TTC after a chemical pregnancy / early miscarriage

[Littlebee1990]

Hi everyone, on a few really supportive threads on here but thought I’d make another for anyone who may be in a similar position to me and we can support eachother... I’m petrified of trying again after last month tbh.

Last week I thought our dreams had finally come true when I got 3 BFP (including a digital!).. a week later I was bleeding and a call to the EPU confirmed it was a chemical pregnancy / early miscarriage.. so I’m back here and tomorrow will be CD1 cycle 4 (I know so many people have been trying so much longer) but just didn’t expect to be back so soon after getting a BFP.

So tomorrow marks CD5.. AF is due around 1st August and I promise to not POAS (apart from the one I need to pee on tomorrow to confirm the pregnancy is gone!) until 8th August if AF doesn’t show.. I can’t risk seeing a chemical and testing early again so have told myself never again will I test early.

Would love some buddies along the way with me 🤞🏼🌈❤️

@LS2020 yeah so I was up 1:30am-3/3:30am with the dog (loved that...) then was soundly asleep until 7:45am when I temped. So I would have thought it was long enough to settle again? But maybe not... today it was back down to where it should be.
Last month I got bfp on 11dpo and by 13dpo my temp was through the roof, before falling again at 15dpo when the bleeding started. But before the positive hcg, the temps don’t look like they should - they were steady then I had a huge dip (but not below cover) the day I got my bfp 🤷🏼‍♀️

@Amy259 is that later than when you normally test? I think you’re supposed to drop temp by 0.1 for every 30 mins later you test than normal so that might drop you down a bit? So if you normally test 6.30am, drop by 0.2. Strange you got the dip on BFP day, would have thought that could have been implantation - how does it look compared to last month?

@LS2020 that’s interesting, I didn’t know that! 7:30am is normal for me though so doesn’t explain this time - I did go back to bed after dog-gate with my dressing gown on, the duvet, and and extra blanket so unless I genuinely was just hot??
I know, I thought the dip on 11dpo was weird too. Temps are generally a little lower this month, maybe by about 0.15 on average but (minus the big spike) fairly steady. Last month they jumped by 0.5 after my bfp and stayed there until I bled.

@LS2020 last month vs this month with the days lined up - the dip in the top on is 11dpo/bfp day. They literally look nothing alike 😂😂

@Amy259 yeah and I think works other way, if you wake up earlier you add 0.1 to it.
Yeah maybe although would have thought your body would regulate your temp?
I don’t think different graphs are the worst thing I’m taking a bit of comfort of some more of my symptoms like the cramping and if I do get a BFP, I deffo feel more pregnant this month so hoping it won’t end the same way In that case!

@LS2020 in that case today’s should’ve been much higher again because I took today’s at 5am! So maybe it didn’t drop as much as I thought.
I couldn’t feel less preggers this month and today I’m a bit bloated which is an af sign, with my bfp I was flat as a pancake. I’m weirdly calm about it though - I’m self employed in the travel sector and corona has not been kind, so the new job is big for us financially... so I’m pretty at peace with the knowledge that if it didn’t happen this month, it wasn’t the right time and that’s okay because in the future when it does happen, we’ll be in a stronger position and I’ll actually get mat pay!! Ask me again when it’s bfn this month though 😂 I may only be telling myself all that to try to cushion the blow, but we’ll see..
I’m really really hoping you get this bfp 🤞🏻 every time you tag day me for the first time each day I’m like ohhhh could she have tested?!? 😂😂

@Amy259 that's a good way to look at it with the job.
Well every time you and @LS2020 tag I'm like is there news, Sonora not just you 😆

• so it is not just not Sonora autocorrect!

