - 2 kids by two fathers is so common these days as to not be worth commenting on - as a teacher we sort of raise our eyebrows in a knowing way when you get to 4+ kids by different fathers( oh yes it does happen - and not so rarely!)...I know we shouldn't but we're only human!

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Monkey - decaffeinated stuff is apprently ok. I can't comment on how dehydrating it is but on fertility sites it OFTEN says that drinking the full 2 litres of water a day is v v important.

Hasn't Louise Jamieson got 4 by different fathers and that Leslie (I'm sure she spells it the man's way, may be wrong) Kenton?

Thought I'd join in too ! We are trying for #2, my dd is 2, I conceived her on my first month of clomid as I was diagnosed with PCO and did not ovulate regularly.

My problem this time round is that my cycles are all over the place last 2 have been 7 weeks and this one 9 weeks and still waiting !! It is driving me mad, anyone any suggesions about how to start your periods??

Hello Tula & good luck to you too.

To all those who are having difficulties conceiving, have any of you actually tried Foresite? I was just curious because one (sorry can't remember) just made a jokey comment about them, but actually I heard they had an 85% success rate in dealing with fertility problems, from women with very irregular cycles to those not ovulating at all. I'm sure that very strict diet must be a real drag, but 85% sounds pretty impressive to me. What do others think?

I know 2 people who have tried it - tho neither 100% strictly - One lot had the hair test and passed before they even started the diet but are not pregnant - the other didn't have the hair test ( too vain to stop dying like me!) and just tried the diet loosly and has just got pregannt thru ivf.
A nurse at the fertility centre I'm atteding was very dismissive of it insofar as she said she had seen sevral examples of people who had tried to follow the diet very stricly and got obsessive and she wasn't very impressed. That said most of their recommendations follow the general advice for ttc and aren't controversial, I don't see that it can harm to try the general healthy eating/organic principles without going over the top and never allowing a gin and tonic or a Jelly tot to pass your lips

Bayleaf, This is off topic but the word from Tech is that if you put a comma after the first link, you can put another one in later in the same post. I think the comma has to go after the final }

It was annoying me so I emailed Tech a while back to ask!

Oh Thank you Soupdragon - I'd got so chuffed with my little self and then so frustrated - I'll give it a try!

We're still trying and I'm fairly convinced that since we're both stressed out at the moment that there is no way that I could be pregnant yet - but... because I'm really stressed I find it really easy to come home and pour myself a glass of wine. Everything I've ever read says its ok at first i.e. before you know - but does anyone know if that's true?

Also I know that when you concieve its a little while before the baby attaches itself to you (i.e. it floats for a time being). When does the attachment happen - first month, second?

The baby implants 2-6 days after conception usually but it can be as late as 12 days.
DEpending on how much you are drinking alcohol has been linked to failure to conceive ( but then most thing have!) I don't think a glass a night would be too much of a problem but 2 or 3 every night might well be.( Or at least a theoretical problem!)
I have clearly devoted FAR too much of the last year to researching this ttc business - please someone ask a question that I have no idea about and have never even considered!

I've got one. If you are on the pill and forgot to take it and got preganant as result, but DID'NT KNOW you were pregnant until it began to show and, thus, carried on taking the pill, would that cause any harm?

WONDERFUL Tinker - I have absolutely no idea! But then slightly unfair as getting pregnant by accident is NOT by speciality subject

Still trying for no2 - for 13 months now. GP says come back in the spring and try to relax Grrr! Totally irregular cycle varying from 23 days to 37 days. Any suggestions?

Oh this one I can do! You can either go back to your GP and insist on him investigating your irregular cycle - possible PCOS etc etc, 21 day test to check that you ARE ovulating.
If you don't want to do that then you can regularise your cycle by either accupuncture or homeopathy or herbs- I had a totally irregular cycle when trying for dd and got it to a steady 31/32 days by taking a homeopathic medicine not sure of the name now tho' and I've not got it any more as am onto conventional medicine these days.
Look at the nutricentre site here and also some of the sites I've linked to below - one herb that is particularly good is Angus Castus (Sp???) AKA Vitex
HTH
Bayleaf ( fertility expert - theory only, have so far failed the pratical exam!!)

another one for you bayleaf. All the sites saying about taking your basal body temperature - well, maybe I'm just totally thick, but no one's specifically said - does this have to be your vaginal temperature or can you take your temperature under your armpit?/ in your ear?

I've always taken it in my mouth - which I know is fine - I'm not adamant but pretty sure that any normal temperature taking site is OK AS LONG AS IT IS FIRST THING IN THE MORNING, AT THE SAME TIME EACH DAY AND YOU HAVEN'T MOVED VIGOROUSLY/GOT OUT OF BED ETC ETC. I know the electronic ear thermometres are NOT OK but a digital mouth one is OK. Tcoyf.com is the place for any in depth charting/temperature questions!

Ta. I don't think I can start doing it now anyway, from the little do know, but I might start doing this in the future.

I keep thinking of other sites that I havent' mentioned on here. This one is worth a look

Hi Tinker

Re: taking the pill - don't have any 'technical' medical advice, but this happened to a friend of mine who got to about 28 weeks pregnant before she realised, and she'd been taking the pill throughout this. She went on to have a lovely baby boy with no problems at all.

Never thought I'd see myself on a thread like this BUT, am 9 days late. Am off to buy a test this afternoon. Have absolutely no idea what to think - i've not been trying, but now dd is nearly 3 I don't think it would be the end of my world. Ok, I admit to quite liking the idea sometimes...only snag is I've only been with dp for 7 months - we don't live together. I DO NOT want to be a single parent again with 2 under 4...

But then [in sarcastic tone] I'm sure the tender boobs, back ache, feeling sick, sleeping badly, heightened sense of smell is just a bad dose of PMT....????!!!!!!

I'll be back this evening with the answer, hopefully cursing the waste of a tenner for the test...gulp....

Oooer Lizzer, keep us posted and hope you get the result you want.
Can I suggest a category on here for most inept TTCer? I DROPPED my Persona down the toilet last week and it is knackered. Too ashamed to ring their helpline to find out if there is any point in trying to resuscitate it...