🐧 Penguin Huddle 🐧 Thread 36 - TTC after pregnancy loss

[Kiki275]

Welcome to the 🐧 huddle. This a safe place to give and receive support for everyone who has experienced the loss(es) of a pregnancy or baby. Pregnancy and child loss is one of the most difficult things we can experience and it can also be the most lonely time too. So many of us have found much comfort from other lovely ladies on this thread, together we're rooting for lots of BFP's! Let 2020 end on a positive note x

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[Kiki275]

@Mumlili9 if it's any consolation I have to self isolate with my toddler, living in a static caravan, as we went to help pick his 93 yr old great grandad off the floor last night. We've not seen him since Feb but he tested +ve today.
I'm definitely hitting the gin/wine tonight x

[Kiki275]

Sorry @Mumlili9 that was really wallowy of me. I hope you don't get too many symptoms and recover swiftly xx

[Mumlili9]

@Kiki275 hope he recovers quickly. As for me the only symptoms I dont have is the taste/smell thing and vomiting. Everything else has hit me like a brick

[Kiki275]

@Mumlili9 huge hugs. Hope you can take it easy for a while and get lots of rest x

[VenusStarr]

Oh @Mumlili9 I'm sorry you have covid, that's truly shit. I hope you're not feeling too unwell ❤️

@Kiki275 sorry to hear you're self isolating too 🤞

Our first cycle is a bfn, I had a couple of dodgy frer tests where I had a couple of squinters but I don't believe they were real, putting it down to a dodgy batch. I'm hoping af holds off until at least Wednesday (12dpo today) as I think we can ttc then. If it comes earlier I think we'll have to not try because the clinic will close and I won't be able to have my intralipids of I get a bfp. Feeling OK about it, it would've been a miracle if it'd worked first time. I'm definitely having a glass of wine tonight ☺️

Lots of love ❤️

[Kiki275]

@VenusStarr huge hugs. I'll join you in a glass or two xx

[Janefx40]

@VenusStarr Sorry about your bfn. It's always hard but glad you are feeling ok about it overall.

@Mumlili9 feel better soon. Hope it's just a super mild case and then you're over and done with

@Kiki275 sorry about the self-isolating. Bad luck if this is the only time you have seen Great-Grandad in so long. Really hope he is ok too x

[Kiki275]

How are you @Mumlili9, hope you've not suffered too much x

[Mumlili9]

@Kiki275 still recovering from it. Finally starting to feel better and AF is due tomorrow and imminent 😥

[Slinks8113]

Hi, I’m new here! I suffered a missed miscarriage last week and a week into medical management. Still bleeding but not as heavy today.
I’m 33 and was under the impression I couldn’t get pregnant (not due to any diagnosis) but just through years of no success. When we found out we were pregnant in October for the first time, I was over the moon. First couple of scans showed a strong heartbeat but when we went at 10 weeks for our NIPT, the baby had stopped growing at 9 weeks 2 days :(
It’s still very raw but I feel like I want to try again straight away and really crossing my fingers we may be one of those lucky ones that fall pregnant straight away again but who knows. Just here for some support really and to follow other people’s experience. X x

[BellaBella36]

Hi I'm 36 and miscarried with my first baby on saturday. We'd been TTC for 10 months. The emptiness is overwhelming and right now the thought of going through another 10 months whilst I just get older is too much. There was a heartbeat at 8 weeks and then the bleeding started at 9 and a bit. No one tells you just how physically painful it is. I can't imagine being back at work on Monday.

[pringlebells]

Hi, I lost our baby in July. Natural pregnancy after so much fertility treatment. Odds are stacked against us, we've been trying ever since. In the 5 years we've been together we conceived naturally once.

[Kiki275]

@BellaBella36 @Slinks8113 I am so sorry to hear you find yourself here. Whilst I haven't had a miscarriage as such, I still know exactly how much you're hurting. Take some time off to heal, don't feel like you have to go to work. We're all here to hand hold or vent at any time xx

[Janefx40]

Hi @Slinks8113 @BellaBella36 @pringlebells welcome to the group but I'm so sorry for your losses. It is just devastating to lose a baby.

@Slinks8113 @BellaBella36 it is still so fresh for you both. Give yourselves time to recover. If you are able to take time off work it might be worth doing so. I had 2 weeks off after my miscarriage and I did feel more able to cope with work after that. Of course it isn't possible for everyone to take time off I know.