@Amy259 yes you should adjust up then! You’ve still got a whole week to go yet and honestly I felt that way all last month and all of this month 😂 I’m just not convinced! Well for you and @Mishmased I promise my next update will be tomorrow am, after a test so will let you know either way. I’m getting annoyed at myself for being so excited but I honestly have been so nauseous with heartburn and sore boobs today, just like I was for my BFP but I’m scared it’s my body tricking me with it as I know that’s what I want to happen, guess I will have to see what tomorrow brings 🤞🏻

@LS2020 I will respond as soon as I get proper WiFi signal 😁

Keeping everything crossed for you and @Amy259

@LS2020 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻 for the morning! We’re in local lockdown up here so it’ll be the highlight of my Saturday morning, waiting to hear from you 😂

@Mishmased @Amy259 sorry ladies, was a bfn this morning! Wasn’t exactly FMU as been up every other hour through needing a wee and struggling to sleep from nausea. Guess it’s just a waiting game for AF now with no idea when she’s due 😩

I don’t feel too sad as not unexpected but I was kinda sure my nausea was possibly anxiety related of waiting to test so that’s why I did it but it’s not ebbed any of it, I still just feel rubbish and hormonal - our bodies are annoying! My RHR is up again too

@LS2020 my first take home from this was that you’re up at 5am on a Saturday morning!! 😂 ahh sorry about your bfn, that’s so annoying when everything is pointing at bfp - your rhr, nausea, peeing more... so weird!
My temp was back up this morning almost as high as the other day, but I did have a restless night last night so not sure. I’m 99.9% I’m not preg this month, my body just doesn’t feel like it - very bloated again today and no sore boobs. Would think af will be here by Tuesday!

@Amy259 I know I slept like a drain! Had so much heartburn and soreness just couldn’t sleep. Food delivery is due between 8.30-9.30 and then going back to bed 😂😂
I know but if they were pg symptoms would show on a test now. Yeah that’s how I’m feeling, I just want AF to show now so I can start a new cycle. Don’t think I’ve ever been 3 days late except last month 😩

@LS2020 that’s so frustrating. It maybe sounds like the chemical has really toyed with your cycle/body?! It’s just plain cruel that you have all of those symptoms plus af is 3 days late..
Tuesday feels so far away to me this morning, even though I’m only 9dpo. As much as I hate the thought of waiting to ttc, a break from all this might be quite nice!

@Amy259 I know I’m curled up on sofa, my boobs are so unbearable to touch and I feel so nauseous. It’s really kicking me this cycle!
It’s really difficult isn’t it? I’m going to give it one more go and then give myself December off I think as I’m really struggling with the constant stress of it now 😩

@LS2020 this is potentially really jumping the gun/making a bigger deal of it, but have you heard of phantom pregnancies after mc? It happened to my old boss, she had a mmc and although her hcg returned to normal, the following month she had basically all the preg symptoms but neg tests and her doctor said it’s a really common unconscious physiological response to the grief - your body basically wants to be preg so you have a phantom pregnancy immediately after until the following cycle where it regulates the hormones. It was really tough for her, and I’m not sure if it happens in cp but maybe?!

@Amy259 I haven’t heard of anything like that but part of the reason I did test today was because yesterday I was wondering how much of what I was feeling was anxiety of the what if and wanting it to be true so I was projecting. But when I did my test this morning, it was so weird that I didn’t feel that bothered by the result, I felt I knew af was due and then I had the confirmation but my symptoms haven’t budged at all this morning, feel exactly the same as yesterday. Bodies do the strangest things to us so I wouldn’t be surprised if that’s what I’m doing!

@LS2020 I saw this this morning at 6am typed a long reply and forgot to hit send.
I'm sorry, are you def out? You sound like you do have symptoms

Oh no sorry you’re having a hard time @LS2020 :(

@Amy259 @Mishmased @Boc86 thank you all for your support ❤️ AF has started for me so I’m officially on cd1 which I’m v grateful for! I’d read that the first period after a CP is tough just didn’t think it would begin beforehand! I felt horrendous yesterday, was in bed by 8pm but feeling so much better today and just glad to know what’s going on!
Hope you’re all keeping well x

@LS2020 ahh sorry to hear that but so glad it’s a new cycle for you - that limbo sounded horrible! Here’s to the next one 🤞🏻
I was a bit nauseous last night and tested this morning (so much for not testing) just on a cheapie and bfn, which I knew it would be! Didn’t feel bad or disappointment, just confirming what I knew. Now just to wait for af!

@Amy259 yeah it was tough knowing if I was even late or not, interesting I’ve had the same cycle length as my CP, 5 days late. Hoping not a sign that my cycles are lengthened! How many DPO are you now?12?