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Starting TTC again after missed miscarriage

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Smilingdonkey · 15/05/2020 20:02

Hi,
Just ovulated for the first time after my missed miscarriage at 13 weeks (baby had stopped growing at 6-7) and wondered if anyone wanted to keep me company while we go through the ups and downs of ttc all over again! ! Xx

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SkyBlue20 · 15/05/2020 20:11

Found you, @smilingdonkey! I’m a bit away from TTC again yet (need to test for my negative next week, three weeks post-MVA), but will definitely hang out here! Xx

33Carr · 15/05/2020 20:22

Hi both! We are TTC again after our MMC in March! This is cycle #2 atm, AF due next week but think she's already in her way! How are you both doing?

Hettie1981 · 15/05/2020 20:26

We re TTC after a MM too. Just waiting for my period. Xx

Swest30 · 15/05/2020 20:30

Hi @Smilingdonkey, we are TTC after missed miscarriage in February. First month this month, looks like no luck this month. It’s nice to feel I’m not alone in this!

WildflowerPetals · 15/05/2020 20:37

Hi all! TTC after MMC in April. I haven’t had my first period yet so I might not be active on here until I do but I just wanted to mark my place 😊 Good luck everyone! 💕 xx

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Smilingdonkey · 15/05/2020 20:40

@SkyBlue20 Yay! See you soon hopefuly xxxxxx

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Curiousfruit · 15/05/2020 20:43

Joining too - still going through my MMC but will be TTC ASAP once it’s over! @Hettie1981 good to see you again! Hope we all have lots of luck this time round!

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Smilingdonkey · 15/05/2020 21:06

Hi everyone! Let's start this journey again together 😊

I had my miscarriage on 20th April and I am pretty sure I am pretty sure I am ovulating today so first period is probably 12-14 days away. How is everyone feeling about it all? Xx

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SkyBlue20 · 15/05/2020 21:11

Hi all! Makes me so sad that there are so many of us but it’s also so nice to have people to go through this with. Hello to those I’m just meeting now 👋🏼
I found out we’d lost our baby at our 12 week scan on 26th March, six weeks of back and forthing followed with expectant and medical management before I finally had an MVA two weeks ago today on 1st May. Bleeding seems to have stopped now so have to do a pregnancy test next Fri and hope for a negative, then hopefully my period will follow soon after. It was our first pregnancy and we got pregnant first month of trying so hoping for the same again (though not expecting it!) 🤞🏼
Hope everyone is doing ok xx

33Carr · 15/05/2020 21:12

@Smilingdonkey I'll keep my fingers crossed for you! As I'm on cycle 2 now after an MVA at the end of March I've had time to come to terms with all that's happened. Still have my moments but generally trying to stay positive! My best friend is also pregnant, found out three weeks after my MVA, found it quite hard to begin with but so happy for her now! Hopefully I'll get my BFP soon and we can be belly buddies! 😂

Britannah · 15/05/2020 21:14

Hi ladies, suffered a MMC in December and this is C1 of TTC. It will be DC2 for us as we already have a little one but despite that the loss has totally knocked my confidence and I now can’t stop thinking the worst which is rediculous I know as we’ve just started! Does anyone else feel the same? AF due next Tuesday. Wishing you all beautiful rainbow babies xxx

33Carr · 15/05/2020 21:20

@britannah I have bouts where I questions everything and I'm full of what's ifs but I think it's hormone related and try to cut myself some slack. Sometimes it just takes a little longer!

Workingmama1 · 15/05/2020 21:21

Hi all, sad to see everyone but glad we can share this journey together.

I had a MMC three weeks ago, baby (or babies they weren't sure if it was twins) stopped developing at 6 weeks and I miscarried naturally at 11 weeks.

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Smilingdonkey · 15/05/2020 21:52

@33Carr it's hard isn't it? My close friend is due the day before I was meant to be. I'm so happy for her but get a pang when it's mentioned x

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Smilingdonkey · 15/05/2020 21:55

@Britannah I am not worried yet but I do feel less trusting of my body. I think when (thinking positively here!) I do get pregnant again I will be a nervous wreck. I have an 19 month old and I was so anxious with her pregnancy for no reason. Then for this last one didn't stress at all... Only to Fi D my body had been tricking me for 7 weeks! Lots of early scans next time I think...

