TTC #2 over 40

[Jem1979]

Anyone else TTC over the age of 40? I have a 19 month who was conceived first attempt. TTC #2 since June without success so far. Be good to hear from anyone in the same boat! I’m still bfeeding so wondering if that might be a factor. Plus my age obvs!

Oh @Jem1979 I’m so sad and sorry to read this, its a heartbreaking and utterly crappy experience to go through, I can totally empathise. I hope you heal quickly, give yourself lots of tlc; sending lots of love and hugs xx

@41FerrisWheels It's been pretty tough, I didn't appreciate before how tough tbh. I am getting there, have periods where feel ok then burst into tears again. I know it will get easier day by day. Thanks for the message x

Hi ladies, back on threads after a wee break! My af arrived 22 March, day before my 43rd birthday!!! I'm cd28 today & had a slight bleed cd26 so I did a stupid thing this eve!

Oh congrats @gizmo167 if that’s what it looks like! I always use those ones that state your number of weeks as I don’t trust myself to hallucinate the wrong result

Gosh this thread is a rollercoaster of emotions this week; which completely mirrors the ttc rollercoaster we are all on! Hope you’re all doing ok out there xxx

Sorry to hear @Jem1979 you have to go through this. I hope you are feeling a bit better now. Try to concentrate on something positive. Cry out, sometimes it helps. Sending hugs..

@GingerFox2021 Thank you. I'm feeling a bit better and it's getting easier as the days go by.

@gizmo167 congrats! Hoping all goes well for you this time around x

This was cb test this morning, least its looking better & line progression! Anything to give hope is welcome! Boobs are starting to feel bit tender & fuller now & have had few wee twinges of nausea too, I know its early & means absolutely nothing but am fully aware my time is running out quickly so hoping this one sticks!!

@Jem1979 I'm so sorry lovely, sending massive hugs x

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Hi everyone. Hope all is well.
@gizmo167 amazing! Wishing you the best and thanks for providing us with hope!

@Jem1979 hope you are feeling better as the days progress.

I’m feeling old and tired. Hoping summer will bring some well needed energy.

Thinking of you @Jem1979.

Excited for you @gizmo167

Hey @Cashewcookie, I feel you. I'm a bit despondent.

Guess we just keep going... Warmest wishes to you all.

Hope everyone is doing ok! Just wondered if anyone has had their vaccine yet? I’ve had my invite but am so scared of it impacting fertility even though all the information says it’s not a problem.

My partner suggested waiting 6 months after the vaccine and then resuming TTC like I’ve got all the time in the world!!!

I was wondering what to do for the best too...I haven’t been offered mine yet but it’s only a matter of time obviously...it’s a little bit of fear of the unknown isn’t it...and we don’t really know what the effect on fertility/very early pregnancy would be?

@41FerrisWheels it’s so tricky! I’d feel happier with Pfeizer or moderna but realise I don’t get a choice. AF has just arrived today so feel like if I book it in now there’s less chance of it affecting ovulation but then I’m really busy with work so could do without feeling poorly for the next couple of weeks! Argh dilemma!

Hi @gizmo167 how are you feeling? Have you got any top tips for the rest of us here as I am open to any advice!! I am on my second month of SMEP so shall see, I was convinced I was pregnant last month, even my son snuggled up to me and said "Mummy, there's a baby in your tummy, your tummy is going to be so big in the summer!" Now that got my heart racing but...nope! AF arrived and it turns out my son is no mystic Meg!
Anyway, just wondered what supplements you were taking or if you were doing SMEP too? Hope you are feeling good!

Also shout out to everyone else that's ttc on here - the struggle is real but we can do it! xxx

Hi @41FerrisWheels, aw thanks for thinking of me lovely. I'm doing ok, 6+3 today, havent had any spotting or cramping to be concerned about and the nausea has really set in now, was sick yesterday too so I'm taking it as a good sign, even though I know its very early days and I hate being sick lol!

Oh, advice? Dont give up! Simple as! I'm probably one of the older ones in the group and am aware if this little bean doesnt stick then I wont be trying again! I dont take any fancy supplements, just the usual Folic Acid with Vit D and just try and bd as much as possible! I dont temp as I found it made me more stressful so I was just keeping all crossed that I was getting the right signals at OV with CM etc! I'm really shocked I got my BFP so quickly after the last mc as with the first I had nothing for a year so just dont give up!

Congratulations @gizmo167 !!! Wish you all the best!

Hi ladies, first post here.
Am 40 and ttc #2 and also breastfeeding my 16 month old and managed to get two back to back BFPs in December and January. Neither stuck and lost the second at 8 weeks.
I was also worried about the link between breastfeeding and mc but my consultant says there is no issue.
I took a month off after the last MC as per doctors advice and this is the first proper cycle.
CD 9 and already have a flashy smile on clear blue. Am worried about ovulating this early.

Hi all 
I hope it's ok to join you all. I'm 42, 43 in August, have a DD aged 5. My last mc was last August so have been trying for 9 cycles to catch.

Just had my bloods done and all ok except a low AMH reserve of 3. Booked in for a HyCoSy on Monday but I'm probably ovulating this weekend so not sure I want to skip a cycle trying (you have to abstain for HyCoSy so needs to be just after your period). Oh... added challenge is that I don't live with my partner so dtd isn't easy!

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Hi @birdbybird I think on CD9 I had already a static smile but it was the first month I tried ovulation sticks so no idea what’s going on! I hear many women ovulate early.

Good signs @gizmo167 hopefully the sickness continues!

@birdbybird @Lastyearttc welcome to the chat, new ladies always welcome. I've just had a mc 4 weeks ago at 8 weeks, took me 9 months to conceive number 2. I am still bfeeding also so lots of similarities. I am going to follow the SMEP and try not get too obsessed. Easier said than done...

@gizmo167 so good to hear you doing well. I think we are both 43. No luck my end so far, but I’m a little more relaxed now.
Hope your bean continues to thrive.

Does anyone else dread ovulation arriving? I just can’t relax with worrying that we DTD at the right time. It’s literally constantly on my mind! Doesn’t help that I can ovulate any time between day 15 and day 26 or something so it’s a huge window and I don’t want to peak too soon so that he’s had enough by the time I ovulate!

Hi all, just wondering what would any of you do?

I'm 42, ttc since last mc in August, so 10th cycle this time round.
I'm cd 12 no positive opk yet, usually ovulate between cd 12-14.

My partner is coming over tonight as we don't live together... however I have a HyCoSy booked on Monday which you have to abstain for, which flushes my tubes out and potentially improving my chances of conceiving...
So, do I dtd tonight and postpone the HyCoSy or miss a cycle of ttc?