TTC after MC - May 2021 thread 19

[bez91]

Here we are again... thread 19. Not sure if any of you ladies are here from thread 1. I think I've been around since about thread 5.

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Tagged everyone I can find/think of.

A very new tag list from the last one I did in February, a lot of ladies got BFPs 🤰 Hopefully some good news for us in the coming months... 🤞🏼

Any recaps on journey so far welcome...

Hi everyone, can I join this thread?
At 10 weeks I had an mmc, I had an MVA on Wednesday - trying to get my head around everything at the moment but hoping to ttc again once everything has settled. It’s been really helpful seeing some of these posts over the last week or so.

@bez91 thinking about u! I know how hard this stage is. Keep the faith and please keep us posted xxx

Hi and welcome @Sarah0409 Really sorry for what you're going through. Feel free to vent on here

Hi Everyone.

I hope you are all having a great weekend so far. I haven’t been on here as I’ve been struggling a lot so I didn’t want to come across as negative on here.

Great to see some positive tests! 🤞🏼

Still TTC for me. Not sure how much longer I can keep going with it as I’m slowly loosing hope. Had LH, FSH day 3 tests last cycle and day 21 progesterone. All fine so not sure what / if the problem is. People keep reminding me it’s 6-12 months for a healthy couple to concieve but after it happening quickly in the past I can’t help but feel disappointed.

I’ve just turned 35. I’m having fertility reflexology on Wednesday. Willing to try ANYTHING! At what point would I be considered secondary infertility? After 12 months of TTC? I’m getting worried.

@bez91 that wonderful news, very promising! When is your next scan booked for? I’m actually okay thank you, nearly 18 weeks and feeling movements which is reassuring, finally started to tell people about the pregnancy x

Welcome to all of the new ladies on here, and so sorry for all of your losses ❤️ I’ve only been on this thread for a very short time, but have already found it so helpful and comforting to hear from others on here. It’s been a bit of a lifeline to be honest.

I have a bit of an unusual question and was wondering if anyone could offer any advice…. I’ve had my first period since my MMC, but I swear I ovulated about 2 days after it finished, which was day 7. I had a lot of ovulation symptoms although wasn’t testing LH levels as I wasn’t expecting it to happen that early. I have beenntesting since day 9 and I’m now on day 15 with no positive on my ovulation tests…. I can’t help but feel I’ve already ovulated!! It was so early, I usually ovulate between days 13-16 not day 7! Has anyone else ever had this? Is it maybe something to do with the miscarriage? Appreciate any advice or similar experiences. Frustratingly if I have ovulated early we’ve definitely missed our chance this month.

@Loz2467 I’m so sorry you’re going through such a hard time with ttc at the moment. I understand how you’re feeling, I’m also 35, and have been trying for our first baby for about 15 months now - although feels so much longer sometimes. I have been pregnant twice in that time, which I know is a positive, but both sadly ended in early miscarriage (4 & 9 weeks). Do you mind me asking how long you’ve been trying for? The specialist I saw said that at 35 he would consider anything within 2 years to still be a fairly normal time scale for getting pregnant, although advocates getting some basic tests done if it’s been more than 12 months just to rule things out. He gets so frustrated with me because I still can’t help but feel like I’m running out of time. That’s a really good sign though that the blood tests you had done came back normal! But I get it can also feel so frustrating, like if everything is good then why isn’t this happening??? As hard as it is, don’t lose hope, you’re still young and sometimes for unknown reasons it just takes longer than others. I’ve recently read quite a few positive stories about people suddenly getting pregnant after a year of trying, gives me some hope too. Have you looked into any other tests to help put your mind at ease?

Also, I’ve never tried reflexology but have heard lots of good things about it! Was thinking about trying it myself. Hope it goes well on Wednesday, let us know how you get on with it. Have you tried acupuncture at all? I didn’t find it as relaxing as I thought it would be (I’m not fond of needles!) but I did have it for a few months before I got my last bfp so who knows if that helped? Might take it up again!

