TTC after a chemical pregnancy / early miscarriage

[Littlebee1990]

Hi everyone, on a few really supportive threads on here but thought I’d make another for anyone who may be in a similar position to me and we can support eachother... I’m petrified of trying again after last month tbh.

Last week I thought our dreams had finally come true when I got 3 BFP (including a digital!).. a week later I was bleeding and a call to the EPU confirmed it was a chemical pregnancy / early miscarriage.. so I’m back here and tomorrow will be CD1 cycle 4 (I know so many people have been trying so much longer) but just didn’t expect to be back so soon after getting a BFP.

So tomorrow marks CD5.. AF is due around 1st August and I promise to not POAS (apart from the one I need to pee on tomorrow to confirm the pregnancy is gone!) until 8th August if AF doesn’t show.. I can’t risk seeing a chemical and testing early again so have told myself never again will I test early.

Would love some buddies along the way with me 🤞🏼🌈❤️

Hi I don't know how active this thread is anymore but I'm looking for a hand hold.

I started bleeding yesterday, 1 week after my first BFP and I got BFP's every day since (although o line progression so I was expecting it not to stick) :(

What do I do now? Do I wait for the bleeding to stop and test again to make sure I'm back to normal before trying again? Do I need to be checked by a midwife/gp that everything has gone?

I know I need to cancel my booking appointment that was booked on Monday (my hospital were very efficient at calling and booking it in).

I've not had any clots or heavy heavy bleeding. Is this normal? It's more like a normal period. I've also had little pain which is a relief.

Sorrry for all the questions. I don't know where else to turn too as no one in real life knew I was pregnant (apart from my partner) xxx

@Mishmased thank you, fingers crossed! my period is due on the 12th maybe the 13th, so got a way to go yet! My son is 11 so first year of high school, he's not doing too bad but a lot of bloody school work to do 🙄..I've just told him do the best he can, trying not to put to much pressure on him! X...

@Moonstone12 hello...I would just keep monitoring how much blood your getting for now and if you get any pains or if gets heavier ring the dr..test again if the bleeding stops, I hope it sticks for you ❤

@Moonstone12.. sending you a handhold. Like @Boo2020 said see how it goes and take things easy. Any increased bleeding call the hospital. How far along were you? Do you post here if you need to talk.x

@Boo2020 that's just it, do their best really. Not much else they can do.

@Mishmased correct 👍🏾..

I will probably test Tuesday, I should be 12dpo by then x

Hi I’m new to this thread, I’m currently experiencing what I understand to be a chemical pregnancy. I got a faint line on Monday and the tests had been getting darker each day. Last night at 5pm we did a FR test with was strong positive. This morning I woke up bleeding.
I had a miscarriage in September last year at 8weeks. I just feel a little hopeless. Nobody apart from my partner knew about the pregnancy so I have no one to vent to!
I don’t have children and this is 2/2 pregnancies I have lost. Has anyone managed a successful pregnancy after miscarriage/chemicals?

@KLO0224 sorry to hear what you're going through. I had a miscarriage last July at 6 weeks and got pregnant again in September. You will get pregnant again, loads of people go on to have very successful pregnancies after miscarriages and chemicals. I never talked about miscarriage until I had one and then it turns out pretty much every woman I know has had a miscarriage but no one talks about it. Feel free to chat here ❤️❤️❤️

It’s just so heart breaking isn’t it. All that joy and excitement just gone in the blink of an eye.
When I had my miscarriage my symptoms disappeared immediately. Today I still have sore boobs and nausea. When is this likely to subside?
I’ve been reading this thread throughout the day and it has given me hope that a pregnancy following this is possible. A lovely bunch of ladies! Thank you for your reply @Mishmased

@KLO0224
I had a chemical back in July last year , immediately after that a miscarriage at 6 weeks in September -

I'm now 22 weeks pregnant , there's hope 💐

@KLO0224 give it time, everyone is different. I didn't feel different when I miscarried but I had always had zero symptoms when pregnant until this current pregnancy. I totally get what you mean, one minute you're busy thinking and planning and the next it's all gone regardless of how long it lasted it still hurts. Take it easy and look after yourself, lots of kind and listening ears here.x

@123feraverto it's great to hear from you! Hope all is well.x

Thanks guys, today I’ve felt better and feel like I’ve got off lightly compared to the miscarriage in September where I thought I was dying! I’ve had no cramps and the bleeding is lighter that my usual period, I don’t know if that’s normal or if it will ramp up later? I just want to get that negative test so I know we can try again later this month.

