TTC after MC - May 2021 thread 19

[bez91]

Here we are again... thread 19. Not sure if any of you ladies are here from thread 1. I think I've been around since about thread 5.

@SLCxxx
@justwant2beamum
@Canadadarling
@Marvellouslymadmum
@SamBass
@bubblybrit
@elsimo
@Loulou237
@Fingerscrossedfor2021HK
@susiebluebell
@Mamat90
@Lollipop25
@TheDaydreamBelievers

Tagged everyone I can find/think of.

A very new tag list from the last one I did in February, a lot of ladies got BFPs 🤰 Hopefully some good news for us in the coming months... 🤞🏼

Any recaps on journey so far welcome...

So sorry to hear this @susiebluebell. I hope you’re being well looked after by your partner. Can’t find any words to make things better but please know we’re here if you need to vent xxx

@susiebluebell I’m so sorry that you are going through this again. It feels so unfair. Take care of yourself xxx

Thanks guys

I'm so so sorry @susiebluebell it's so cruel. You're not alone 💕 I hope you're being well looked after x

I’m so sorry to read your update @susiebluebell. Miscarriage is so cruel. Thinking about you x

Thanks bez and bubbly. I am doing OK actually, the heavy bleeding has stopped now after 2 days and it's just spotting again.

It's not been pleasant but I only knew about this pregnancy so briefly that I didn't have time to fall in love and get my hopes up. Less traumatic than last time.

How's everyone else's week been? X

Hi @susiebluebell, I’m pleased it’s not as traumatic for you as last time, and the drs might be more inclined to do some proper investigation into why it’s happening or if you could be given progesterone etc for the spotting. I hope you have a nice weekend full of rest and good food xxx

@susiebluebell, I'm so sorry to hear your news. I have had two mcs as well and it just isn't fair.

Sending you strength to get through the coming days.

@susiebluebell Just read your last post, I also found the second less traumatising I think just because I knew it was a real possibility from the get go, but then I felt like maybe I was broken for not feeling it as intensely. You're allowed to feel however you feel.

Hi ladies, how is everyone doing? Just plodding along here, in the 2ww. Had a stinking cold around ovulation this month, slightly struggled to convince OH to dtd whilst I was full of germs! So thinking it’s probably not my month this time.

@susiebluebell how are you doing? Hope you’re ok under the circumstances, and taking it easy. Sending lots of hugs xx

@bez91 am I right in thinking you had another scan today? Hope it all went well, fingers crossed for you x

@OneDay86 I could of written this! We both had a stinking cold over ovulation and I think my immune system was low I actually ended up getting something downstairs so absolutely not hopeful this month and just waiting on the doctors to contact me for swabs - nothing is straight forward now after Covid! Fingers crossed for you 🤞🏼

@susiebluebell I am so sorry for your loss. What a journey. I hope you are being as kind as you can to yourself and lots of support around you!

Congrats to any other BFPs I may of missed!

I had a painful pregnancy announcement made on Saturday from a kind of friend! She experienced a loss just after me and got pregnant straight away and is now 15 weeks and here is me without a whiff of a positive. Sorry not to sound bitter. Happy for her but sad for us!

Thank you everybody for being so amazing. It makes such a difference to have somewhere to offload where others know what it's like.

@bez91 we're nearly at 1000 messages and should start a new thread! Just fyi

@OneDay86 I did, I'm still in a bit of shock as everything went ok and was measuring ahead at 9+2 days 😬. EPU have discharged me as such so now under the 'normal pregnancy' umbrella. Seeing the midwife tomorrow, feeling slightly more optimistic now.

@susiebluebell hope you're ok 💕 I've drove the last 5 or so threads. It's probably appropriate for someone to else to start the next given my circs but I'll still be sticking around as too invested in others journeys!