@OneDay86 I am so sorry got your two losses and being on this rollercoaster of TTC after loss. With your ovulation I don’t really know too much with it being literally just after your period. I’m usually around day 15/16. Are you thinking this because of fertile CM? One way to check for definite would be to BBT and see where your temperature is maybe? But then if you’ve not done BBT charting before I guess you won’t know the pattern? As hard as it is I’d just continue to look out for signs just incase you haven’t ovulated yet and you can BD.

So with me we’ve been TTC since last October and I luckily got pregnant first month of trying. Fast forward to 18 weeks pregnant we turned up got a gender scan and we had lost our baby girl. It was a MMC and she stopped growing at around 14 weeks. I waited around 8 weeks for my first period to arrive then we started TTC even though I wasn’t in a great place I knew I didn’t have time on my side. During this time I’ve had various things affecting me. Grief, the post mortem results, both my Covid vaccines etc. Not looking for excuses but it’s not been a smooth sailing 5/6 months of TTC. It took 5 months for the post mortem results to come back which was hard and the reason was exactly what I thought. With getting pregnant twice before on the first month of trying I just can’t help but think something is wrong but naturally we look for something to blame don’t we. Me and my partner had Covid back in January and I’ve been worried about the affect from that - more so on male. Fern on here has helped me with that as it affected her partner. We haven’t had him checked yet and even if we did they will say less alcohol, caffeine and take vitamins so I’ve not crossed that bridge yet as he’s agreed to take vitamins. I think we will wait till Feb time and if still not luck we can both go private and get checked. I did have acupuncture and really liked it but she only does a Thursday in my area and it was hard to fit in around work. I’ll let you know how Wednesday goes. I totally get what your saying it can just take time and I pray we all get our BFP. I guess I just felt a bit naive and I thought I’d get pregnant easily again so when I haven’t it’s just been a bit rubbish! Last month everything lined up perfectly and nope AF has still arrived today! 🙈 I hope everyone has a great week! Xx

Welcome @Sarah0409 sorry you find yourself here. I also had an MMC at a similar stage, I've had some good support over the year or so I've been on this thread.

@Loz2467 yes it's a year for any "infertility" as such I believe

@SLCxxx next one is Wednesday. Trying to distract myself just massive scanxiety at the moment. Feel awful but that could be the concoction of meds I'm taking so difficult to know if genuine pregnancy symptoms 🤦🏼‍♀️ wow 18 weeks that seems to have a flown (probably not for you I appreciate!) that's great you've started to tell people and movement always reassuring . I said to DH if all goes well I want to wait until about 20 weeks but mindful that may not be possible!

@OneDay86 it's hard to say, I found I had multiple surges on OPKs some months so difficult to pinpoint. I tried both acupuncture and reflexology and neither helped me to any BFP but I suppose it may have an influence on reducing stress regardless

Hi all
@Sarah0409 How are you recovering from the MVA? Hope it hasn't been too tough on you physically, the mental aspect of it is hard enough.

@bez91 Scanxiety is such a great word, hoping Wednesday goes well.

I have my first scan at the EPU tomorrow when I should be roughly 6+5 so assuming if all is going well they'll be able to see pretty much everything. My last mc was found at 8 weeks with baby measuring 6+2 and first mc was anembryonic found at 8 weeks as well, so assuming the embryo stopped developing even before this point with that one. I haven't really spent a lot of time dwelling on this pregnancy as I think it's just easier this time not to get my hopes up (I'm finding it almost impossible to imagine getting good news). But if it does work out at this scan, at least I know I'm past the point where I lost the other two.

Hi everyone and thanks for being so welcoming! Sorry you are all going through this but it’s really great to be able to talk to people.
@coconutlatte44 thanks - it’s been a bit up and down, thought it was all finished then had some horrible cramps but they’ve tailed off again now

Thinking of those of you with scans coming up, I hope all goes well! xx

Hi everyone. I think I posted on here back in May, but fell off the thread with life getting in the way. I’m feeling in need of some support with the frustrations of TTC though, so I’m back!

I’m similar to you guys I think @Sarah0409 and @Loz2467 in that I got pregnant quickly with both my first child, and the two recent pregnancies I lost. Since the second miscarriage, I’ve had no joy at all and it’s now been 6 months. I’m starting to feel really down about it because I never for one second thought it would be this hard to get pregnant again. I can’t help feeling something has gone wrong since the MVA in March.