How're you feeling @KLO0224

Can I join this thread? Seems supportive and friendly.

I had a chemical at 5wks last cycle. Got my bfp and a few days later bled and negative tests. It effected me way more than I thought it would and I've been feeling really sad about it. I think partly because it was a glimmer of hope / good news in a bit of a bleak time. We've been trying about 5 months, we have a 3yo son also.

I'm now cd8 and my cycle is all over the place, temps up and down, opks strong one minute, blank the next.

@Moonstone12 Sounds like you're in a similar boat. So sorry chick.

I’m feeling ok thank you @Mishmased I did a test to make sure the line was getting fainter and it is. So hopefully ovulation isn’t delayed too much so can get cracking again this month. I had a teary day yesterday but have got it together today. How are you?

Sorry to hear your news @Toastedsesame, it does get easier and you will get pregnant❤️ feel free to vent here as we were at the same stage as you at some point.x

@KLO0224 It's ok to have a teary day, you need to express your feelings and it can help. Fingers crossed you get back on track. I mainly used changes in CM but I know the other ladies used opks and temping.
I'm good everything on track so far just the usual niggles but it's all part and parcel of being pregnant.

Hi, it’s been a while since I’ve posted on here. I was just wondering how long after your miscarriage you then got pregnant again? It’s been 5 months since my early miscarriage and I need some hope that it will happen

@Overlyanxious it's different for everyone. I miscarried at 6 weeks in late July, had a period late August and pregnant by late September. There have been women that have gotten pregnant without next month after mc without a period in between. Are you temping, using opks or tracking cm?

Thank you @Mishmased really appreciate the kind words. This is the first time I've experienced a loss and it has been horrible so can't imagine what its like to go through more than once or further along.

@Overlyanxious I have heard the 6 months after mc is a more fertile time generally, doesn't mean it is for everyone. How have your cycles been since it happened?

I feel dead impatient, I'm only cd10 but already I'm opk'ing daily hoping I ovulate so we can try again.

@Toastedsesame thank you for your words. And I'm so sorry to hear about your loss xxx

My bleeding has stopped finally so we will try again. However I have a random question. So I treat the bleeding like a normal period? Am I likely to ovulate at the same time as normal? Should I wait for an "actual" period?

Sorry for all the questions i just don't understand how everything works (I've also never done temps or ovulation sticks or anything before. I've gone for sex every other day for a month and see what happens lol)

Xx

@Moonstone12 Yes you treat your first day of bleeding as cd1, so like a normal period.

Ovulation is a bit of a waiting game, you might skip it, it might come late, or it might come early. Currently waiting on mine. No need to wait to try again unless you want to.

@Moonstone12 yes first day of mc is treated as day 1. I then had another period exactly 28 days later and pregnant the next month. I usually have sex around cd 6 onwards and when I notice consistency of cm changing.

@Toastedsesame it floored me when I had mine. I never expected it having had two babies with straightforward pregnancies. I think I was in shock the first week. I'm a planner so you can imagine what that did to me mentally, but it all worked out so fingers crossed for everyone.x

@Mishmased @Toastedsesame Thank you so much.

@Mishmased I agree with the shock. I've had 4 successful pregnancies (I understand how lucky I am and feel that I shouldn't be grieving at all right now) but this has really shaken me. Especially as I'm almost 40.

You girls are all wonderful and supportive and I'm so relieved that I've found you xx

@Moonstone12 big hugs ❤️❤️❤️ you have every right to grieve the baby you have lost. Having other kids already dies not take away the pain you feel and you grieving for the child you've lost doesn't mean you love the others less. It is a process we all have to go through. So please be kind to yourself.xx

I have created a new thread as this is coming to a thousand post. Not sure how to share the link on my phone but I will share the link tomorrow when I'm on the laptop.

@Mishmased yes I use opks and been tracking cm. I did temp for a bit but found it too stressful.

@Moonstone12 I’m really sorry you are going through this right now. It’s a horrible experience whether you have children already or not and whether you planned to get pregnant or not. Please take some time to look after yourself and to grieve.

@Toastedsesame my periods have been regular but been heavier and more painful. This is the first month they haven’t been quite so bad.