TTC after MC - September 2020 (Thread 13)

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@HappyVibes / as if you had known it! I just did a cheapie which identified 1.28 and automatically it identified my evening result as a peak! I’m glad you made me do it this evening so I know what’s going on. We dtd this morning, will do tmr when I should ovulate and then for another 3days. That should hopefully do the trick! Really silly question - does it matter if you ‘only’ DTD once a day?! Xxx

@HappyVibes
My husband is gobsmacked tbh. I am too! Obviously we were hopeful. But we never really thought it really would happen to us and it is so very early that we are guarding ourselves against disappointment at every turn.

The awful side effects of a MC I guess, it guts you and leaves little room for the excitement that should follow a BFP.

Thank you so much for your good wishes, I have all my fingers and toes crossed for a good outcome! And going to test in the morning hoping for a darker result.

@firevie sperm can live for up to five days inside you, so every day vs twice a day vs every other day shouldn't really make much difference.

I have read some articles that twice a day or every day can 'possibly' ever so slightly improve sperm quality in sub fertile men. But the same articles said that it made absolutely no difference for averagely fertile men.

@Firevie I fell pregnant January just gone dtd once..the morning after natural cycles said I ovulated! (We lived with my parents and due to renovations on the house had no bedroom door - so we had to wait until we were alone - hence the poor timing!) but we fell pregnant then. Sadly that was not my sticky bean, and since then I have busted a gut with SMEP, DTD daily from cd12 (i seem to consistently ovulate day 14) to 15..this is the first month we only managed to dtd once the day before due to my work making me just to tired to even talk lol! I always try to remind myself though that we fell pregnant against a lot of odds so to speak - 35, first try, and after ovulation! I’m trying to be more laid back now - just incase I’m stressing myself out..although I don’t feel stressed, but the body works in funny ways!

@Firevie amazing!! Would be interesting to see what your mid-morning OPK will be tomorrow now. Yes the next 3 days would be good. I wouldn’t worry personally at all about how many times per day lovely. With you already having DTD, that will still count towards this cycle too as it can live for 5days. So you’ve already got some in the bag, plus the next 3 days worth too. It sounds like you’ve got it well covered babe. Xxxx

After promising myself not to symptom spot! I'm 6DPO today and my boobs are aching. I do get sore boobs a day or 2 before my period but never this early. Anyone else had this? I also had a massssiiivvveee temp rise today. It's probably just a progesterone surge and totally not pregnancy related but just wondering if anyone had this and it was promising?

@Sallyjo27 we do SMEP usually but randomly this month we went a bit mental and DTD loads. Not like us usually!😂😂😂

@AutumnDays90 so pleased for you! Definitely a line there x

@HappyVibes @Bellabubble @AutumnDays90 thanks amazing ladies!!! I’ve just dtd but just for fun lol! Will let you guys know what cbd and OPKS day tmr. I should be getting my static smiley on cbd now right? So will cbd in the morning and will do an OPKS at around 1pm.
Also, I’m wondering whether I should start my course of progesterone pessaries once ovulation is confirmed? I got them from my doctor back home and she said to start taking them once ovulated for 14days. Has anyone got experience with taking them?
@AutumnDays90 fingers crossed for you hun! Hoping for your sticky bean!
@chloedancer897 yay! Painful books was my only sign when I fell pregnant so I’m hopeful for you! When will you test? Xxx

@chloedancer897 thank you! I don't ever really get sore boobs so wasn't a symptom for me but I know that it is a really common early sign! I have been having vivid dreams for a few days now and had the same in July before getting my BFP (my MMC pregnancy)

@Firevie I have been using cyclogest 400mg pessaries since 3dpo. They were left over from my previous IVF but I didn't think to use them for my MMC pregnancy.

I have also been taking aspirin at a small dose, I was prescribed toward the end of August a few days before I miscarried. So I just never stopped. Also just carried on with pregnacare too as had loads left.

I feel like I am being a bit overkill but if it seems like it helps then I am happy to try anything!

