TTC #2 over 40

[Jem1979]

Anyone else TTC over the age of 40? I have a 19 month who was conceived first attempt. TTC #2 since June without success so far. Be good to hear from anyone in the same boat! I’m still bfeeding so wondering if that might be a factor. Plus my age obvs!

Hi Jen, yes I’m 40 approaching 41 and have been trying for no.2 for about 6 cycles. I have a 3yr old so it feels like forever ago I was pregnant!
Had one CP since trying again and a few cycles that were a bit odd and I wonder if I conceived but hormones weren’t high enough to get a positive test. Been taking ubiquinol for a few months and hoping that helps!
It’s horrible but I’m completely obsessed with it and just want it to happen so much. I feel very lucky to have my little one so I’d never feel sorry for myself if it didn’t happen but I would feel sad.

Good to hear from you, this is exactly how I am feeling! Blessed to have a lovely wee boy but as soon as he was born I knew I wanted another. Haven’t heard of ubiquinol is it recommended? Yes I was reading about hormones which is why am wondering if me bfeeding might have an impact. I always said I wouldn’t become obsessed but having luckily conceived first try with #1 I didn’t need to. Now am having a harder time second time around and it’s frustrating when it’s all you want! Plus there isn’t much on aT the moment to take your mind off it! Hoping you get your BFP in 2021!

Lots of people say that ubiquinol helps egg quality and is useful to use when a bit older. I figured it can’t hurt anyway! Do some googling and find which brand looks good for you. I get mine from just vitamins. Fingers crossed for 2021 as you say!

Hi OP, yes ubiquinol can be very helpful for us older ladies, but take a high dose. I had my twins at 41 and like you knew I wanted another immediately. Unfortunately I found that I had to stop breastfeeding entirely in order for my cycles to return though. I just turned 43 and am currently 15 weeks pregnant with number 3 😊.

I had my second at 41. Conceived just as I turned 41. Our first took 18 cycles to conceive, but second was quick. I gave up breastfeeding to conceive my second. Good luck.

What dose did you take? Congrats on your pregnancy!

Great thanks I will look into it. Congrats on your pregnancy!

Ubiquinol / CoQ10 600 per day.

I’m thinking that’s what I will have to do. I rarely feed during the day but do often through the night as my son is a poor sleeper!

Will do, thanks for the advice!

Hello everyone! Hope it’s ok if I jump on this thread as I’m 41 (42 in April) and have been ttc since August 2017 Had my son Sept 2016 after 8 months of trying and no intervention but this second time is just not happening so far, we’ve had 4 miscarriages (all around 6-8 weeks) and all the tests but it’s just bad luck (and low egg reserve). Anyway, we’ve decided to keep trying until the end of the year so here I am!
Good luck to all of you and I too am taking the CoQ10 along with Zita West’s DHA, vitamin D and folic acid- I’m rattling!

Oh that sounds like a tough journey for you. I’ve only been TTC #2 since June so a short time really in comparison. It’s annoying when you know time isn’t on your side. I’m still feeding and hoping that might be what’s preventing me conceiving. Trying to wean my son gradually but it’s not easy! Hope this year is your lucky one!

Thank you @jem1979 I do too, and for all of us, especially after the crazy year of covid we’ve all had, it would be amazing to have some happy news for a change and something so positive to look forward to. I’ve been prescribed progesterone this time so if I am lucky enough to get pregnant again at least I will be trying something new which gives me a bit of extra hope Good luck with the weaning and hope you get a BFP soon! Would love to hear how everyone else is getting on too-I’ve been googling pregnancy in your 40’s A LOT and found a woman called Claudia Spahr who had all 3 of her children in her 40’s and has written a book called Right Time Baby, anyone read that? Although I could probably open my own branch of Waterstones with the amount of books I have on the topics of fertility, miscarriage. & parenting 🤦‍♀️So maybe don’t need yet another one!

@41FerrisWheels totally agree would be lovely to have a new bubba to look forward t to after a tricky year. Is that prescribed due to the MC’s? If I have no success after weaning I will ask for some tests I think. Haven’t heard of that book but might give it a read......I’ve googled tons of stuff also but am trying not to as much, as I find it starts becoming all consuming! I know they say when you relax it often happens....easier said than done!!

