🐧 Penguin Huddle 🐧 Thread 36 - TTC after pregnancy loss

[Kiki275]

Welcome to the 🐧 huddle. This a safe place to give and receive support for everyone who has experienced the loss(es) of a pregnancy or baby. Pregnancy and child loss is one of the most difficult things we can experience and it can also be the most lonely time too. So many of us have found much comfort from other lovely ladies on this thread, together we're rooting for lots of BFP's! Let 2020 end on a positive note x

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[Janefx40]

Hi @Marshmallow123 I can see a second line. Do you have another test to try in the morning? Tentatively this could be good news but I know how anxious you must feel after a loss. I'm afraid I don't know how not to stress - I become obsessive. A counsellor did once recommend trying something called "worry time" where you allocate yourself a particular time or times of day when you are allowed to think about the thing and the rest of the day when the thought comes to you, you just gently park it for that later time. It sounds hard but it can work. Sending you lots of love to get you through until tomorrow morning!

[Mumlili9]

@Marshmallow123 hi hun I would definitely try another brand i have these and they are terrible tests for evaporation lines. Fx its a real bfp fir you though. Ive included a picture of one ive just done sorry its not a great pic and im on day 2 of af. I dont want to be a gremlin in the room. Xx

[Marshmallow123]

@Janefx40
@Mumlili9

Thank you for replying so quickly!
I’ve got a clear blue in the cupboard that I’ll try in the morning.

Worry time is a good idea, will try to do that!

[Mumlili9]

@Marshmallow123 fingers crossed hun for the morning xx hope you are the first bfp of the year

[kim80]

@Marshmallow123 that looks positive to me so fingers crossed for you.

Let's hope we all have good luck this year. X

[Slinks8113]

That's great news! Hope it's positive in the morning :) x

[Marshmallow123]

Good morning!

So it looks like it was a positive! I did a Clear Blue and another cheap one this morning. Feel like I can’t get excited yet though until I know it’s going to work out well.

Hopefully this is a good sign for all of us in 2021!!

[Slinks8113]

@Marshmallow123 congratulations! That's great news! So pleased for you x

[kiki275]

@Marshmallow123 that's lovely news, congratulations. Keeping everything crossed for you xx

[Janefx40]

Oh @Marshmallow123 that is a very strong positive (and actually shows how weak the ICs are because it takes a fair amount of Hcg to get a clearblue that strong - note to self next time I panic!). I'm so pleased for you. Yes there is a long road ahead but for today, this is the best possible result ❤️💐

[Janefx40]

By "weak ICs" I don't mean your results which look great. I mean that even with a strong result on a CB the ICs don't show up too clearly which is worth knowing when we all panic because the lines aren't looking strong x

[Marshmallow123]

Thank you ladies. I’ve an appointment for a scan with my doctor on 22nd so just keeping everything crossed it all works out this time!

[Mumlili9]

@Marshmallow123 congratulations im so pleased I was completely wrong. Your the first this year on this thread. I hope there's plenty more to come.
In my very drawn out experience enjoy every moment of this pregnancy ( I know easier said than done) but this little one and you both deserve to celebrate jumping the first hurdle. Here's to a a happy and healthy pregnancy ☺ 💖

[kim80]

Congratulations @marshmallow123 let's hope that's a sign for us all this year. So happy for you. X

[Marshmallow123]

Thanks @kim80 and @Mumlili9

Let’s hope 2021 is a positive year for you both too xxx

[VenusStarr]

Hi everyone, sorry I've been quiet. I'm struggling a lot. I'm triggered all the time by photos and even just talking about pregnancy or getting pregnant. It's all a bit much for me at the moment. We're taking some time off ttc.

Best wishes to those with positive news and I'm rooting for you all 🌟 ❤️

[kiki275]

@VenusStarr I wish there was something I could do or say to help. Completely understand why you need the distance. Please take care and look after yourself. Hopefully we'll see you soon in brighter times xx

[kim80]

@VenusStarr I am so sorry you feel that way but fully understand it. Taking sometime away is always a good way to deal with things.

You know we are all here for you whenever you need us. Take care 🙂 x

[Slinks8113]

Girls, I think I'm going crazy with this bbt! So it looked like I ovulated a few days ago which I thought great, things are going back to normal after the medical management in December. But then it now seems AF has arrived but on and off, would say heavier than spotting but not consistent like a normal period. I know I can't will my body back to normal but it's a very frustrating time! Anyone got any experience of first month after medical management and if this was similar or not? Not sure if ovulating has bought on the bleeding, can that happen? X

[Slinks8113]

@VenusStarr sorry I hadn't read your message before I posted! Thoughts are with you, hope you'll be back soon x x

[kim80]

Hi @slinks8113 I had to wait 9 weeks for my body to get back to normal after medical management, then the month after that I ovulated around day 17 and then the following day 15 and then this month iv just tested as high fertility on ear blue ovulation tests but on day 15 again so I still don't think mine have got back regularly as they were. I have noticed that I also spot more before my period now so still not sure mine is fully settled 3 months on. Sorry if that doesn't help. X

[Mumlili9]

Ladies I know this thread isn't for this but I think im losing my husband. He was admitted to hospital last night because of covid and his copd. At the moment its waiting to see if he will respond to the meds and oxygen. Im so so scared, I don't know what to do

[kim80]

@Mumlili9 I am so sorry to hear this

[kim80]

@mumlili9 sorry I pressed the wrong button before finishing.

I am so sorry to hear this. I will have everything crossed that he responds to the medication. Please look after yourself and you know where we all are if you need to rant,cry or just talk. Sending a massive virtual hug. I will be thinking of you xx

[Janefx40]

@Mumlili9 oh my love that is so awful. I'm so sorry. Of course this thread is for supporting you. Covid is a nasty illness but hopefully the hospital can help him. Could it be that they've chosen to admit him because he has COPD sooner than they would have done without it? We will be thinking of him and hoping for a quick recovery. Despite the scary stats on tv, the odds are still very much in favour of him recovering. Thinking of you and sending lots of love. Keep us posted

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