My cycles were all over the place up until this month, so I did request some tests from the doctor. All I had was a text to say the results were fine, and I’d got pregnant before so would get pregnant again! I don’t even know what was tested. I finally have an appointment to discuss it this week, so if anyone has any suggestions of questions I should ask, then that would be amazing.

I’m also thinking now is the time for some vitamins, so any recommendations in that area would also be great.

I promised myself that if I wasn’t pregnant this month, I could go and splurge my maternity leave savings for this month on clothes from Sezane. But of course, everything I want is out of stock in my size! Just feels like the universe is against me, whilst everyone around me just falls over and gets pregnant. I also feel huge guilt that my little girl’s friends all have siblings and she doesn’t, and I’m very conscious of the age gap widening before my eyes.

The whole thing just sucks!

@bez91 One more sleep! I have a good feeling about it.. today is going to drag for you but I hope it flys by! Let us know how it goes, am excited for you 😊

@coconutlatte44 good luck for your scan today, 🤞🏻🤞🏻 All is well, let us know how you get on x

Hi everyone, I hope it's okay to jump on. I haven't caught up on the whole thread but I'm so sorry for everyone's losses. It's such a lonely, horrible thing.

@coconutlatte44 & @bez91 good luck for your scans! and congrats to those who have conceived.

I've had three losses in six months: April (mmc), June (ectopic), and August just passed (mc). Now I'm in the TWW again (6 dpo today). I seem to get pregnant easily enough (like every month we try) but they just don't stick. We're still trying to stay positive but I'm losing that ability. At 38 ttc #1, it is now beginning to feel like it may not happen for us.

I'm under the care of a RMC, and have been tested for clotting disorders but so far all is fine. If I'm not pregnant this month I'll have another test to confirm the clotting thing is fine, and then I'll be referred to Professor Regan at St. Mary's. We had a sample sent to cytogenetics this time but who knows what will happen with that - still have no idea when or if we'll get any results. I'm convinced I have poor quality eggs due to my age and an unfussy uterus that shouldn't implant them but does, only to end up in mc.

Ok-
I was prepared for one of 3 outcomes - bad, uncertain but trending bad, or good "for now."

What I did not expect - not one but two heartbeats. Both within expected size range for dates.

One of them is a bit smaller so there is a chance they might not both make it. Follow up scan in two weeks. Will take it a day at a time from here.

Wow.

Thank you for the well wishes.

Omg @coconutlatte44 that’s amazing news!!! What a shock. I just told my husband as that’s exactly how I would feel with the 3 possibilities you definitely don’t even consider twins at that point! How amazing for you. Congratulations and good luck for a happy healthy pregnancy xxx

Good luck with your scan tomorrow @bez91

@coconutlatte44. Oh wow....what a surprise! Hoping all goes well with those two little heartbeats 💓

Omg wonderful @coconutlatte44 I'm grinning from ear to ear!

@PolarBear63 First of all I would say do not worry about age gaps between kids! We often have our own deadlines and expectations for things, but they matter so little in the long run when our babies eventually come along! I know several families with gaps of 9-11 years between kids, and they are all well-adjusted, happy, get on really well etc.!

One of my silly deadlines was that I wanted to have my first baby before 30. Then I wanted to be pregnant before 30. Now I'm knocking on 31 and my cycles are all over the place and no closer to pregnant than I've ever been. But I just want a pregnancy with a healthy kid at the end of it, never mind when.

Others with more experience will tell you what questions to ask at the docs re fertility!

@coconutlatte44 img that’s amazing, I’m so happy for you! I really hope all goes well and the next 2 weeks fly by xx

Thank you @SLCxxx @bubblybrit mindset of expect the worst, hope for the best. Out of bed at 5am this morning to have a shower and get in a reasonable mindset

@weathervane123 sorry you find yourself here. That's a lot to go through in a relatively short space of time. I'm similar on the 3 MCs, initial tests showed nothing and sometimes there is no defined reason which is frustrating.

Wow @coconutlatte44 congratulations. All the best, hope things continue to be positive!