Hi- I’d link to jump on top. I’m 43 and have a 7 yr old who was conceived with no issues. Really struggling now and am a bit obsessed too. Taking about 10 different supplements and am currently having bloods checked. Have lots of friends who had successful pregnancies after 40- so I thought it would be easier than I’m finding it. Feel very sad that I left it too late (family tragedy stopped my trying earlier on). Have been trying for 4 months so far, will try SME-thingy next month.

Hi @Cashewcookie! Know exactly how you feel, and I'm sorry to hear you've been through a tough time, it's hard when the decision to conceive is taken out of our hands, I didn't meet my husband until my mid 30's so time wasn't on our side to start off with, but I have taken a lot of comfort in the fact that SO many people do have healthy happy pregnancies in their 40's, if they can do it then so can we! I tried the SMEP, but like most things I am not consistent, as I am rushing to try the next thing which is probably where my problem lies! @Jem1979 yes they prescribed the progesterone because of my recurrent miscarriages, we had all the fertility tests firsts (privately as it was secondary infertility) but they said even with IVF they could only give us an extra 5% chance of getting pregnant, and after the tests I got pregnant twice again anyway, so after the 3rd miscarriage I was eligible for tests on the NHS which is when I got my bloods done but all came back fine thankfully, however I did read some positive things about progesterone so I asked for it, rather than it was offered, and my consultant is lovely so she agreed to prescribe it. So we shall see...I have started reiki which is my way of relaxing, and trying to switch off from thinking about the negative stuff, so hopefully that will help too although can't go now until mid-April obviously!

@41FerrisWheels Totally on the SMEP thing, I only managed it this month (minus two!). Oh and I do acupuncture, but I don’t find it relaxing, I find it painful and stressful.

@Cashewcookie[grim] I tried acupuncture too so know what you mean - and the lady I had sat watching Eastenders on her iPad whilst I was trying to be all zen as I could hear it through her headphones Random! But LOVE reiki so would highly recommend it. I got pregnant a couple of months after starting reiki but never got pregnant in the year I tried acupuncture so evidently wasn't my thing (and I did try someone else who wasn't quite so mad keen on their soaps )

@41FerrisWheels oh dear! Sounds like you can at least laugh about it (now)! That’s interesting actually... I might look into it. Thank you xx

@41FerrisWheels I also didn’t meet my partner til mid 30’s and didn’t start trying til 38. He is 5 years younger than me so doesn’t have the same age pressure (though men obvs can keep reproducing far longer than us, grrrr!) I might look into reiki, tbh I don’t really know anything about it?! And @Cashewcookie I’ve just downloaded the SMEP so will give it a bash next cycle! It’s good to hear from others in the same boat, stay positive ladies as there are loads of women who give birth in their 40’s!

You have both inspired me to try SMEP again but with some consistency this time! This is my first cycle trying again since my last miscarriage so I am trying to think of it as starting from scratch and on a new mission - but in a relaxed, calm and not overthinking it type way of course As for the reiki, all I can say is, anything that gets you horizontal in a darkened room which doesn't involve having to cycle your legs for 10 mins afterwards is such a nice change so well worth a try - I often fall asleep!

Hi folks, may I join? I'm 41 & TTC no. 2- having a weird time right now, usually have v.regular cycles of 27 or 28 days, but now on day 35 with no period and negative tests! Did a Clearblue earlier today & nowt. Not sure what to make of it all.

I think I will try SMEP properly next time too- I missed off the last two days as it became such a chore! I’m in my two week wait now.
Definitely stay positive....! We can do it!

@PankhurstTastic hello there! Have you been taking any preconception vitamins at all? Just I have read these can mess up your cycle...?!

Hi @PankhurstTastic how are you doing today - any sign of AF or have you done another ClearBlue? I had a couple of longer cycles but that was after MC's so not much help to you, the body is wonderful yet also very weird sometimes and when you're ttc the last thing you need is false hope - hope you get an answer one way or the other soon!