Starting TTC again after missed miscarriage

[Smilingdonkey]

Hi,
Just ovulated for the first time after my missed miscarriage at 13 weeks (baby had stopped growing at 6-7) and wondered if anyone wanted to keep me company while we go through the ups and downs of ttc all over again! ! Xx

@smilingdonkey I'm guessing they aren't offering blood tests at checl HCG levels st the moment but you could ask? That would give a pretty definite answer one way or the other.

Got my antibiotics, but the dr said to only use if I kept getting symptoms and I'm not getting discharge now... think it is happening after sex which apparently can trigger it so will see what happens this weekend. It alsp says no sex while you are using it as you apply it internally so once I start thats it for 5 days...

Although I'm not sure if I might be about to start my period, having a few period type aches and boobs looked perter this morning. It would be 4 weeks tomorrow from when I started bleeding so not impossible, but i was still getting a faint positive on Monday so unlikely. It's all so confusing!

It's looking like we will have to self isolate for 2 weeks from Saturday as DH is having an operation in two weeks and that is how they are keeping covid out of the hospital. But I guess it's not like we were really going anywhere anyway!

@SkyBlue20 so true on how far we have come. For me at least time really has been a healer, and also talking to this lovely bunch and not feeling alone x

@SkyBlue20 they are quite similar really but today's seems a little stronger. I'll try and take a pic later. Nothing on the Ic this morning though. I am feeling sore stretchy pains in my uterus but our bodies have been through so much I think it's impossible to define symptoms really. Everything is just trying to reset I guess

I agree - we have come so far sending period vibes your way!

@workinghmama1 they offered bloods yesterday but I said I'd wait until next week. I thought I was making a sensible decision but I realise now it was because they had made me feel like I was silly and that they thought I was lying about the positive tests.
I'll arrange some for next week if nothing has changed.
So glad your symptoms have calmed down
I hope you don't end up needing the meds but it's good you have them in case xxxxx

So here us a pic of two tests 6 days apart - the first into and the most recent. It's a terrible grainy camera in an ancient temporary phone and the lines are all very obviously pink even if they don't look it here! Sorry top one is also in the sun so all in all a crap photo! But I think stronger no? Definitely isn't getting lighter...

Or am I being an obsessive fool?!! Happy to be told so!

It’s definitely darker. Why did you wait for bloods?

To be honest in 6 days the hcg should have increased enough to get a positive on another test. Try a digital. If it’s not positive then I think it’s unlikely to be a new pregnancy

Yeah I think you are right - or its a chemical or something. I just felt like they thought I was stupid for being there and they clearly didnt want to refer me... Should have gone with my gut! Just need so closure so badly now

Digital screwed me over last time so I've been wary... Will test again Monday and if it's not significantly darker assume left over Hcg I think.

It’s only a month or so after your miscarriage so is it not too soon for it to be a new pregnancy? It can definitely take longer than 3 weeks sometimes to get a negative test. I shall keep my fingers crossed for you though!

Hello ladies, I've been following the thread but not wrote till now, I had an MVA 4 weeks ago, bled for 2 and had a BFN, I've been tracking ovulation (CBDigital) but no or highs or peaks and my Flo chart says I should be ovulating, could it be possible that I won't ovulate or due to hormones coming back to normal??? I just want to TTC, I have been DTD but just want to see that peak!!

@Benscalesisagod it's way more common than I thought to just conceive immediately within two weeks of miscarriage - lots of sources suggest you are more fertile for some reason - perhaps body trying to 'right the wrong' or something. It's bonkers. I'm not desperate for it to be a pregnancy (although would be great obviously) but I am desperate to just know and move on in either direction! I am just cross with myself for not checking I had a negative before merrily having sex. I was convinced I had ovulated but too late for this to be the result of it I think. More likely to be old hormones but it's been 5 weeks since miscarriage started now and I'm so ready for it to be over. I had no idea when it happened I'd find the wait for the next period so hard!

@mrsAndeke Welcome. I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope you are ovulating! From my reading (not from anything helpful any doctor has told me!) you can ovulate days after bleeding stops and also have an anovulatory cycle where you don't ovulate for the first cycle. It all seems a cruel guessing game of chance. Glad you got a negative. Maybe just have lots of sex for a while and see?! Xxxxx

Just crazy isn't it! Just like blah!! I did do a ovulation stick on my last day of bleeding and it was a peak but i was still getting positives on a pregnancy test so was like oh it could be wrong now I'm second guessing just crazy isn't it.

Hi everyone, sorry we are all going through this but it’s nice not to feel alone. This was my first pregnancy. I went for my 12 week scan on 7th April and was told I’d had a missed miscarriage. I’ve had 4 weeks of natural management and was finally given medical management on Tuesday this week. It has dragged on for so long and I’ve found it really hard to be positive for the future because of this. Now, I hope I am coming to the end of it. We want to try again ASAP but I feel conflicted on wether to wait for a period or just start as soon as I’ve had a negative pregnancy test 3 weeks from Tuesday. Does anyone have any advice on this?
Look after yourselves xx

Our bodies are crazy at the moment arent they? It's tough just not quite knowing what is going on. I feel like I ovulated last weekend but also like I'm about to come on. Bleeding started 4 weeks ago tomorrow, I just have no idea where I am up to!

