TTC after MC - May 2021 thread 19

[bez91]

Here we are again... thread 19. Not sure if any of you ladies are here from thread 1. I think I've been around since about thread 5.

@SLCxxx
@justwant2beamum
@Canadadarling
@Marvellouslymadmum
@SamBass
@bubblybrit
@elsimo
@Loulou237
@Fingerscrossedfor2021HK
@susiebluebell
@Mamat90
@Lollipop25
@TheDaydreamBelievers

Tagged everyone I can find/think of.

A very new tag list from the last one I did in February, a lot of ladies got BFPs 🤰 Hopefully some good news for us in the coming months... 🤞🏼

Any recaps on journey so far welcome...

@Mustkeepgoing2 so sorry lovely, if you're 5 hours from home can you call the nearest epu to where you are and tell them what's going on? Hopefully they'll see you for a scan or something, sending virtual hugs your way 🤗

So sorry @Mustkeepgoing2.

Are you with your partner just now? Are you able to find your nearest early pregnancy unit and attend there? If not, would you consider leaving the holiday and going home to get checked out at locally? Sending love xx

If you've already had your booking in appointment with your midwife, I'd call them for advice, or even call the early pregnancy unit to see what they advise xx

@Mustkeepgoing2 Oh I'm so sorry. Have you managed to see anyone about it yet? Let us know what happens xxxxx

@Mustkeepgoing2 I'm so sorry to read that 💕 hope you are ok. We are here if you feel like checking in x

Thank you ladies. Sadly I almost feel hardened to it now. I haven’t really let myself cry. I am sure it will come when I am alone with my thoughts a bit more but equally I think I almost expect the worst outcome rather than a happy outcome.

I really really wanted to just have a lovely holiday with my son and husband and just enjoy the moment and swim etc as I feel like TTC and my previous losses have just sucked away so much joy.

I went to the EPU in North Devon and it has been confirmed that the miscarriage has started but I am still waiting to pass the baby and sac which apparently didn’t really grow past seven weeks.

I am not sure really where I go from here but I think like a lot of you ladies I have become fed up of the whole process taking over my life and I am going to really try and not look to far into the future.

When I had my first loss my son was one and now he is almost three and I just feel like I need to focus on him now and try and just be happy.

I am still going to TTC and we will likely go to IVF but I am going to try and switch my emotions off a little bit now and try and focus on all of the reasons I have to be happy. I love my son so much and I don’t want to miss any more of his life by being consumed in this nightmare.

Xxxx

I have no words. Sending big hugs @Mustkeepgoing2

I'm so sorry @Mustkeepgoing2 xx

@Mustkeepgoing2 so sorry, take care of yourself and we are here when you want to talk x

@Mustkeepgoing2 I’m soo sorry, doesn’t seem fair. Sending virtual hugs also xx

How are the rest of you lovely ladies doing? It’s 29 degrees here today, thankfully I’m 10dpo as I wouldn’t like to BD in this heat, lol 😋

Well I have just got a new phone as the other one died, and my Clue app has wiped a year of tracking, so I'm starting again with no evidence of my irregular cycles! So that's great! 🙄

But I'm getting quite into the new way of eating for PCOS. It's quite a good thing to focus on, e.g. finding new recipes, trying new things. Better than being wound up about TTC. We are just doing maximum healthy living and maximum sex and see where that takes us

Hope everyone else is well? Xx

@SLCxxx oooh are you testing this week? It's bloody hot here too...I'm CD16, no clue if I've ovulated as not tracking this month but I ov'd CD17 last month. DH already asleep on the sofa so not sure on my chances 🙈

@susiebluebell argggh that's so annoying. I find it helps for medical appointments etc. Can you not plug the dead phone into a laptop and see if it'll backup? It's definitely beneficial to focus on other things, that's why I'm off tracking, it's all consuming and 13 months on its having an impact on my MH. With you on the doing maximum sex and healthy, not been too good on the health this week so need to refocus 😊

@Mustkeepgoing2, I am so sorry. No words.

