Pregnancy after MMC

[Bells993]

Hi Everyone,
Unfortunately I had a MMC on our second pregnancy last month. (I have a 1 year old)
I should of been 9 weeks at my Scan but baby was only 8 weeks 4 so it had just happened. 3 days later I had a private D&C as I didn’t want to risk the hospital/ the trauma of dealing with it at home with my little boy.
I had bleeding on and off for 2 weeks after (6th of April was the D&C) I had regular bloody tests, my last one my HCG had come down to 70 so 3 days later I got my first negative test.
I had an internal to confirm no retained pregnancy and was given the all clear to try again straight away. I’ve had cystitis this weekend to add to my problems and now I’m getting this on my tests. Had anyone experienced anything similar, what are your thoughts? Feel like my body’s just giving up on me haha! I’d love to be pregnant again but I’d just be surprised if it could all happen within such a small time scale
Thanks everyone

Sorry for what you have been through. Its not impossible wait a couple of days and hopefully the line will get darker. Was it the same test that showed negative ?x

Hi jumping on here. I had a natural miscarriage about 3 weeks ago (over the course of 5 days). It was horrific and such a shock. I bled lightly for 3 days then the actual miscarriage for 2 days. I stopped bleeding about 4 days after that. I have 2 children and this was my third pregnancy. First miscarriage. I was told to wait until after my first period to try again but we have been pretty much dtd every other day for about 2 weeks now. I just couldn't bring myself to wait. I think trying again soon has helped us to get over it a little.
So I'm excited to see how you get on as we are in similar stages of cycles etc I guess.
I can definitely see faint lines btw. Got absolutely everything crossed for you.
Is it your first child? How long had you been ttc?

Sorry just re read and saw you have a one year old x

I had miscarriage March 25, 2020, and for the past week I've been getting faint positives on my at home tests. Last week my blood pg test was positive and my hcg level was at a ten for 4 days. Can this be a pregnancy?

Hi @Avee96 have you had a period at all since? Have you had a negative pregnancy test since mc?
Fingers crossed for you lovely. X

Hi @MrsTtobe
So yes my little boy was conceived with in 3 weeks off coming off the pill. I couldn’t believe it, second time round we had been trying dec Jan Feb and then got the BFP March so 3 months really. I thought the same, all i could think about was being pregnant again and my gyno and GP said to start straight away.
I took a different kind of brand test today that came back negative and according to my clear blue ovulation stick it’s now flashing so high fertility. Have no idea what to believe with not knowing when to expect a period or positive test as I have no idea where am I in my cycle! I’m going to wait till Friday to take another one, they arnt cheap are they 😭😂

@Avee96i would of thought your hormones would of gone back to normal by then, hopefully a BFP pending for you! How many weeks where you when you MC? I was 9 weeks and it took nearly 3 weeks to drop back xx

@Bells993 see we were tying for about 4 months this time around and it felt like 4 years. My heart goes out to ladies that have had to do this for years. It's soul destroying. We had an 8 week private scan and everything was fine so we told everyone. So having to tell everyone at 11.5 weeks that we've lost the baby and not going to be a new addition in time for Christmas was just so hard.
Ive got everything crossed for us all.
It's the not knowing whether im ovulating tomorrow or in another 4 weeks that's bothering me. So we're just dtd every other day just to kind of feel like we're doing something. X

@MrsTtobe I know me and my partner said this. We have friends that have been trying for 2 years and they are in great health and under 30 it’s soul destroying. I couldn’t Believe it when they said there was no heartbeat after having such an easy time with my first. Yeah DTD every other day is defo the way forward it’s just hard work isn’t it, no romance in trying for a baby 😫😂
when are you at a stage you can take a test?
Please keep me updated, routing for you! Xx

I went for appt at 10 weeks for heartbeat and I measured at 8 weeks no heartbeat no period I'm scheduling appt today for blood work and taking another at home test on Friday 🙏🙏

Hi,
I hope you all do not mind me jumping in here to! I had a MMC 11+5 it was my first pregnancy found at the 12/13 week scan. I then went on to have a D&C on the 2nd April. I would like to start TTC again had my first negative pregnancey test today so guessing I should ovulate around 2 weeks. I was told to wait one cycle but not sure I want to, does anyone else feel the same.
Its hard you feel quite helpless.
I am sorry to hear you have all been through similar ❤❤ I am finding isolation is not helping with not becoming very focused on TTC x

@Bells993 you're so right. No romance at all. I say the most unromantic things and I hate myself as soon as I do. 🙈🤣 He isn't complaining though. Im knackered and would love to curl up with a book instead if im honest but nope im jumping on him most nights. 🙈🤣
I don't know when to test... I was just thinking I couldn't possibly be lucky enough to conceive so soon after so was just kind of waiting for AF. It's been 4 weeks tomorrow the miscarriage started and I bled for about a week all in all. If I've still had no symptoms or AF in 2 weeks then I might just let myself. 🤣

@Avee96 I have everything crossed for you lovely. Keep us posted. 😘

@Leaf87 hey welcome! Hope you're ok. I know how traumatic it is. I was told to wait for first period before ttc but pretty sure it's just for dating reasons. Its just so frustrating isn't it. Starting all over again. Feels like such a mountain. 😢
Like I say we didn't wait, trying already is the only thing that's helped. We dtd about a week after. Hope you're ok

Hi ladies hope it's ok for me to join.