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33Carr · 15/05/2020 22:00

@Smilingdonkey Ahh that's hard 😔 I found it hard to get excited for my friend, and she never talked about her pregnancy (probably because she didn't want to upset me) but we're past that which I'm glad about now! Sometimes it's hard not to take things personally when there was nothing neither of us could have done about it,

@Workingmama1 sorry to hear about your recent loss(ess). Do you have twins in the family?

Britannah · 15/05/2020 22:09

@33Carr you are totally right and of course hormones have a lot to answer for. I’m a huge believer in fate and that is helping massively.

@Smilingdonkey Our journeys sound exactly the same, my DS is 17 months and when I fell pregnant second time round it was a huge surprise and decided not to stress or spend money on scans etc and I too was tricked for 6 weeks. I will definitely be having reassurance scans (hopefully!) next time!! Xx

Sakura54 · 15/05/2020 22:13

Hi all. Wahey, our new thread has started! I'll also be hanging around here with the others while waiting for our periods to return. Not sure when I will be TTC so might not have much to contribute.

I found out at 13 weeks that it had stopped growing at 7 weeks (another one here tricked for 6 weeks). Had a MVA over 2 weeks ago, which I had to very stressfully arrange elsewhere as my hospital were only offering MM.

33Carr · 15/05/2020 22:16

@Britannah Also a big believer in fate and the good old saying of 'everything happens for a reason'. But hard to swallow all that to start with! Just had a million questions!

@Smilingdonkey it's scary what our bodies can do sometimes! The good as well as the bad!

Princessandthepea1 · 15/05/2020 22:23

Hi ladies,

I am so sorry I hear about you all experiencing this heartbreak. I hope you don’t mind me joining your discussion - this is my first post on here, but I am currently in the early days after a late missed miscarriage (13 weeks). I had my 12 week scan last week and was prepared for the worst by the obstetrician, who advised my baby had abnormalities/cystic hygroma. Sadly the baby’s heartbeat stopped within the few days between scans and I had surgical management for miscarriage on Wednesday. I know it’s early days, but I stumbled across this thread and wanted to follow your stories and hopefully gain some optimism about trying again soon x

SkyBlue20 · 15/05/2020 23:17

@33Carr I’m very jealous that you’re on cycle two already - my MMC was also March (albeit the very end) but the hospital kept me waiting and doing all sorts of treatments for so long that I only recently had the MVA. It was COVID-19 that made it longer than usual as all the processes had changed. Glad you’re doing well and lovely news about your best friend - hopefully you won’t be too far behind!

@Princessandthepea1 I’m so sorry for your loss, I know how painful it is but all I can say is that time is a healer - as hard as that might seem at first. Take care of yourself in any way you feel you need to - whether that’s talking or not talking, keeping busy or burying yourself under your duvet for a few days. We’re here to chat if you need any support xx

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Smilingdonkey · 16/05/2020 00:50

@princessandthepea1 I'm so sorry you are going through it too. It's so hard. I have found it got easier much more quickly than I had thought if that helps at all. I almost didn't want to feel better as it meant saying a complete goodbye to that pregnancy but it does feel such a relief to not be thinking about it every second of the day - and when I do its not nearly so painful. Xxxx

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Smilingdonkey · 16/05/2020 00:54

@Britannah @sakura54 - hopefully will all be pregnant again soon and we can have another thread for our pregnancy anxiety after our bodies tricked us last time...

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Smilingdonkey · 16/05/2020 00:59

@Swest30 hi sorry missed your comment earlier! We are sadly not alone at all. So many women going through this Sad It's so nice to be able to share it all here though. Let's hope it doesn't take us too long and that we can manage to enjoy the drama of trying a little bit xxxxx

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Sakura54 · 16/05/2020 11:41

@Princessandthepea1 it's actually early days for most of us here. I only found out about my MMC 3 weeks ago. We've been through such a horrible thing. Know that its ok to get over it quickly and also ok to still cry months after.

We have a thread that was made less than a month ago, which some of us may be leaving soon. Maybe it will help you to read through some of our bitter, angry rants experiences and feelings? Feel free to express yourself there:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/miscarriage/3887013-Missed-Miscarriage