Starting TTC again after missed miscarriage

[Smilingdonkey]

Hi,
Just ovulated for the first time after my missed miscarriage at 13 weeks (baby had stopped growing at 6-7) and wondered if anyone wanted to keep me company while we go through the ups and downs of ttc all over again! ! Xx

Omg. Like a crazed addict I dipped an Ic. I could see a Vvv faint shadow which I have not had up until now. So I dipped another in the same wee. Same thing. So I walked to superdrug and bought bog standard 25mUi tests and there is a faint but definite line. I wasn't getting lines on these until now... I'm now feeling even crazier. Will buy a digital on Monday if it progresses. No longer testing on sensitive tests and sticking to a test the Dr would do - I will call docs only if I am convinced I would get a postive on their tests!
I wonder... I don't want to get hopes up but I can't help it!

Eeeeek, @smilingdonkey, it’s sounding quite positive! I really hope it is a new pregnancy, have my fingers crossed for you 🤞🏼

I need to try and forget for a couple of days!

Welcome to all our new members. Just getting the toddler to sleep and then I'm going to settle down and have a read of your posts
Happy Friday to you all xxxx

Aww @Smilingdonkey I've been thinking of you. Hopefully Monday you can either get a blood test or a digital can give you some answers.

So pleased you got your negative @skyblue20, I tested today and got one too.

So my discharge is no longer smelly but is back to egg white consistency but tinged with brown? I'd post a picture but it might be TMI. I suspect it will change again when we next dtd as BV can be triggered by sex. But then I have been getting pelvic pain, I remember in the cycle I conceived I got it mid cycle, I was tracking it to see if I could work out what was triggering it (put it down to ovulationor sex but wasn't sure). Or I could be getting stomach ache due to my crappy diet right now! Honestly last night I looked about 4 months pregnant I was so bloated! So I'm a bit confused...

@MrsRothery I can't believe how long it all went on for for you. Here's to moving forward finally xx

@Hettie1981 hi! Don't rush yourself. We are still so early on and it's all still very raw. There is no right way to move on. Some people want to wait and some want to TTC straight away

@MURU really hoping for some clarity for you soon. It's the not knowing that's the worse isn't it?

@sakura54 I had a couple of chemicals I think. I personally found it reassuring to know and it's not like a miscarriage where you get used to the idea of pregnancy of you see what I mean. I now just see the first few tests as a possible pregnancy instead and then didn't find the chemicals particularly hard - no harder than the period coming that is!

Congrats on the negatives @SkyBlue20 and @workingmama1 Must be such a good feeling to be free and able to move forward a bit xxxxxxx

@workingMama Yay for your negative, too - it’s over for us both and we can start to move on 💕 Have you been taking your antibiotics? Guess they might take a couple of days to kick in? Sorry to hear about the pelvic pain, too - what do you feel is causing it? Hope everything settles for you soon. Xx

Has everyone got some nice long weekend plans? Xx

Not started antibiotics yet as apart from the pelvic pain (which wouldn't be caused by BV which is what I've got specific typical antibiotics for) I've not got symptoms right now as no bad discharge. Plus once I start it's no alcohol and no sex! I'm not sure what is causing the pain, the fact that I had no retained products and I had it in my last cycle means I'm trying not to get concerned about an infection which was my biggest worry. I only had two periods after having my daughter to getting pregnant (and it was a 31 day cycle!) so I have no idea what is normal for me!

Our 14 days self isolation starts tomorrow as DH's operation confirmed for 6th June. We've done a big shop and have hello fresh to hopefully see us through.

So for now it's a nice G&T now DD is in bed!

Sorry that should say topical antibiotics not typical! It's a specific gel so wouldn't go anything if it was a uterus infection.

Good morning all! I've made a decision after more tests with no change in strength. It's been 8 days of testing and nothing has massively changed except to possibly get a teeny bit stronger maybe..but I'm beginning to doubt myself there too. I have two more tests, one crappy and one FRER. I will take them on Monday and then I will buy no more for a whole week and of still no charge will call docs. By then I will be six weeks since ERPC and well over since miscarriage started. I can't bring myself to go to the docs until I have waited out to the 6 week point!

I can't keep up this obsessive worry! To be honest I just keep wishing for a period now so I can start a fresh cycle.

Thank you for all your support
Xx

@workingmama1 I hope you have lots of yummy snacks ordered!

Quick question?
Has anyone got a false peak on a clear blue digital? I did one yesterday and I had a peak, but with no high fertility to the peak, and then because I had an old test monitor from the previous pack I did another one today and it was a a blank circle? I'm just so confused!!!

Afternoon all! Just had a bout of energy so did yoga and went for a run and now I’m meant to clean the house but foresee an afternoon of Netflix on the cards instead!

@workingmama1 Big shop and Hello Fresh sounds like a good isolation plan, hope there’s plenty more gin for the next two weeks, too! I cannot believe 6th June is only two weeks away, this year has passed in such a haze so far. Very strange year.

@Smilingdonkey That sounds like a plan - you could drive yourself crazy testing all the time and still not really get any answers, leave it for a while (though easier said than done, I know!) and hopefully the next time you test it’ll give you an answer once and for all. Must be tough, sending strength!

