TTC #2

[L0tM0w]

Hi everyone, it’s my first post on mumsnet, I spent a LOT of time reading through these threads when ttc my son and they helped so much.

Now I’m back ttc my second and it is only our second cycle and I am already much more desperate for it to happen than I was the first time around with my son 3 years a go.

I think it’s because it took us 10 cycles to conceive my son and I’m already heartbroken over it potentially taking that long (or longer) this time around.

Anybody else out there ttc their second baby and feeling the same anxiety? I swear I drove myself mad last cycle, it’s no wonder it happened really, I was borderline insane with googling, symptom spotting and even poas as early as 4dpo

[L0ts]

@WingingIt101 You really can just convince yourself of all sorts can’t you 😩 It’s so hard not to get carried away!!

Thank you lovely! Same for you!

[RunningOnHope]

@L0ts

How is everyone getting on?

I’m 7/8 days away from my period and trying so badly not to symptom spot or let myself get carried away. I seem to have loooads more cm this cycle and all day yesterday my lower back, hips, tops of my thighs and groin area just ached.

So hoping it’s a good sign 😩 Temps suddenly gone super high as of yesterday too which puts my mind at ease thinking I surely ovulated and possibly had a delayed temp rise!

@L0ts I'm similar timings, AF due next Sunday (only 3/4dpo today though, I have a short luteal phase). I'm been looking out for more CM, hardly any today so not looking good. I've also had this horrible cold that has really knocked me for six, so impossible to symptom spot and aches or twinges! Willing it to be a BFP for both of us by next weekend!

[has30]

@L0ts

How is everyone getting on?

I’m 7/8 days away from my period and trying so badly not to symptom spot or let myself get carried away. I seem to have loooads more cm this cycle and all day yesterday my lower back, hips, tops of my thighs and groin area just ached.

So hoping it’s a good sign 😩 Temps suddenly gone super high as of yesterday too which puts my mind at ease thinking I surely ovulated and possibly had a delayed temp rise!

Well AF is due 2 weeks today so I guess this is the start of my TWW! Not holding much hope this month as we didn't get much chance for alone time.
I hope this week goes nice and quickly for you and it doesn't drive you too crazy symptom spotting!

@RunningOnHope isn't it rubbish that a bit of a cold or illness can basically ruin a whole month of trying! Still entirely possible to conceive I guess.

Hope you both have some good news for us next week!!

[L0ts]

@has30 Oh man, isn’t it weird when you’re back in the tww? When your period arrives you feel like you’re so desperate to get back in to your fertile window and before you know it, you’re back in the tww AGAIN 😫

@RunningOnHope So sorry to hear you’re feeling shitty with a cold. There are some naaaasty viruses going around atm. My son had a stomach bug this week, luckily me and my partner don’t seem to have caught it though! 🤞🏻I hope you feel better soon and fingers crossed for us both next weekend!

I was feeling positive the last few days but today I feel like I don’t think I’m pregnant at all and I’m just awaiting AF to arrive 😩😩

[RunningOnHope]

@L0ts @has30 thanks for your sympathy, DD was up alllllll night with the same cold so sleepy all round here today! Having said I couldn't symptom spot, I've had very definite cramping in one side today, think it's too early at 4/5dpo for it to be implantation cramping though. And a week off AF. So not sure what it's about!

[Dav87]

8 DPO for me today! My chart looks like I may have had an implantation dip yesterday but omg trying so so hard not to get my hopes up! No other symptoms at all! ☹️
I’m terrible at waiting to test but going to try my best to wait a few days - hopefully I’ll have a few more symptoms in the next few days too.
Good luck to everyone! X

[L0ts]

@Dav87 Oooo the dip does look promising!

I feel very not pregnant today 😩 The heaps of cm and achiness seem to have subsided so I’m a bit like meh, maybe this isn’t the month after all.

I’m with you on trying not to test. I have 2 frer and about 15 Internet cheapies in the draw, but I made myself so miserable last month testing every day that I just refuse to do that to myself again! 😩

[L0ts]

Also, anybody else waiting for the same symptoms they had when pregnant with their first? 😂

I had the flu for 24 hours when my son must have implanted and now when I don’t get that around 6/7dpo I just automatically assume I’m out. Even though I know all pregnancies are different.

I also had sore boobs and a face full of spots around 10dpo so I look out for that too! But I know I shouldn’t compare at all, so hard 😂

[kmbegs]

Hi everyone, I'm TTC my second as well, currently in the fertile period of cycle 7. I fell pregnant without really trying with my first so this has been an experience! This month I'm doing the 'sperm meets egg' method and with my longer cycles it means we've been having scheduled sex for 16 days now 😅. I am hoping to test my progesterone this month as bought a home testing kit but will depend if I can work out exact ovulation date from my temps, my temps seem to rise a little then jump up and I don't know if I ovulate before the slight rise or the big jump, and worried that pattern means something is wrong. Anyway good luck to everyone! Be good to keep checking in and seeing how everyone is getting on x

[kmbegs]

@L0ts with my first I never knew I was pregnant until my period was really late, i only did a pregnancy test to rule it out - I thought I must be late due to work stress. Which is actually helpful for symptom spotting as I had none last time so nothing to watch out for which helps. It's hard going isn't it, knowing what to look out for, what's a good sign and what's a bad sign, it's all so stressful!

