TTC #2 over 40

[Jem1979]

Anyone else TTC over the age of 40? I have a 19 month who was conceived first attempt. TTC #2 since June without success so far. Be good to hear from anyone in the same boat! I’m still bfeeding so wondering if that might be a factor. Plus my age obvs!

Hello there @cuju2407 and congrats on the BFP :-) hope it all continues to go well for you.

@Lastyearttc great to hear growth scan went well, not long to go for you now eeek! Hope bubba stays put for you, what happened with your first were you on time?

And congrats @Mattieandmummy fab news for you too! I know what you mean about not letting yourself get too excited, but that's lovely you are having another girl. How has your pregnancy been so far?

We haven't found out the sex, I'm thinking maybe a girl this time although my pregnancies have been very similar.. either way can't wait to meet him/her!

It's really great to hear of so many ladies in their 40's having successful pregnancies and I really hope this encourages everyone else on the TTC rollercoaster xx

@Jem1979 first one I was induced at 38weeks which ended in emergency c sec after 3 days... so probably happen again! How are you doing now?

Newbie here 👋 42 and desperate for a sibling for my 3-year old. Have been trying for 2 years, 1 CP and 2 MC 😢 Thank you to everyone sharing positive pregnancy stories and best of luck to everyone still trying xx

Hello Ladies, I am so happy I found this community. We have a 3 year old and have been trying to conceive for almost a year now. We had 3 miscarriages or chemical pregnancies. Although I don't like calling them a chemical pregnancy... This cycle we have started with IUI. The follicle scan yesterday showed 2 good sized follicles... But no one knows the quality of the egg and my gyno is telling me it's a numbers game. I feel so sad and defeated sometimes and find it so hard to stay positive. Please share your thoughts and experiences!

Hi everyone I have loved reading the thread and huge congrats to all of you who have become pregnant!

I would really love some advice - I’m 45 with a 3 year old who I adore and he has started asking for a sibling which as we all know is gut-wrenching, especially when you so badly want another yourself! I’ve always been too afraid to TTC in case of learning difficulties given my age plus I had major health issues after he was born but now they have gone away and I’m thinking why the hell not. But first of all I want to find out how healthy my reproductive system is for another pregnancy and whether I have a cat in hell’s chance of getting pregnant with my own egg. Or if my uterus is healthy enough for IVF.

Can I go to any clinic for an MOT? Or should I look for specific tests? Are some places better than others or are the tests standardised??

All and any advice welcome, thanks!

@Lastyearttc hopefully you won't have such a long labour experience this time! I'm grand ta finish work in 3 weeks so looking forward to having a bit of time to get organised!

Welcome to the new ladies. I will be 43 in August so don't let age put you off!

@ttcbecca I started trying for a 2nd when my son turned 1 and he will be 3 in May so all in has taken 2 years with one MC during that time. Keep the faith, it can happen for you!

@Hopeful40 Yes I suppose being harsh it is a numbers game, but if you focus too much on that then it can get you down and at the end of the day you only need one good egg! When you have experienced losses, doesn't matter whether it's CP or a later MC, emotionally they are so so tough.

@TreadLightly3 oh so hard when they are asking for a sibling......if only it was as easy as just doing that! My hubby wasn't keen on idea of IVF so we decided if it wasn't meant to be naturally for a 2nd then we would count our blessings. I only ever had 21 days bloods done by my GP to check for ovulation, so not the best placed to advise about an MOT, but others on this thread may be able to help?

Sorry I've been quiet for ages. Amazing to read about all the pregnancies!
@jem1979 lovely to hear you're doing ok. Spring chick on the way soon :)
@cuju2407 Congratulations! Are you feeling well?
@lastyearttc So pleased to see you're doing well. I hope the move went to plan.
I've been waiting for ages for referral, had my video appointment a good few weeks ago, and I'm in tomorrow for first scan etc. I could tell the nurse who did the initial assessment was concerned about past fibroids although she was absolutely lovely and tried not to let on. Was told they'd shrunk a year ago, but I'm pretty worried about it now. But we'll see what tomorrow brings. Hoping nothing very scary.

Thanks @Jem1979 I’ve taken the plunge and booked us in at a clinic. I appreciate you replying and hope you’re doing well xx

@Sash78 hope all went ok at your scan.

@TreadLightly3 that's good you've got the ball rolling. At least then you'll have a clearer idea where things stand. I'm grand thanks, on the final stretch so looking forward to meeting bubba soon! x

Hi all. Just to update I gave birth to a baby girl last Sunday. We are over the moon & both doing well. I'd like to wish everyone on this thread the very best of luck going forward and hope you all manage to successfully conceive in the not too distant future xxx

Congratulations @Jem1979
was it 1 May? My little one’s birthday is on 1 May ☺️

@GingerFox2021 yes 1st May! A lovely birthday to have I think!

@Jem1979 Congratulations!! This is fabulous news, so happy for you! A lovely birthday date indeed! I have just read back through all the messages since I was last on here and it’s great to hear such positive news! I had thought I had given up ttc but I’ve decided to try a few more times so I’m back and I know how useful this group was last time I was on this rollercoaster so glad it’s still going strong!