@Smilingdonkey I guess you will.habe to wait and see. The second line def looks darker...

@mrsAndeke welcome but sorry you found yourself here.

Its all crazy. My MM was 4 weeks ago on Tuesday and I stopped bleeding after a week, then had a BFN after 2 weeks. Really feel like I'm about to come on any second and then nothing. Im not ovulating so guess I need to keep waiting. Im desperate to TTC again but this has put doubts in my partners mind. He's so worried it will happen again whereas I'm prepared to take the risk. He already has a 13 year old. He says we ll just carry on as we are and we conceived really quickly last time. He was fine when i was pregnant and says he will be again. I just feel rushed as I'm 38 and don't want to wait and increase my risk x

Hi would love to join this thread as will be trying again. Hope your all doing well and fingers crossed for lots of positive news on here for everyone.

My story doesn't quite follow the normal way but as it I've been told I have miscarried or will. EPU are still monitoring me for ectopic as can't be sure.

7th May; negative pregnancy test

9/10th May: Short Heavy period (or so I thought)

16th May: Light cramps/ pregnancy symptoms so did a test was positive called EPU and went in I had a scan and nothing was there and had bloods done which were
Progesterone 3 nmol/L
HGC 204 IU/L
Was told as progesterone was so low and with the bleed the week before that I had Or I will miscarry and need to keep an eye to rule out ectopic

18th May HGC Bloods only
HCG 387 IU/L ( these levels were less than 48 hours as was done late evening and then first thing so gave some hope)

20th May
Internal Scan showed nothing again
HGC went down to 192 IU/L so this was what 100% confirmed non viable I was told.

Have to go back in a week for bloods just confused to what's happened as if the bleed was a miscarriage why did levels increase.

So today I did another Pregnancy test and LH test as it was there and I've attached the pic..

Could I actually be ovulating do you think?

@Smilingdonkey That’s definitely a darker test and I just can’t help but feel that after 6 days, if that was from a pre existing pregnancy it would be lighter or barely existent now. I don’t want to give you false hope but do think your doing the right thing holding out a couple of days and trying a digi one....ooh the suspense is just too much.

@Britannah got a much lighter test this morning (0 willpower here!) so fingers crossed this is it and by Monday when I next test I will be free!!! That's how it feels I guess - like this is trapping me! Just want a period and to start tracking a cycle again!!! Xxxxxxx

Scrap that. Went back to look at test and it darkened and is the same now. But I'm convinced that the length of time it took is a good thing as it shoes Hcg is dropping. Feel so down this morning though. I just want to feel normal again! I'm a teacher and this happened on the first day of term and now it's the last day of term

@Smilingdonkey I think I'm at the exact same stage as you waiting for a negative test so I know I can try again.. This mornings test was very faint have my bloods on Wed too so hopefully that will confirm.

@Smilingdonkey I do hope you get a darker line next test. Maybe wait longer so that there will be a significant difference? Get your OH to hide your tests! Or just get that blood test. TBH its irrelevant if the line changes after the specified amount of minutes you’re supposed to wait.

Even when my period is late I wait about a week before testing as I read that that was when you were supposed to test! The last time I got pregnant, I was 99% sure it would be a BFP but still waited for days to test to be sure. I’m considering testing earlier though to see if I have chemical pregnancies. I’ve had 2 instances where my period was odd/late, so who knows.

@SkyBlue20 Absolutely. We may still be waiting for our periods but its just time to move on from such a depressing thread right. Not sure if anyone will post there again.

You must be curious to find out what your cycle is like? Although hopefully you won’t get to find out again lol!

Hi @mrsAndeke another one from our Nov pregnancy thread! Do you recognise my name? Apparently it may take up to 2 months to ovulate and even longer for our cycles to regulate.

@Sakura54 yes I do remember, I wasn't too long after you ❤️ I had seen a heartbeat at 7+5 and then went to a private scan at 10weeks to find baby stopped at 8+3 😢, I did have peak on my ovulation test this morning but don't know if I flooded the test or not I am a bit over cautious atm, but we are tracking and ttc as I don't want to wait.

Morning all!

@Workingmama1 How're you getting on? Hope your husband is ok and op is nothing too serious 💕

Welcome and so sorry for your loss, @mrsAndeke! Afraid I can't help as have never really tracked but good luck with everything 🤞🏼

Welcome and sorry for your loss also, @MrsRothery. I think it's completely personal choice as to when to try again. I personally am waiting for a period just so I have an idea of dates as it makes it easier to ensure baby is the right size etc and I also quite like the idea of waiting for it and having a fresh start afterwards. But if my period took too long to arrive, I'd probably just go for it tbh.

Welcome @MURU, I really hope you get some answers soon - the waiting is awful 💕

@Smilingdonkey Sending lots of love, can only imagine how tough this must be. I think waiting a bit before testing again is a good idea, see if there's an obvious change. Did you say you have pregnancy symptoms?

So this morning I got by BFN (on a second test - first one just didn't work, didn't show the control line or anything), I'm so happy and relieved it's officially over, almost two months to the day since we found out wed lost the baby. I also had a couple of droplets of blood and feel a bit crampy so I'm not sure if that's my period arriving or not, will have to keep an eye on it. I would love it if it were so fingers crossed 🤞🏼Is it sad that I'm excited to start using my Ovia app again? 😂