TTC after MC - September 2020 (Thread 13)

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@AutumnDays90 ah thank you. I will call my doctor tmr and ask about when to take the progesterone. Think they will go through the front door rather than the back door as I’m too scared about the back door lol
I can see a line. Fingers crossed for you that it’s just early days! If it’s any consolation my doctor has strictly forbidden me to test before 14dpo as she’s convinced anything before then isn’t 100% and can mess with your mind xxx

Hi ladies good luck to those of you who will be testing soon.

Unfortunately my preganacy doesn't look like it will be progressing, I have to go back in 10 days but I had a scan today and a bleed site was found along with gestational sac and yolk sac no fetal pole, I should be 6+ weeks by now and sac measured 5+4 which doesn't correlate with the weeks indicator test i did so I have very little hope, wont be trying again im gonna count my lucky stars I have kids already.

Wish you all the very best on your journeys be becoming mummies. Good luck xxx

@Firevie once you have the static on CBD, it will stay there for 36 hours I think it is. So you can’t do another test until that goes babe. & by the time it goes you’ll be finished testing with them anyway 😀That’s good that they are both in sync so deffo confident that you’re ovulating today/tomorrow. Good luck lovely xxxx

@chloedancer897 I’m the same with taking a step back too. Only really answering questions on here now, and just joining in as and when, rather than being obsessed and checking in every two mins ha. Think you can tell we are all in same boat this cycle with how slow the thread is building up in comparison to previous threads...we would get to 39 in a blink of the eye ha xxx

@Firevie I always agonised so much during tww I always end up testing early. Then follows the massive anxiety. Except before I hadn't had a miscarriage, this time everything seems overshadowed by a no longer imaginary tiny possibility but a very real threat. Blergh!

@dizzy201 I am so sorry I have had a similar experience with an early scan. I really hope that you see progression in 10 days time. My outcome was not good in the end, however I do know many people who had similar experiences and their pregnancies went to term.

@dizzy201 I'm sorry, I had a missed miscarriage at 10 weeks and it was horrible finding out on the scan. It's so hard knowing whether to continue to hope (especially when you are so early the scans can't always be 100% accurate) or whether to move on. It was similar to my chemical this month where I was almost sure it wasn't going to stick due to lots of spotting and lines not getting darker, but then a little bit of you still hopes...

@AutumnDays90 there is definitely a line, and if you are only 10dpo I wouldn't expect the line to be very dark yet. But on the other hand my IC tests didn't get any darker over a week and then I did have a chemical - just saying it's very hard to tell and not everyone's HCG levels rise in the same way. Fingers crossed!

@AutumnDays90 that’s definitely a line. And if you’ve had a negative beforehand I’d be thinking BFP!!! 😁

Wow just been catching up. Welcome to the newbies and sorry for your losses.

So exciting so many of you are in the TTW together- have everything crossed for your BFP in the coming weeks.

@Runnergirl1 spotting could be a good sign somethings about to happen! Thinking of you.

@notalwaysalondoner thank you, that is my worry, that it won't get any darker over the next few days.
AF is technically due on Friday, but I haven't had a period since my miscarriage, so can only assume!

@RichmondLady1981 thank you, I am thinking this is a new pregnancy now the fainter test is yesterday at about 9dpo and today's is the slightly more obvious line. I did a boots early test too which came up but was super faint.
Fingers and toes crossed!

@AutumnDays90 hello 👋🏻 is the one on the left as we see it sideways today? I think that’s a lot darker for only 1 day more. Remember hcg doubles every 48 hours ish. It’s looking good to me so far! If it helps I can post my progression around that time for you x

Awww hey @HappyVibes @Firevie @chloedancer897 👋🏼

I'm still here, and you're certainly not keeping me by checking in with me, I just really wanted to get back to being me while TTC was a fun thing with minimal stress. I realised that logging on multiple times a day and worrying why I wasn't having the same 'normal' cycle, or whatever else, wasn't helping me do that.
I'm fine though thank you all. I'm really trying this month to trust my body and take each day as it comes. I know if I'm here too much I'll ask/wonder if things are normal and think everything is a bad sign or, on the flip side, get my hopes up about something. As I said I just needed to keep busy on other things, but I'm still totally invested in your journeys and I'm checking the thread still.