@TreadLightly3 I had tests a couple of years ago now so can’t remember exactly but we paid to go to a local Fertility Centre for most of them as it was secondary infertility so not covered on NHS, I remember they said my husband had slow sperm and I had low egg count so even with IVF they could only increase our chance by 5% and as we had managed to get pregnant just not managed to keep the pregnancy I didn’t think it was worth it as we could conceive just didn’t have good quality eggs evidently…but it only takes 1 good one! And I’m hoping it’s in me somewhere! Then we got the HyCoSy on the NHS I think after I had had 3 miscarriags as they will investigate after 3…Good luck with your tests, it’s good to find out what’s going on and can give you some reassurance or can help you make sense of things at least…

@41FerrisWheels hello there and thank you! How are you doing? Are you still abroad? Great to hear you are giving it another go you just never know what's around the corner x

This is so true @Jem1979 and you have given me much hope! We are still overseas but back in July - I think I was always slightly apprehensive about getting pregnant over here as it's a developing country but now we are on the countdown to leave and we've had a good 6 months break from ttc I am ready to get back on the horse (so to speak!) and see what happens, BUT much more relaxed and que sera sera about it this time! (She says...😉)

Hope everyone else has had a good weekend wherever you are in your cycle...I am now in the limbo of waiting to see if I get a BFP in a couple of weeks...chances are slim as we only DTD once but it was on my most fertile day so you never know! 🍀

Thanks @41FerrisWheels wishing you tons of luck xx

@Jem1979 huge congratulations! I'm so happy for you. Thank you for the lovely message to the group. Thanks for all your input and sympathy. Wishing you all the very best. x

Congrats @Jem1979 on the birth of your little girl. I am now 16 weeks and all going well so far apart from the nausea 🤢. I still can't believe I am pregnant sometimes. We took years to conceive my son but managed this time after just a few cycles so I just don't think it's sunk in yet!

@cuju2407 that's fab all going well so far. Hope the nausea subsides soon, I was lucky and hardly had any sickness or nausea. We are doing well Eilidh is settling in great and we are adjusting to life as a 4. Just trying to enjoy every minute as she is changing so quickly! x

Morning All! Just checking in, how are we all doing in half term week and Jubilee week too!? I am missing out being overseas as it looks like lots of celebrations going on over in the UK! Anyway, just wanted to share that I was reading a thread on here that has really inspired me and motivated me to keep going, despite the 4 (often challenging) years of inconsistently ttc our second, 2 chemical mc's and 2 mc's at 6 weeks and 8 weeks...so wanted to share it with you! I was 43 last month and so started googling 'ttc at 43' and Google brought me back to Mumsnet (of course - the best source of all things Mum related!) The title is 'Is it even worth ttc at 43' so if you have a search on here you'll find it, but lots of people commented on it with positive stories about conceiving and giving birth in their 40's, so if you need some good news then check it out :-) Sometimes it's easy to just see the negative, scaremongering and rubbish stats in the media etc but so many women successfully give birth to healthy babies in their 40's - and therefore there is every chance that we could all be one of them and add to some positive stats and stories too💛!! :-) xxxx

Ignore that one, I’ve found an even more positive one here ‘Hope for age 40 ttc’ a much better read, we can do this everyone! Our time will come 🤩

@41FerrisWheels you are quite right, ignore the negative stats and focus on the positive stories, loads of people successfully conceive in their 40's, me included, and there have been a few others on this thread too. Sending you all the positive vibes 😘 xx

Congratulations @Jem1979! Jope you're all keeping well.

I'm about CD 6. Felt so optimistic last month - we were away during FW and DTD plenty on the right days. And then I had sore heavy boobs so I was really hopeful. But then AF turned up 2 days early. Was unusually light as well so am wondering if I may be peri- menopausal. I'm 41 next month.

I had been feeling quite positive but as my DD is getting older (she is now 2.5) I'm aware that any age gap is also getting larger than I would like, if it happens at all.

Am going to read the thread @41FerrisWheels posted to try and perk myself up!

Hi @RockingGazelle i can totally empathise, had that same feeling this month too but AF arrived today, two days early and also light, and the peri menopausal question did enter my mind but we have to keep the faith until the fat lady sings! And I did happen to find a clip from ‘This Morning’ about a 47 year old woman who went through the menopause, had HRT, was told she likely had cervical cancer, went for CT scan and yep, you guessed it, she was actually pregnant after 11 years of infertility struggles. Ok, so I’m not saying that’s going to happen but I think at 41 for you and 43 for me, it’s still a tad early for menopause. I think it often follows when your own mum went through menopause, not sure if that’s a fact or just old wives tale, I asked my mum and unhelpfully she couldn’t remember.
Anyway, I’ve just read It Starts With the Egg and discovered the fabulous all in one supplement called Ovum that has everything in as recommended by the book to improve egg quality, help reduce recurrent miscarriage and aid age related infertility so I’ve started taking that today. It says take for 3 months before trying but obviously time is not on my side so not sure I can wait…is anyone else taking Ovum? Xx

Thank you for the pep talk @41FerrisWheels. It has helped! I agree that it seems a bit early for menopause unless there is a family history of it but I think my mum went though menopause mid 50s and my sister is 2.5 years older than me and it hasn't struck her yet so hopefully it was a just a funny month for us both.

I hadn't heard of ovum but have done some reading today and have now ordered myself some! I figure it can't hurt!!