Oh wow @bez91 that’s great news! I hope you can relax a little now. Congratulations and hope the midwife appointment goes well xxx

@bez91. That’s wonderful news. I’m so very pleased for you 😀 congratulations xx

Brilliant news @bez91. ❤️❤️❤️
@susiebluebell i’m so sorry you are going thru this again, its just not fair xx

Hi all. I just found this thread, almost by accident, and i'm feeling a bit lost.

Started ttc in mid April and we conceived that same month, which was a surprise. I'm 36 so thought we'd have more trouble, even though I conceived really quickly with DS when I was in my 20's. Unfortunately I had some bleeding towards the end of May at around 6 and a half weeks, we had a scan and there was nothing there, no sac or anything, I started miscarrying 'properly' on the day I should have been 7 weeks.

It took around 40 days for my period to come back and we decided to wait until I'd had a normal cycle before trying again. Started again in August and, again to out surprise, we conceived that month. I had my bfp on 1st of September.

Last Friday, 9+2 days, I had the tiniest amount of spotting, about the size of a finger nail when I wiped, once on Friday morning. My anxiety got the best of me so off we went to the hospital for a scan. I think I'd convinced myself that it was nothing and that the scan would show my lovely little baby and a happily beating heart. But they only found and empty sac.

The doctor was horrible, she seemed annoyed by my crying and told me that I should be glad they'd found it now and not later, and it's worse for women who have stillborns do I should stop crying. She gave me an appointment for 10 days time to do another scan and that was it.

So here I am, waiting for Tuesday to arrive so they can do another scan, they won't find anything different, I know when I ovulated. It seems cruel that the wait is so long to get intervention. I'm not sure if they'll want to do a D&C or medical management (not sure what's normal where I live).

I was offered no support or explaination as to why this might have happened. 2 pregnancies that just haven't developed properly doesn't seem like a good sign. I'm desperate for another baby but I don't know if I can do this again. I'm terrified it'll happen again.

Could I also join? I am 32 and TTC first child. We started in February and conceived straight away but it was a chemical/early loss. We then conceived again without a period in between. We saw a heartbeat at 6 weeks but sadly I had a mmc which I was treated for at 9 weeks.

Took 10 weeks for my hcg to return to zero and we finally started trying again in august. Nothing yet.

Currently in 10dpo but got some nasty indents on FRERS. Just waiting to see if AF shows up.

I also decided to have a test for NK Cells and have an appointment on Friday in relation to it. I really want it done but I'm also annoyed it will mean we have to stop TTC for 2 months whilst the test is happening

Feel like it's never going to happen for us but fingers crossed we will get our rainbow one day

@Loz2467 aww sorry you’re suffering too, feel like there’s loads of colds going round at the moment! It’s such bad timing isn’t it… just typical that it lands in ovulation week! Hope you’re feeling better now and are all recovered. Did you hear back from the doctors? Fingers crossed this is your month still, don’t give up hope 🤞 I’m waiting to test until the weekend but still not holding my breath!

Sorry you’re having to go through that painful pregnancy announcement… I totally understand. My cousin announced the day I miscarried that she was expecting, and due the same month I was 😔 I find it so hard to be happy for her - even though I am, but at the same time I have this overwhelming jealousy and sadness that i should be in the same position as her… but I’m not. The unfairness of ttc is hard to swallow sometimes. Hope we all get our well overdue happy ever afters soon ❤️

@bez91 oh my goodness!!! That’s amazing news! Congratulations - i’m so happy for you 😊 I hope the rest of your pregnancy goes nice and smoothly for you. Please keep us updated xx

@susiebluebell you’re right we need to start a new thread… anyone willing to do that? I would but I’ve never done it before and don’t really know what I’m doing 😂

Also @Loulou237 and @Unarosaes hope you’re both doing ok? Xx

@hewegoagain and @chasingtherainbow1 I’m so sorry for your losses. I’m glad you found this thread though as the ladies here are so understanding and supportive, I hope you both find some comfort in it

@hewegoagain I’m also so sorry you’ve had to experience an unsupportive doctor in such a vulnerable time. As a healthcare professional it angers me so much, and as a human being it baffles me! She should have absolutely been there to support you through this, not made you feel bad! Any loss, no matter when it’s happened is such a hard thing to deal with! It is absolutely normal to feel sad, to cry and to mourn that loss. Please try not to let her misguided reaction affect you. She is the one letting you down, and I’m so sorry for that.