I also feel bad when I can't keep up so I just keep quiet 🙊

Anyway.....I am now CD17. And what I love is I've just had to go on an app to check that as I'm really not thinking about it 😂. I feel like I had a lovely reset with that long cycle, and my AF came and went with no symptoms which I hope is a good sign as I never had symptoms pre the MC's. I started OPKs a few days ago but they are still low (0.46 ish and fluctuating slightly). My Ava got all excited the other morning and changed its homepage to high fertility, and predicting ovulation on Thursday, so we will see. I had also bought CBD OPKs for the first time a few months ago which were unused so I decided to open them. I had a few days of blank circles but got my first ever flashy this morning. It feels like it's lining up nicely with Ava and app predictions but as I said, I'm just going to see what each day brings. I even had EWCM a few days ago 🥳

My CD4 blood tests tested all the hormones and all were normal which made me feel a little lighter mentally. So once I think I've ovulated I'll call for the CD'21' blood test. I had my first acupuncture session last week and she did an 'unblocking' treatment. I also have my appointment with RMC on Wednesday so I feel like I really can't do much more. The acupuncturist said about stress and that's another reason why I feel like I have to monitor that closely. I'd hate to be doing all these positive things and then ruining it by getting myself in a state by comparing my journey and worrying why things aren't happening for me - and probably causing them not to!

This group has been a godsend for me, and I'll not be far away, but I'm trying to be kinder to myself and remember there is a life behind this TTC lark! And a naughty puppy who is currently knocking everything off the coffee table as I ignore him while writing this.

So that's where I am in a nutshell.

How are you all?

xx

@Pugprincess yes the left one is this morning, the right one was yesterday at about 1pm.

I would love to see your progression if you don't mind!

@AutumnDays90 those lines look promising to me too 🤞🏼

Hi everyone :) hope everyone is well! I've been a little quiet and sat back and read all your messages. I had a strong positive OPK yesterday so lots of BD'ing to be done haha! Cycle day 14 for me today! We DTD yesterday morning when I got positive opk but wont be able to dtd again until this evening. I worry I'm leaving too much of a gap? Or is this ok? Xx

@AutumnDays90 ok so I didn’t use frer but the first pic with the arrows was my 11dpo, hardly noticeable is it 😩😂 I could see something in real life but was hard to photograph and not obvious. Then the next photo shows day 12/13/14 so you can see it gradually darkening (these were all fmu). The clearblue was also day 14 not fmu but still quite faint really

@AutumnDays90 5 days later so 19dpo I got 2/3 weeks on a cb digi. Then another 5 days later so 24dpo I got 3+ on cb digi. Finally I tried my cheap tests again and they were the darkest you can get. I’m now 10+5 and last saw baby on scan at 9+2. I have a scan this Friday so 🤞🏻 all is still well. I was hoping for a smooth ride as I lost my first pregnancy in July after 5 years of unexplained infertility, then fell pregnant with this one straight after with no AF. Best of luck with yours but don’t worry so far it all looks great to me! Your lines are a lot darker and I know that’s cause frer is more sensitive but still. If you switch to other tests you should hopefully see those getting darker each morning 🤞🏻

@Dizzy201 I'm so sorry. I hope you're ok xo sending you love. This TTC journey is so difficult at times but you're not alone xo

@AutumnDays90 that looks like amazing progression. Don't panic too much and take a test a few days after AF is late!