I hope you have someone physically with you to hold your hand through all this.

@susiebluebell healthy living and plenty of sex, it’s so nice to see you putting a positive perspective on things, love it 💕 bloody phone 🤣

@bez91 🤣🤣 omg that actually made me laugh, go poke him, lol. I’ve ordered some FRER and plan to test Sunday when af is due so if it’s BFN then I wont torture myself that I tested too early. How does it feel not tracking? Im getting fed up with it all so am considering stopping from now on

@SLCxxx that sounds a plan, I'm not testing until after AF due this month. I am enjoying not tracking to be honest - I'd recommend 😆
it's one less worry not doing the OPKs and wondering when a peak will come and not having to set an alarm for BBT although saying that I ovulate any day between CD12 and CD20 in the past so I'm still mindful of what day I'm on if that makes sense
Focusing on other things like @susiebluebell 😊

@bez91 I feel your pain, I ovulate any day between day 14-22! My cycles are all over the place and I even have ovulation pain now 🤦🏼‍♀️ This month I done OPKs, BBT, preseed, fertilily, conception vits & co-Q10.. my mum and hubby think I’m bonkers! But I shall take your advise and concentrate on something else after this month (like fitting back into my summer clothes). So are you just BDing all the time instead?? Lol

I’m actually ovulating again! 🤷🏼‍♀️ Wtf

Congratulations @SLCxxx I wish I had seen that lovely strip myself in recent months! Enjoy it and get DTD!

@bez91 After your suggestion, I did plug my old phone into my laptop with a USB. It registered as connected (the little tinkly sound) and the phone briefly lit up, then nothing. I might take it to a phone shop.

Losing a year's worth of cycle tracking is the least of the things that have disappeared - calendar appointments, photos... ugh.

I'm glad several of us seem to be unwinding a bit, and focusing on the maximum sex, maximum health aspect Much more enjoyable that way xx

@SLCxxx yes just about every other day 😊 just feels more relaxed with no tracking at the mo. Ahh your OPK, could you be having multiple surges? Your hormone levels rising but not releasing the egg on the first attempt 🙈 Last cycle I had a peak on CD7 and again CD17, ov was CD17 confirmed by BBT but it can be frustrating especially if using Clearblue OPKs, it could be the case that I missed it in previous months if I already thought I'd ovulated 🤦🏼‍♀️ this could be the one instead for you?

@susiebluebell seems something is working then, see what a tech person would charge you to have a look. I thought I'd lost all data when an external hardrive broke but they managed to retrieve it. It's nice to hear people are unwinding I agree, especially when people have had tough journeys it can be all too consuming focusing on solely that.

@Mustkeepgoing2 I hope you are ok as you can be, look after yourself 💕

Aww thanks @susiebluebell, sorry about your phone, hope the phone shop can salvage the memories

@bez91, my day 3 & 21 bloods indicated I ovulated and my bbt dipped to 36.2 the day of my peak and went up to 36.9, its now dropping as 36.8. I think it’s just a random surge before SF comes on Sunday. Do you usually ovulate as early as day 7? I mean do you usually have an early surge., then maybe miss your real ovulation by accident? Or is this just a random cycle? MC really miss up our bodies huh

@SLCxxx that's good, I know some women just have multiple surges in their cycle, if your doing BBT anyway at least you'll know which is the right surge, frustrating though!
I've never confirmed ov with BBT as early as day 7 no, it's just been peaks on OPKs that early. I've always had a second peak at around CD12 but not always used BBT so OPKs are pretty useless alone and last month ovulated late at CD17 so it's anyone's guess and that's why I'm fed up of tracking 😆
MC sure does mess up your body, 6 months on from last MC and still no idea what's particularly normal for me apart from cycle length is usually always the same 🤦🏼‍♀️

MC sure does mess up your body, 6 months on from last MC and still no idea what's particularly normal for me

I wonder why this is though? I've never seen it addressed anywhere.

Soo.. turns out I wasn’t ovulating again after all 🙈 can’t actually believe it’s real!