[Kiaa]

@L0ts hopefully the last few days goes fast when are you testing ?
I haven't even reached my peak going so slow 😑

[L0ts]

Hi @kmbegs I really hope this is the cycle for you! Keeping my fingers crossed 🤞🏻 You must be exhausted after 16 days!! 😂 Please keep us updated!!

[L0ts]

@Kiaa I think I’m going to try and wait until AF is hopefully late!! I think I’d rather see AF show then BFN after BFN 😩 The app I use is saying she should arrive Sunday but if I were to go off what I’ve always gone off in my head without the app it should be Friday or Saturday.

I said yesterday these aches weren’t here anymore but they came back last night and I struggled to get comfy in bed. Kinda worrying if I’m not pregnant what the hell is wrong with me? 😂😂

[Dav87]

@L0ts It’s so hard not to get all hung up on symptom spotting! I felt so sad today as I don’t have a single symptom other than my chart looking good with the “dip”! ☹️

But then it’s perfectly normal not to have any symptoms so early, and the logical side of me knows that but the TTC side of me is very irrational 😂

I’m 9DPO today, 5 more days until AF is due and I will test. Let’s hope I haven’t driven myself crazy by then!

How is everyone else doing? x

[RunningOnHope]

You are doing so well @Dav87, keep up the self control!

I have zero symptoms. AF due at the weekend, Friday or Saturday, but I sort of just don't feel like I will have a period then. No reason, just psychological, too much hope I guess. But DP is convinced I must have a subconscious connection to my body that knows I'm pregnant and that's why I don't feel like I'll get a period.

[Dav87]

@RunningOnHope Haha, thank you! Ooooh I hope DP is right, keeping everything crossed for us all ❤️

So I’m awake at 3am, I woke up cos I was feeling sick! Now did I eat too much at teatime or is this a good sign? 😬🤞🏻

Still no other symptoms, 10 DPO today.

How you doing @L0ts? Xx

[Kiaa]

@L0ts
Oh good idea Yes agree testing is so stressful
Everyone is different with pregnancy symptoms With my dd I only had 1 zapping symptom that was it maybe I was chilled back then 😂

[L0ts]

@Dav87 I’m doing okay thank you, I wouldn’t exactly say I have any symptoms tbh! I really just don’t feel like this is the month. I was quite achy around my pelvis/groin/hips the first half of yesterday but for the most part I was okay!

I KNEW I was pregnant from around 6dpo with my son, I just absolutely knew we had conceived and I said to myself next time I’d know it too, so I think that’s why I feel out.. but I guess you never know 😩 Period is due Friday-Sunday.

Weird isn’t it that you feel happy to be feeling sick? I’m always the same 😂😂

[L0ts]

Ergh just came to the realisation my last cycle was only 26 days long, so that means I’d be due on tomorrow. Praying AF stays away 😩🤞🏻

[Dav87]

11 DPO today and still not a single symptom, so think we’re out this month 😞
With DD1 I just “knew” so I’ve pretty much given up hope and just waiting for AF to show her ugly face on the weekend!
My chart temps are still good, but expecting them to come down over the next few days.
Such an exhausting rollercoaster every month - feeling very down today 😢
Hope everyone else is doing better than me, and fingers crossed all your BFPs come soon!!! Xxx

[L0ts]

@dav87 So sorry you’re having these feelings. I know how you feel though, I also just feel out. I really had so many symptoms by this point with my son so to have none now, just makes me think meh, it’s not this month. I also naughtily did a test last night on an IC and it was the biggest negative ever. I should be around 10-12dpo today.

You aren’t out yet though, there is still plenty of time before AF shows!! 🤞🏻And as I’m sure we’ve all read, it is perfectly normal to have no symptoms at all. My SIL had NO clue she was pregnant at all, the two weeks before AF was due she felt 100% normal. She only tested because her period was late. She also went on to have a relatively symptom free pregnancy 🤷🏻‍♀️

[kmbegs]

@Dav87 your chart looks perfect, you're definitely still in! And totally agree with what @L0ts has said - I never knew I was pregnant with my first pregnancy, I only tested because my period was late, and they say every pregnancy is different so even if you had lots of symptoms last time doesn't mean you will this time. Keeping my fingers crossed for you. My temps have been so up and down I've no idea when I ovulated or DPO so feel this TWW is going to be even more horrendous than usual

[L0ts]

AM I GOING MAD??!!!

[Kiaa]

@L0ts Ooo I think I see something keep testing 🤞🌟🌟

[blueberryy]

I’ll pipe in here. TTC #2 and been at it for nearly a year. Suuuucks so much. Went to get all tests done and DH and I are fine, so all of this is just unexplained 🤷🏻‍♀️ It just feels so silly to be so hopefully the first few days after ovulation and to get obvious AF signs.

We used pressed this cycle and I was so hopefully, but I’ve had three days of lower back pain so I’m feeling like AF is due to arrive soon 😞