As far as another mc… I’ve had 2 in a row too, and I’ve been told by my consultant that it is not as uncommon as we think, and many women go onto have a healthy baby after having 2 miscarriages in a row. But I completely agree with you it takes such a mental toll on you… I’m really hoping our 3rds will be our lucky ones 🤞 xx

@chasingtherainbow1 I feel we have such similarities with what we’re going through! I’m too TTC my first, although I’m older at 35. But I also had a chemical in February and then conceived again in June, saw the heartbeat at 6 weeks and then miscarried at 9 weeks. I don’t know about you but I found it so hard when I saw the heartbeat… because in my mind that meant everything was definitely going to be fine. I think next time I’ll probably be much more guarded,
Which is sad, it’s a self-preservation thing.

I’m currently 2 cycles since last mc and 5dpo, but not holding out too much hope. I’m interested in the NK cells test! I’ve often wondered if this is a problem for me. Do you mind me asking how they’re testing you for it? Sounds frustrating if you have to take time off tcc, but honestly don’t panic, you really are still young. You still have time (I know it doesn’t always feel like it). I’m 35 and still going 😉 My fertility consultant is very positive about it all…. He said it’s not that unusual to have 2 mc in a row unfortunately, but that many women will then go on to have a healthy baby… We will one day get our rainbow babies ❤️

@OneDay86 yeah our experiences are really similar! Yea I agree, seeing the heartbeat felt like a bit of security but unfortunately it must have stopped days after we saw it as it hadn't grown past 6 weeks when I had the next scan.

I was doing some research into nk cells last cycle and found that you can self refer to The university Hospital of Coventry and Warwickshire. It costs £540 but that's waaaay cheaper than the private tests and the waiting list was only 2 weeks so we thought we would take the opportunity whilst it's there. I can't let you know how I get on if it's something you're interested in. I've also heard they often give a lot of advice for future pregnancies even if your nk cells are normal which is good of them.

Yeah I've heard having 2 in a row can be normal but you just can't help worry that it will never happen! Hopefully it will!

Hello everyone,
I hope you don't mind me joining. I don't often comment on threads but could do with the support I think and would like to give some support to all of you! Sorry to read all of your stories, it's just heartbreaking.
I had a miscarriage at the beginning of August at just over 6 weeks, it took a lot longer to complete than I thought it would (about 6 weeks). I'm now on cycle 1 and 4/5 dpo. We made the decision to try again straight away as it's the only thing that has kept us going and it has made us feel slightly more positive again. ButI'm also now obsessed again! Before we found out we were pregnant we'd got to the point (after a lot of talks) where we realised how lucky we are with the life we have and if we got pregnant that would be so grateful and feel even luckier. But it took us a long time to get to that point and I feel like I'm starting that all over again.
However, with a new cycle comes hope again and I'm just praying that we get lucky and can bring a baby home.
Thinking of you all and keeping everything crossed. And congratulations to all of those who have had their BFP

@hewegoagain so sorry to hear about your recent experience. It's unacceptable that the doctor treated you that way. You're completely justified to feel as you feel. I know it's hard but please don't let her reaction upset you further, she's in the wrong, not you. I hope you're able to take some time and do whatever you can to make yourself feel a little better.

I was also wondering if anyone has been advised to take aspirin or are thinking of it? Have read a lot about it but not really sure what to do...as a general rule I don't like taking medication unless I really need to do but am also desperate to try anything that may help.