@PolarBear63 I presume they are GP tests? They're likely to have tested for progesterone (depending where in your cycle they tested) to see if you ovulate. Google 3 day and 21 day blood tests as I assume you know what day they were done on. Also push for them to repeat your 21 day ones (21 day is a guide assuming you ovulate on day 14, if it's later it should be around 7 days after your ov day)

@bez91 I hope all went well xxx

@Loz2467 I’m so sorry for your loss. I struggled with my last miscarriage at 9 weeks, so I can’t even imagine how hard it must have been at 18 weeks for you. I really hope you get your bfp soon and your rainbow baby ❤️ Sounds like you’re doing all the right things, it’s all got to have a positive impact, and the fact that you’ve become pregnant before is a really good sign! There’s no reason it won’t happen again. Just so frustrating sometimes, and I’m the worst at following my own advice! I’m obsessively looking up forums all the time - TTC is just such an unpredictable journey and I hate the lack of control. I’m usually a very patient person but with TTC I have no patience at all… I want to be pregnant again like yesterday! But have everything crossed we all get out BFPs soon ❤️

Also nearly forgot - hope you enjoyed your reflexology session today! Really thinking of taking up acupuncture again. So I think I ovulated early because of CM and increased sex drive tbh… which I’d not had since the miscarriage. I don’t track my temp, only because I’m really obsessive with things… I’m already addicted to peeing on sticks 😂 But looks like I may have been right with ovulating early, AF has arrived early making it a 22 day cycle, but made sense with my early ovulation. Just hoping my next cycle goes back to normal!

So sorry you and your other half had COVID early in the year. Gosh you really have had a tough time of it. Hope you’re both all recovered now. Have to admit I don’t know much about the affects on fertility, but I’ve heard it may affect sperm production but that this is a temporary thing? Something to do with having a fever damages the sperm as they need a cooler temp? But again, I’ve not heard it as long term issue x

@bez91 really hope your scan went well today. Know it can be such an anxious time, but sending lots of positive thoughts ❤️

As far as the ovulation looks like I’ve just had a very short cycle - I’ve ovulated early but also had my period early as a result, so a 22 day cycle, my shortest one yet but I’m putting it down to my crazy hormones after the miscarriage. Yeah not sure what to think about acupuncture, in 2 minds whether it helped or not with my last bfp, although I know a lot of people swear by it.

@PolarBear63 I’m so sorry for your losses. TTC can seem so random sometimes, it’s frustrating. I didn’t really change much from month to month so still don’t understand why I got pregnant the months I did when all the others I didn’t. That’s a positive sign though that your test results are normal! Hopefully your cycles will get back to normal soon too. My first one after my last miscarriage was so short - shortest I’ve ever had. Hoping the next one will be longer. As far as vitamins, I’ve started taking CoQ10, recommended in the book ‘It starts with the egg’ but apart form that I’m just taking the normal seven seas trying to conceive tablets. Are you taking any vitamins yet?

@weathervane123 I’m so sorry for all of your losses, that’s a lot to deal with in such a short time. I really hope things work out for you soon. I’ve just been reading Professor Regan’s book on miscarriage and she sounds so knowledgable and positive about pregnancy outcomes, even with multiple miscarriages. My cousin actually had a couple of miscarriages before giving birth to her first daughter at the age of 43, and she had been trying a while! It just finally happened for her one day.

@coconutlatte44 what amazing news - congratulations!!! I can’t even imagine how exciting it must have been to see two heartbeats! Hope these next 2 weeks go quickly for you x

Quick update from me.... Sorry for anyone this is really shitty for today 💕

Scan done. She poked about for a long time, looked at us concerned and said she couldn’t see “anything at all” so would need to do an internal one. Then just before she did she found a heartbeat and we both burst into tears 😭 measuring exactly 6 weeks as expected to be. We’ve got to this stage before and nope, so trying to be cautiously optimistic. Hopefully 4th time lucky 🤞🏼

@bez91 that’s great news, I’ve been checking the thread to see if you’d sent an update! I bet you held your breath for a long time in that scan. What a relief. Cautiously optimistic sounds perfect. Everything crossed for you xxx