@mrsAndeke Afraid I can’t help as have never used them but sure some of the others will be able to ☺️

So after my two little droplets of blood yesterday, there’s been nothing at all since. I just want my period and to get on with TTC, damnit! That said, I have a hurdle to overcome first... I think this weekend we might DTD for the first time since February (😳😬 we were so nervous to through pregnancy - we said we’d wait until after the 12 week scan - and then I just didn’t want to through all this!) but I’ve built it up in to a massive thing in my head - someone knock some sense in to me and tell me that three weeks after the MVA is fine to go for it?! I keep thinking ‘but what if I get an infection, what if it aggravates more bleeding’ and every other thing I can worry about! 🙈 I’m such a worrier with this sort of thing!

@SkyBlue20 me and hubby DTD 2 weeks after MVA (day after bleeding stopped) not to sore at all even though I was anxious and nervous, we did use lube though just to make it smooth running 😂 I had no bleeds after x

@mrsAndeke I left such a depressing post when I left lol. It was a good thing I didn’t make a new thread when I saw it was getting full as I wanted to go to my scan first! Sorry this happened to you too. What a cruel, cruel thing.

I don’t use OPKs, but as you're TTC before your period returns, maybe just leave the OPKs for now and DTD like twice a week, as our bodies are just all over the place and it sounds confusing?

@SkyBlue20 Yay for your BFN! I’m eager to use my app too to see if my cycle settles quickly. Regarding DTD, I understand why you’re worried about infection, which I doubt you’ll get, but maybe use the withdrawal method for now or are you planning to use condoms?

@Smilingdonkey How late were your periods with the CPs? Did you have 3 in a row or was this before having your DC? We can get help and tests done as CPs are still MCs.

Thank you, @mrsAndeke, just the sort of thing I needed to hear. I really do want to, I’m just nervous! 🙈

@Sakura54 Need to speak to husband but I think probably condoms. It’s SO tempting to be like ‘sod it, if we get pregnant, we get pregnant’ but I think I’d just worry if they couldn’t date things properly and just be constantly anxious about whether everything was ok. Plus I kind of want just a small while not worrying about pregnancy related things (but ideally no longer than a week or two 😂). I reserve the right to change my mind though 😂

@SkyBlue20 before DTD drunk a couple of guns to relax you and get lube out, you'll be okay xxx

How is everyone today?

Im still getting some pelvoc pain but no other infection or BV symptoms so no idea what is going on! It was bad enough to take a pain killer and use a hot water bottle last night...

For those of us getting to 4 weeks plus from MC and TTC again have you thought about how you will cope with waiting for AF to arrive? It struck me today I'm now 4 weeks post MC but no idea when AF will show, I suspect I ovulated a week ago so its likely to be at least another week. Anything later than that do I assume my cycle is just messed up or if it worth testing im case we got lucky?

@Workingmama1 I'm doing well, I've been feeling crampy a lot in my ovaries but not due on for another two week, I'm just confused as don't think I'm ovulating, and I only finished bleeding two weeks ago, and 4 weeks since my MVA. Just waiting for AF to arrive, so then I can track properly or to do a test, but god who knows!

@workingmama1
Just see what happens and how you feel I guess.
My AF arrived yesterday 4+3 weeks after medical management. Mixed feelings about it. Glad its here so we can hopefully move on, but sad as it shows its all done.
I can't even remember what a normal period was to me and its only been since Feb. Seems to be much heavier then normal but I kind of expected that.

Hope everyone is OK and enjoying Bank Holiday weekend..well as much as we can.

@Hettie1981 did you AF come 4 weeks after management or when Bleeding stopped? This is one of the things that has been confusing me?

@mrsAndeke
After medical management. Had that 21st April. Think I was lucky with the bleeding etc as only bled heavily for the one first night. All the clots passed the first night, then only on wiping for about 4 days. Total 33 days after bleeding started. I ve read to start your cycle from first day of miscarriage bleeding. As I had MMC counted it from medical management day. It is longer then my usual cycle which is about 26 days but I kind of guessed it would be a bit different. Hope this helps xx

@SkyBlue20 Maybe I’m wrong, but I feel that we won’t get an infection if they don’t ejaculate inside lol. It’s also to prevent pregnancy before period returns. I agree, after what we’ve been through, not knowing if dates correspond with baby size would be a nightmare.

@Workingmama1 I’d say give it another few weeks and test. I hope your period doesn’t come!

It’s been nearly a month since my MVA, so I’m going to give my period another month to show up. I hardly bled at all apart from straight after, although I did bleed a bit in the 4 days before it. That’s great that yours came back on time @Hettie1981 I also read that too, so yes we will have an extra long cycle this time.

Hi ladies can I join please. I've just had a medically managed miscarriage on Tuesday. My baby stopped developing at 10+3 it was picked up at the 12 wk scan. Second time this has happened me.

I'm not waiting for a period as this is obviously for dating accuracy. I'm 42 with no time or eggs to waste.

I will wait for a negative test tho 🙃

@Furbabymum15 welcome and sorry for your loss I had a MMC in feb at 9.5weeks which was medically managed. I'm 43 too in the same boat I'm on my 2nd cycle as I bled for a while having retained product. It's such an awful place to be but these forums really help hope your doing ok x