@AutumnDays90 such amazing news for you xox

I do get sore boobs before AF so this isn't new. It's just really early for me to get them. That's what was making me wonder. I also got that massive temp rise today. But maybe it's just AF coming really early

@Firevie my cycle this month is all over the place. I think AF due on the 5th so I'm just going to wait for it and not test early (which I say every time and always end up testing!) when are you testing?x

@chloedancer897 yes don’t test early this time though I know it’s so much easier said than done. I think I may test on my birthday 16th October if af doesn’t show by then. Apps predict af between 11 and 13 October so I may just test on my birthday.
@AutumnDays90 I’m still confused about progesterone pessaries ...May dig them out today and read the instructions

Ladies so this morning also confirmed my peak on cbd so I think I may ovulate today or tmr as I already caught my peak last night on the cheap OPKS so date wise I will go with either today or tmr. My temp went up today from 36.19 to 36.44
Guess it’s now onto TWW but will dtd this evening and next two days just for good measure. Just need to work out what to do with the progesterone pessaries xxx

@Firevie snap! I also got my peak on CBD this morning too! I did a cheapie OPK last night which didn’t detect a peak so I am going to date ovulation for tomorrow. My plan in to dtd for the next 3 days, miss a day and then dtd for one final day then I will be in TWW xx

Yay @MinnieMouse4 we will be TWW buddies then! I think I might date ovulation for today then. Not sure as I got the peak on my cheap OPKS last night. So either today or tmr. Probably doesn’t really matter that much. Are you going to hold out for testing? I think af is predicted for 11-14 October. I will Test on 16th xxx

I got a fully negative pregnancy test yesterday (miscarriage at 4+5 started a week ago yesterday) then blank smiley on CBD yesterday and today. I'm hoping we don't get high or peak ovulation on CBD until after Wednesday as DH has his sperm test then so we can't DTD before then, and I REALLY don't want to miss a month...! I'm still feeling very up and down after the MC, I'm getting very upset when I see people with bumps or babies. I'm seeing my best friend tonight who is 5 months pregnant and has a 1.5 year old, I'll have to do my best not to be bitter and jealous...

@notalwaysalondoner those feelings are COMPLETELY normal! It’s hard the rollercoaster of those feelings and I don’t think for me they will wholly go away until we are pregnant again. But they have certainly balanced out and been more healthy. Good luck with the OPKs and timing of everything xxxx

Aww yay @MinnieMouse4 and @Firevie woohoo! How good does it feel to get them?! Sounds like you have all bases covered gals xx

@notalwaysalondoner what you’re describing is absolutely normal and it’s okay to feel this way. It’s the only way we can process
@HappyVibes yay does feel great. Getting the right smileys and the dark lines are milestones for me because I consider them as signs that my body is functioning properly. I’m well excited to go into my TWW now and hopefully see that BFP
How are you? What are you feeling? How many more days before you will test? Xxx

Lots more days, so many more days, a lifetime @Firevie unfortunately haha. I’m only 3DPO, AF due 10th, so will be holding out until then. So far away haha, the TWW is a test of will ha...& I’ve never won, always caved hahah🤣

@HappyVibes haha! You will get there! Slow and steady wins the race right? I will be only couple of days behind you. I will also need a lot of willpower to hold out testing. I want it as my birthday surprise which will be the best birthday gift ever for me 😍

@chloedancer897 this sounds really positive. I hope this is a good sign and you get your bfp this month!

Yay for the static smileys @Firevie @MinnieMouse4. Nearly in the TWW for you both

I hope everyone is doing well, and sorry to any newcomers who have suffered losses.

I try and check in as much as I can but have needed a bit of a break - I was logging on multiple times a day which doesn't do well for my plan to refocus my mind

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Aww lovely you’re here again @MichT4 don’t want to keep you but how are you doing, where are you upto? Been wondering about you xxx

@MichT4 hello! I have missed you but totally get wanting to take a step back. I have as well. How are you? Where are you in your cycle?
Just did my cheapie OPKS / still High but can see it doing down so def had my cheapie OPKS peak yesterday and my cbd peak this morning. Once you have a cbd static smiley do you still continue doing cbd test?

@MichT4 hi Mitch! 🙋🏻‍♀️ I hope you're well. I'm not logging on much either but trying to keep on top of everyone's journey without becoming obsessed! Hope you're well xxx. I always think things are good signs and then it turns out to be nothing so not hopeful this month!

@Firevie for the progesterone, it will just tell you on the pack whether once or twice a day. I took them twice a day for IVF but only taking one a day this time because unlike during IVF, my body will be producing it's own progesterone too.
I put them up my bum can't stand them in the vagina as I would get a slimy discharge throughout the day Haha!

@notalwaysalondoner I am so sorry for your loss. I also totally get you not wanting to miss a month, every day during ttc feels an age!
Feeling upset about other pregnancies and babies is totally normal too. I work in a school and I used to dread the inevitable announcements from female colleagues.

10 dpo today, I have taken another few tests today, ever so slightly darker on the FRER. But not enough to allay my absolute dread that this will be a chemical come friday partly wish I hadn't been so impatient and tested so early.