@MichT4 it's so lovely to hear from you and I'm glad you are settling and not stressing too much. That's what I've been trying too and my acupuncturist said I'm so stressed that's why I'm reacting so much to the needles! I'm not thinking this month is likely or any month for that matter but I'll stay on here and keep an eye on everyone's journeys xo

@MichT4 best of luck with your RMC appointment ❤️

@Dizzy201 sorry to read what you are going through. Hopefully it’s just too early and baby will be there next time you go. I understand you feel hopeless but I’m hoping for you xx

@MichT4 hey!! Lovely to see you! I’m doing the same - taking a step back! It’s all to easy to get a bit hard on yourself, I have totally loved this forum and it has been soooo supportive, but if like me, you are someone who tends to compare (and then worry that you are jot the same as everyone else) it can be hard to stay as relaxed as you need to be! I’m having my 21 days bloods tomorrow - then I’ll be having the early cycle bloods if I’m not lucky this month! Then it’s a scan for me, and sperm analysis for oh! 🤞🏻 It’s all ok - I’m currently panicking I don’t make enough progesterone as I have low temps even in luteal phase..I stupidly read up on google - so much for trying to destress!! 🤦🏼‍♀️

@RichmondLady1981 usually it is a good sign for me a day spotting then af arrives. This is the third day of spotting and still very light but it is still brown. Don’t know what’s going on x

@Bellabubble hey!! It sounds like I am exactly like you! I know I have long cycles and it's just the way it is, but I started being really hard on myself when people were overtaking me and ovulating before me and it's not going to change anything. So I just needed to try and make peace with what my body does or I was just internally stressed more than I'd admit.
I'm worried about progesterone being low too, because I've always miscarried early, so I'll be interested in my post ovulation bloods.

It's good you have all the tests lined up. What cycle day are you on?

@chloedancer897 don't write yourself out. Early sore boobs are a good sign. I found the acupuncture really good and was disappointed she didn't want to see me for another month ish - but it's good for the finances! It's obviously not the first time I've heard it helps to relax, and normally it makes me want to punch a wall, but when she said it it just made me think how pointless it is to get so wound up by it. The first time I got pg I was totally elated, as was OH, and I was just making the whole process miserable.
I'm excited to hear how you get on.

@Dizzy201 I really hope you get good news at your scan. It could just be dating at this stage.

@Pugprincess thank you lovely. Hope you're keeping well? Good luck for your scan on Friday. Can't believe how quick time seems to be going when you say how far along you are

xx

@MichT4 hello I’m well thank you 😊 just trying to desperately avoid covid at school and counting the days to scan and end of first trimester. Hopefully then I will enjoy things more then xx

@HappyVibes @Firevie I have used cheapies today and still getting quite low readings on those so definitely pinpointing ovulation for tomorrow. Going to get as much BD in as we can though. Xx

@notalwaysalondoner I have the exact same feelings as you do and I sometimes feel bad for having those feelings. You are definitely not alone. Thinking of you xx

@Dizzy201 I am so sorry to hear your news. Take it easy xx

Hello! @MichT4 I hope you are well. How is the pup? Xx

@MinnieMouse4 I'm good thanks ☺️. Loki is doing well, his training is kicking in and it's made a huge difference being able to take him out. He's gorgeous and is a lovely addition, even though sometimes he makes me want to tear my hair out 😂. I've been at home with him a lot since we got him, but OH is changing his hours as of next week so things should be a little easier for me! Here he is being a little training mascot.

How are you? xx

@MinnieMouse4 yes definitely not today if your OPKs are low. When did you last OPK? Sounds like if you’re still low in OPK it may be tomorrow evening time the ovulation. So if you DTD 3 days in a row from today as you planned, you’ll be sorted well and truly xxx

@MichT4 glad to hear you are doing well. Love the photo of Loki! He’s so adorable! I bet he makes up for the mischief with cuddles!
I am good thanks. Currently at my FW peak so keeping busy and due to start a new job this week too! I have lots of things to keep my mind occupied during the TWW anyhoo! Xx

@HappyVibes my last OPK was around 6.30 this evening. Although I did one around 1pm today which was higher so it may just be that it is too diluted? Xx