@pringlebells I've never conceived naturally but have had a fair amount of fertility treatment. It must be so tough to have that happen and then taken away. I'm new to this group too - it is a warm supportive place

Xxx

[VenusStarr]

Hi @Slinks8113 I'm so sorry this is happening. I had medical management in my most recent pregnancy. Have you got a follow up scan? I passed my baby the same day but I did end up with retained tissue (not to scare you), but I wish I'd insisted on a follow up scan just for peace of mind.
I've also struggled to concieve, we've been ttc over 3 years now but struggling with recurrent losses now. Sending love 💜 xx

Welcome @BellaBella36 I'm very sorry for your loss ❤️ are you able to take a bit more time off work? All of my sickness has been counted as pregnancy related so I'm not penalised. I'd recommend a bit of time or even going back on reduced hours xx

I'm sorry to see you here too @pringlebells but this is a lovely supportive group. I'm sorry for your loss. Sending you a hug xx

How are you doing now @Mumlili9? I hope you haven't been too ill and are recovering now.

How is everyone else @Janefx40 @Kiki275 @kim80 @Marshmallow123 @AliceinBunnyland? ❤️

I'm on cd3, I really hate the anticipation of my period arriving, especially knowing it was a bfn but once it started I feel OK and am looking ahead. I was worried we couldn't try this cycle due to the clinic being closed and me needing treatment, but they've said a day or two delay won't make much of a difference and if I do test positive to let them know ASAP and they'll arrange to get me in. So we're going for it. I'm not going to temperature check this cycle, just doing opks. And I'm determined to try and relax over these next few weeks, so I'll be having wine and pate ☺️

Lots of love to everyone xx

[Slinks8113]

@VenusStarr thank you. I did ask about a follow up scan but they don’t do it as standard and usually only if it’s suspected infection. So I have just been advised to take a pregnancy test in a couple of weeks and if negative that’s all I’ve got to go on.
The idea of going for a scan fills me with such anxiety now, I keep repeating that moment where she said I’m so sorry. It’s a horrible feeling and I am so scared if I ever do manage to fall pregnant again.
Sending you lots of love and hope and yes sometimes just relaxing and doing what you need to do is the way forward :) x

[Kiki275]

Morning all,
thought I was out this month due to dark brown spotting (ongoing) but just had a feint BFP this morning. Will do another on Monday but extremely hopeful x

[Slinks8113]

@Kiki275 that’s great news! Will keep my fingers crossed for you x x

[Janefx40]

@Kiki275 that is so exciting. Have everything crossed for you 🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼

[BellaBella36]

@Kiki275 🤞 Any positive news is for the win over here, definitely helps me stop wallowing.

@VenusStarr Thank you for the other day, I've asked for another week off. Still having good days and really not so good days, but it's the physical side of things which have really knocked me for 6 this past couple of days. Last night I felt like a unit of blood wouldn't have gone a miss!

@Slinks8113 How are you getting on today? Congratulations if you're managing to do anything more than put one don't in front of the other. ❤️

[VenusStarr]

Lovely news @Kiki275 🤞 ❤️

Glad you've got a bit longer off @BellaBella36

[Slinks8113]

@BellaBella36 had a bit of a wobble this morning but managed to complete a full week at work and only got one more before Christmas and then two weeks off. Saying that, I’ve got an overwhelming sense of dread as Christmas nears as it was around this time we would have been announcing to wider family and friends.
I can only hope things will get easier over time and when we start thinking about trying again if it’s meant to be, it will be.
I thought the bleeding was coming to an end yesterday but appears to still be going today but it has only been a week.
How are you getting on? Xx

[BellaBella36]

@Slinks8113 Much the same to be honest. Trying to get a sense of normality today. (Attached a picture which says it all really! 🤦‍♀️) I can't get my head around Christmas yet. Would have been 12 weeks on Christmas day. At least the bleeding should have stopped by then.

[Slinks8113]

@BellaBella36 as silly as it sounds emptying the laundry basket is quite therapeutic! Been in self sabotage mode this week but not putting too much pressure on myself to get back to normal eating and the gym just yet. Will do that in January with all the other new year, new me brigade 😂
Get that laundry done and then put your feet up 😘 x

[Mumlili9]

Hello ladies AF due today but no sign of it so did a test BFN so on to next cycle.