My MMC began on the 6th April (but found out on the 1st at scan). Should have been 9+6 but was measuring about 5 weeks. Bled for about 11 days (10 of which was minimal) after having 2 doses of MM, so I'm now over 4 weeks post MC and we've started casually trying (not fracking anything) until after AF arrives, whenever that will be!

Not holding out much hope I'll catch right away so trying to enjoy it until I know what's what with my cycle.

Sending lots of positivity hoping we all get a result soon xx

Tracking** I'm definitely not fracking, I promise!!

@MrsTtobe yes you feel very helpless, I feel like if we just carry on in my mind I am not actively trying and feel more relaxed about it. If we wait for one cycle that's a very definite start date! A start date means more pressure! Very similar to what @Bells993 was saying. I would like to try and keep some romance and enjoyment.
@Frankincense88 I am very sorry to hear this, it's terrible to go through. I found isolation made the whole experience even worse. My husband was not with me at the scan, he couldn't come to the hospital etc made me feel even more alone! I feel like my attitude to try in now is similar to yours..... phew also I wasnt sure If fracking was code for some sort dtd I wasnt aware off

@Frankincense88 fracking sounds way more interesting than tracking 😜🤣 our miscarriage at similar times. Were your cycles regular before you got pg? Mine fairly short, 26 ish days but in saying that took about 9 weeks to return after I had my daughter so im not holding much hope for the next 2 months. 😔
Good luck lovely.

@Leaf87 yes exactly that. I hate the idea of an official start date. I could never bring myself to check/ track with ovulation sticks and tempting etc as I know I would become obsessed. But I may get that way if it doesnt happen again in next few months.

@Leaf87 Exactly the same as me - had to go for scan alone, another scan alone 2 weeks later when I was told no heartbeat which was awful. Had to WhatsApp my husband and tell him because he was at home waiting to come and get me and I couldn't actually speak the words I was too upset.

I still have sad days but I'm having more positive days than bad. Because it was such an awful experience being alone at hospital part of me thinks we might just casually try until covid is over then if it happens, it happens, then start doing OPK again after lockdown because I don't think I could go through all that again without my husband there at the hospital. It's rough going through something like this at the best of times but to be stuck in your house without anyone to come and chat to you / look after you it must be awful. Xx

@MrsTtobe Yep mine were bang on every 28 days, I could usually time it to the hour! Xx

@Frankincense88 yes agreed isolation has brought it's own challenges in trying to move on. Like you say good days and bad days. The only good thing about the virus and telhe hospital being so quite is that I had the ward to myself when I had to stay in for a few days (every cloud!!)

Over the last week or so I have started to feel more like myself. If I even know what that is, my Dad passed away in February so I feel like 2020 has really given me a kicking. Saying that I am very positive that the last half of the year has to be much better than than the first half!!!!

@MrsTtobe yes I feel the same about overlation sticks etc I know I will get obsessed with it! We caught first time last time.. I dont think it will be that easy this time but I will certainly give myself a few months before I decide to start doing anything else. At the moment I just track my periods they were very regular before my miscarriage so hoping they should return that way!

@Leaf87
I’d defo get cracking! I had all my care with a private gyno and she said as long as you are healthy there’s no harm in trying straight away (just get iron tablets in me mainly but supplements also) it’s just dating reasons like MrsT said. Can’t believe you had to do that all on your own. It’s awful isn’t it!

@Frankincense88 lockdown just makes it so much worse doesn’t it. We should of been going on holiday Friday for 2 weeks so it would of been so lovely to mix it up and take the pressure of trying and have fun on holiday. 😭

Lovely we are all around the same frame, be lovely to hear some good news when it comes for you all.

@Leaf87 oh that is so awful for you, I'm so sorry. Sounds like this year has indeed been rough. That's lucky (I guess!) you had the ward to yourself, it was packed all 3 times I went. The 3rd time (waiting for my MM meds) they forgot about me and left me in a waiting room full of pregnant women for almost 2 hours. It was torture but I was too upset to kick off. I just said 'why am I still waiting when my appointment was at half 1?' Then I overheard someone say 'oops forgot she was here.' 😐

@Bells993 Us too, we were meant to go to Cornwall in a couple of weeks for half term for a lovely chilled week with family in a cottage - at least they've let us rebook for next year.

Let's hope lots of positive results come out way - while tough circumstances have brought us all here it's nice we're all around the same sort of timeframe. Xx

Girls ( @MrsTtobe @Frankincense88 @Bells993) it's so nice to speak to women who are in similar situations. All my friends that have children none of them had a miscarrage and all met there partners and husbands younger than I am so already have children. They have been very supportive but they still dont quite get it.
@Frankincense88 I must say the hospital were very good, when they told me they moved me to a different private waiting area so I didnt have to sit with all the other women. Only complaint is when I went for my check up three weeks after D&C the lady screening people at the door of the antinatal clinic said 'oh are you here for your 12 week scan.' She got met with a very flat 'no had that didnt turn out so well'.
I have a feeling she may not have asked any other women that day!

Sorry everyones holidays have been cancelled, try and make the time at home special. Nice dinners maybe a class of wine and fingers crossed enjoy the sun we seem to be having at the moment!!

@Leaf87 yes it's definitely comforting having people go through this with you. We can all help each other along the way and hopefully all end up with babies by the end of it! 😊🙏

I think the lockdown has good and bad. Bad being can't see my mom and had to go through the scan / hospital etc on my own. But having my oh here at home has been a blessing. I couldn't have looked after myself those first 2 days let alone look after my kids aswell. 😔 x